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I dont get it!!!
13/f OK my dad can be so moody somtimes. Like a moment he'll be happy and fun and stuff and the next if I do somthing wrong he'll be all mad. When it comes to boys its really bad. I live right next to these boys who im friends with and somtimes he'll be like ok go ahead outside with them and then another time he'll be like tell them no I dont like you out there with no boys and I hate because I don't get him. And I can't talk with him because I know I can't talk to him about everything and I dont like writing him letters. How can I get him to trust me with boys because it's not like I do anything with them. So please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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have your guy friends and some friends come over while your dad is there and have them suck up to him and be really nice or watch football with him or something haha so your dad will start to like them and let you hang out with them more...unless they like are known for drugs, sex, or he wears black a lot and stuff (no efence if you do) then that mite be why he has a problem with them.. if you live with your mom what does she think about it?
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well i have a problem similar to this and I know how you feel. Just have the boys over to your house and hang out outside for a couple of days so your dad can warm up to them and see how that goes. My dad is the same way but he knows I'm good friends with all these boys so he can't really do anything about it now. Even though he hates their guts he just won't let me go to his house. you figure it out just try this first then if that doesn't work back and we will try again.
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the same thing goes for me so most of the time i say im goen to a friends house and then jus invite the guys over there too
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Hello there,
Parents can be hard to figure out. The possibilities are endless but her eis a thought:
Is it possible that your dad wasn't the best kid when he was a child?
Maybe when he was a teenager, her was a real romantic terror?
Maybe he is afraid some of the boys are too much like he was once? ;-)
Just a thought.
The most powerful thing you have on your side is the question: "Why?"
~~~ CALMLY ~~~ I repeat, calmly ask him why he doesn't want you going out the very next time this happens.
LISTEN to what he says.
Write down what he says. Not what the words mean to you... The actual words he used.
If you have an argument with what he said, go back to him and calmly ask him why things are like that, and if there is anything you can do to put him at ease.
If you have been in trouble in any way before, it will be hard to get his trust, but you would be surprised how often what he is saying may not mean to him, what it does to you.
Try it, and your life may improve greatly.
Do it often enough, and you will not have to have these conversations at all, since you will know each other well enough to understand what the other wants... Without all the screaming and yelling. ;-)
DangerNerd.
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Stop doing so many things wrong, for one. Reference: "if I do somthing wrong he'll be all mad."
If you can do your best to present your case in a clear, concise, and thought out manner, that will be your best shot at getting your dad to ease up on you. Arguing and yelling doesn't help at all.
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The best you can do about him trusting you is to not get in trouble with boys. Don't push the trust, just stay out of trouble, don't sneak to see a boy when he doesn't want you to, the only way you can prove your dad that you're trustworthy with boys is to just not be caught in a bad act with one. Your dad is just looking after you and worrying just like every dad should. As for his moods, the best you can do is to tell him that when you have done something wrong, that you don't mean it, and that you always try to let his good moods last because you enjoy time with him when hes happy. I'm not saying to have a little cheesy daddy to daughter chat, just let him know that you don't mean to do what happens to get him out of his good mood. Just let him know, and he'll remember what you said even if it doesn't feel like it.
-TheTeenGirl
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wow, either your father is really over-protective or he's just paranoid o__O or both, which can be a bad thing. Try to show that you and the boys don't do anything 'stupid'. You might not be comfortable talking to him, but that's pretty much the only answer. Sit down with him and talk to him calmly that you think he is over reacting to your relationship with the guys, then explain that you guys have done nothing wrong and if he wants proof, invite him to hang out with you guys. It may be awkward, but if it's the only way to prove your point, then you might as well do it. Good luck with your dad =]
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tell him that you dont do anything bad and that you want him to trust you. Also tell him that you feel like you cant talk to him about anything b/c you're afraid he'll get mad or wont understand. if you cant do it face to face either do it in a email or write him a note telling him that. CONFRONT HIM!! TELL HIM EXACTLY WHAT YOU FEEL!!
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