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ok, i am 14f. i am dating this guy, that is kind of shy, but i really like him. We've been friends for a couple of years, and dated last year, but last year he was kind of selfish so we were friends this year, and he asked me out, i said yes. We've been dating for 2 and a half weeks, and last week he got dared to kiss me. He hasn't yet. I'm worried. I'm kind of nervous cause this is my first kiss, and i really do like him. help,
M.J.

No one's first kiss is perfect. And I think it's supposed to be that way so don't worry about it.

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me and my friend and friends parents are driving 9 hours to go see a couple of friends that we miss. the problem is that the main kid we really want to see just got grounded for a really long time because he went outside at night for a couple minutes. His mom is really strict. We really want to be able to see him so do you think there is any way we can get to see him? any suggestions or plans to get to see him? he's barely aloud outside his house. thank youu!

Hang out with him at his house if possible. Or just become noctournal for the time being and sneak him out at night when his parents are asleep.

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I saw You, Me & Dupree today and it was rated PG-13. At one point in the movies, Dupree said the F word. Since when is that word allowed to be in PG-13 movies?

I think they have a limit on saying it in PG-13 movies...like they can say it once based on the other language and sexual content in the rest of the movie haha.

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Some nights i get these straining feelings in my calves anyway i get them every once in a while like if i work out that day and i didnt stretch enough...but i havent worked out in like a week and i have been getting them a lot more than usual...they really hurt...it feels like someone is trying to pull my muscle out, i have to stand on my leg squeeze my calf hard before it stops. there is an after ache and it lasts days later....does anyone know what this pain is, how it is caused and how to prevent or minimize it?thanx!

Try to work out more regularly, like on a daily or weekly basis. And make sure to stretch really well before you start.

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Every single time i go to bed, all my life i've had problems falling asleep. ITS DRIVING ME CRAZY. I CANNOT get comfortable, i toss and turn for hours before i can find a good stop, NONSTOP. Something is always bothering me, either my leg is not covred, or its covered too much, i'm bretahing on myself, y covers are itchy, tehres not enouhg covers, my leg is up too high, im falling off the bed, the lsit goes on and on! Most people ignore these thigns but tehy bug the heck out of me, i thought maybe i havr RLS (restless leg syndrome) but idk. does ANYBODY have any idea wat this is? or am i just like that and tehres nothing i can do about it

I had the same problems for a really really really long time and it DROVE ME CRAZY!!! Try elmimating caffeine from your diet and getting more excercise. If all else fails, talk to you parents or your doctor.

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My boyfriend went with this best friend for his 18th birthday to a strip club..i feel kind of pisssed and disgusted..is this ok to feel this way or am i goin overboard? idk i just feel kind of uncomfortable to think that naked women are gunna be all over him..

Yeah I'm 15 and my last boyfriend was 18 (we broke up last week). For his 18th birthday back in November his friend wanted to take him to a strip club and do all that stupid stuff you can do once you're 18. I got so pissed when I found out that he was invited, cuz, yeah I didn't want naked woman being all over him. But he didn't even want to go anyway so that was good. But anyway, if you're not comfortable with it, put your foot down and tell him. You totally have a right to feel pissed and disgusted, you aren't going overboard at all. Those places are pretty icky.

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My boyfriend is OBSESSED about the sims! He almost never stops playing that stupid game I dont understand it! When he got fired from work he had the gall to say 'I was low in aspiration!' I just want to smack him! Last night he wanted to have sex and he asked me if I wanted to 'woohoo'! I asked him if he was making breafast and he said 'sorry honey, my cooking level is too low' I'm so mad! If he says 'woohoo' one more time I might clock him! Please help me how do I get some sense into him?

Wow that sounds irritating. If you get to the point where you can actually do it, give him a little smack upside the head (literally) and tell him how fucking annoying it is!!!

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ok so i'm not currently single but he was my 1st love and such but we didn't have sex he's 16 i'm 15 we dated for 2 years and were taking a break but then we were thinking about getting back together but then he met someone a girl from a different school and she's a real slut he had sex with her now they broke up he is calling me again and he is telling me that he wants to be my 1st and alll this other stuff and well i still like him he was my 1st love what else is there but to fall for him and i think he just wants to have sex with someone that hasn't had sex yet that would be me what should i do should i continue talking to him or do you think he's useing me just to get sex idk plz get back to me and help thanks alot

To me it definitely sounds like he's using you for sex. Have a serious talk with him about it.

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14/f. ok i dont normaly get tounge tied or anything around guys, even if i like them. but there is one guy i like sooooo much. im different around him, its like when he smiles at me, my face instantly goes red and i forget how to speak. my problem is that i cant ask him out, or even flirt with him for that matter, i get to shy. and trust me, im NOT a naturaly shy person. I dont know what to do. i just cant figure this guy out.

oh did i mention, he is like drop dead gorgous, hes like the hottest guy in my school, in my opinion. [not all the girls like him, some even say he has a big nose, i dont think so]

Some guys think it's really cute when girls are shy.

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so theres this guy who i really felt something for..
like i was in love with him..
and we did something for love like sexualish.
then he went off with another girl in a different state..
so.
and hes moving on we werent going out yet but he sure did make it seem like we were..
always talking about it and stuff..
and now i learned he does what he did with me with every other girl..
anyways..
i had sex for my first time with this one guy im not sure if he got it in it was painful but not supersuper painful like everyone says..
but i did it because i wanted to feel what i felt with the other guy..
so my question is..
should i go back to the other guy?
and not be mad at him
and talk to him instead of ignore him because im pissed?
what do i do?
I RATE 5S.

If he does that with every girl he's with, NO.

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my boyfriends birthday is in less than a week and i need to find a good gift for him (hes 14 by the way)

What does he like? My friend's boyfriend had a birthday and she made him a deck of cards with "52 reasons why I love you" because playing cards was one of his favorite things to do. Think about what he likes and be creative!

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a guy friend of mine is teaching me how to play an acoustic guitar.
he's really good & i've never even tried to play before.
i dont want to look like a total idiot.
so can anyone tell me, what the strings are named [the letters].
& any thing else about the guitar itself.

please&thanks.

Wow it's impressive that you want to brush up on these things. Most girls would play stupid because they think it's more attractive but in reality, guys like smart girls better. So yeah, good idea I guess. The bottom string is a low E, the next one up fromt that is a B, the next one up from that is a G, the next one up from that is a D, the next one up from that s a D and the top one is a high E. Good luck!!

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Here's the story. I started going more to my church because i love listening about God right. So, this day that's where i met my best friend Raymond. When we met i felt this connection between us because we can talk about everything. We could tell each othe anything right. We used to hang out all the time none stop until one day we went out to this show called fuse right. We started holding hands and kind of flirting with each other that day was the best day of my life because for the first time i knew he was feeling the same way i felt about him. I mean we used to always send email to each other and call each other and talk for hours. But as the days pasted by the feeling was becoming stronger and stronger and this were starting to become intense with each other we start to kiss but i mean really kiss it got to a point it was none stop. And we couldn't stop thinking of each other and we were always there no matter what. But one day I didn't see him anymore. And we never broke up. And now that he's in my life again and i saw him again is akward we say hi to each other and smile at each other and always look for each other in the room but is like we don't know what to talk about or how to act around one another. And sometimes i regret going out with him sometimes i think maybe if we would have never gone out things weren't be this way. But i the same time i don't regret it because with him i felt a love that i never felt and i fell inlove with him and even though things are akward between us i still love him the same way and i can't keep him out my mind. And my question is this how can i stop loving him and just see him as my friend and how do i get things the way they used to be before when we were just best friends and used talk and laugh with each other.

Ask if he wants to just hang out one day, as friends. Then kiss him at the opportune moment. I'm serious, that's what I'd do!!

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I had a dream i made out with my best friends boyfriend. I feel so bad that i would have a dream like that. I dont even have feelings for him!! Now i feel like i have betrayed my best friend what should i do to make me feel better?

Don't worry about it. It's just a dream. And dreams rarely mean anything significant, they're just random thoughts of people, places, things and actions you may have encountered over the last few days that your brain has jumbled up into a random situation for you to dream about.

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I had recently go highlights and didn't like them, so I dyed my hair dark brown. but it came out darker than I expected and now my face looks a little pale.

What time is it best to sun tan?

Try sunless tanner but don't get a cheap one...invest a little in your skin haha. If you're too nervous to use sunless tanner (like me), the best time to tan is between 12PM and 3PM. Use a low SPF (like SPF 8 or 6) suntan lotion to prevent sun burn!!

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so i have a real big problem..i dated this boy for about a month and it was real intense but then he just dropped me out of no where and i was hurt and i never fully got over him so then about a month and a half passed and i started talkin to my old boyfriend and we started dating again and things were going great and then he all the sudden popped up again and started talkin to me again and i know i still have feelings for him and he told dat he had feelings for me still and now i don't know what to do i don't know if i should tell him how i feel about him or just try my best to get over him and try to work it out with my boyfriend? i really need some help if you give me good advice then i'll give good rates

If he just dropped your relationship out of nowhere last time, chances are he will if you date him again. If you're happy with your current boyfriend, stick with him.

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how many shots of alcohol will usually get you drunk and how many beers would get u drunk? (minimum amount)

It depends on your age, your size, how much you've drunk in the past, what kind of alcohol it is...yeah you'll just have to wait and see haha.

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About 6 weeks ago I was dumped over the internet by my long term bf. He did it in a very cowardly and cruel way with no explanation- pretty ignorant for a 3 year relationship. Everyone is telling me I'm better off without him. When I first met him I thought he was mr. right- he was caring, attentive; and charming. But then I saw his true colours. He would yell at me for no reason; get extremely jealous when I talked to his male friends; constantly put me and other women down; was a womanizer and cheated on me; and had a porn addiction. The meanest thing he ever did was stick his face in mine and yell "I"M SO SORRY"! after I told him his friends at a party were making me uncomfortable. I started writing a list of all the crap he did to me to make me feel better. But there is still a part of me that misses him when he was nice. Does anyone have any methods for how I can get over this jerk? And why do I still want him after everything he did?

When you get really attached to a person by being with them so long and you miss them, you tend to look for the littlest reason of why you do and sometimes you can't even find it. But you keep on missing them. It's unexplainable, really. When you start to miss him, remember all the reasons that you're NOT together anymore but don't become bitter about it.

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my one friend wants to help me with my imperfections..i mean she hasn't said it but i know she wants to.so should i be offended? or should i think its nice?

It's your choice of how to feel about what she said, but if I were you, I'd be pretty offended. If she's really your friend she won't point out your "imperfections" and try to "fix them".

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this summer i want to read a bit more. (about 15+ books.) so far, the only book i have is TWiNS by William Morrow.
anymore books? thxxx much

Try The Perks of Being a Wallflower, White Oleander, Memoirs of a Geisha, Hairstyles of the Damned, and The Devil Wears Prada.

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