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it might be long but i need serious help..
heres our convo:
kimmie (12/27/2005 12:28:27 AM): hey
jeff (12/27/2005 12:28:33 AM): hey babe
jeff (12/27/2005 12:28:39 AM): how waas chrismat?
jeff (12/27/2005 12:28:44 AM): chrismas**
kimmie (12/27/2005 12:28:52 AM): alrite
kimmie (12/27/2005 12:28:55 AM): had better
kimmie (12/27/2005 12:31:25 AM): how was yours?
jeff (12/27/2005 12:31:31 AM): it was aok
jeff (12/27/2005 12:31:33 AM):
jeff (12/27/2005 12:31:48 AM): well if you was here it would have been betta
kimmie (12/27/2005 12:32:13 AM): why you say that?
jeff (12/27/2005 12:32:31 AM): christmas you know
jeff (12/27/2005 12:32:36 AM): gettin 2gether
jeff (12/27/2005 12:32:39 AM): bein happy
kimmie (12/27/2005 12:33:07 AM): jeff stop talking like that you dont even like me like that anymore
jeff (12/27/2005 12:33:39 AM): :(
i had reason to say hwat i did we live 2000miles away from eachtoher right now and the last 7 months he has never mentioned anything bout him caring or liking me. he got mad and upset wiht me and ignored me and i tried to get him to talk he did but he said he was not going to talk to me about anything tonight. he said i make it impossible for him to even tell me how he feels. i dont know how i do that but idk. i love him with all my heart. And i wish i could taek back what i said because i want him back to talking to me. ive tried to say stuff to him but he just tells me not tonight.. this lasted 3 hrs and i stayed tehre every sec. of it. hes gone now and i dont know what to say to him. shoul di wait till tomorrow or whatever and see what he wants to say to me.? what should i tell him i really dont know how to apo;ogize ive tried sorry and i love you but neither seems too work..
Please help try before 4 pm tomorrow -12/27-
thx* (link)
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Hello there,
I think you missed the point:
He was trying to tell you right then how much he cared, and you told him to stop talking.
You just shot him down.
That is why he said it was impossible for him to tell you how he feels... because you told him to shut-up when he tried.
I don't know how much more obvious he could have been:
Him: "Hi, Christmas would have been better with you here, getting together with you makes me happy."
You: "SHUT UP!"
If you can't see that now, I am very sad for you.
If you can, then explain to him why you won't let him tell you how he feels, because you are mad at him for not telling you how he feels.
Good luck,
DangerNerd.
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i'm in a bit of a predicament w/ my boyfriend. i'm 19 and a sophomore in college and he's 21 and has not entered college. i'm not with him for booksmarts or trying to force him into going to college, but everyday i see him throwing his money away on useless things like his car.
i want him to have the motivation to have a future, to move forward w/ his life instead of living under his parents roof and job hopping every 3 months.
i've tried talking to him about it, but he always gets mad at me when i do, accusing me of lecturing him. he just doesn't understand that i'm only trying to look out for him. and i don't understand that when he says he wants a future with me, that he's not doing a goddamn thing about it? no money is saved for "us", no plans have been made, it's just an empty promise to me.
my question to you is what do you think i should do? do you think i should still encourage him or should i just let him do what he wants to do? after all, it is his money and it is his life... (link)
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Hello there,
I can't help but notice a repeated theme: Money, money and more money.
For some people, life isn't about money.
It sounds like the two of you have very different outlooks on the importance of certain things.
I am not saying your perspective is wrong, but I am saying that with the information provided here... you have pretty much answered your own question.
At 21, I don't know a single guy who was in saving money mode. That is generally when we are trying out different jobs and spending all available cash on toys.
This is not abnormal. If you said he was saving every dime, my first thought would be that he was lying to you. It is not in the nature of a 21 year old male these days to be saving, well, anything. ;-)
Another thing you mentioned, was that he was looking forward to a future with you... In man speak that generally means IN THE FUTURE.
I can assure you that if you push on this, he will hate your guts shortly.
If you are this interested in him saving money for "us" and he isn't, there isn't much likely-hood that he is thinking in the short term.
Remember that men and women think differently. His idea of a future may be settling down at 35.
Your idea of this sounds a lot more pressing.
As for college, I am glad you aren't pressing him in that direction. Maybe he will avoid the most common of all college mistakes: Going to school too early.
Most people enter college out of high school and have NO real world experience. They get to college and take courses in what they think they will be doing... Then they get into the real world and find that actually working in the chosen trade isn't what they really want to do for the rest of their life.
At this point, they are fresh out of college, no experience in anything at all, hate their studied subject as it is applied in real life, are buried in student debt, and so... Can't go back to school until they have paid off their student loans.
Most people don't pay off their student loans until they are in their late 30s or early 40s.
You see my point here? Life ruined, game over, there is no reset button.
All this because their parents, counselors, friends or mate pushed them into something they were absolutely not interested in doing.
Maybe at 27 he will have worked enough jobs to fine one that he likes. Then he will be able to go right into college (no student loan debt) and put himself through school working a job that he loves. It is MUCH easier to do the school/work thing when you love your work.
The job hopping is normal. It is actually quite promising if he has reasons for it. Much better than the person who gets in a job they hate and stick it out because they are either too stupid, or too lazy to do anything about it.
If you aren't obsessed with money, as your question seemed to indicate, then please step back and look at it from his point of view.
The future as he sees it is down the road a ways.
You see it right in the here and now.
Best thing in the world is to sit down and DIRECTLY find out exactly what his plans are.
If, on the other hand you are obsessed with money, I hope you find someone else, because this is probably not the right guy for you. He probably isn't going to be changing any time soon.
The single most damning thing you said was:
"...everyday i see him throwing his money away on useless things like his car."
You think cars are useless? And you have a boyfriend that is a car nut? If that is true, you two have no future as a couple.
Have you told him you think his car is "useless?"
Have you told him that you think he is "Throwing his money away on his car?" Money he should be putting in a bank account for you, or, 'us'?
You might be surprised at his reaction. ;-)
He isn't putting money away for 'us' because his half of the 'us' is just fine. It is your half of the 'us' that wants money in the bank. Did you ever look at it like that?
As for cars being useless... Just about the most useless thing in the entire world is a diamond ring.
If that was what he was 'throwing his money away' on, would you be in here complaining about him? Please answer honestly, and you will see how you look to anyone reading this.
I wish you both the best,
DangerNerd.
P.S. Some guys are ready for family at 18, that would be me, and some guys don't even really thing about it until their late 30s. Some never do. Find out where he stands, or you are just wasting time for both of you.
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I was at work the other day and this creep came up to me while i was pricing clothes for the boxing day sale. He knew me back from when I used to volunteer at the local food bank. He came up to me and demanded I give him my phone number. He got angry because I wouldnt, and then said in a mean voice "just put your little pen in your little hand and write your number down on your piece of paper and give it to me". The nerve!! I tried not to get angry and told him how busy I was. He finally left.
So my question was is this sexual harrassment? (link)
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Hello there,
If he returns, it sounds like straight out stalking to me.
As for what legally makes for sexual harassment try this:
That will really clear things up for you.
DangerNerd.
P.S. If you see this guy approaching you again, make sure you are in, or move to a place with lots of people.
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I need to get a new perfume, and I want my boyfriend to like it. What are some inexpensive (under $35) perfumes that guys will like? I started wearing JLO Still, but my boyfriend never even commented it.. and also my mom said it smelled bad. Any other suggestions? (link)
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Hello there,
There are a lot of really interesting things listed here if you know what to search for.
Try this:
Some of the site even have reviews. :-)
For what it is worth, I think "Lady Stetson" is very nice. My personal favorite.
Lady Stetson, is also comfortably in your price range and goes a long way. Give it a sniff when you go in looking next time.
DangerNerd.
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what are some really good classic hits that everyone knows but never knows who sings them?
ex: Super Freak. who sings that?
those are the type of songs im looking for. please and thank you!
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One that everyone knows, but nobody seems to know the artist would be:
"Rapper's Delight" which is performed by The Sugarhill Gang.
As for the song you asked about, it would be easy for me to tell you the artist, Rick James, but how about I show you how to find that out on your own?
Click the search button, just to see what I mean. :-)
The new search boxes I added for Christmas make it easy to help you find the right way to get what you want out of google.
Have fun,
DangerNerd.
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For my friend's birthday, I'm getting him an iPod video. Please tell me if it actually plays movies (like full-length movies) or just shows and music videos. PLEASE ONLY ANSWER THIS QUESTION IF YOU ARE 100% SURE THAT MOVIES CAN BE PLAYED. Also, can you please tell me how many full-length movies the iPod video is able to hold? Thank you. (link)
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Hello there,
I need more friends like you. :-)
As for how to do it, and LOTS of proof it can be done:
Do not listen to the previous poster regarding illegal downloads. That is completely not true. With the program on the top listing in the search I am putting here for you, you can pull video right from a DVD movie, or just about any other kind of video to your IPOD with video.
You could even load it with their favorite video ahead of time, if you know what that might be.
Just a thought... :-)
DangerNerd.
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Okay i need advice, i dont know if i should stay on this site or not??!?! everybody keeps asking questions like the questions "shower" and "18+" and this isnt very good to perants! so this is to YOU PEOPLE!!! the sick perverts in this world who are too pethetic that they have to ask things online!!! should i stay on the site? i need advice on this one. (link)
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Hi there,
This site is not for children. It was never intended to be for children.
If you see a sex questions outside of the sex category, file an abuse report, or e-mail me (dangernerd@gmail.com) and it will be taken care of.
Some of the people asking "18+" questions ARE parents.
I hate to be the one to tell you, but you were not the result of your parents standing at opposite sides of the room making funny faces at each other.
The short version is: If you can be helpful, answer questions and maybe ask some more like the runescape ones (things we don't see 10,000 times a day here) then you are more than welcome to stay. We would love to have you.
If, on the other hand, all you are here to do is call people names, read questions in the sex category then bitch about it, you need to leave.
I guess since I answered this I am 'pethetic,' whatever that is.
Merry Christmas.
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OK so i am catholic, and i am an altar server. In early october, i had a very bad knee injury and was on crutches for a very long time, so i couldn't serve. My knee injury occured when my knee just collapsed. Tonight, i am altar serving christmas eve mass, which is one of the biggest masses of the year. It is also my first mass back after my injury. Im excited to be back, because i love to altar serve, especially christmas eve. But I am so afraid that my knee will just collapse again, i just got off my crutches yesterday! I mean .. i have a brace on too. Any advice on how to relax, and not worry about my knee collapsing? (link)
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Hello there,
If at all possible, bring a cane with you to steady yourself and relieve stress.
Knowing that you have some extra support will help to put your mind at ease.
If you have to kneel at any point, use your good knee to lower and raise yourself, if possible.
Other than the those things, once you get back there, you will be busy with what you are doing, and so nervouse about being out of practice, that you will not be thinking about your knee. ;-)
Merry Christmas,
DangerNerd.
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Are you in charge of advicenators or something? You got crap like everywhere and we don't need a dude pointing out every little thing to everyone because we're big kids and can manage it. (link)
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Hello there,
What crap have I got, like everywhere?
Could you be a little more specific please?
Thanks,
DN.
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I was listening to stand-up comedy on the radio and there was this comedian whose name I didn't catch who was hilarious. A segment of his act had to do with aspirin and he said something like: "Aspirin can fix everything .. But aspirin can't bring a hooker back to life." Does anyone know the name of this comedian? I've looked all over the internet but I can't find him anywhere. (link)
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The answer is:
Dave Attell
http://www.daveattell.com/
The album is:
Skanks for the Memories CD
http://daveattellmerch.com/product.asp?numRecordPosition=6&P_ID=132
... Dave is a funny dude. Stupid at times, but usually at his own expense.
Only two things I really miss about TV: The Shield, and Insomniac with Dave Attell.
Have fun,
DangerNerd.
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The frappr.com thing is not working for me. I see the map and the names and everything like that, it's just adding myself that I have trouble with.
If I use Internet Explorer to do it, it gives me a page saying this page cannot be displayed. If I use Mozilla, I get a pop up saying this page contains no data. If I use Netscape, it says this document contains no data. If I use AOL Explorer, it says this page cannot be displayed.
Any help for my problem would be great. (link)
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Hello there,
As just a thought:
If it is universal across all browsers, we need to look up-stream from that point.
Do you have a firewall? Norton internet security, something like that?
Anything that would block a referring site info, or prevent a cookie from being set?
If you update your question, I will be able to better answer with more info.
Let us figure this out, so the next poor soul might not have to. :-)
DangerNerd.
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Does anyone know any way i can download the movie "Big Money Husta's" on my computer??i tried limewire on "video" but theyre not the movie, its a song or something else.
Thanks so much!
mcl,
xoxbrokenxox (link)
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Hello there,
If this movie is copyrighted (it is) it would NOT be legal for you to download it.
Do not ask questions here which would make anyone helping you guilty of a federal crime.
There is a great deal of free stuff available on limewire/bearshare etc. Things that have been placed there by the owners.
Other things will get you in trouble.
No more questions like this.
DangerNerd.
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i'm using win98se.
my folder option in control panel and start menu>settings gone.
i can't 'customize this folder' on all the folder on view>customize this folder; popup box says that i need a system administrator.
i can open the folder option in display properties>web but it's useless.
please help, thanks in advance... (link)
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Hello there,
The missing folder options problem is almost always easily solved if you know where to look.
If you are comfortable making changes to your registry:
You should open regedit, and navigate to this entry:
HKEY_LOCAL_MACHINE\Software\Microsoft\Windows\CurrentVersion\Policies\Explorer
There should be an option titled "NoFolderOptions"
This should have a value of dword:0000000
How this happened is another matter. If you are using TweakUI or something like that, you may have inadvertently set this as part of a security tweak.
If not, there are some pieces of spyware that will turn this off in the hope that it will keep you from finding all the garbage they put on your computer.
If you have WinSpy installed on the computer, that can also turn this off.
No matter what, it would be best to start with a full spyware scan AdAware and Spybot Search and Destroy would be two favorites to get you started.
Let me know how you make out.
Here are some other links to the info in question in case I didn't say something in a way that was easy for you to understand:
http://www.annoyances.org/exec/forum/winme/1132850885
http://www.experts-exchange.com/Operating_Systems/WinXP/Q_21639144.html
If you look down to the wnswers below the ads, you will find a link to a zip file containing a .reg file you can simply double click to fix the problem.
Let me know how you make out, or if you need any further help.
DangerNerd.
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Please ignore my spelling but, Do you think it would be right if I gave a question a 1 for saying "RATE ALL 5's!!!"? I mean alot of people are just doing that. Some people get 5's even though they aren't giving good advice. What do you think DangerNerd?
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Hello there,
I don't have any problem with rating questions down for that.
The whole 5's for everyone thing is stupid.
Have fun.
DangerNerd.
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Does anyone else think that the ads within the questions are extremely irritating? I mean I know Advicenators is free and all and they have to get money from somewheres, but come on. I think it takes away from the seriousness of people's questions and is rather distracting. The ads on the sides are nice and I must say I've clicked on them before, but when someone says "he has to stay at work late to make up the time" in thier question I feel it's extremely tacky and quite ridiculous to have a make up ad in the middle of that person's serious question that has nothing to do with painting their face. When reading along in a question, when something is underlined and a different color your eyes automatically go to it and your brain focuses on it making it difficult to focus on the question. I get distracted very easily. If I were answering a question and the ad within it was something I wanted to look at I would likely click on it and not put my full attention into the advice I was giving, which I believe is unfair. I sure don't want any ads in the middle of questions I may ask in the future. I dunno that's just my thought. I think it would be really ironic if one was put into this question. Anyways, what does everyone else think? Am I overreacting? (link)
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Hello there,
The ads are not in the middle of the questions, they are below the questions.
Maybe I should put them in the middle of the question. ;-)
As for the ads content, perhaps you aren't aware, but those ads are automatically selected by google's robot. The choices are often quite off key, or very amusing.
There isn't much I can do about that.
As of right now this site loses $800+ per month.
If you have an idea to improve revenues, feel free to let me know.
Many people are annoyed by any ads anywhere. Some people just ignore them, even when the answers to the questions are right there... Both situations either result in the closure of free sites, or lead to a frustrated admin loading every possible space with ads.
I don't want to see either situation occur.
DangerNerd.
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i am 20 yrs old n studying medicine...i hav a hectic schedule like 4m 7 am till 4 pm i am in college..den i am really tired but i am 66kgs n wanna hav a weight loss of 10 kgs to b fit ...wat can help me get rid of dese extra kilos...plz help ...i am in hostel so food is provided by dem...plz help me stay in shape... (link)
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So that people know, and do not jump on you for your English, I thought they should know that english is not your primary language.
Thank you for favoring us with your question, I hope the answers you recieve are helpful.
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13/f OK my dad can be so moody somtimes. Like a moment he'll be happy and fun and stuff and the next if I do somthing wrong he'll be all mad. When it comes to boys its really bad. I live right next to these boys who im friends with and somtimes he'll be like ok go ahead outside with them and then another time he'll be like tell them no I dont like you out there with no boys and I hate because I don't get him. And I can't talk with him because I know I can't talk to him about everything and I dont like writing him letters. How can I get him to trust me with boys because it's not like I do anything with them. So please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Hello there,
Parents can be hard to figure out. The possibilities are endless but her eis a thought:
Is it possible that your dad wasn't the best kid when he was a child?
Maybe when he was a teenager, her was a real romantic terror?
Maybe he is afraid some of the boys are too much like he was once? ;-)
Just a thought.
The most powerful thing you have on your side is the question: "Why?"
~~~ CALMLY ~~~ I repeat, calmly ask him why he doesn't want you going out the very next time this happens.
LISTEN to what he says.
Write down what he says. Not what the words mean to you... The actual words he used.
If you have an argument with what he said, go back to him and calmly ask him why things are like that, and if there is anything you can do to put him at ease.
If you have been in trouble in any way before, it will be hard to get his trust, but you would be surprised how often what he is saying may not mean to him, what it does to you.
Try it, and your life may improve greatly.
Do it often enough, and you will not have to have these conversations at all, since you will know each other well enough to understand what the other wants... Without all the screaming and yelling. ;-)
DangerNerd.
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the other day i got a cut at the bottom of my lower lip (in the inside where the lip connects to the gum on the left side) it really hurts and turned white! anyone no what it is or how i can get it back to normal? (link)
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Just thought I would add, since I didn't see it already:
Gargling with Hydrogen peroxide will make this kind of thing heal faster.
Any kind of cold sore or canker sore has responded well to this as far as me or my family have found.
DangerNerd.
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I was just wondering if we could possibly have a feedback appeal system... Such a system where we would have the ability to appeal a low rating somebody gives us. It would only be allowed for questions rated 3 or lower, and would be fowarded to a L2 and L3 pool. They can review the advice, and if they decide it was unfairly given, overturn it.
Just a thought. It'd be a lot of stress on the L2s and L3s, but it could benefit the public greatly. (link)
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Item Number 28 on the to-do list:
http://www.advicenators.com/todo/ToDOlist.html
Please look through there before sending suggestions. ;-)
Thanks,
DangerNerd.
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I am HSC (10+2) pass from Gujarat Education Board, Gujarat, Board. How I have degree BCA by correspondence/ online from Home. I am a Government servant. Please guide me at the earliest...Regards....
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Hello,
I do not know any schools that have computer degrees which are available to students outside the USA that will give credits which are good in the USA.
That does not mean there is not one. I just don't know of one.
Be very careful. Many schools will tell you that it will work, when they will only take your money and give you a degree you can't use.
In the USA, high salary computer jobs are hard to find now. Many companies have closed. Many people are looking for that job. :-(
Let me know if you find one.
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