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Boy Trouble
Alright, so there's this guy that I'm friends with and right now I just want to be friends with him, but I think he wants to be more than that. I'm 16 and female. I told him that I didn't want anymore than friendship right now, and he understood. But, now I just want to hang out as friends, but I think he might think that I'm ready to be more than friends and it's only been a couple of weeks. I like him, and I don't want to hurt his feelings. I mean, I think I like him, but I don't know if it's just because he's the first guy that's actually seemed interested in me in a while, or if I'm just being a bitch and I'm going to break his heart if I don't show the same feelings for him. I don't know what to do. Thanks for the help!
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Well, the first thing I would do would be to ask him as to how he feels about you. And then you can decide where this relationship can go.
You aren't being a bitch at all, you're just not feeling the same thing that he is and that is completely normal. You're not doing it to hurt him, you're doing it because you feel that you're not ready for a relationship and that should be fine with anybody, even this guy should understand and he should respect your decision.
I hope this helped,
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You shouldn't call yourself a "bitch". You can't control those natural feelings that you do or do not have for someone else. If they are simply not there, that is just nature taking its course, God's work, far from being a "bitch".
If you want to go out with someone, it should be because you KNOW you really like this guy. You should never go out with someone just because you are friends with a person and think you MAY be able to start liking him.
It's really something that you can't describe in words of when you know you have that feeling. From a 19 year old who has had both crushes and has been madly in love, trust me, it comes naturally and you will know for sure without much hesitation that it is really there.
Also, you should never feel pressured into going out with someone, or trying to convice yourself that you like someone just because they like you. Loving and liking someone are not always mutual, that is sadly just the way things work out. If he keeps advancing on to you in ways that would indicate that he likes you more than just friends, you have to explain to him that if you had any feelings for him, you would tell him.
This way you are telling him up front that he shouldn't expect anything more than that. If he is truly a great friend, he will understand that. If he can't handle that, he is either to immature at this point, or he wasn't a good friend to begin with, even if you think he was.
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