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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

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i am obsessed with twilight and its kind of awesome but i like it so much it drives me nuts because i want to be the people in the book! its just so darn romantic, and its the first romantic book iv'e read. i used to be obsessed with it a long time ago and i would cry because i wanted their life and romance and blah blah blah. this time its not that bad but i hate that it's not real. what can i do? i dont want to get over it but i do? *NOTE: i am only 13.

Ok, I've read all the books, and I've seen the movie. Just letting you know so that you don't think I'm ignorant about the Twilight "saga".

Is it romantic? Hell no. Sure, it was an alright read, but I've read so many more romantic books and literature.

Twilight obsessions really get to me. Like, I understand you want to jump into their world, but it is called FANTASY for a reason. It is NOT real by any means. No matter how many action figures they make, how many movies they make, how many fans write fan-fiction, how many girls search for Edward, how many girls find "Edward", or whatever.

No matter HOW badly you want Twilight to be real, it is NEVER going to be real. Vampires don't exist. Edward doesn't exist. Bella doesn't exist. James and Victoria and Jacob and Mr. Swan and everyone else. THEY DO NOT EXIST.

I'll say it again: NONE OF THESE CHARACTERS EXIST. It's a book. Books aren't going to come alive. This isn't some stupid cartoon show where books come to life. This is REAL LIFE.

The longer you hold onto this stupid world of Twilight, the longer it's going to take you to realize that no guy is Edward, and you're going to dump a guy because he isn't "like Edward".

Please, for the sake of man-kind. Forget about Twilight. It isn't going to be real.

--Jack
(17/m)

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What are some good websites to get text books (for college) cheap? I know Amazon and Half[dot]com, but does anyone know any other websites?
It'd be greatly appreciated!

Craigslist.com

Freecycle.com


On Craig's List, you can get things fairly cheap. On Freecycle, you can get things for free. =]
Just place an ad about needed certain college books.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I already know this answer, yes. People change.

People change their emotions, overtime they become and act differently then they may have originaly.

Now the reason why I am asking this
Me and a friend have gotten into and argument over this.
She says there is scientific fact and proof people NO NOT change.
And it baffles me somebody actually believes this cause it is the stupidest thing I have every heard in my life.

Now. I gave my friend examples.
I told her me, her, and three other people we know have changed dramaticaly within the year.
As in, style, attitude, thoughts.

Yet she still insists people don't change?
I googled "Proof people don't change"
But I didn't get anything even remotly close to this subject.

I'm asking for you're opinions. Do people change? Why or why not?
Is there proof? If so, where?



And last but not least, do not comment on way or how we gotten into this argument. That is none of your business nor is it any of your concer.

Thanks.

I think what she meant is that fundamentally, we don't change.

We can change certain things about ourselves, but there are also things that we cannot change.

We, early in life, form our personalities and our morals, based on social factors. That means our family shapes us, TV shapes us, school shapes us, our friends shape us, and everything we encounter shapes us. These morals and fundamental beliefs can change, but they ultimately stay about the same, if you think about it.

Of course, all of us change, but we also stay the same. The real answer to this question is a happy-medium, not one or the other.

--Jack
(17/m)

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well im very nervous for highschool.
im sure everyone is.
but i dont want to be all shy and nervous.
i want to be outgoing! and just have fun and not worry.
any ideas on how to gain up the courage?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=504785

Check it out; it's my answer to a question similar to yours. High school isn't that bad.

--Jack
(17/m)

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ok as i said we played truth or dare and now i want to know he likes me.cuz now he says hi and stuff he dump his gf cuz when we plaed we madout and he keep wanting to so what do you think dont teel any one.age 15 gender F

Christina below me is absolutely right.

Just because he says hi to you and broke up with his girlfriend doesn't mean he likes you.

And you made out on a dare. That doesn't mean he likes you.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I like a guy that is only my friend,and someone told me that we made a good couple.Now he never talks to me.I'm sad because we used to be such good friends,and now we almost never talk.Do you think we'll ever go back to talking freqently?

Maybe. Give him time. I'm sure hearing that just made him feel uneasy.

Don't go to him, have him come to you. If you mean something to him, which I'm sure you do, he'll come back.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I have a huge problem. I know it might sound wierd but dont laugh! I want to date men, kiss men,have sex with men,mary a men and have children with a men but i would'nt mind have sex with a girl! Am i a lesbian or not? But i want to mary and have sex with a men but like if a girl came to me and ask me if i wanted to have sex with her i would'nt mind and i'd say yes! So plz help me and tell me if you considered me a lesbian.
thanks

Maybe you're bisexual. Maybe you're confused?

Which would you rather have sex with? A man or a woman?

Man? Straight.
Woman? Lesbian.
Tie? Bisexual.

--Jack
(17/m)

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okay so all my friends are super skinny and all my guy friends tell me i am fat i don't eat anymore. what should i do? ( i only became anorexic because i like one of the guys that say i am fat)♥ thanks

Don't listen to them. Who cares if all your friends are skinny? I bet you're not even fat.

So don't listen to stupid people who try to make you feel bad.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I turn polar bears white
and I will make you cry.
I make guys have to pee
and girls comb their hair.
I make celebrities look stupid
and normal people look like celebrities.
I turn pancakes brown
and make your champaigne bubble.
If you squeeze me, I'll pop.
If you look at me, you'll pop.
Can you guess the riddle?


whats the answer?

The question is "Can You Guess the Riddle?"

And the answer is "No", because there's no answer.

=]

--Jack
(17/m)

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I need some new books to read.
I'm 15/f.
I enjoyed Sarah Dessen, the Twilight series, and Gossip Girl.
I would prefer books that aren't in a series, too :]

Brave New World
Tweak?
The Historian


Basically anything but Catcher in the Rye. =]

--Jack
(17/m)

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My friend's boyfriend is terrible. He smokes, drinks, does drugs. Basically, all the things she'd never do. And now we barely talk anymore and I don't know what to do. They've been together for a while now, but we've been friends 5 times longer. I try talking to her, but she pushes me away. How can I tell her that she can do so much better? What should I say?

If it's Brooke, it doesn't matter anymore. She'll be out of the picture soon enough.

If your friend won't listen to you, she's dumb.

--Jack
(17/m)

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As of late, my parents, friends and counselors at school have been talking A LOT about colleges and it's starting to freak me out.


I'm a 16 year old junior in high school, so it's REALLY time I start picking out where I want to go. I'm pretty much set on what I want to do as far as a career goes, but I don't know which college I want to go to, which is pretty bad seeing as that will determine my career path?!


So, like I said: I don't know where to start! I know I want to stay in state or go to a neighboring state, but how should I go about researching, choosing, and whatnot?


Thanks :)

I think the best place for you to go is...

The University of Michigan Ann Arbor.

It's fantastic.

Go there, Ms. As Of Late XD

--Jack
(17/m)

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Im 15,female.Well my boufriend and i play with each other. he sticks only the head of his dick in. He has never cummed in me but im still scared. im still a virgin and want to know if there is any possibility of getting pregnant? please help me.....And wat are the possibilities? Please answer!!!

Sorry, but you're not a virgin. You've been penetrated by a penis, and so you're not a virgin anymore.

Yes, you can get pregnant. Pre-cum has sperm in it and you can get pregnant off of it.

Next time, be smart.

--Jack
(17/m)

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how can i convert an mp3 format to an mp4 format?

zamzar.com

Step One:
Pick the mp3 file

Step Two:
Choose to convert to mp4

Step Three:
Enter your email address

Step Four:
Hit Convert

Since this is probably a music file, it shouldn't take more than 5 minutes to get the email.

When you click on the link in the email and download the converted file, make sure to save it somewhere where you can easily find it.

--Jack
(17/m)

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What do you prefer:
homemade cinnamon scones, or homemade chocolate chip scones?

and does anybody have a good chocolate chip scone recipe?

thanks :-P

I don't have any recipes.

But, I think I like both. Maybe cinnamon a little more.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Hey i'm 15 and all in love ^.^ and i'm a girl. So i like really was wondering if someone could help me out here on finding a song to dedicate to my boyfriend. I want something poppy and fun. something like 'it's so amazing being in love with you!!!' and preferably sang by a girl. More then one song would be helpful and nothing too mainstream if ya get what i mean. It would be really greatly appreciated thank you

Uhm, I don't have a "poppy and fun" song, but here's a really romantic song.

"I Will Not Take My Love Away" by Matt Wertz.

It's like my new favorite song.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I wasn't sure where this fit so I just picked the broadest topic, sorry.

I've been wanting to get laser hair removal for a while now. I want to do my underarm area and the entire bikini area. I'm just so sick of shaving every day. I don't mind my legs because it's really thin hair there and it doesn't grow fast but my bikini and underarm it's so time consuming because if I go even mildly fast I'll end up with painful red bumps. I'd just like to not have to worry about it especially the bikini area not having to worry if there's prickly stubble every time I'm with my boyfriend.

I'm curious about how much it costs. I live in SE Michigan so if anyone has had it near there then please let me know how much you ended up paying for it. Even if you don't live near there still please respond. I'd just like to know what I'm looking at spending.

Do they usually have a payment plan type deal?

Also, when you go in a consultation, are they going to have to examine the entire area? I know that seems silly, but I've never really been comfortable with pelvic exams and things of that nature. I'd be fine with it during the treatment I'm just curious do they have to see the area before I decide if I'm for sure getting it done.

Do you suggest me doing my underarm area first and seeing how I like the results? I've been thinking of that because then like I'd already know what it feels like and maybe I'd be more comfortable with the bikini.

Thanks ahead of time I know it seems silly but it's just been on my mind a lot

http://www.clickondetroit.com/health/20375925/detail.html

You said SE Michigan, which is where I'm from... and I remember seeing this report on Channel 4 earlier this evening.

It's about...

"A package to treat a lip might be $250, armpits $250 to $500,"

Pretty inexpensive for almost permanent.

--Jack
(17/m)

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This guy Jason the guy Im currently sleeping with but we're not together. Well anyways when we first started having sex it was honestly boring and just kiss sex done. But lately he's been really mean to me in bed and idk I kinda like it. Its weird though I never let guys talk shit to me the things he says to me in bed are a total turn on but if he said them to me when we were just hanging out id probably slap him. I honestly love him being in so much control in bed and being mean but am I losing his respect outside of the bedroom just because of what I let him do and say when we're in the bedroom?

Talk to him about it. Tell him you like that in bed, but not in person.

I'm sure he'd understand.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Okay so basically,I am 19 & I had a misscarriage almost 2 months ago, suffered rape about 3 years ago and suffer with panic attacks and quite severe depression.
The other day I got into a conversation with a friend as I text him saying, are you awake. This was about midnight, he text back with yeah why, I said I feel down and sad, and just wanted to talk to someone.

He asked me what was up and I just said, I was watching a program on tv called ''Underage & Pregnant'', I knew I didn't wanna watch it but at the same time, I had this urge to, so I did. And it left me feeling low.

He basically said, your not the only one whos been through this, my girlfriend had a miscarriage too and we didnt even know she was pregnant, your always so low and upset and your not the only one, and hes pissed off with it.
I text back saying I have a right to be upset still though :( and he said your still doing it, you know i been through the same thing but your still saying about you being upset.''

At that point I felt utterly crap, I truely feel selfish and almost like I am not allowed to grieve for my unborn child. I dont know what to do, and this has made me feel really bad. Could someone expres their opinion on the matter,


I knew

I think it's not so much you being selfish as him being unwilling to sympathize.

I mean, to a point, we're all selfish. We all like to talk about ourselves and we all like to talk out our problems sometimes. Honestly, that's not that selfish.

I would only call you selfish if that was ALL you talked about to EVERYONE you knew. If it's not, then you're fine. If it's like 20% of your conversation or less, I think you're fine.

If you don't talk about much else, maybe you are selfish. But being selfish or not doesn't take away the pain you've gone through, and I think it's alright if you talk it out. It's natural.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Alright I'm 14/F and the guy is 16/M. Pretty much, when he asked, I told him I wasn't going to have sex with him, and he stopped talking to me. I really liked him. He told me he could see himself dating me and that he cared about me. Well he obviously doesn't care that much if he would just drop me like that because I wasn't going to let him do me. Like what the hell? Who does he think he is? I'm not a toy he can just fool around with (we had made out) and then drop when he found out he couldn't get in my pants. I want to get back at him SO bad but I don't know what to do. Help?

You're right; you aren't some toy for him to fool around with.

But just because he got rid of you because you wouldn't put out doesn't mean you have a right to get back at him.

Chances are, he's going to try to ask to have sex with you again, so, the best way to "get back at him" would be to not even give him the time of day.

--Jack
(17/m)

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