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he's whipped? i didnt mean to be like that
today at lunch my bf like hit himself in the head with a water bottle, and i, not wanting him to hit himself, took the bottle from him. then a few of our friends were saying hes whipped. and my bf didnt really oppose it. he was just like "hey that used to be you!!" to our friend cause thats what everyone said about his ex gf. i know i am so nice to my bf though he just does a lot of things that could get him hurt (usually a lot worse than a water bottle dont worry im not that ridiculous) and i have stopped him from doing these things as a way to show him i care (i have done this since way before we were going out) i didnt realize i was doing that. is it really that bad? hearing that and making that realization made me really upset. like since then i have been fighting back tears. and i avoided my bf for the rest of the day because im sad and i dont want him to ask why or wonder why im not talking. i had no idea i was doing anything wrong but now i see. help?
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Dear He's whipped,
It doesn't actually sound to me like he is whipped. It sounds to me like he wants attention from you, or someone. Like he is doing things to hurt himself to see if you care enough to stop him. Is everything ok with him at home? Do you two spend enough quality time together ? These are questions that i'd ask myself. I hope that this advice has helped.
K
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A guy who is 'whipped' is generally whipped by a girl who intended that to happen.
A guy who is whipped usually does every single thing his girlfriend tells him when she bosses him around. Sort of like "Carry my books" and he follows orders. There was no question there. There was no please. There was just an order. And His response is kind of a "Yes, Dear! Anything for you!"
Stopping him from doing harmful things to himself, such as hitting himself in the head, is showing you care, not whipping him.
No worries, ok?
ygs-29/f
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You're overreacting. Of course you're going to stop him from hurting himself! You care about him; it's natural. If you are honestly controlling him by stopping him from living his life, that's a problem. But if all you're doing is stopping him from blatantly hurting himself, frankly, I'd be worried if you didn't have that instinct in you.
About him being "whipped". He didn't object when you took the bottle away because he cares about you, and probably appreciates you caring about him. His friends see this and are probably slightly jealous, hence the "whipped" comment. Look for your boyfriend's reaction. If it isn't bugging him that you are showing concern, or that his friends are teasing him (doesn't sound like it if he playfully teases them back), you really have nothing to worry about.
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Fighting back tears? All you are doing for your boyfriend is showing you care. It's natural and to be honest, I bet other girlfriends would do the same.
You may have over reacted a little, seeing as it was only a water bottle, but it's honestly nothing to get upset over. You're just proving you don't want to see him get hurt.
If you haven't already, have a word with your boy and explain.
If it really bothered him, wouldn't he tell you to let him do what he wants?
Cheer up girl. Just have a word and get this silly ordeal sorted.
Best of luck.
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