I oughta know something about vocal chords, I started college as a vocal performance major. ^_^
Actually, that's quite exceptional and cool. Most guys can hit some decently high notes in falsetto in or slightly above the staff, but anything more than that is a squeak.
Did you actually mean the top note of the piano, or the octave below that, or...? 'Cause if you meant the top note of the piano, you beat me, even, and that's really impressive, 'cause I can sing my flute pieces.
Did you mean your voice has already changed? If not, you might lose that note when it does. If so, then wow, you've got some falsetto range.
I know a bass who could hit the C above the (treble) staff - but it was kind of a squeak. He followed me up the scale when I was practicing one day, it was pretty funny. ^^
Yeah, my dad can't carry a tune in a bucket, and my mom was a pianist - no one in my family has singing talent either and I've won all but two competitions I entered. Lol
If you're good, you might wanna consider lessons. They can make you even better.
-Siren =)

Make sure your calorie count is no lower than 1200 a day, and add an actual breakfast to your diet. I like to talk about and enforce a healthy lifestyle instead of "diets," but what you suggested isn't BAD, exactly...it's just a little low in calories and missing (nonfat) dairy.
You'd be better off balancing each of your meals instead of creating one balanced meal throughout the day - protein/veggie/carb is a balanced meal. Like you have steak OR pasta up there. You might wanna do a little steak, a little pasta, and a small salad. That way you get your carbs, protein, and veggies. You can snack on whatever healthy thing you want. I'm glad you put snacks in there, that'll help speed up your metabolism as long as you eat at the right intervals.
Rice cakes are not bad for you, but they ARE carbs, which you can't really burn when you're sleeping. So, you need carbs, but probably not right before you go to bed.
Are you active? Do you exercise? If not, you might wanna start, that'll help you in your quest to lose (or maintain) weight. Diet alone will not get you the results you're looking for.
Add some (good) calories to your diet and, as long as you're not lactose intolerant, some fat-free dairy (for another source of protein), and you'll be fine.
Good luck!
-Siren =)

Well, this isn't the type of thing I usually do, but I'll try to help you as best I can.
Okay, first thing to remember is never actually pucker your lips. Lol - that makes them stiff and pretty generally unpleasant to kiss.
Do be relaxed, and hey...practice on your hand. I know it's kinda cliche, but as far as your lips go, that way you can kinda feel what's good and what isn't. Make, like, a hand puppet and kiss that. Think of trying to cover its "lips" with yours.
As far as your tongue, think about massaging the guy's tongue with yours, lightly...don't try to get it down his throat. Lol. My guy likes it when I draw circles around his tongue with mine. Some people try to shape the alphabet. You can also kinda pull back and suck on his tongue a little, a lot of guys like that one. Just remember to be gentle, and relaxed.
Hope this helps!
-Siren =)

I'm so glad you decided to come talk to me =)
What I was talking about specifically doesn't involve a meal plan. Like I said, it's a lifestyle.
For example, the other day for breakfast I had two eggs over medium with whole wheat toast (eggs=protein, toast=complex carbs) to get my metabolism going. For a snack 3 hours later I had some nuts (protein and good fats), then went to the gym and did some weightlifting, burned a ton of calories because that's how my body works. Got back from the gym and had marinated mahi mahi and strawberries (Fish=lean protein and good oils/fats, Strawberries=simple carbs (easy to digest, easy to burn)). 3 hours later I had a salad with hard boiled egg in it and fat free cottage cheese as my dressing. (eggs=protein, lettuce/salad=veggies, FAT FREE cottage cheese=protein (See how much of my diet is protein?)) 3 hours later I had I think a fat free turkey dog with some ketchup in a bun that had no high fructose corn syrup (which is really bad for you), and probably a banana for dessert.
I'm not actively trying to lose weight at this point, just tone up. My thing is, I may eat small meals, but I eat a LOT of small meals so it amounts to a decent amount of calories at the end of the day. More on that in a second...
Anyway, carbs are your energy source. You need them.
My diet/lifestyle consists of a lot of lean protein because when you work out, it helps build lean muscle. If you DON'T work out and you eat a lot of protein, it will store as fat, just like a lot of things will if you're not exercising regularly. You don't have to kill yourself at the gym to lose weight - just maintaining an active lifestyle and a healthy diet will help tremendously. If you are active and you're having trouble losing weight, it could be that you've hit a plateau in your weight loss, and we'll have to figure stuff out from there.
Basically, you gotta work out. Really. It helps so much, and once you get used to going to the gym, it feels good, and you feel happy after.
But diet-wise (if you're working out)
center your meals around some form of lean protein (lean meats like turkey, fish, certain types of beef, eggs, NONFAT dairy products (cheese, cottage cheese, lite yogurt)
Have some kind of carbohydrate with every MEAL - not necessarily your snacks - complex carbs like whole grain breads, starches (potatoes, corn, pasta) You wanna make your body work harder to digest what you give to it, so things like whole grain or crunchy whole veggies are important for burning more calories.
You can have sweets, but in moderation and earlier in the day is better. Sugar free is even better.
Sucrose is the kind of sugar you want to cut down on. Don't overdo the glucose, but fructose (sugar found in fruit) is fine.
Veggies are great, fruit is great. Just remember, moderation is key.
Now, what I was saying about calories - you gotta go on line and find out how many calories you burn, your BMR. With the amount I exercise, I need something like 2400 calories to maintain my weight. Sounds like a lot, right? Chances are you'll find it's more than you think. To lose weight, some suggest dropping about 500 calories, but if you're not as active as I am, 500 calories is too much of a deficit. You NEVER want to have less than 1200 calories a day. The average person needs 2000. (That's why things like the juice diet are bad.)
Try adjusting your diet to a healthier lifestyle and get back to me if you have any other questions.
I hope this gave you the information you needed.
-Siren =)

NO. Just, NO. Don't start "that diet." Don't start any "diet." DO NOT STARVE YOURSELF TO LOSE WEIGHT.
If you want to lose weight in a permanent manner, change your lifestyle. Start working out. Eat the right amount of calories for your activity to lose weight (google BMR calculators, they tell you how many calories you burn laying in bed all day, and then if you work out, how many calories you need to ingest to maintain your weight. From there you can figure out how many calories you need to be eating to lose weight).
But realize that diet and exercise go hand-in-hand. You can diet all you want, but you still won't look like a model, you won't have the toned muscles, and you'll probably be bigger than the scale says you are. If you work out right it'll be the opposite - I'm 5'4" and 125 but I have a 26 inch waist, or something.
Look, when you starve yourself, your body basically shuts down. It "works" because your body starts to eat itself, feed off itself, and if you eat ANYTHING useful, it stores it as fat in your system because it doesn't know when it's gonna get any nutrients again. After awhile your metabolism will slow down and it'll stop working. Not only that, but if you do mess with your diet/balance, it screws up your emotions. When I did South Beach, I had nightmares every night, I had mood swings, I felt depressed all the time, and it was really just not worth it because it didn't work long term.
So anyway, the "diet" you're talking about "works" short term, but the results you see will not be permanent. Unless, of course, you intend to keep it up forever. That, my friend, can be classified as an eating disorder, particularly if you think there's nothing wrong with it.
Your body needs balance to be healthy. You NEED complex carbs, and you especially NEED protein, none of which you will be getting on this idiotic "juice diet." What you're talking about is malnourishment for weight loss. Does that sound wrong to you, or is it just me?
Trust me, I've been there, I've tried everything, and I look great now. Know what I've been doing?
Eating carbs. Eating a LOT of lean protein. Eating veggies. Drinking water and protein shakes. Sleeping enough. Eating every 3-4 hours (kicks your metabolism up a notch or two). Working out; cardio, weights, the works.
You know where I was last year?
135 and anorexic.
See what I mean?
The results I got through a healthier lifestyle are permanent, and something I can keep up for the rest of my life. I enjoy working out, it feels good. I like eating right, too. Not to mention I cook, so that just gives me more incentive to pay attention to what I put in my stomach.
If you want help adjusting your diet to a healthier lifestyle, drop a question in my inbox. We can figure it out, but please, PLEASE rethink this "diet." It can only hurt you.
If you decide to go into further detail with me, I check my inbox every day, so I'll get back to you fast. If not, good luck.
-Siren =)

I love it when guys smell good. If they hug me when they smell good, they'll have to pry me off with a crowbar. Lol, anyway...
If you know he has a girl, then he's not technically leading you on, but I understand what you mean.
Your friends are right in a sense, but you don't have to stop talking to him. You DO have to set him straight - tell him that what he's doing is not cool, nor is it fair to his girlfriend. If he likes YOU and he's dating HER, he's clearly with the wrong girl. If it's a case where he can't decide which girl he likes better, tell him to come talk to me. Lol - seriously, if he put you in this situation, clearly he's having some troubles of his own. Send him to an unbiased third party, even if it isn't me, and let him talk it out with them.
In either case, you need to talk to him and tell him he's gotta shape up.
The relationship game is one big risk taking frenzy, so take one now and you may be rewarded for it - or at least, you won't be so confused, and neither will he.
Good luck!
-Siren =)

Heh, no problem. Yeah, character spines are a lot harder than people think. It's not easy to summarize a person in one sentence, people are complicated things.
You've got a really good start on your dad, not much needs to change about that one, but let's see if I can't shrink it a little...
Your father - a passionate, traveling politician who always gets the last word.
Your mother - a smart, selfless doctor who can't tell Johnny Depp from Johnny Cash.
Brother #1 - a secretive, intelligent guitarist and future surgeon who knows what he wants.
(too bad he's not 5 years older, he sounds like my type...lol...the guy I've been involved with since my freshman year is an (wait for it...) intelligent, attractive pre-med student/singer who comes off as an asshole but gives the best hugs ever.)
Brother #2 - a sympathetic, talkative brainiac, who outwardly loves his family; The Baby.
Whaddya think? If no, IM me; we'll bounce ideas off each other until we find spines that work.
-Siren =)

Ooh! I made the BEST running playlist last night! Well, best for me, anyway. I tend to run to heavy, driving music with a fast beat. A lot of the time, it's music by Disturbed. Here's my playlist (usually on shuffle):

DISTURBED

*Liberate (Believe album)
*Just Stop (ten thousand fists)
*Guarded (Ten thousand fists (This one is really driving and good to sprint to)
...it's so good I apparently put that song on my playlist twice. Right, next song...
*Deify (Ten Thousand fists) (about 15 seconds in is where the beat starts. It's Bush quotes at the beginning)
*Stricken (Ten Thousand Fists)
*I'm Alive (Ten Thousand Fists)
*Sons of Plunder (Ten Thousand Fists)
*Decadence (Ten Thousand Fists) (Beginning's a little slow, might be a better song to speedwalk to...)
*Forgiven (Ten Thousand Fists)
*Land of Confusion (Ten Thousand Fists)
*Sacred Lie (Ten Thousand Fists)
*Pain Redefined (Ten Thousand Fists) (This is always the song playing during one of my last laps, where I'm like "Pain redefined is running three miles in half an hour when your leg hurts and you can't breathe. *Runs faster*")
*Avarice (Ten Thousand Fists)

EVANESCENCE
*Weight of the World (The Open Door)

GREEN DAY
*In The End (Dookie)

NICKELBACK
*Flat on the Floor (The Long Road)
*Believe It Or Not (The Long Road)

NO DOUBT
*Hella Good (Rock steady)

PAPA ROACH
*Not Listening (Getting Away With Murder)
*Getting Away With Murder (Getting Away With Murder)
*Done With You (Getting Away With Murder)

THREE DAYS GRACE
*Riot (One X)

Disturbed's first album, The Sickness I think, is also really good for driving beats, I just don't have it, lol.
Anyway, those are some suggestions. Have fun!
-Siren =)

What you're talking about, the one-sentence description, is a character's spine. I learned about this in playwriting ^_^.
Here's a character's spine from my best play:
"KATIE, a garrulous, naïve barista with a tendency to point out the obvious."
To describe her, I found her three most prominent traits: she talks a lot, she's young, and she doesn't know when not to "observe." Then I found shorter words for her traits.
Another character from that play, Nick, was pretty much the opposite of a commitmentphobe, but I couldn't for the life of me find one word for someone who was afraid to be alone, so I called him "(My protagonist's) cocky, unfaithful friend with human Velcro tendencies."
You've got a pretty good start, let's see if I can expand on it...
James Eriksson - a lovable soccer player who bites off more than he can chew even off the field.
or
James Eriksson - an amiable soccer-ball-buster who's always running even off the field.
(Puns are your friend)
If you wanna throw a few descriptive words or terms for each person in your family out there I'd be glad to get back to you and help you out a little more. Drop one in my inbox or add some info to your question, I'll check back.
-Siren =)

On the day of my high school graduation, I wore an outfit under my robe/gown that broke every part of the school's dress code, just because I could. What were they gonna do after I had my diploma, take it back? Lol...As soon as I got my diploma I opened up my gown to reveal - I think it was - a short khaki skirt that hung low on my hips, a short shirt with spaghetti straps, my bra straps showing, and a low neckline...The only thing I didn't do was wear something with swear words on it, lol. Of course, I hated my school and wanted to spite them as best I could without getting myself in trouble, but that's just me.
I'd wear something comfortable, graduation takes awhile. I remember sitting for hours, being bored out of my skull and really, really hot.
Are your gowns see-through? If so I'd wear light colors underneath. You could wear some sort of semi-formal dress with a pair of heels - just make sure it's not something that'll trip you up while you're walking over to get your diploma.
Congratulations on your graduation! Now the fun begins. =D
-Siren

My choir director gave me this one. Every time we'd warm up and start to hit some high notes, he'd say "Come on, sopranos! No guts, no glory!" to make sure we didn't back off and squeak instead of actually sing. Lol
It turned into "No regret. No remorse. No guts, no glory."
Everything that happens, every choice you make has made you who you are, and will shape the person you will become in the future. If you changed anything you'd be completely different. Charge into life. Love it for what it is, and follow your instincts.
That's what I've learned over the years.
-Siren =)

Well, it might cause a jam, but you have hands. If it does, pull it out and cancel printing...
I actually did that a couple times and it worked fine. I had this playwriting class that forced me to print out copy after copy of my plays (which were each about ten to fifteen pages long), and needless to say I ran out of paper fast. I was desperate, so I ripped some out of a notebook, made sure the perforated bits were gone, and printed my play out a few times over. My professor got a kick out of it, and I managed to actually buy paper after that.
So, it's not a good idea longterm, but if you're in a jam and you need paper, you can probably make it work.
-Siren =)

Heh, yeah lucky her. My mom's like that, she's 56 and people think she's in her late thirties.
Does your grandma have any medical conditions like glaucoma, or anything? If so, it's possible that she could use it as a medicinal herb - I'm not sure where you're from, but Michigan's about to vote to have it legalized.
In your shoes, I would sit her down and ask her about it. Explain to her that you feel frustrated and confused that she told you not to do something, and she's going and doing it herself, just like you told me. Hopefully she'll be honest with you and tell you why she has it. If it's medicinal for her, you have to realize that you may not be able to get her to stop, and it might be something that you just have to deal with.
But first find out why she has it. Lol, I find it slightly difficult to believe you have a loser/pothead granny. I think there's a reason behind it, and your best bet is to open the lines of communication with her.
Communication is key to any good relationship, family, friendship, or otherwise.
First talk to her, and if it turns out there's no medical reason, or she really can't justify it and you can't get her to stop, come talk to me again and we'll figure out where to go from there.
Good luck!
-Siren =)

Lol, this sounds familiar. When I was 14 I had some...really interesting fights with my parents, and though I screamed at them and they had to literally stuff me in the car, they took me to a therapist we knew. I was still convinced I didn't need her to help me, but what I wound up doing was using her to convince my parents that I didn't need to be there. She saw my side of things and often talked to them after my session to express my feelings to them in a way I couldn't - adult to adult.
As resistant as I was to see her, she did help me. And a few years later, when I was anorexic and borderline clinically depressed and really did need her, she already knew me and felt more like a friend than a therapist.
You have to realize that your parents love you. As screwed up as your relationship might be right now, they want you to have someone to talk to, even if it isn't them. That's why they're talking to you about not bottling up your emotions. Besides, if you do that long enough it can make you sick in so many ways - trust me. Been there.
Let your parents do what little they can to get you a listening ear. Yes, therapists are paid, but they do what they do BECAUSE they care, not because they're getting money.
Why do you think I have an advice column?
I've been through a lot, and I know I'm not the only person dealing with pain and hardships. I want to use my experience and knowledge to help those who need a guiding hand, or a listening ear.
Any therapist, unless they're a complete ass, will probably say the same thing.
Be honest with your counselor. I hope it isn't someone affiliated with your school. Schools are paranoid nowadays - if you were to say anything "suspicious," you could wind up in trouble for absolutely no reason.
So, I guess what I'm trying to say is, this is a GOOD thing. Resist all you want, but please try to see things from where your parents stand. Not every parent has the innate knowledge of how to raise a child perfectly. They may not understand you - but that's where a therapist can come in.
Therapists are not evil people. They're not for stupid people, and there's nothing wrong with having someone outside your family to talk to, to take your side, and to listen to you.
Use this to your advantage.
Or, if you choose, explain to your parents that you feel you don't need to see a therapist, that you're just frustrated generally because you feel like no one listens to you, and that you do not bottle your emotions. You have an outlet (do you free-write? Write songs? Poetry? Draw? Sing? Something that lets you express what you don't say), and that you don't feel comfortable expressing what you feel to them.
(Please for the sake of your argument, avoid accusing your parents of anything, even if you feel they're the ones to blame. (i.e. "you never listen to me," or "If you really loved me, etc...") It will make them shut down, and they really won't listen to you. If you can tell them why you don't need to go see a therapist in a calm, rational way, they may understand and not make you go.)
My best advice to you is to just try ONE session with a therapist, just to appease your parents. If you feel it's totally unnecessary, then you can explain why you don't need to go.
Good luck.
-Siren =)

Motivation is good ^_^
That's where most people fall short. Thing is, there's no way to pinpoint where you lose weight. If you want to tone up, you gotta start doing cardio. Anything that gets your heart rate up - swimming, biking, running, speedwalking, whatever floats your boat.
If your diet isn't all that healthy, you might wanna consider tweaking that a little. Also, if you work out, you want more lean protein in your diet. It helps build lean muscle. Don't cut anything (except junk food) out of your diet. You need carbs, so don't even think about dropping those =P
I'm not sure I can give you the kind of help you need - I don't have a set diet that I follow, or anything. Workout routines are very specific to the person, what they like, what they feel comfortable doing, etc. For example, I love working out, so I'm at the gym every day alternating weights and cardio. Someone who isn't as into it as I am might not want to do that every day.
I also don't follow diet plan, I have a healthy lifestyle, which is, in the long run, better. It takes awhile to get into, though.
I can give you a couple of things to check yourself on, though:
*Check your BMR on line (basal metabolic rate). It'll tell you what you burn laying in bed all day, and what you burn with exercise.
*Don't work out for more than an hour, it's overkill.
*Make sure your meals are balanced - protein, some carbs, veggies, and fruit for dessert. So, like, a fat free hot dog with a small salad and an apple.
*Check the fat gram count on whatever you can. 60 grams is the most any one person should have in a day.
*Nuts are good snacks. They're fats, but they're GOOD fats, and also a source of protein, which you need to build muscle.
*Eat every 3-4 hours, and right when you get up in the morning. It kickstarts your metabolism and gets it moving faster, which will make it easier for you to lose weight.

If you're going to start working out, make sure you get enough sleep, too. Working out on too little sleep is a BAAAD idea. If you want me to help you with a workout plan, drop another one here telling me what kind of exercise you've done in the past, what you feel comfortable doing, etc.
I'm not a nutritionist, so I can't really give you a "diet," but if you do the things I suggested above, you should lose some weight...unless you've already been doing all that, in which case, let me know and I'll think a little harder.
Also, realize that weight really is just a number. If you tone up and lean out, you're probably going to actually gain a couple pounds, but you'll be thinner. Take my word for it. I'm 125, but I'm really skinny. I'm compact! ^_^
Anyway, If you want more specifics, drop another one in my inbox.
Hope this helps a bit.
-Siren =)

Well, it sounds to me like you still like D. Anytime there are hearts on the line you gotta realize someone's probably gonna get hurt. It's part of life. J broke up with you because he thought you still liked D, and he's probably right. You didn't mention anything up there about liking J, all you told me was about making out with D"=D", and how you and D connect and all this positive stuff. It sounds to me, if you're acting like you're still together, that you might as well rekindle the relationship.
Tell J that you're sorry, but you just don't feel that way about him (anymore), and that it's nothing against him, or it has nothing to do with him. It just isn't a good time for the two of you.
That's the gentlest way to let someone down, I think.
Good luck!
-Siren =)

Some people don't develop vibrato until their late teens, so it's perfectly normal for you not to have it yet.
Vibrato comes from resonance and space in your instrument/body. Peoples' bodies are different. They grow and change at different rates. Everyone goes through voice changes, but girls don't change as drastically as guys do. Yours might not have changed yet, and you may not have the space you need to produce vibrato.
No one can predict when you'll have vibrato. You'll get it when you get it, but if you have good technique, you WILL get it. Just be patient, and remember to always be relaxed when you sing. Your throat muscles have nothing to do with it, and you should never force vibrato.
If you're not taking voice lessons, you might want to look into it. A good teacher can help you develop better technical ability and understanding, and you may develop vibrato sooner. If you're in a choir, ask your director about what you can do to find a teacher close to you.
But like I said, you'll get vibrato. Don't worry about it.
Good luck!
-Siren =)

First, there's nothing to laugh about when dealing with eating disorders. Second, Oh, My God. 6'4" and 109 pounds?? He's, like, dangerously underweight. At his height, he should weigh something like 175 or 180, and that's on the low end of the normal weight spectrum.
The best thing to do is educate him about what he's doing to his body.
First, you're gonna have to get him to talk about it. That's the hard part. You know him better than I do, so you'll be able to get into his head better than I could suggest.
Once you get him to open up, explain to him the dangers of anorexia. It can cause hair loss, organ failure, and it BACKFIRES. By starving himself to lose weight like that, he's depriving his body of the nutrients it needs to maintain a certain level of health and capability. When your body doesn't have nutrients to feed off of, it starts to feed off of itself, which is where the weight loss comes from. As you can tell, just from the sound of what I just said, that is NOT a healthy way to lose weight. Not only that, but what he's doing is slowing his metabolism like crazy. That, if he should ever decide to eat again, will cause him to gain weight.
I have a friend, for example, who used to be anorexic, and got the help she needed to get better, but now she's very overweight (but working on losing weight in a healthy way).
I myself am a former anorexic, and I still struggle with my past sometimes. But the trick to losing weight, which you can tell him, is to eat more OFTEN and speed up your metabolism. I eat 6 meals a day, or 5 depending on when I wake up. I also work out pretty much daily. I weigh 125, but I'm really skinny just because of all the lean muscle I have.
I have to tell you, he's going to be resistant to opening up about this. He won't think he has a problem, and he won't want help. You need to help him realize that something isn't right. Tell him you're worried. Hell, go on the computer with him and show him his BMI (I think it was 13.4, which is REALLY underweight). Do anything you can to put the idea into his head that he needs to turn this around. Find some way to alert him, because let me tell you, when I was anorexic, I didn't even realize it until my choir director dragged me by my sleeve into his office and went "Who are you and what have you done with my soprano?"
It's hard to work through eating disorders because they're both psychological and physical. You have to have a LOT of willpower, and a lot of support from your friends and family. Otherwise, you need hospitalization. It's dangerous stuff. The best thing you can do for him is let him know you care and that you want to help. Once, of course, he admits he needs it.
If you like, you can keep me updated on the process and I'll help you talk him around as much as I can.
If not, good luck.
-Siren =)

There is nothing stupid about an eating disorder. They are serious problems, both psychological and physical. If your school counselor is telling you it's not a big problem, either he/she doesn't understand, he/she knows nothing about eating disorders, or he/she doesn't believe you (Which, I'm sorry to say, happens quite a bit).
Kudos for getting help in the first place, but if the person you're getting help from makes you feel stupid about seeking advice, you need to seek help elsewhere. It is worth getting help. Any given eating disorder is like a slow suicide. They eat away at your body and your mind. They can cause your hair to fall out, organ failures, and many other unpleasant things.
You CAN stop. If you've been bulimic for two years, you might have lost the physical capability of stopping by yourself. You may need help, and you may need to be hospitalized, but you CAN fix it, and you CAN be helped. You are not hopeless. Yes, it will be with you for the rest of your life because you will have had this experience, and you will more thoroughly understand what other people are going through, the pressure they feel from society to be perfect.
You can be happy. You can get better. Motivate yourself by telling yourself you can do it. Talk to your parents - I know it's difficult, but explain to them that you know you have a problem, and that you need their support, not their judgment. They can help you get whatever kind of help you need, physical or mental. You're not stupid. You're one of many who succumb to the pressures of society, and there's nothing wrong with that. Everyone goes through something - What sets you aside from everyone else is that you can admit that something's wrong. A lot of people don't even realize that. So you're a step ahead. Now you just need to keep following the steps you need to follow to get better.
You CAN do it. You can also IM me if you want someone to talk at/to (SirenCytherea).
Be strong.
-Siren =)

Actually, I think trying it once would be a good idea. Really, cigarettes taste horrible, and trying one would probably be more of a deterrent than anything.
It's perfectly normal to be curious. Hell, I'm a singer, and I hate smoke, but I tried it because I was curious. Now I know cigarettes are not for me - they made me cough and tasted bad, and I have no desire to smoke. Lol
Why not talk to your boyfriend and tell him you're curious, but you're worried that he'll be disappointed in you? If it's THAT important to him that you not smoke EVER, then hold off for awhile. You know, weigh the options. Your relationship VS curiosity.
Or, it might turn out not to be such a big deal for him if you try one, and you could be worried over nothing. Your best bet is to TALK to him. If you keep things from him and he finds out later...bad idea. He'll be more pissed that you lied/kept things from him than he will that you did it.
Communication is KEY to a good relationship.
Good luck!
-Siren =)

I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.

I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.

I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.

Feel free to visit my website/blog, if you want to read my experience with domestic violence and my thoughts on it.

***While I do tend to answer mental health and other health-related or medicine-related questions, I am by NO MEANS a licensed physician or practitioner of any sort. Any and all advice I give for these questions is from my own experience or studies.***

If you need to get a hold of me quickly, my screen name on AIM is SirenCytherea. Just let me know you found me here.

I'm a strong believer in the idea that there are no stupid questions except the ones left unasked, so, please, keep an open mind, heart, and mouth.

Siren

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