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Q: Okay the past days I've been thinking about this. There is this one guy that I REALLY like but I don't know whats better having a frienship with him or have a relationship with him. I don't really know whats better. He likes me but my fear is that I might someday lose him and I don't want to lose him NEVER want to lose him. So I need you guys some help here.

I know exactly how you feel. Let me tell you about my experiences and my freinds. I went out wiht my guy freind and we broke up. Nothing was the same ever again. We hardly ever talk now and I totally regret going out with him. If you both really liek eachother go out with him and if something happens that you need to make up promise eachother that you will stay really good freinds and work hard at it. Call him and etc. Staying freinds though is always good too!!

Q: i need teens to answer this only please!!
anyway so i have this perverted frien who likes to look at you know pictures and sites and stuff of women and he is only like 15. He is my really good friend but he is getting really perverted. I don't not want to be with him and i've already talked to him about his "habit" what should i do?

Just tell him the consequesnces of getting caught. Tell him he could get in huge troble. Say, people your age shouldn't be doing that and say you don't like it when he does it.

Q: Well my grades have been slipping alot latly and i am trying my hardest and my parents dont seem to get that they think that im just being lasey i dont know what to do to try even harder to get my grades were they used to be! The next grade card is in 2 weeks!ahhh HELP PLEASE

Alyssa/13

Here is what you can do:
1)Ask for extra credit
2)Ask your teachers to come in before, after school whenever for some help.
3)Ask how you could bring your grade up
4)Get a tutor
5)Ask a freind to tutor you.
6)Work so hard.. study..do all your homework..ask questions..answer questions..etc.

Tips for tests:
1)Eat a good breakfast
2)Go to bed early- get a good nights sleep.
3)Take three deep breahtes before starting your test
4)Relax
5)Study alot.

Ask yourself, what are the areas in this subject I need to concentrate more in and what I'm stuggling on? Then concentrate on that subject and you should be fine. My math grade isn't great right now and I did those things and I brought it up a whole letter grade. Hope that helped

Q: what movies are rachel leigh cook in ?

Here are some I got online:
All I Wanna Do
Antitrust
Blowdry
The Bumblebee flys anyway
Josie and the Pussycats
Get Carter
The Hi-Line
She's All that ----------->>> One of my favs.
The House of Yes
American Crime
Stateside
My First Wedding
Fearless
Tempo
11:14
The Big Empty
Bookies
Scorched
29 Palms
Tangled

Hope that helped!

Q: im 13 and alot of my friends go to like teen clubs and they all dance but i dont no how to dance at a club. what do i do and how do i dance there? i dont want to be embarrassed

The whole point of dancing is to have fun and relax. Just move your hips to the beat of the music. Every now and then throw your arms up. Do body rolls and shimee every now and then..which is shaking your sholder. More your sholders and JUST HAVE FUN. The only way to look good is to be confident. Watch your freinds dance and maybe you could get some tips from them too. I go to dances and places a lot so IM me or drop one in my inbox if you want to talk more! AIM_ xomtin33

Q: I'm in 10th grade, and I have a crush on a shy guy. He tends to talk to me when no one is around and occasionally, he'll give me a little play punch. He'll also make fun of me; not in a mean way, jokingly. I'm not sure! Do you think he likes me? If he does, any suggestions?

I think he likes you. You could mkae sure if he definitly does by seeing if he talks to other girls. Everything you said is what guys do when they like you. He is definitly flirting. I would flirt back and smile a lot.. but not like an unfomfortable smile. Laugh at his jokes, and make some jokes about him (that aren't mean of course) Anyway, good luck!

Q: k so like ive been trying to loose weight so i could look good for a cruise i am going on this summer. i havent really told my parents, but i have been loseing a ton of weight. well my sister is younger than me, but also is heavier. do you think it would be smart if i asked if she wanted to loose weight with me. i know she wont get offened, but do you think it would be a smart choice??? thanks in advance :-)

It's great that you are losing weight. Just make sure that if your on a diet and it's healthy... not like starvation. I think maybe you should just tell your sister that you are excersising and eating better and you want to know if she would like to join you because you would like some company while excersising... etc. If she gets mad just say fine, I was just trying to help or ok but if you change your mind tell me. Or like if you are going to go for a run one day just say to her do you want to go for a run with me? Hope I helped.. you can drop one in my inbox if you need more help! :)

Q: Alright, I'm 13. I've been getting my period for about 6-7 months and it was pretty regular. Well, the time's passed for me. I was supposed to get it about a week ago, but I never had sex (and don't plan to for awhile) so I don't know what's going on.

Since I'm still kinda new to the whole period thing, I'm a little freaked out. Help me?

You are completely fine. Period patterns are different for everyone. This one just may be a little late you it's just irregular. It will change a lot in your life time. Don't worry about it and be thankful you don't have it right now! :]

Q: Ok, here's the deal...I'm 13/f and all of the sudden I'm starting to really like my best friend, now I know that's kinda normal but here's the catch. ITS A GIRL! What is wrong with me? This isn't normal or right and I dont want her or my other friends for that matter to hate me, but I just can't make it go away! Should I just stay away from her until this weird feeling goes away? Please, I rate high! Thnx in advance

No, there is definitly NOTHING wrong with you. This is as normal as seeing cars on the highway during rush hour! It happens so much. Most likely, it's just a phase and you will pass over it quickly. Don't tell anyone yet and if you do start to like LOVE her, then maybe you should tell her. I think it's just a phase and it will go away in a matter of weeks. Just don't worry about it and continue to hang with your freinds!

Q: where can you buy a chi straightener? what is the price?

Any salon or beauty store... some around me is Ulta. The cost between $150-200ishh. Usually about $150. They work pretty well!

Q: Okay, I got most of my fathers genes in me. I have extremely hairy arms, I do shave them though. As a girl, it embarrasses me very badly. I've been to doctors and they've given me pills to see less hair growth, but the hair that was already there will just keep growing. (Which is a lot) I'm in my first year of highschool, and I'm VERY self conscious about my arms. I wear long sleeves/jackets until I can't take it anymore. (And I live in Texas, so it is already sooo hot right now) What do you suggest I do? Keep shaving them? It's time consuming, every other day I have to do it cause my hair grows back so fast, and it's just now fair other girls have basically no hair on their arms & they do nothing to them. Ahh, what to do, I have to start wearing short sleeves, the heats too much.

Here are some options:

1) Dye your arms a blonde color.
2) Continue to shave.
OR
3) Ask for a better type of pill from your doctor.
So many girls have this problem, you oculd always ignore it and not care.. people don't usually pay attention to how much hair is on your arm! :]

Q: what does tlc stand for and what does it mean?

Either Tender, Loving, Care or the channel, the learning channel... it's on tv.

Q: okay i wear a regular tampon for like 8 hours and when i go to take it out it hurts. what should i do ?

You should change it more often. Or use a smaller tampon. Or one of better quality. Change it liek every 6 hours instead of 8. Or just try using pads.

Q: One of my younger friend's boyfriend and her been getting alittle to intimate(touching/using mouth on personal places), and she's only 12! I don't want to tell her parents cause i don't want to get her introuble what should I do?

It's good that you care. Tell her the danger of what she's doing. Like getting STDs. Tell her that she would get in a lot of troble if her parents found out. Tell her to take it slow because you don't want her to get her heart broken in the end. Basically tell her the dangers. Maybe tell her a story about a girl who got STD's and got in bad from doing what she's doing.

Q: Is it okay for me to go on my dad's motorcycle (or Harley) with contacts in w/ bug eye sunglasses? Like, am I good to go?
Thanks.

Yeah you should be just fine.

Q: Is it possible for someone to stop growing breasts at 13? i started when I was 8, and I'm 32A

No you don't stop untill you are in your late teens (18) to like 21.

Q: Ok this Sat.im going to a semi formail dance with my best friend. But here's the thing .. idk how to slow dance, ive never done it before. What do you do? And where should I be looking, in his eyes, or just like around. Im soooo confused , pleaseee help. PS, i really like him so im prob. gonna be nervous

Put your hands on his sholders or around his neck. Just sway back and forth in rhythum with the music. He may even want to lead.

Don't look around a whole lot, he may think you aren't interested. Look in his eyes but not like so long it's awkward.

Try and talk and say I'm having a good time and this is so fun. Relax, and keep your sholders down. Breathe deep and have fun!

Q: How can yu get past being jealous? My best friend just got a bf and hes super awesome, and im jealous cus ive never had a bf. Im happy for her, i really am. How can I get my mind off it, and stop being jealous?

Start liking a different guy, he will start to get your mind off your freind and her bf. You will have a boyfreind. Or try andget one now. Maybe your freinds bf had a freind who's single??

Q: warning --this is extremely long =\
ok well im 14/f in 8th grade.
ok so the summer before 7th grade like changed everything. theres this boy, chris that i never really talked to until that summer. i dont kno how it started but one day we just started talking online and he told me how he used to like me and everything. after that we just kept talking throughout the whole summer, and that's when i started to like him.
we continued to talk online, but we never actually hung out. then one day, i told him i liked him. he said he liked me too but i kinda just shrugged it off and we didn't go out or anything.
so then 7th grade started. we hardly talked for the first couple months. then i remember in october, there was a halloween dance, and my one friend, who was really good friends with him at the time, was like oh you guys should dance together.. we didn't. i was stupid and just like stood there. i'm also REALLY REALLY shy, so talking to him online for me was easy, but to his face, i got like speechless. i know that after a while though, i'd become more outgoing around him. but that never happened..
so during november, he asked me out again. except it was online and through my friend. i, for the second time, was stupid, and said no. i regret it to this day. like the time before that, he didnt actually ask me out. but this time, he was, and it was soo weird for me cause he would've been my first boyfriend, so i just like freaked out and said no. i regret it soo much. i just wonder how things would've been =[
anyway, i think after that, he had this thing with like kicking me in the hall. lol not like to hurt me.. but yeah soo that was like our thing for a week or two, but then one day i went over to him to kick him and he was like "im not kicking you anymore" i dont know what exactly he meant by that. i dunno if he meant this is stupid, i dont want to get in trouble [cause one time a teacher yelled at us lol] or that he didnt like me anymore. but i duno
after that we continued to talk online still. but it was becoming more me iming him first and he didnt talk as much, it was usually me talking the most .
the rest of 7th grade was just a blur. towards the end he went out with different girls, and rarely talked to me. i still imed him online, but he acted like he didnt care.
i know this sounds weird, but i became kinda like stalkerish online. i like imed him everyday. i regret it alott .i guess i was just desperate for him to like me or something.
the summer was like that too..so then 8th grade started and i dunno what happened. we rarely talk except if he asks to borrow a pen or something. he's only in one of my classes. one time in like september i kinda just like let out my feelings when i was iming him. he told me that im shy, which i know i am..i think thats why he doesnt like me.. he liked me in 6th grade because he didnt know me, and now he thinks he does, but he doesnt b/c im not always shy.
anyway, i havent spoken to him online since september or october. i talk to him in school rarely, but its not even talking its like, him asking me for a pencil and me being like "here" ughh. i just wish things were back to the way they used to be. like the day before 7th grade he was like i cant wait to go to school tomorrow cause ill see you..=[ i miss that.
now we never talk. AND he has a girlfriend..they were going out since october but broke up in february like, twice, but not they're back together. i doubt it will last..
i mean like sometimes i'll catch him looking at me. i duno. i still like him so muchh. he probably doesnt even remember or care, about what happened between us. i just wish he would realize what it means to me. i dunno wut to do. how should i talk to him? i want us to atleast talk more again. i know i should get over him but ive tried and i cant. should i say something to him in class, and what should i say? should i try iming him again? or would that be weird since i havent imed him since september? im desperateee=[ thank you so much

OK so I can tell yuo have a problem on your hands. :]. I'm the right person to be answering this because this same thing happened to me this year. He may be going out with other girls to make you jelious, liek kind of paying you back for turning him down. I would say, comtinue to like him, if he doesn't ask you out bu the end of the year, forget him. He's a loser then. When ever you see him say, "Hey Chris." And if he's like "Hey" and smiles and there is enough time, say whats up? Start off by being freinds with him and get him to actually like you as a person. Some guys can be total jerks and be immature and stuff. He may just be really hurt that you turned him down and he's trying to hide it by dating other girls. Just be freindly, IM him every now and then. You can IM him and say, "Do we have homework for ___ class?" That can start a conversation. I know how you feel about missing what you guys had. I missed what me and this guy had to, and then this other guy came along and everything is so perfect. They may happen to you too, other guys may like you. Try and be more outgoing and you will be just fine. Hop I helped!

Q: ok i know i have wrote to ya'll before about me being worried about my period but now im really worried. i have only gotten my period once because i am 13 and it first started in the last week of October. i bled for 2 & 1/2 days. now it is the 2nd week of march and i havent seen it sinse october. is something wrong with me. my friends say that i shouldnt worry about it because it will be eregular but it had been almost 5 MONTHS! no im not pregnant because i havent had sex but the day that i did get it i was masturbating but i know i didnt pop my cherry because i bled for 2 and 1/2 days. do you think i cut myself or something? anyway please help if your can and dont give stupid answers!
i rate high for good answers!

Don't worry at all. It is irregular. Your def. not pregnant. I wouldn't worry and just be happy that you don't have it. There is nothing wrong with you. It;s just not that time yet! :]

bio

Hey! I am Marissa and I'm 16. I live in South Carolina and I love to dance and laugh. I liek to give advice and help people a lot so feel free to ask me anything and I promise I will get back to you! &hearts