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I'm 18 and just started college. Recently, my boyfriend and I had a horrible break-up. He knew that it shook me hard & he's still cocky. I love college and I have many friends. The problem is, he'll be coming to my school next semester. I can't help feeling that it's my territory he's invading. School is somewhere away from him and to get my mind off him. What am I supposed to do when he suddenly shows up? He'll be a constant reminder of heartache and I won't want to go to school anymore!

IGNORE HIM. Whatever you do, don't show any emotion towards him. Just act like he's not there and carry on as you normally would. Don't give him any satisfaction of knowing you're still hurting inside.
Within time, it'll get better, I promise.

How do you wear jeans with them?do you just tuck them?or fold them?How?What looks best?Can you wear them with skirts?

http://ezinearticles.com/?What-to-Wear-With-Ugg-Boots?&id=11081

Basically, you can wear them with anything!
As for the jeans, fold them over once and tuck them into the boots - just so they hold and you won't be readjusting them alot.

15/f. Now that school started and everything, I can't help but notice the people around me changed. My friends are no longer close to me, they seek their own *other* group of friends and I feel left out. They also make no visible effort to try to patch things up and maybe work something out or work on something. So, basically, I don't like them anymore. Should I just break it off completely? :/

In short:
Real friends don't do that.
Save yourself the energy and find new ones.

Somebody left a voicemail on my cell singing "Somewhere over the rainbow" just those words, not the whole song. I have a suspicion its my crush. We don't talk much but I guess we're friends. I was just wondering if he chose that song on purpose because it had a symbolic meaning. What do you think?

F/16

PS: I could be wrong but I think he was the only one there, like he called by himself. There were no voices in the background, no laughing, just horrible singing ;)

Should I call him back? What do I say? The number was blocked by the way.

Call back and ask if he just left a message singing. If he asks why, just say it sounded like his voice.
If he says it really wasn't him, apologize! :)

what do you say to someone whos crying? isnt "are you okay?" a stupid question because obviously the person is not okay otherwise they wouldnt be crying. what else can you say? to 1. a stranger 2. an acquantince

This has made me think, because I know in the past when my friends have cried, I ask the stupid "are you okay" question. I think it goes beyond a simple yes or no answer though. You know they're obviously not okay and you asking them if they are is a sign they can open up to you and tell you what's wrong.
I don't know if everyone has the same thoughts on this as me though!
People crying is quite an awkward situation for some.
If you're comfortable with it, console them. If they open up to you, listen and offer a helping hand, a hug, and tell them everything will be okay. but it also depends on why they are crying and who the person is.
If it's an acquaintance, ask them what's wrong. If they tell you, they want your help. If they show no sign of wanting you to know, don't interrogate and make them tell you. Just tell them things will work out and perhaps stay with them until they stop.
If it's a stranger, asking what's wrong would be a little rude considering you don't know the person. This where I'd probably say the silly "are you okay" question. At least it shows you care.

i have a friend: hes 17.
im 15/f [just for refrence]
my friend went to rehab, stopped drinking and doing drugs.
started again at a party last week.
is back into bad things, i basicly told him to stop.
and then he decides to lie to me and say hes stopped and he has lied about numerous things in the past. today i told him i hated him.
but i dont really.
how can i fix this? what should i do?

People say things they don't mean when they're angry and upset. Tell him you don't hate him - you just dislike the situations he gets himself in to and the lies he tells.
It's natural you're going to worry over your friend and he should understand this.
Are you sure he supposedly started doing drugs etc at this party? Did you see? or is it word of mouth? Because if you didn't personally see, you shouldn't believe it unless it's someone you 100% KNOW wouldn't lie to you or you have proof. (ie, you saw for yourself).
Considering he went to rehab to sort himself out, it shows he has some willpower, but obviously not enough to give up and probably gives into peer pressure.
Talk to him more and explain how it makes you feel. Help him out if you can.
If his lies are consistent and he shows no signs of improvement in the near future, I'd start questioning your friendship. Would you really like someone in your life like that?
Friends don't lie to one another. and they definitely don't like to hurt one another.
Perhaps if you stopped being his friend, it'd make him realize what he's doing.
and if he doesn't care, he was never worth your time.

So,I just wrote you a long question about how my gf talks about her ex all the time...WELL,I saw her ex today.It was rather awkward.I went to this tanning salon and when I walked in,I saw that her friend worked there...so I was praying that she wouldn't walk in.WELL,she did.&& she just looked at me..Like I'm gross.I walked out and called my gf to tell her..I JOKINGLY said "Well,I don't see any competition",meaning that I'm better.And my gf said "What competition?She has a boyfriend now,and I don't like her or talk to her.".....SO,that makes me think that if that girl was single,would my gf try to get with her again?Ya know?UGHHH!

I really doubt your girlfriend would go after this girl if she happened to be single, as they've been apart for years and in that time, people change. Most importantly, she is with YOU!
I think your gilfriend said something quite important. That being - "I don't like her or talk to her". If I were you, I'd be happy she's out of your girlfriends life. So what if she has the memories of her - you probably have memories of ex's etc too, along with everyone else in the world. It doesn't mean people still have feelings for their ex's.
I know it can be pretty awkward if you bump into her ex every now and then. You obviously aren't friends, so you should just ignore her and pretend she's not there. If she happens to give you evils - who cares? She's probably jealous.
What you should do is trust your girlfriend and completely forget about her ex because it's long gone into the past. I'm pretty sure if you bring it up alot it will be harder for your girlfriend to forget, too. Yes, it's hard - but it will get better. Focus on *your* relationship. Not your girlfriends past experiences. I bet alot of people are worried their girlfriend/boyfriend will run off with their ex.. but considering you've been with her for this long, you've already had more of a history than your girlfriend has had with her ex.
Erase this other girl from your mind and build up your own relationship so it's stronger than ever. :)

is 200 hours of volunteer hours a good amount?

Any hours of volunteer work = good.
It's really nice you're doing it.

My boyfriend broke up with me the other day and I'm having a lot of trouble dealing with it...
I totally understand why he did it as well and I'm not angry and I don't think it's a stupid reason at all. But somehow that makes it worse, that I can't like focus all this onto anger or whatever. It just makes me angry at the situation and so torn apart that he doesn't feel the same way as I do.
There is nothing I can do to get back together with him and I know this. But this doesn't stop me feeling as though everything has fallen apart. I know this probably sounds lame and I always used to think it was lame when people act like this, but I have never been dumped before, especially not by someone I thought I was genuinely in love with (who never loved me back.) I really don't want to feel like this anymore, I know it isn't fair on him because it really is better for him (and probably me, to be honest) this way and I'm just making him feel guilty. Does anyone have any tips at all on getting over it? I know that it'll only take time to truly get over it, but just to get out of this horrible stage? Thnx. By the way, I don't really want to say my age, but it definitely isn't as young as you'd think from reading this, this isn't just some teenybopper thing.
.xoxoxox

These will explain everything:
http://www.soyouvebeendumped.com/theas10tips.html

http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Over-a-Break-Up

http://www.therelationshipgym.com/how_to_get_over_a_break_up.htm

You're right though - the only truly effective way of getting over a break up is to give it time.
The links should help you take your mind off things though.
I'm sorry for what you're going through and I really hope you feel somewhat better about the situation very soon. Chin up girl.

omg i hate school im in social studies and english and the teachers are talking and i listen but then i dont understand it ooh im learning disabled in reading comprehension,reading decoding , written expression and math calculation so what do i do im so frusterated

Do your teachers know you have learning difficulties?
It's not your fault you can't grasp what they're saying.
You/a parent need to explain to these teachers you're struggling.
They will definitely help you. It's their jobs.

ok so i live in England and i wear a size 12 in trousers, which is like a 10 in american size... i think lol but thats not really important. Anyway i want to get size 14 trousers for that baggy look but im afraid itwould jus make me look frumpy n fat because i havent got the stomach for that low, falling of effect. i hope it's well explained.
thank you!
xx

I live in England too.. and I doubt going up a size would really make THAT much difference. (of course they'd be a little bigger). You should try some on and see if it gives you your desired look.
Have you thought of going to stores which sell baggier trousers for your actual size?

I'm 18 and my girlfriend is 20.Yes,I'm a lesbian.We've been together for two yrs now..When we first met,she had just gotten out of a yr and one month relationship with another girl.They were always on and off,but I know that she was in love with her..They cheated on each other all the time.Well,me and my gf,we'll call her N have never broken up once,or cheated on each other.We both had bad reputations with relationships and girls.But we never let it ger in our way..She was my first,for EVERYTHING,physically and emotionally.Our love has been strong..But she still talks about her ex.About the good,or the bad.I want to erase her ex out of her mind!I feel so inferior to her.It's been over 2 yrs since they've been apart and it's been like over a yr since they've stopped talking.The girls has a boyfriend now and they're serious..But I feel inferior,because that girl drives,has a job,and is totally independent..I'm not,yet.I've told N about this,and how I want her to stop talking about her in ANYWAY.But it doesn't get through to her..I feel digusted with myself.My question is,really...What would you do to make yourself feel better?Or something?I have another question..But I'll ask you later.My apologies for this being too long.Thank you for your time..

Firstly: You shouldn't feel disgusted with yourself because you've done NOTHING wrong whatsoever, and I totally understand how you feel here.
Who really wants their girlfriend/boyfriend talking about their ex all the time? Noone. but the reality is, it does happen quite often. Probably not to make your jealous or even make you upset in the slightest, but it's a past experience, and alot of the time, things remind people of the past and they may want to express it.
There isn't really any way to make yourself feel better, other than to remember:
You've been with this girl for 2 years. That's pretty serious and although the past can't be undone, you need to focus on the present. You are her present and future.
Do try to get it through to her it makes you upset. Have another chat with her. Eventually, it will sink in and she will think before she speaks.
Same happened with me and my ex. All the time he would bring up his ex girlfriend to the extent my friends even began to notice.. but he stopped gradually. and I hope it does with you too.
I know I'm not much help with this matter, just remember it's about you two now. Not the ex's. and you really shouldn't worry or compare yourself to her in ANY way, shape or form.

16/f i've been really horny lateley, and i was thinking about masterbating last night. but when i tried to slip my finger into there. it hurt really bad. i never dont it before. any tips?
thanks

Try other techniques which don't involve inserting things. It probably would hurt if it's your first time(s) so that's pretty normal and nothing to worry about. Use lube perhaps. It would help.
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Well i realllyyy want my tounge pierced !!
soo i wanna noe how i could convince my mom to let me do it pls help !

RESEARCH.
It's the most important thing. Research jewelry types, how to clean, how it's done, risks, costs, find a reputable piercing studio.
Read this.
http://www.bmezine.com/pierce/02-tongue/bme-pg02.html
It's the best site for piercing whether you're looking for pictures, aftercare, risks and short stories from people who've had it done.
Have good reasons for wanting it done and offer to help out around the house etc to keep her sweet. :)
Best of luck!

I am hanging out with my friends brother next weekend, He is a 19 year old and i am only 16. Should i tell him im 17, i really want him to like me! Maybe he will like me more if there is less of an age difference?

In short:
Don't lie. It'll only cause problems in the future. Lying about 1 year is hardly going to make a difference anyway.
It's not all about age you know. It's how you act :)
Be yourself and you'll be fine!

i want to get side bangs.
should i do it on my own.
if so how exactly??
like do i part my hair??
idk.
also pictures would help. :]

plz and thanx. :]

Get it done professionally if it's your first time. After that, it will be easy to cut them yourself when they're in need of a trim.
Getting fringes (bangs) cut in at a hair salon isn't expensive at all - some places even do it free.
Decide how you want them - whether they're quite thick or normal and which side you want them to sweep from.

This guy asked me out and my best friend says he likes me as more than a friend, but I mean, I haven't known him for long at all. Did he ask me out just so he could have a gf? Or does he actually love me? I can't really tell... when we're together he holds my hand and he puts his arm around me, but, it just doesn't seem like he's letting himself go. I don't really like him as more than a friend right now, I think mostly just cuz I don't know him. But I wonder if he only wants me to go out with him to impress his friends, I mean, we never do anything alone, it's always around our friends.

It's pretty obvious he does like you if he's already asked you out and holds your hand etc.
If you're bothered about always being with the rest of your friends, why don't you suggest doing something together - that is if you become interested in him more than a friend. He probably hasn't suggested it already because it might make you feel a little strange, because you know he likes you.
Get to know him and if you feel anything, give it a try. If not, it's not your fault you don't like him in that way.
Good luck anyway.

Hey, I know I just asked you a ? but, If I need to ask you any more ?'s would you mind me asking you. You seem to know what you are talking about, and I would assume that you have had braces before. But thanks for answering my retainer ?, it was very helpful. I have another ? for you, how long do you have to wear your retainer when you first get it? If you had braces before did you have the regular metal retainer or the clear retainer?

McKayla :)

Of course I'll answer any more questions if you need them!
Anyway;
It depends really. I originally had to wear mine day and night for about 6 months (with the exception of taking them out when necessary) and after that, I was told to wear them just on the night for about a year.
I strongly advise you to wear them as your ortho instructs. I didn't, and I never wore my bottom one.. So it was a waste of time me even having braces.
I have the regular metal ones. But I assume that varies according to your teeth/orthodontist.

Hey, I just read your advice and wanted to ask you how many retainers do you get when you get your braces off? I know you get one for the top and one for the bottom. But I thought there was an extra one for some reason. I really need some advice. The orthodontist said that I was doing really well with my rubber bands, and now he said I only have to wear them at night, but he also said that I am down to 3 months left of braces, but he said if I keep this up it might be sooner.

If you have any advice for me please answer me back!! :)

McKayla

If you have braces on your top and bottom teeth, you'll get retainers for top and bottom too.
I've never known of anyone having more than 2 at a time though. :)

two shows/movies I can't stand:

Hannah Montana and High School Musical (1 and 2)

Not only, in my opinion, are they really cheesy and overrated..but unoriginal and stupid.

Am I wrong to think this? Yet, I still get blamed in school for not liking it..

You're right - not to mention the rubbish acting.
Luckily, Everyone's entitled to their own opinion.
You don't like them and that's that. It's none of the kids in schools business. Next time the discussion of lame childrens shows pops up, keep out of it. :P

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