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I know I was stupid...just confirm it!
Okay this guy and I have a long history. We went out off/on for 8 months and finally broke up for good last February. The end of March I met another guy and we dated all summer. I would always see my ex and he would ask me to go back out with him, call me all the time and ask me how he could make me like him better than my current bf...all that kind of stuff. He found out that my current bf and I broke up in Aug and he started callin me and talking to me on yahoo and myspace. He was saying all the right things and I believed him. He came over to the house one night and we watched a movie. We kissed and he wanted to do more. The most we had ever done was kiss and I said no, because we aren't technically goin out. He knows Ive never done anything with a guy. Well, the whole week when he was talking to me on yahoo he would say that he wanted us to go back out, but he wasn't sure since I didn't "do stuff". Last weekend he came over for a couple of hours and then we went to the movie together. Things were fine when he was here. We watched tv and talked a lot. He kissed me and it really felt like old times. He kept on and on about wanting me to flash him, so I don't know why, but I did it. I wouldn't let him touch me, but then we started kissing again and he asked me to touch him through his pants. I did and we got caught up in the moment and he put my hand down his pants. This was the first time Ive ever done this with a guy. He put his hand in my pants but not underneath my underwear. That's all we did. After a while we went to the movie but he was different there. He wouldn't hardly talk to me and he hasn't called me since. Last night I was going to message him on myspace and he has changed his whole layout. Says he has a girlfriend. I am so hurt. Did I do wrong letting him talk me into what we did? Should I talk to him ever again if he gets in touch with me when he and this chick are done? I dont know what to do. He is my first love and I can't seem to forget him.
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Ok to me this sounds like you are confused about this guy. Do you want him back now that you and this other guy from the summer are over? Or do you think that the guy from the summer treated you better and that this old b/f isn't for you anymore. Even though you may still have feeling for your ex b/f, he may not be right for you and you may be better off to move on without him. And this new MySpace layout thing, are you sure that you aren't mistaken that you are his g/f. Maybe he thinks that you are his g/f now that you did that stuff with him. ? Just a thought. Maybe it's just that this guy really is a jerk and wants nothing more that to get in your pants. It doesn't seem that way though since he's been calling and stuff for such a long time. Idk, you be the judge of that. I hope that this advice has helped.
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Your question has me confused about who you are talking about most of the time - your ex or this new guy? In any case, yes, I will confirm that flashing this guy and whatnot was a bad idea because of your reaction to it and the fact that he was pressuring you. However, you can't beat yourself up over it. You have to also acknowledge that this guy was being a jerk - considering not going out with you because you won't do stuff? That's a bad sign right there. I say move on. There are so many other guys in the world who won't treat you like that, and you really don't deserve someone who will.
If it's your ex who has the girlfriend (once again you lost me for which guy is which. Anyway), then he's probably moved on just like you seem to have with this other guy, or it probably seemed like that to him, anyway. If it's the pressuring guy who's gotten a girlfriend - I don't know, I'm starting to feel sorry for her. Pressure boy probably feels weird for getting horny or pressurous, or who really knows what his motives are? Once again I suggest you stay away from him, and stay away from getting too physical without knowing the person that well, if it's commitment and love that you are looking for. Should you talk to him: do you want to talk to him? You really don't owe him anything.
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Both of you really need to talk about how he feels about you,if you mean anything to him,if he does have strong feelings then go after your first love but, you make sure that he breaks up with her so you can be with him without anyone getting in the way.
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I'm going to make this short.
He's an idiot. Don't bother talking to him again. Don't get in contact and ignore him if he tries to talk to you.
He used you. Why? Because he could.
It doesn't matter if he was your first love. Some day, when you find the right person, they will sweep you off your feet and treat you how you SHOULD be treated. Not use you.
Time will heal your ordeal, sweetie. and I'm sorry you fell for his sweet talk.
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