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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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I have a boyfriend but he doesn't interest me.I akways fantasize about woman and only girl on girl pornography turns me on!sexy girls excite me!I look at girls more then guys and have been like this for many years!I have done stuff with females and loved it!am I a lesbian?I am a 22year old girl!help
I would generally say it's probably a stage but seeing you are 22 years old I'm sure you may be passed that. If you find girls more attractive, Then yes you are probably a lesbian. If you find both guys and girls too be attractive then that would make you bisexual but by going on what you've wrote likely you are lesbian and there is nothing wrong with that.
Ohkay... So me nd my boyfriend had birthday sex a couple days ago.. and we didnt use a condum and i had 6 more pills left of the very first months birth control... i skipped some tho... and we had sex a couple times he came in me twice... nd i looked up online about the first signs of pregnancy and im having those signs... i took a prego test... it said i wasnt... should i still worry???
Yeah it's very possible, If you didn't want to become pregnant you should of took all the precautions to prevent it.
Just because you are on birth control never means you are completely out of the closet, Nothing is ever guaranteed and things can happen at any given time. A pregnancy test should also be taken about 10 days after intercourse.
I'm going to see my favorite country singer in a few months about 4 days before my birthday. I'm gonna cry if I meet him because he's my idol. Would he be able to comfort me if I cry ?
Are you serious?
Probably not, Celebrities generally don't like go be hung around by other people. Also, The user below me is correct you wouldn't be the only one to cry over someone so like I said.....Probably not.
Do you have kids? How many?
Would you be okay with them being on an advice website like this? My dad doesnt like it.
Hi!
I have a child, Would I allow them to use this site? No. The reason why I wouldn't allow it is because some of the questions on the site are not appropriate. There are a lot of young folks asking sexual questions etc. This is a great site for advice but I believe this site also has an influence on the way people handle issues and the advice that some get aren't always the best.
What does it mean when your itching an burning when you pee and white stuff is all around your vigina?
It could mean anything...Only a gynecologist would be able to give you the proper diagnosis.
It could be an infection, yeast infection, STD etc.
Make an appointment and it could be treated with medication.
This is for a school project I'm doing and would appreciate totally honest answers. I just need to know peoples own opinions on dating outside your own race could you please tell me gender, age and your own race plus how you feel when you see different coloured men and women together.
Also if you do support or agree with inter racial relationships, which is your favourite combinations like white women with black men or asian women with white men, don't be shy :) I just need some honest opinions to finish off my research. thank you
Yikes,
I'll give you my opinion but I sure hope I don't offend anyone.
I personally like to stick with my own race, (Caucasian)
What do I think of mixed dating? Eh, People are free to do whatever they wish but I find certain races to be obnoxious. I have no problem with them, I just personally wouldn't date them. Do I agree? No probably not but this 2011 and it is not an uncommon thing these days.
Hi.. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years, we have our own place and we really want a baby but there is just no joy for us at all! Its getting me down, everytime we 'do it' he 'does it' up me and there's still no hope! I really don't want to see my doctor just yet, I'd just like advice if anybody else has been in this situation and have taken anything to boost there chances, everybody is getting pregnant around me and it feels like I'm the only one who's not!! :(
EDIT: If you are ready for a baby and are having a hard time getting pregnant you may want to make an appointment with a fertility clinic. Also, You can buy ovulation kits to get a better idea of when you are ovulating. Sometimes it takes people a little longer then the average person.
Just by reading your paragraph, I can already tell you are too young for a baby.
Here are a few questions: Do you live on your own? Are you and your boyfriend financially stable? Do you and your boyfriend have jobs that pay more than 9 bucks an hour and give you no less then 30 hours a week? If you can't answer yes to all these questions you are nowhere ready for parenthood. I'm not lecturing you, These are very important things to think about before bringing a baby into this world.
Babies require a lot of time and expenses and an innocent child should not be born into this world unless both parents are able to fully provide for that child and support them with the proper living environment. It is such a horrible selfish thing to want a baby just because everyone else is having one. Everyone else, Is likely NOT ready for a child and is very likely struggling to get by and support their child properly. It is a proven fact that 1 in 5 American families live in poverty. Do you really want to be that 1 in 5?? This doesn't mean you can't have children but RIGHT NOW I do not think having children would be a smart move at all. The best way to overcome the wanting of a baby is too try and avoid all influence as much as possible. Trust me, Don't end up like those young Mom's that have to rely on Mom and Dad to support their poor choices.
21 female. Ben -18
I've known Ben for about 8 years, but we haven't always been close. We recently started dating. He's not the type of guy I usually go for. I usually go for the college hockey boys -the ones all the girls want. But after the past 3, things clearly haven't been working out with those type of boys.
Now that I'm with Ben he treats me so unbelievably good. He would honestly do anything for me. I'm so comfortable with him, I've never been as comfortable with anyone else. My family likes him. I couldn't ask for a better boyfriend. But, I still keep thinking about wanting someone better. Yes, I'm crazy!! How could I find anyone better than Ben? I'm still wanting those hockey boys. I'm attracted to them, I find them sexy. Ben is cute and I'm a little bit attracted to him but it's not as strong as an attraction as hockey boys.
I tell Ben I have doubts because we're so different and he's not usually the type I go for. He gets really sad when I talk about it, because it would break his heart if we ever ended our relationship. He tells me to just give it a try, and that is what I will do but I am just so confused :(
I know I will not find a boy that treats me as good as Ben does. I keep telling myself that as the years go on, and I get older, the popular college hockey boys won't matter anymore because they will just be regular people too. They won't be the "stars" which is why I think I want them so bad. I have to remind myself that it's all about how a man treats me and if he treats me good and Ben does. My head is in a million different places. Ben is my first real boyfriend, all the other hockey boys I've just had "things" with, and they didn't last very long. Maybe I'm just not used to having a boyfriend. I'm a big flirt, so maybe I miss that!? I would never cheat on Ben though, I wouldn't do anything to hurt him. I don't why I keep doubting myself with Ben.
Please any guidance, advice, ANYTHING is appreciated!!
Your playing mind games, Decide what you want and settle it.
If Ben treats you well, Your family approves of him then why would you even think for one minute of letting him go? Imagine if one of these hockey boys were dating you and they just told you they felt you were too different for them. Telling Ben that the relationship isn't going to work out because you feel that you are attracted to a certain type is only going to hurt his ego, crush him and push him away. Opposites attract, Sometimes love comes in all sort of packages and it isn't always what we thought of. If you are happy, Then worry about you and Ben. A relationship should be about nobody but the person you are with. If you aren't happy and you really don't feel Ben is the one for you then let him go but keep telling him the relationship possibly won't work out is wrong. It's misleading and it hurts, So make sure you know what you want before you go and dump him. I will honestly say though I think it's shallow of someone to dump someone because they don't meet your expectations everyone is different and different isn't always a bad thing. I'm not trying to offend you, That is just my personal per say.
17-F
I've just used the Verizon Wireless website to block somebodys number that I no longer wanted in my life.
I'm just curious, if he tries to text and/or call me, what will happen? Will it just not go through, get an error message, or will it say he's been blocked from contacting me?
I actually want it to say he's been blocked from contacting me, just to hurt his ego a little bit more. But beggers can't be choosers. Lol.
Hello there :)
Generally when someone is blocked the message will not go through, It will show up as sent on their end but you will never receive the text message. When the person tries to call it will simply either A. Say this person is not excepting calls from so and so number or B. It will simply tell the person the line has been disconnected.
There is no way to tell him that he has been blocked, If you do not have a block button on your cell phone then you could call the service provider and have them block it for you. I believe the first time would be free but then any number after that they would charge a fee to block every number.
Thanks Zane. Here's the question you just answered for me. :)
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=598486
I know what you mean about abuse and everything but he doesnt abuse me.He only hits me when I do something stupid.I dont want you to think he's a bad boyfriend because he's not. He's just overprotective and stuff because he cares about me and everything. That's how it is with older guys, ya know? Besides, he said he was sorry when he thought I was gonna cry, he was drinking so that made him madder. (I guess I should've mentioned that earlier huh?) He never hits me when he's not drinking. He wouldn't hurt me.
He does make me happy Zane. He's my first boyfriend ever. I've had a crush on him for like 2 years and we just started dating a couple months ago. It's been awesome. :) It's just the name and the age thing. You did say it was legal right? I didnt really even think about it being legal or not. I was just wondering if it was weird or wrong ya know? Everyone makes it seem like it is. I thought it would only be illegal if we were having sex or something, right? (We're not. Im only 13 and Im not really interested. I like kissing and stuff but I dont wanna have sex.) And do you think the name thing is weird? Could you date a guy with your brother's name?
Sorry this was soo long but I didnt want you to think I was abused and I wanted to give you more info and ask more questions.
Thanks Zane! :D
No, I don't think the name thing is weird at all. Sometimes it just happens in weird ways! However, I think you may be slightly misunderstanding something..When a guy hits you that is abuse. If he hits you when he gets angry then yes, He is abusing you.
Let me explain something
I know exactly what it is like to be in a relationship with someone who hits their spouse, I was in one for 5 years. Ever single time I was told afterward that they were sorry and it wouldn't happen again. This is their way of manipulation, I have had to deal with it on countless occasions. Drinking is a poor excuse on his behalf nobody should ever lay on a hand on someone. I'm going to stop because I don't want you to feel I'm lecturing you I just don't want to see you hurt :( Please whatever you decide to do be careful.
Hi Zane! Im Gracie! Remember me? Probably not huh? LoL :)
Anyway, I have a question about, like guys and dating and stuff. Kinda, 2 questions actually.
Well, Im 13 and he's 16.
Okay so my first question is, is it weird to date someone with the same name as your brother? His name is Matt and my brothes name is Matt. It's kinda awkward and my friends say some stuff like its gross and stuff and it's kinda embarrassing. What do you think?
My second question is, Do you think its wrong for us to date each other because he's older? I really, really like him Zane and he says that he likes me too but he doesnt want his friends to know we're dating because they're gonna say stupid stuff about it because he's older and everything. I mean, I don't see the bid deal and it kinda hurts my feelings a little. He wants to keep it a secret that we're dating. It kinda makes me feel like he's ashamed of me or something. Maybe Im just being over sensitive?
But I like him alot, maybe even love him a little and I dont want to keep us a secret. I told my bestfriend Natalie that we were dating now and Matt (My boyfriend not my brother) found out and he got really mad and he hit me. I get why he was mad. He's popular, and has lots of friends and tons of girls that wish they could be his girlfriend and he gets mad when his frinds say stuff about him hanging out with me. It makes him upset. Its just that I've like him for a long time and I've alwaysed wish he would like me back and date me. I dont want to hide it from everybody. What if other girls start flirting with him because they dont know he's dating me?
Am I being stupid?
Hello Gracie,
I do accept inbox messages, Only if they are answer appropriate. :)
My main concern in what you asked is that you stated he hit you when he found out that someone knew about your relationship. This is wrong, No guy/girl should ever abuse their partner. Abuse should never be tolerated under any circumstances. If anyone ever laid a hand on me, I would most definitely walk out of the relationship and find someone that won't hit me. Second, Age plays a big role when you are young, Technically this guy wouldn't be able to get into any legal trouble until he turned 17-18 yrs. However to be completely honest with you hun I don't think anyone who hurts you physically is right for you. That is abuse and nobody should ever be ashamed to hide a relationship. The whole point in being with someone is too be happy and proud to be with that person. This is up to your of course but please don't let someone hurt you.
I feel like such a slut. I've never had sex with anybody and have only kissed anyone about two times. But, I have sent naked photos of myself to two much older men online who I believed love me at the time. The first was when I was 13. The second when I was 15. I am currently 16. Help? I feel terrible.
You are not a slut but you used very very poor judgement.
If you ever got caught, You could be charged. They could be charged with child pornography which nowadays is taken very seriously. No matter if you send it through the internet or via cell phone, In fact they just passed a law about minors sending nude photos via cellphones in my state. Also, You need to bare in mind that you should never send a photo you don't want others to see. NEVER fall for the whole "You can trust me, I won't show anyone" It's bullshit. There isn't a whole hell of a lot you can do about it now, Once it was on the internet it's there but for the future references I sure as hell would be very very careful to whom you send your photo's too. In fact I recommend not sending photo's like that too anyone. I don't mean to burst your bubble but your photo's are long gone.......Next time think before you act.
hello i went to swimming yeaterday.
when i got out from the swimming pool and walked towards life guards to pass the key,
there were two life guard one is girl and the other one was boy.
they were sitting together and when i passed the key to the girl life guards. boy life guard was really looking at me fo rlong time with smile on his face and the girl life guard finally passed the key to the boy.
i just wondered wheather the boy life guard liked me though i know its a silly thing to ask but im just bit curious.
This really isn't much evidence to go by, Personally if I had a lifeguard staring at me smiling I probably wouldn't think much of it as again a smile could mean anything but that's just me. I'm not quick to jump the gun
I'm bisexual and would like to tell people. Not everyone, because I don't see why I would need to. Just my immediate family and a couple of close friends. After that it's just something I'll mention if necessary.
The thing is, I'm not sure how to do it. The people I want to tell won't have a problem with it, but most of them I never talk to about anything personal and so it will seem really strange. My dad and little brother, for example - I never talk to them about serious things, they only ever know these things because my mum will mention them to them. But it feels like a bit of a cop out to just tell my mum and count on her to tell everyone else.
Do you think I should tell people individually or together? Should I wait until we're all eating dinner and tell them all, or bring it up to each of them in individual conversations?
I just really don't know how to go about it.
Honestly? Tell people whom you feel comfortable with. If you feel comfortable telling only your mother then have a private sit down and let her know there is something you want to get off your chest. If you think it would be easier you could have your mother deliver the news to your father and brother. This is your life, If you want to be with a man or a women I don't see why you can't. It is nobody's business but yours and you have the right to tell whoever you wish but I think it should only really be bought up with other people if they ask or it was necessary. Being bisexual isn't as big of a deal as some people make it out too be but that's just my view on it.
i have a doctors appointment tomarrow and i wanna know if i give a urine sample, can the doctor tell if i had sex, and i did a couple days ago. please help me
No but if you aren't on birth control I would get on it asap.
I know that its bad to do, but I want to go from brunette to blonde by myself. What is some good hair dye that will get the job done? Last time i tried blonde dye from garnier fructis and it didnt do anything.
Also I saw a commercial for hair dye that is meant for drastic changes like this but i cannot remember the name of it to save my life. It might of been 'vibrant' or 'vivid' something. But idk :/
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It's a complicated situation. I have been married to a disabled man for 9 years (relationship is on the rocks). We live with his parents, sister and nephew. Sister-in-law is addicted to narcotics. She regularily drives under the influence with her son and the son's friends in the car. I have made it clear that I will report her if I know she is DUI with children in the car. The in-laws are enablers and mother-in-law threatens to kick me out of the house if I phone the police. Says I should mind my own business and/or go report all the other DUI'ers out there..... (blah blah). I have made a few reports but nothing has ever been done. Should I continue to report (knowing that I could be kicked out with no place to go)? Should I phone child protective services? Should I give it up and pray nothing bad happens?
Personally,
I would continue to report it only because their are children involve and driving under the influence can put their lives at risk. The reason why nothing has probably ever been done is because if you are going to report something you are going to need solid proof, When you go to court you need evidence. Same thing if you rat someone out on a DUI. I think it is caring of you to think of the children, It is always a good thing to have someone who thinks with a clear head.
Now on your relationship: Are you happy? I am going to take a wild guess from what you posted that you seem at wits end. Do not live out of misery for others, Happiness comes when you put yourself first. Remember that
I've been getting migraines a lot i had stopped for a while but they came back , followed by dizzyness im afraid ill faint and no one will know. Point is i need advice on what to do advil or aspirins etc arent working please help(: thank you.
See a doctor, This could be a medical problem.
Migraines can be caused from stress, depression, poor dieting, excessive exercise etc. We cannot give you a diagnosis as none of us are doctors. If this is an on going problem make an appointment with the doctor.
I have an issue with having a lot of panic attacks. I get them at least once every 3-4 months and it's killing me! It's tiring and very embarrassing especially when it happens in front of people. It happened at school twice before, once last year and once this year (so far; I hope no more), and people either thought that I was faking something or trying to get attention, but that is NOT the case. I hate it more than anyone and I just want them to stop.
My parents even think that I'm trying to get attention. Even when they took me to the doctor and he told them to bring me to therapy they told him they would and never did so. I never wanted to go anyway because I hate feeling like I have something wrong with me that's not normally contained by other people. Even so, if it would help me get rid of this, then I'm open to that option. When I asked them about it they told me that I had nothing wrong with me and that I'd eventually get over it.
I've been having panic attacks for 5 years! From the time I was 11 years old to the age I am now, 16 years old. So getting over it doesn't seem to be coming anytime soon.
I've been doing the breathing in through the nose out through the mouth thing, sucking on cough drops, lying flat on my back to open my chest, and the telling myself the I'm OK thing too. These things help to an extent, but very little when I'm actually in the process of having the attack. Please give any suggestions that you see helpful for panic attacks (anything besides the things I've listed, thanks).
You need to see a therapist or a psychologist that can prescribe you medication if they find the need you need to be on it. Panic attacks are related to anxiety. I myself experience both and I am on medication to cope with it. Panic attacks are treated with medication, Not by sucking on cough drops and laying flat on your back.
17/f
So I have this best friend, he's like my best guy friend. Then his best friend is the guy I like.
Well we're all just a close group and we hang out so much.
Well my problem is that my best friend likes me. I don't like him like that and he's always known that I liked his friend. He's cool with it but I still feel bad. Then yesterday, his friend told me that he liked me.
So I was all happy but my best friend is always down and sad when me and this guy are play hitting each other or talking and stuff. I understand why he'd be like this, because he likes me and there's always gonna be a little jealousy.
So the thing is, I'm not sure what I should do.
I was thinking I'd just go with what makes me happy and be with the guy I like. But then I didn't want to hurt my friend and not care about his feelings by dating his best friend.
So I'm either thinking to just go along with it and my friend will eventually get over me or if I should just drop this guy and try to not pay so much attention to it anymore.
What should I do?
Thanks so much.
If he is your best friend then he would want nothing more than you to be happy, I'm sure the guy would want to see you date his best friend then some random guy right? If you think he is upset and bothered then just reassure him that you two will still hang out as a group of good friends. Sometimes it hurts to see the one we like date our friends but in the end it should be about making them happy, Not making them feel bad about it.