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Hey, my names Ariellll but I go by Rel. I don't look nor act my age & I know more than I should for my age, I lllloveee yo give advice, & think I do a pretty good job, wanna know if I really do, then ask me a question : ) !

First off -- I'm a very honest and straight forward person. I don't like drama and I'm pretty chill. When I'm older I would like to be a therapist. So, this site really allows me to practice ! :)

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my best friend max told me a huge secret about himself a long time ago and i swore not to tell anyone. i messed up big time by telling steven because steven has a big mouth sometimes. a few days ago i was talking to max and i told him that i really dont like steven because hes annoying me a lot. then max told steven that i think hes "gross". he was just kidding of course but what if steven gets mad and decides to tell max the secret i told him a long time ago as like payback or something. that would guarantee max hating me forever. what do i do? help!!

Tell Max that you told only one person, and that you are deeply sorry. But you have to make sure you tell Max about it before Steven does. But you should have thought about the consequenses before you told Steven. Best friends don't tell other people a huge secret. Sorry, and good luck. Hope everything works out well.

EDIT!:
You could talk to Steven about it, make sure he doesn't tell him about it. But if you think at all that Steven might even be considering telling Max, then just tell Max the truth. Do whatever you feel is right.

sorry if this is nasty to anyone, but i am concerned about my health &' i need everyone's advice, thank you if you do so.

It started the night before last, it started burning down there, and it is a really uncomfortable feeling. it felt like i had to go pee but i really didnt. i was running in and out of the bathroom wasting tampons because i was trying to get it to go away, by trying to go pee. i would only pee alittle bit but i kept having to do it. i've had this before, i guess it kinda went away. i'm having the feeling right now, and i hate it alot.

i had it the night before last, and last night. i could hardly go to bed, it finally just stopped but i think it will come back tonite. :[

anyone know what this is, and how to mabe fix it?

It sounds to me like you have a UTI ( Urinary Tract Infection. ) I had one of these recently and they are very painful and uncomfortable. You can get these from not wiping properly, wearing tight jeans, not changing your pad, tampon, or underwear often enough. If you want the pain to go away for a few hours, go to the nearest drugstore, something like Walgreens, or something like that, and get Uristat(sp). This will cause your pee to change to a yellow, orangish color. But you need to go to the doctor. The pills (Uristat) will take the pain away, but won't make the infection go away. You can only use the pills for 2-3 days. The doctor will give you pills to take. Hope I helped!

Make sure you go to the doctor or the infection will not get better.

okay, so there is this guy that of my friends were talking about and he seemed really nice.. and they were like omg you and him would go good together and they said he would deff. like me...

...so i was talking to other people about him and i found out he is my ex's neighbor and they hang out a lot and my ex told him stuff about me (they said it was good stuff that he told him but idk)

and everyone is saying that him and i would make a great couple and everything but...we've nvr met sooo...

do i try to hang out with him and get to kno him or do i just forget about him?

---he's the same age as me but he's not going to my school next year---

thanks!!!

Talk to him, try to hang out with him. No harm can come from that. If everybody already thinks you'd make a cute couple and that he likes you, go for it. Also, its good that your ex boyfriend told him good stuff about you, he talked you up. So good luck, and try to become friends, or more than friends with him.

I am 13 years of age. I have been put in a situation where I could have sex. I really like the guy and I think he likes me. I am not sure if I should have sex with him or not. I really want to. I need advice. HELPPP!!

I think you are too young. You said you didn't even know if he liked you. And you two aren't even going out. I mean come on. Why would you want to have sex with a guy that you don't even know if he likes you, that means your being used! So just think about it, but you're still too young and this isn't a good situation to have sex. Usually people loose their virginity to people they love alittle, or are atleast going out with them. And think about the consequenses!

is it a myth that shaving makes the hair grow back more and coarser?

No, its not a myth. The hair comes back darker and thicker.

Wait, do people have like parties and ceremonies when you get your periods? None of my friends did that...
What do they do at these parties and why would you have one its personal.

No, people do not usually have parties for their periods. I'm 99% sure that the question you saw, it was the persons religon to celebrate it. Like almost letting the world ( friends and family ) that they are now a women. I'm guessing it was the one with the bra thing.

So no, people don't have parties usually.

m/13 hi i order abercrombie kids of the internet because i dont live in america but im going there for my holidays this year. Im size large in kids and i was wondering if thats small in the adults???? also what ages is abercrombie and fitch for and will i get strange looks if i walk in there alone or hollister. is abercrombie kids shop like the ANF shop, dark lights loud music etc......also is there more clothes in the shop than on the website???? thanks

I'm pretty sure that the Large in kids is the same as the Small in adults. Abercrombie and Fitch, is for older people, or larger people. It's more for highschoolers and college people, but younger kids, such as your age can and do still wear it. You will not get strange looks if you walk into Hollister or Abercrombie or ANF alone. Hollister is for ages from 8 - 20something, depending on the size you are. Some older adults wear Hollister and ANF in their 40's, I've also seen kids as young as 5 wearing Kids Abercrombie and Hollister. So there's nothing to worry about there. The ANF that I go to, doesn't have dark lights, they're just dimmed, and loud music is expected in all those types of stores. But Hollister is where it will be the darkest lighting, and the loudest music. And no, the websites always have more clothes then what they have in the stores.

Hope I helped ! I'm an ANF addict :)

alcohol?
why do so many people drink it. i've tried it && i hate it alot. do people just not like it and drink it anyways or do they actually like it?
jusst wonderrring :) thankss for readingg

Personally, I like alcohol and the taste of it.

Some people like it, and some people don't. Not everyone has to like it, or drink it, but most do. Everyone has different taste buds and are entitled to their own opinion. Also, everyone drinks it for different reason's too. There's : to relax ; to act cool ; to get drunk ; and a way to make new friends.

Hope I helped ?

how long do you get your period for? like is it 4 days or a week? i get mine for only 3 days and it gets ligter every day. is that normal?

Yes, yours is totally normal and you're lucky. I have mine anywhere from 5-7 days. Some days will be lighter than others.

all the boys here is a 34A in boob size big for you in a 14 year old girl thanks a lot.
xxx

A 34AA is really small for your age. Even a 34A is still small. Depending on your size though, it might fit your body. Most guys that age like girls who are B's.

Most girls my age are B's & C's. I'm a 36B and i still worry about being small and I'm also 14.

when your picking a plan for your sidekick 3 where itr says that you have like 500 whenever minutes are those whenever minutes also counted for when your online or i-ming your friends? if this doesnt make sense then tell mwe and ill clarify

No, the 500 minutes are used only when you talk on the phone, when someone calls you, or if you call someone. Everytime you receive an I.M. or send and I.M. it is 5 or10 cents, same as text messaging. I'm not sure how much it is to use the internet.

T-Mobile has a feature where you pay 20 dollars for Unlimited AIM, Internet, Texting, and Emailing. This is well worth it.

I have the sidekick 3, and I'm constantly on it, so the 20 dollar thing is well worth it!

And once you have the phone, you don't actually talk on the phone a lot, I used 1000 less minutes then what I normally used when I had a regular phone. Since I was always online.

Hope I helped!

when i rate i usually go easy on people but other people ask these questions and i dont know why my advice did not get a higher rating. people should really comment on the advice so people can improve or else what is the point? and that people have spent time on their response without knowing why you rejected them when it might have been their fault for not making it clear what they were asking or providing details so we can answer better.

I totally agree with you. Someone asked a question on hear saying " Do eyelashes grow back ? " I gave a simple answer saying " Yes. " (S)he didn't ask for details, I answered the question plain and simple and they gave me a 2, and no feedback why. I don't get it. Some people rate too tough and don't leave reasons to improve!

15/f

my friends all tell me i eat way too little, and im too skinny, but when i went to my doctor, he said, im close to below average, but still average. this is an example of how i eat daily..

BREAKFAST:
a strawberry banna smoothie. which contains like..
-1 cup ice.
-i strawberry, IT WAS KINDA BIG.
-1 banana
-1 cup of ice creamm.

LUNCH:
-half of a cucumber.
-with probably like 1 tablespoon of ranch dressing.

DINNER:
oh i had alot for dinner.
-half of a cheese sandwich
-some cherries. like 4 tops?

so i mean, is that not enough? i mean i only eat whne my stomach is growling.

You need to eat a lot more than this. If you still want to eat healthy, but correctly this is how you should eat--

- Keep what you're eating for breakfast the same.
- For lunch eat a salad, or a healthy sandwhich.
- For dinner eat a small piece a meat ( weither it be, chicken, fish, or meat ) with veggies.

Actually studies show, that you need 5 healthy, small meals in a day. And 2 healthy snacks.

-For the snacks I recommend the cucumber and ranch, or any kind of fruit ( apple, peach, pear, ect. ) or you could try those 100 calorie snacks sold in stores.

Hope I helped ?

I'm going on vacation in Chicago in a couple weeks with my parents. What are some good places to vist, shop, etc? I'm only 15, so no bars or anything like that, haha. I don't just want a Googled list, though. From personal experience, what was best? Like if you visited, or live there.

thank you in advance! =]

Honestly, there's nothing really to do in Chicago. All there is, you could go to Navy Pier. They have boat rides, one of the largest Faris Wheels(sp), and more. Also, shopping. There's gooood shopping downtown (chicago). There's also beachs, or you could go see a play or musical, on not sure what's out right now though. Hope I helped!

Ok. I am going to use real names because I don't feel the need to hide this.

I have a friend Taylor. We have been good friends for a while. I also have a best friend Dave.

Dave and Taylor were together, but not going out. They really liked eachother, understandable right?

Taylor "broke up" with Dave, then hated him for the last 4 months. For no reason at all, just wouldn't talk to him and made fun on him constantly. Dave hurt for a while, but finally got over it.

Dave and I have been extremely close ever since we met. Dave and I now are kind of, as you can say, together.

Ever since Dave and I have been together, Taylor has been trying to talk to Dave again, and asks me ridiculous questions about me and him and what we do. She said that him her and can only be enemies, or lovers. So what does that mean? If she is trying to talk to him, that might mean she wants to be lovers with him.

She insists she is over him and does not want him, but why is she constantly asking me about it? And flipping out on me about him. I think she still has feelings for him, which is understandable. But she has hated him for 4 months, and Dave would try to talk to her, but she was just such a BITCH to him that he got over her.

It's not my fault me and him like eachother, we cannot control feelings. I understand where she is coming from because it is her ex, but still, they are over, and she knows it.

I don't know what to do. I do not what to loose either of them. Taylor is just being very immature about this and said she might as well go hook up with my ex boyfriend Justin, so I would know how it felt.

Dave and I have been through A LOT together. Like, a mad amount of stupid shit we have done and gotten in trouble for. Taylor seems like it is right to bring those mistakes up to make me sound like a bad person.

I tried talking to her so many times.
Now I am thinking I should just end it wtih Dave so this whole thing would stop, no matter how much I don't want to.

Someone please help me, I really don't know what to do.

NO, you shouldn't end it with Dave. Your friend is being a jealous bitch, plain and simple. She needs to get over the fact that he found someone new. She's mad because now she knows she has no back up, hes with you now, so she can't go running back to him. Tell her," you broke up with him, remember, you hated him, and now all of a sudden you start talking to him. And if you want to hook up with my ex, then fine, but true friends don't do that. And this is different I'm not hooking up with Dave, we're together. So either be my friend and get over it, or continue to be ridicuously wrong and selfish. "

hope I helped ?

i am over- weight, nad i was wondering if i ate, apples(fruit), yogurt like yoplate or something?, and meats with nothing else, and took maybe a mile walk everyday would loose weight,and do laps in the pool, maybe ten and swim ew hours?? or would that just be silly, help with some ideas pleaseee.

It's not silly at all, and will deffinatly help. Make sure you eat healthy foods, don't stuff yourself. Eat a nice breakfast, ex. - toast, orange juice, and fruit. For lunch have a salad or something like that. For dinner eat some sort of meat, fish is always better, and with a vegtable (sp). Have two snacks, fruit or those 100 calorie snacks. When you walk, power walk, it doesn't help you if you walk slow. Swinming laps in the pool also helps. Another good thing is to cut out pops and sweets. You can eat them once in a while, maybe once a week. Hope I helped ?

can eyelashes grow back?

Yes

hey i just searched for "currently online advicenators" and you showed up which is why im asking you the question.. hope you dont mind.

well i emailed this boy saying i saw him online but he logged off so quickly i didnt get to say hi (this is my crush we're talking about) and now he emailed me back saying "hey long time man, just give me a time and ill be online" the thing is im off to camp tonight and probably wont see him online causr right after camp ill ve on a plane (on my way to his country) but i wanted it to be a surprise so i dont really wanna say "hey you wont see me online, but you'lll see me in person in a week" you know? i could if you cant help me come up with anything else though.. oh yeah - that was my question! ha i cant believe i almost forgot to ask it.. is there any witty or funny or atleast cute way of telling him i wont be online? anything youu can think of?

cause the thing is i dont wanna say "im soo soo sorry i wont be online" cause i ALWAYS do that!

so anything?

Ha this is a toughy, seeing as I'm not good with this type of wit.

You could be like, " I won't be on for a while, but I've got a surprise for you, you've got to wait __ untl you can see/have it" ( say how long its going to be until you see him, ex. - a week )

Something like that. Hope I helped ?

ok so im 13/f
heres my personailty:
I love helping people, i volunteer all the time and i love animals and im part of a puppy rescue organizations. I also love to skateboard it's like my life. i am a big video gamer and paintballer. i also play electric and acoustic guitar and piano. i am a gymnast and the music is listen to is rap, rock, hip hop, and heavy metal stuff.
Im not emo or anything though i wear abercrombie and makeup and im pretty girly.
I have more guy friends than girl friends and like i hang out with boys and go to their houses to play video games or skate. i guess im kind of pretty idk. i have brown hair with natural golden highlights and its like soft waves and i have tan skin. im italian and french. i dont want to sound like im bragging because im not trying to i just want help:

the girls at school seem to hate me i dont know why. i try talking to them but they just hate me. what should i do? and will a guy ever like me as more than a friend? because im like their buddy i give them girl advice and stuff. will a guy ever like me for who i am?

Yes, a guy will like you. But it does seem like you're their buddy. Maybe you should get some more girly qualities. Because to me, you were discribing a boy, like with all your qualities ( skateboarding, guitarist, paintballer, and gamer. ) Just stick with what you like and feel comfortable with. Flirt more, let guys know you're out there, dress revealing. But a guy will like you.

Hope I helped ?

my boyfriend and i have been going out for a year now, but i know he talks to other girls online. recently, i went on his myspace, he said i could, and read some of his messages. one from his ex that bothered me said

"hey. i wanted to continue our conversation. what where you saying when you said you still like me but like her more?"

another one was from a girl that i have no clue in heaven she is and it was this long love letter saying how she could never get over him and "that night back in october was amazing." we were going out i october.

what should i think? the thing is, his ex lives across the country from us, but i'm still worried. and the other girl lives in our city. what should i think or do about this?

Talk to him about it, he obviously let you on his myspace, and he knew you were going to read his messages, but he left them so they must not be a big deal.

There's probably so many explainations for them --

- Of course he could still like his ex. People often like more than one person at a time, but like he says he likes her, I'm guessing you, more. So there's nothing to worry about, atleast he told her that, instead of him just telling her he still liked her.

- With the girl who said it was an amazing night in October. You don't know what they did so you shouldn't assume. They might have or might not have done something sexual. " An amazing night, " doesn't always mean they did other things, they could have talked, or hungout and had a lot of fun.

Just talk to him about it, let him know you still trust him, but you want to know what the deal is. I think its your safe bet. But DO NOT jump to conclusions, guys hate that as much as we do, so give them the benefit of the doubt. So let him explain so you can get all the facts and then decide what you want to do.

Hope I helped ?

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