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Feeling inferior in a two year relationship..
I'm 18 and my girlfriend is 20.Yes,I'm a lesbian.We've been together for two yrs now..When we first met,she had just gotten out of a yr and one month relationship with another girl.They were always on and off,but I know that she was in love with her..They cheated on each other all the time.Well,me and my gf,we'll call her N have never broken up once,or cheated on each other.We both had bad reputations with relationships and girls.But we never let it ger in our way..She was my first,for EVERYTHING,physically and emotionally.Our love has been strong..But she still talks about her ex.About the good,or the bad.I want to erase her ex out of her mind!I feel so inferior to her.It's been over 2 yrs since they've been apart and it's been like over a yr since they've stopped talking.The girls has a boyfriend now and they're serious..But I feel inferior,because that girl drives,has a job,and is totally independent..I'm not,yet.I've told N about this,and how I want her to stop talking about her in ANYWAY.But it doesn't get through to her..I feel digusted with myself.My question is,really...What would you do to make yourself feel better?Or something?I have another question..But I'll ask you later.My apologies for this being too long.Thank you for your time..
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Firstly: You shouldn't feel disgusted with yourself because you've done NOTHING wrong whatsoever, and I totally understand how you feel here.
Who really wants their girlfriend/boyfriend talking about their ex all the time? Noone. but the reality is, it does happen quite often. Probably not to make your jealous or even make you upset in the slightest, but it's a past experience, and alot of the time, things remind people of the past and they may want to express it.
There isn't really any way to make yourself feel better, other than to remember:
You've been with this girl for 2 years. That's pretty serious and although the past can't be undone, you need to focus on the present. You are her present and future.
Do try to get it through to her it makes you upset. Have another chat with her. Eventually, it will sink in and she will think before she speaks.
Same happened with me and my ex. All the time he would bring up his ex girlfriend to the extent my friends even began to notice.. but he stopped gradually. and I hope it does with you too.
I know I'm not much help with this matter, just remember it's about you two now. Not the ex's. and you really shouldn't worry or compare yourself to her in ANY way, shape or form.
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