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i feel horrible
i have a friend: hes 17.
im 15/f [just for refrence]
my friend went to rehab, stopped drinking and doing drugs.
started again at a party last week.
is back into bad things, i basicly told him to stop.
and then he decides to lie to me and say hes stopped and he has lied about numerous things in the past. today i told him i hated him.
but i dont really.
how can i fix this? what should i do?
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when ever a person does something that we know is wrong, we always feel angry. we think we hate them when we actually hate what they did. maybe you should write a note telling him what you really meant was you hate the risks he takes with himself, you hate that he doesn't care enough about himself to do only whats good and benificial to him. drinking and drugs are an escape and maybe if he could open up to you, together you cou both work to help him get away from this lifestyle that has no end. at first, you do drugs, eventually DRUGS DO YOU!!!. have you ever met an old drug addict that you would want to be friends with. yuck. maybe he needs to do some deep self analysis on himself. you could be the sane voice in his head just be careful not to let him drag you down with him. know when the situation is out of your hands, nobody plans a life as a junkie....
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truthfully, drugs can be fun... taken with GREAT moderation and serious fear of addiction.
In my opinion once...twice a year, at he beach on vacation, nothing hardcore.
if he is going overboard, tell him AND tell him you are stepping away, which is what you should do.
drugs hurt people, not because of the embarrassment, but because that person later dont know and dont care what he is doing to the people around him.
BTW lying about it is a bad sign.
take care.
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just talk to him about it and apologize
sometimes anger can take over you
but if hese a good friend he would understand that, jut tell him that you didnt mean it and explain that you care about him you dont want to see him fall, tell him that if he really cared about you he would stop drinking and stuff and aswell while you apolgize((which im sure he will forgive you)) help him to stop drinking and help him out ..
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People say things they don't mean when they're angry and upset. Tell him you don't hate him - you just dislike the situations he gets himself in to and the lies he tells.
It's natural you're going to worry over your friend and he should understand this.
Are you sure he supposedly started doing drugs etc at this party? Did you see? or is it word of mouth? Because if you didn't personally see, you shouldn't believe it unless it's someone you 100% KNOW wouldn't lie to you or you have proof. (ie, you saw for yourself).
Considering he went to rehab to sort himself out, it shows he has some willpower, but obviously not enough to give up and probably gives into peer pressure.
Talk to him more and explain how it makes you feel. Help him out if you can.
If his lies are consistent and he shows no signs of improvement in the near future, I'd start questioning your friendship. Would you really like someone in your life like that?
Friends don't lie to one another. and they definitely don't like to hurt one another.
Perhaps if you stopped being his friend, it'd make him realize what he's doing.
and if he doesn't care, he was never worth your time.
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If he has lied to you repeatedly, then I think it's time to call it quits. I mean, it isn't like he's lying to you about nonsense stuff (even though it's still bad), but he's lying to you about serious things, drugs and drinking. I think this relationship is going to become toxic, if it already hasn't. If he's going to continue doing these things, do you really want to be with a guy who does this? And lies to you? I think you should tell him one last time (IF you still want to give him another chance) that if he doesn't stop this time, you're gone for good. Personally, I wouldn't give him another chance, but that's just my opinion.
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