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my boyfriend's online friends
my boyfriend and i have been going out for a year now, but i know he talks to other girls online. recently, i went on his myspace, he said i could, and read some of his messages. one from his ex that bothered me said
"hey. i wanted to continue our conversation. what where you saying when you said you still like me but like her more?"
another one was from a girl that i have no clue in heaven she is and it was this long love letter saying how she could never get over him and "that night back in october was amazing." we were going out i october.
what should i think? the thing is, his ex lives across the country from us, but i'm still worried. and the other girl lives in our city. what should i think or do about this?
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Talk to him about it, he obviously let you on his myspace, and he knew you were going to read his messages, but he left them so they must not be a big deal.
There's probably so many explainations for them --
- Of course he could still like his ex. People often like more than one person at a time, but like he says he likes her, I'm guessing you, more. So there's nothing to worry about, atleast he told her that, instead of him just telling her he still liked her.
- With the girl who said it was an amazing night in October. You don't know what they did so you shouldn't assume. They might have or might not have done something sexual. " An amazing night, " doesn't always mean they did other things, they could have talked, or hungout and had a lot of fun.
Just talk to him about it, let him know you still trust him, but you want to know what the deal is. I think its your safe bet. But DO NOT jump to conclusions, guys hate that as much as we do, so give them the benefit of the doubt. So let him explain so you can get all the facts and then decide what you want to do.
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Oh my gosh girlfriend I would COMPLETELY let him know! The fact that he even let you look at his myspace baffles me honestly!! Now he has no excuse to why he has that on there. If you guys were going on in October than that is TOTALLY unnexceptable. I am like getting chills writing this, thinking if I was in your situation and my boyfriend had that on his myspace.
But on a serious note: You really need to bring this up to him. The first message you said he sent to someone is a little sketchy but the second one is something that you really need to talk to him about. Anyway, my heart goes out to you and I hope everything turns out okay.
Hoping I helped,
FiaBean
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I think you should just confront him about it. The first message seems kind of sketchy like its out of the blue and the second one could just be some crazy ex who makes up things. But you never know until you confront him about it. You've been going out for a year right? Than you'll know when hes lying to you and when hes being honest. The best thing to do is just tell him. He cant be mad at you because he said you could check his myspace.
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well the best you can do is talk to him girl.and im pretty sure you'll know if he's lyingthamks to that but his reaction probably what you want to look for.if he get's mad or irritated.you might want to end it.every girl has a right to suspicion,the only problem is when it crosses over into jumping to conclusions.so try not to jump to the conclusion that he's defintiely cheating.talk to him and hopefully there's a reasonable explaination or maybe he'll come right and tell the truth.your biggest worry though may be that he's just a flirt=]
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I would say that you definatly need to confront him about it. Yes, you read his messages and he will be mad about that (unless he gave you permission) but what he did was worse. Confront him calmly about it, and first come clean about reading them, and apologize. Then ask him about the girls in the messages. Don't yell at him, because thats not going to make him regret it. If he gives you some ridicuous excuse, then the reality of it is, you caught him and theres nothing he can do about it. If he has a logical reason for it (cant think of many right now, but we can give him the benefit of the doubt for right now) then let it go. It was only myspace and fighting over it isn't going to solve the problem. Just let him know that you don't appreciate it. Don't freak out, but don't be too nive about it either. If he really is cheating, tell him you need to take some alone time (don't break up with him, just tell him that you don't want to see him for a while.) But stay calm!
Good Luck
Sarah
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First confront him about it and see what he says. He's obviously isn't the sharpest tool in the shed if he let you read the messages on his myspace knowing they were there. Confront him and ask him about the girls. If it's obvious he's trying to hide something, and is lying to you, he's not worth it. I'm not saying he can or cannot be trusted, but if the one girl lives in your city I wouldn't be so thrilled, if they're talking online like that.
My best advice is to just break up with him after confronting him. He'll know the reason why you broke up with him and won't be all "I don't understand I thought we were doing good, blah blah blah". He's not worth your time if he's been talking to these girls online. Move on, there's probably a ton of other guys where you live that won't treat you that way.
Hope this helps you, and good luck. :)
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What more information do you need? Its' staring you in the face! What do you want- pictures? The boy has been playing you for a fool. Don't walk, RUN!!
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