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So this guy and I liked each other for a couple of months at the end of the school year last year but then something happened and we had a fight and he told me he was over it. During the summer, he would still text my best friend, asking about me and telling her that I was always too busy for him and assuming that I didn't have time to see him. This year, I don't have any classes with him and I see him a lot at school. He knows I'm pissed at him for something he did and he still smiles at me, trying to apologize, and stops and stares at me..He still hugs me for long periods of time and tries to see me when he can. so how do I know if he still feels the same way? I don't know if he's just trying to be my best friend again or if he still likes me. It took him forever to admit he liked me before so I know asking him won't help at all. What are signs or ways I can tell?

THANKS :]

In short:
Seems like he's trying to make amends. Possibly by trying to regain your friendship back, then maybe into something more.

All of these sites should be some help.

Hope things work out how you want them.

On a recent answer, you said you had seen a website with pics of airbrushed v. unairbrushed celebs. Just wondering where I can find it? Thanks!

http://www.iwanexstudio.com/

Click portfolio at the top. Then click an image and hover over it.

please help!
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its like being half-cross-eyed?

one of my eyes is normal (like the iris and pupil part stay in center of my eyeball) but in the other eye the iris and pupil part is closer to my nose like its close-set in one eye.

has anyone ever heard anything like this?

Could be a "lazy eye". I remember someone had it from school. They went to an optician and were given eye exercises to do which helped to strengthen it. Get it checked out to be sure.

well i just got a boyfriend to day and i instantly cheated on him but i dont know if its really cheatin cuz the only thing i did was feel on someone else's dick but i don that to this guy all the time....lie on a daily basis! so is it still considered cheating?

Yes, it is considered cheating.
You shouldn't really have a boyfriend if you aren't committed.
Stop and think for a moment. Before people get hurt.

well my boyfriend is a very quiet person and so am i well not as quiet as him once a person starts talkin to me i cant shut up. but he dont talk that much so how can i get him to start conversations and keep talkin instead of one sylable answers?

Give him time. You can't make him talk. You just have to wait until he gets a bit more comfortable to come out of his shell when he's with you.
If you like, have a chat with him and explain your worries. Tell him he can talk to you and open up. After all, you are boyfriend and girlfriend.
Lots of people are shy. If you're willing to wait, it gets better within time.

I know that celebs got the whole crew everywhere, air brushers, make up artist, etc so they always seem to look perfect but I was wondering:

Noone ever looks perfect in EVERY part of their body like a manikin, if girls got ugly knees, do make artists put make up on their knees and other parts of their body too?

And do boys wear make up too? (Not the boys who are in a band and wear mascara)

All celebrities wear make up. Men and women.
I suppose maybe if their knees were on show and they were "ugly", they may make them look better.
Especially in photoshoots. I was on a website the other day showing before being air brused and after. It was pretty shocking.

i want my toe nails to look like i got them done lol. what colors/brand can i get to achieve this look: clear but shiny purplish color with a white tip?

thanks :]

Buy a french manicure set? You can get them anywhere. Or buy all 3 separately.
Apply a natural shade first (beige), apply the white tips, then finish with a clear coat.

My bgf and i like each other and want to date but he can't because of a rule at a Teen Help center where he works. Well he kissed me on Sunday and wants to start acting like a couple just without commitment. But if he's not going to commit to me idk if it's a good thing to ac like were together. I mean we could still be really good friends without being all couplish, right? Yeah so what do you think I should do? My 1 friend thinks should try it to see if when we can have a relationshipmif i would want to but my other friend says NO, wait until you can actually have a real relationship. What do you think??? Thanks so much and i rate! :D

In brief:
What's a relationship without commitment? I'm not 100% what he's thinking, but to me, that could mean he may see other people as well as you.
I'd wait it out. Or ask him his reasons.
I hope you make the best choice.

i just bought this striaghtener
is it good? i havent opened it yet so i would like your highly skilled opions =]
i paid 50 dollars for it in a local store but on their website it says 65 dollars so i was hoping that means its a pretty good striaghter
plz help =]
thanks buches
http://www.conair.com/infiniti-instant-heat-ceramic-inch-straightener-p-71.html

I don't have that one but I'm familiar with straighteners since I have been killing my hair daily for 7 years!
After reading it's properties, it seems like a jolly good hair straightener! Solid ceramic plates, fast heat up, protects your hairs natural luster (allows it to stay shiny and won't make it duller), etc. What more could you ask for. ;)

everytime me and my boyfrien are doing it he has problems getting it in with the condom on but without it, it goes in fine and easily... does anyone know why that happens? or how to fix it?

Use lube. It will help it slide in if the condom has anything to do with it being difficult.
Condoms tend to make sex a bit drier, so making sure you're quite "wet" is a plus.

i have a paper due friday and the question is .. who's my hero(s) and why? can i be my own hero? is that possible at all?

If you have a good explanation as to why you are your own hero, yes, you can.
I used to say that, because I don't particularly look up to anyone apart from a musician...
Hope your essay goes well!

i have a boyfriend that im in love with! we've been together for a year and a half and in general he makes me happy but we do argue alot, thats just what we do and it doesnt bother me. but... theres this guy i just met, i cant believe it but he takes my breathe away everytime i see him. hes incredible, and i love everything about him(atleast from what i know about him). i really like him and i cant get him out of my head!!!!!! he makes me smile, and has the most sexiest dimples EVER!!!! i love my boyfriend but the fact that im thinking about even considereing being with another guy breaks my heart. and i dont know what to do!!!!!!!!!!! i try everything to get him out of my head! i'll sit there and think about how much i wanna spend the rest of my life with my boyfriend and ill convince myself that this other guy is just a silly infatuation and i forget about him. that is until i see him again and i totally forget i even have a boyfriend. im having a mental breakdown. please help!

A year and a half is alot to throw away.. but then again, it could be reaching it's expiry date.
If you still have strong feelings for your boyfriend like you used to, don't give up on him.
Try to avoid this other boy you are lusting over. Because to be honest, that's all it seems like - lust.
Noone here can really help you any further, because noone knows how you feel for them or what's going on inside you and those guys heads.
I always say follow your heart.
Perhaps you shouldn't be with either until you're 100% sure. It's not fair on you.
I hope you make the right choice..

today at lunch my bf like hit himself in the head with a water bottle, and i, not wanting him to hit himself, took the bottle from him. then a few of our friends were saying hes whipped. and my bf didnt really oppose it. he was just like "hey that used to be you!!" to our friend cause thats what everyone said about his ex gf. i know i am so nice to my bf though he just does a lot of things that could get him hurt (usually a lot worse than a water bottle dont worry im not that ridiculous) and i have stopped him from doing these things as a way to show him i care (i have done this since way before we were going out) i didnt realize i was doing that. is it really that bad? hearing that and making that realization made me really upset. like since then i have been fighting back tears. and i avoided my bf for the rest of the day because im sad and i dont want him to ask why or wonder why im not talking. i had no idea i was doing anything wrong but now i see. help?

Fighting back tears? All you are doing for your boyfriend is showing you care. It's natural and to be honest, I bet other girlfriends would do the same.
You may have over reacted a little, seeing as it was only a water bottle, but it's honestly nothing to get upset over. You're just proving you don't want to see him get hurt.
If you haven't already, have a word with your boy and explain.
If it really bothered him, wouldn't he tell you to let him do what he wants?
Cheer up girl. Just have a word and get this silly ordeal sorted.
Best of luck.

Ok well this school year hasn't really started out that great. Well this summer, me and my best guy friend started liking each other & kinda acted like we were going out. But we couldn't cuz our other best friend likes him too. So I ended up kinda not talking to them much anymore. But when this school year started, I sorta changed. Like I used to dress wicked preppy and now its just like jeans & a band T-shirt. Not really a big deal. And I really don't care if anyone else has a problem with that. Well I started to talking to my guy friend again a little bit and he asked me why I changed. But he didn't mean clothes, he meant personality. I truthfully don't see it. All I know is I acted sorta sad when I was around him in class because I miss him and I still want to be with him. And it turns out that our other friend doesn't like him anymore. And he told me that he never got over me and he still loves me.But i hafta show him that I haven't changed my personality. Cuz I'm still the same nice, crazy, person I was. So I really need help in showing how to do that, Please!

15/f

He may have got a bit offended seeing as you didn't talk to him much anymore.
Give it a little while and he will see you haven't changed.
Hang out with him often. In and out of school if you can. Perhaps just you two so you can get your original bond back.
Do whatever you guys used to do. Call him randomly and stuff - make a little extra effort.
Also, are you sure you haven't changed at all? You may have matured. Or it's possible he's the one that has changed?
Good luck anyway!

hi im 13 and im aloud either my tragus (the litle stickin out bit in the middle of your ear)or the top of my ear done and im not aloud any more or both until im 18 . loads and loads of people have the top of their ear done in my class and i dont know anyone else with a tragus peircing? what do you think??

I have a tragus piercing.
If lots of people have a regular cartilage piercing, then go for the other.

Okay this guy and I have a long history. We went out off/on for 8 months and finally broke up for good last February. The end of March I met another guy and we dated all summer. I would always see my ex and he would ask me to go back out with him, call me all the time and ask me how he could make me like him better than my current bf...all that kind of stuff. He found out that my current bf and I broke up in Aug and he started callin me and talking to me on yahoo and myspace. He was saying all the right things and I believed him. He came over to the house one night and we watched a movie. We kissed and he wanted to do more. The most we had ever done was kiss and I said no, because we aren't technically goin out. He knows Ive never done anything with a guy. Well, the whole week when he was talking to me on yahoo he would say that he wanted us to go back out, but he wasn't sure since I didn't "do stuff". Last weekend he came over for a couple of hours and then we went to the movie together. Things were fine when he was here. We watched tv and talked a lot. He kissed me and it really felt like old times. He kept on and on about wanting me to flash him, so I don't know why, but I did it. I wouldn't let him touch me, but then we started kissing again and he asked me to touch him through his pants. I did and we got caught up in the moment and he put my hand down his pants. This was the first time Ive ever done this with a guy. He put his hand in my pants but not underneath my underwear. That's all we did. After a while we went to the movie but he was different there. He wouldn't hardly talk to me and he hasn't called me since. Last night I was going to message him on myspace and he has changed his whole layout. Says he has a girlfriend. I am so hurt. Did I do wrong letting him talk me into what we did? Should I talk to him ever again if he gets in touch with me when he and this chick are done? I dont know what to do. He is my first love and I can't seem to forget him.

I'm going to make this short.
He's an idiot. Don't bother talking to him again. Don't get in contact and ignore him if he tries to talk to you.
He used you. Why? Because he could.
It doesn't matter if he was your first love. Some day, when you find the right person, they will sweep you off your feet and treat you how you SHOULD be treated. Not use you.
Time will heal your ordeal, sweetie. and I'm sorry you fell for his sweet talk.

I was at s0ccer practice and I stepped 0n my ankle t0wards the 0utside. It hurt f0r a sec0nd and I sat d0wn f0r ab0ut 7 mins and it didn't hurt any m0re s0 with my stupidness, I g0t up and played again f0r ab0ut 5 mins. After that, practice was thankfully 0ver. It started t0 gradually get w0rse as the night went 0n. Well that was ab0ut a month and a half ag0. Its still hurting! I s0metimes jus rand0mly starts hurting when I'm walking! I have an ankle brace. It d0esnt hurt when I d0 track, s0metimes ballet & s0ccer. Is it 0k? Why is it still hurting? What am I d0ing wr0ng?

Rest.
Ice.
Compression.
Elevation.

Do those 4 for a speedy recovery.
It does seem pretty normal. The same thing happened to me and I was in pain for weeks.
Hope it feels better soon!

I use tampons and my mum knows. But i just read a question and they were goin on about not using a tampon because they havent lost their virginity yet. I lost mine at 13(please dont judge)...but my mum doesnt know that. Would she know i have lost it because i can use a tampon :-S ??

Not at all. Virgins can use tampons... It just might make it harder to pull out if their hymens are still well intact.

what are the codes to make writing bigger on myspace

TEXT HERE

TAKE OUT THE STARS.

PS.
http://www.mygen.co.uk/index.php?page=tutorials
This is a useful website for basic codes.

[for anyone reading this column, the code answering the question won't show up.]

what kind of things should i eat to help make my immune system better able to fight this cold?

my throat is sore so most things im thinking of eating, will make my throat feel worse :/ like bananas or soup.

i dunno; but i need help on what to eat to get over this cold.

ALSO, what should i eat normally so i dont get sick all the time anymore?i mean, i was just sick not even a month ago. i dont think im eating healthy enough. should i drink vitamin water? or maybe take some type of vitamin daily?

please and thank you.

I answered a question like this a couple of days ago..

** Don't eat fried foods.

** Get plenty of rest.

** Eat soups/yoghurt.

** Eat fruits rich in vitamin C. I suggest drinking glasses of orange juice.

** Have a hot relaxing bath.

** If you have any vapor rub, apply it to your chest.

** If you have Eucalyptus oil, inhale a few times during the day.

They should relieve your symptoms.
Hope you have a speedy recovery.

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