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another guy in my life!!!
i have a boyfriend that im in love with! we've been together for a year and a half and in general he makes me happy but we do argue alot, thats just what we do and it doesnt bother me. but... theres this guy i just met, i cant believe it but he takes my breathe away everytime i see him. hes incredible, and i love everything about him(atleast from what i know about him). i really like him and i cant get him out of my head!!!!!! he makes me smile, and has the most sexiest dimples EVER!!!! i love my boyfriend but the fact that im thinking about even considereing being with another guy breaks my heart. and i dont know what to do!!!!!!!!!!! i try everything to get him out of my head! i'll sit there and think about how much i wanna spend the rest of my life with my boyfriend and ill convince myself that this other guy is just a silly infatuation and i forget about him. that is until i see him again and i totally forget i even have a boyfriend. im having a mental breakdown. please help!
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Dear another guy in my life,
Here are my thoughts, I was once in a situation like you are now. I chose to stay with the 2 year relationship i had going and not to go for the other guy. Even though my current b/f and i argued a lot and everything, i didn't like his friends etc. I stayed and i regret this desicion today, 10 years later. When you are in High School you try so hard to have grown up relationships and commitments and you are supposed to be experiencing a variety of things so that eventually you'll know what you want and who you are. Now this b/f of mine, we ended up dating for a little while longer and called it quits. I never got to date the other guy, then HS was over and i was in the real world floating around for a while.
This may not apply to you, you and your b/f may really love one another and maybe are meant for each other. Who knows? ! But you have been together for a while and you are still arguing a lot it sounds like. Arguing is a part of a relationship, but not everyday, not once a week.
You can choose to do what you will with this advice, so i hope that this helps.
K
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Your situation is pretty common! It happens to just about everyone, and it will probably won't be the last time it happens to you.
As you said, you love your boyfriend. But the fact is, even when you really love someone, it's possible to be attracted to someone else... especially if you sense that they're attracted to you. It doesn't mean you love your boyfriend any less; it's just a normal thing that sometimes happens. It can even happen when you're happily married! Being in a relationship doesn't stop you from noticing other guys or enjoying their attention.
When you find yourself in that situation -- when you're in a relationship but have a chance to be with someone else -- you basically have three choices:
1) If you think you'll be happier with the other person, you can break up with the guy you're with and give the new guy a try. You may be happier, and you may not. It's always a risk. Only you can decide whether it's a chance worth taking, based on your feelings for your current boyfriend.
2) You can stay with your boyfriend and secretly see the other guy while you make up your mind who you like better. Obviously, that would be cheating, and that's never a good choice!
3) If you're really happy with your boyfriend, and don't want to risk losing him, then you need to learn how to handle this kind of situation. You'll need to tell yourself, "This guy is hot, and it feels good to know that I could be with him, but I'm not going to act on it." You'll have to force yourself to stop thinking about him, and make an effort to avoid him for a while until you can get past it. If you've already given him the message that you like him, and you think he likes you, you may want to tell him how you feel: that you find him attractive, and you're flattered by his attention, but that you're happy with your boyfriend and don't want to risk losing him.
Number 3 can be pretty hard to do, but it's an important thing to learn. Some people never learn it; they go through life jumping from one relationship to another, always looking for excitement, but never being truly happy.
Of course, you're not married, and this is a time when it's normal to date different guys. That's how you learn what type of person you want to be with in the long run. But that doesn't mean you should give up your boyfriend if you really do love him. There will be lots of cute guys with sexy dimples, but finding one who really loves you and will stick with you isn't so easy. It would be better to end your relationship because you're just not happy anymore, rather than just because you have a chance with another guy.
Good luck! =]
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well, if your thinking about another guy then your not as much in love with your boyfriend as you think. like if your thinking about being with this other guy then you obviously have doughts about your current guy if i were you i would wait a little while and if the feelings are still there for this other guy then you should brake up with your boyfriend because its not fair for him, if your thinking about another guy, but be careful only do what you feel is right dont have random people make up your relationships for you.
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i think you need to think about everything you and ure boyfriend have been though, i bet theres alot... since you've been dating a year and a half! and i think this guy you just met is an oubstcle put in ure way just to see how much you truely love& care for ure boyfriend.
i really hope i helped. :]
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I would say you are infatuated.
Why? You love everything about this guy... what you know of him. That means you REALLY don't know this guy to love him at all.
You are in love with your boyfriend, who you say makes you happy. Are you really willing to give up that happiness over a guy who, from the sounds, you don't really know?
Especially considering you are wanting to spend the rest of your life with your boyfriend.
Sometimes, when folks are in love, they come across another who is a real attention- getter. But that attention- getter is not always the one for you.
ygs-29/f
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A year and a half is alot to throw away.. but then again, it could be reaching it's expiry date.
If you still have strong feelings for your boyfriend like you used to, don't give up on him.
Try to avoid this other boy you are lusting over. Because to be honest, that's all it seems like - lust.
Noone here can really help you any further, because noone knows how you feel for them or what's going on inside you and those guys heads.
I always say follow your heart.
Perhaps you shouldn't be with either until you're 100% sure. It's not fair on you.
I hope you make the right choice..
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