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My brother doesnt wanna let me go out with my boyfriend!
Ok so,heres the problem at first my brother likes my boyfriend the problem is..?!in School..all my classmates were tellin' rumors about my boyfriend that were together...cuz like we were keepin it on the down low...They found it out!and all our teachers like knew about it,...and my brother told me whatever you guys are doin you gotta stop it now!so he said if i ever go out, I should have a shaperown who he can trust.....And I dont know what to do...?
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Don't completely disregard your brother's advice. Even if he is basing it all on instincts, there is obviously something he sees that you may be missing.
Yet on the other hand, if you honestly like this guy, don't pass him up!
What you need to do is simply take it slow at first. Make sure you can trust this guy, and that he is worth your time. If you decide he is, then explain to your brother that while you appreciate him looking out for you, that you need to make your own choices with relationships.
Hope it all works out!
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I would have to agree with Razhie on this one.
Your brother is a very caring person and evidently doesn't want to see you hurt in way. But he needs to understand that it is your choice about who go out with, not his. He can put in his opinions about your boyfriend, but he can't tell you whether you can go out with him.
But I would first ask him as to why he doesn't trust your current boyfriend, because he needs to base his whims on something solid and something which he makes him compelled for him to step in and tell you not to go out with your boyfriend. Not trusting somebody just isn't a soild enough for him to do that. He has to have a reason not to trust him. Find that out, then you could find a way to get around that. You can't make him trust your boyfriend, he needs to do that in his own time and space.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Gently tell your brother that you know that he cares for you, but he is your brother, not your parent, and he doesn't make the rules.
He doesn't get to tell you who you can see and how. If you are a teen who lives with your parents, they sure as hell do! But your bother doesn't.
Sit and down and tell him that you know he cares, but he needs to butt out.
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