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Q: I have the Sims 2, Season, and Pets loaded on my computer..
If I delete the regular Sims 2 can I still play Seasons and Pets? Because it's taking up to much memory on my comptuer.
Thanks! :)

That would be a no :)

The expansions need the main sims 2 to work

:)

Q: I met this nice Italian guy on Myspace,
and he wanted to know if we could talk
over MSN, so of course, I was like, sure.
He seemed really nice but then he wanted to
get on his webcam, so I said alright.
I've watched other people (non-sexually) on webcam.

Of course I had to tell him: don't strip or anything,
and he said he wouldn't, but then I guess he
changed his mind and took all his clothes off?
I felt weird saying "No" and he obviously wasn't
going to take "No" for an answer.
Oddly, I watched him but felt really nervous the whole time.

Not to sound like a dork or anything,
but I've never really seen a guy close up naked.
However, I was kind of disgusted with this naked guy.
I was also really scared, which is weird,
because most of my friends have actually
had sex with a guy and obviously they are
comfortable with even more than just looking at that!

Is this usual? Is it ok to feel a little freaked out by...male parts?
I am really boy crazy and I love guys, so why
do I freak out so much if I see a naked guy?
What if I'm a Lesbian?

And by the way, I won't be watching that
guy on webcam again so don't worry!

Lol, that guy sounds like a weirdo, good thing your not.

Okay good news: Your not a lesbian!! Yayyyyy.

Also, it's not weird that you feel that way, the male naked body is not a very pleasant thing to look at. I have spoke with many people about this and they totally agree. It is totally normal to feel uncomfortable when seeing that.
When a girl is so used to seeing the female body all the time it is definitely a change of course when you experience seeing the other sex.

Don't worry about it, you will get used to it and make babies like a normal girl minus the disgust :)

[Hopefully not make babies now...but anyway]
GOOD LUCK! :D

Q: so yesterday, me and my boyfriend had sex. we used a condom, but i think it ripped. how can you tell if it ripped? i still have the condom in my trash.

-jenna 85/f

If it ripped... Then you may be pregnant and you may also not be pregnant. There is probably less of a chance that your not pregnant but i suggest you check with a pregnancy test just to be sure.

If it didn't rip... Then your not pregnant :D Yay!

Q: 16/f

How do you tell a guy you want them to feel you up? :/ Like TELL them without saying anything, but kind of implying it.

thanks!

Well if you want to be really subtle without touching him or being aggresive then I suggest you can maybe get closer to him and touch his hands a bit. Maybe put your arms around his neck while talking, kissing, whatever elsing-ing (by the way this will give him a big area under your arms to touch such as: waist, stomach, other stuff :o))

Anyway, I hope I helped :)

Q: im 13/f. im straigt but i always look up porn on the interrnet and love looking at naked girls. but im not a lesbian. im not even bi. but why do i like looking at it so much. like i get wet when i even think about it. i dont know why!

help!

Okay dont worry about it your not a lesbian or anything. It's just curiosity. I have talked to many people about this and heard different peoples take on this situation; and the conclusion came to just simple curiosity. Your young and curious. I personally think don't worry about it, but if you are attracted to actual woman you see physically then maybe we have something totally new to talk about. lol

Hope I helped!

Q: whats the fastest way to lose weight around the waist?

Honestly, I know this sucks and is exhausting but, crunches and situps do the trick.

Also, holding a push-up position can do it. If you bend you elbows so your mid-way and hold it for like 3 seconds and then go back to the original push-up position. Do this a couple of times. Your waist and abs will sting but in a good way! :)

Orrrrr, you can lay down and put your palms flat next to you towards the ground. then you left your legs that are closed together up in the air towards the ceiling. You butt lifts slightly. And you will get a sting feeling in your lower back and waist/abs.

Anyway, thats what i do! :D
Hope it helped :)

Q: Okay my boyfriend was like can i finger you ?? and i was all i have to go but the thing is what is fingering??? and were should he (finger) me ??
Thanks in advance! :)

Fingering is when a guy, sticks 1-4 fingers. (Usally starting with 1) inside of the girls vagina. It usually hurts in the beginning but if you do it more often you get used to it.

Q: is there anyways i can get myself to fall asleep? i am up sometimes like 2 hours after i lay down and its like 3 am! no naps...
please help me :D thanksthanksthanks

You can always take sleeping pills like Nyquil, ect.

Q: Does anyone know where i could get the dance steps for push it to the limit by corbin bleu i know it sounds wierd but i need it

Well they have the hole video on youtube. And it seems easy to follow.

http://youtube.com/watch?v=k1cD4ScqA4Y

Hope I helped!

Q: my boobs are really small and far apart, so id otn have cleavage. even if i wear really low shirts?

how do i get cleavage?!

Well, you can use a push up bra, which also gives the impression of cleavage and looks great! You can find some what cheap push up bra's at Wal-Mart. Their quite adorable :)

Q: lets say your friend moved, and your friend asks
"hows your life without me?"
what is the cutest/nicest reply?
for ex:life without you is like_____
please use methaphor and list at least 3 thank you =]

Life without you is like Peanut butter without jelly.

Life without you is like salt without Pepper.

Life without you is like Chips without Salsa!

I thought it was cute... Not sure if it's metaphoric, but hey... lol

Hoping I helped,
FiaBean

Q: would it be bad for me to try ecstasy just once to see what it felt like? how about pot?

Yes and yes, in the long run it can be bad for you because you don't know how the drug will react to your body. You may gets hooked from your first hit. I know too many people that have been caught by the drug-bug :( Anyway

Hoping I helped,
FiaBean

Q: do any of the like crest white strip things work? which one do you reccomend?

Yay another question I relate to! YES, crest white-strips work! I started used them 2 weeks ago and I see a huge improvement people have been telling me my teeth look great and white and I am like... uhh..YES! lol, thing is no coffee or coke! :( but I drink water mostly so that's not to much of a problem. Anyway, just go to a marketplace and look in the dental isle and you'll see "Crest White Strips" mine last for 12 months. You need to apply them twice everyday for 2 weeks. No biggy :)

Hoping I helped,
FiaBean

Q: you know how on thesims.com you can download sims, and such. well how do those people make them like that?.. with the real pretty hair, and the awesome cloths.. how do they do that?.. and if you have to download something, is it free?? thanks!!!

Well what you need to do is, you need to go on the upper part of the sims site roll over the word "Exchange" then click "Sims". After you do this a whole page should come about with a different pictures of sims with different hair and outfits on and when you get here simply choose which hairstyle/outfit you like and click "Download" then when the download is done press "Open" and it should automatically go to a Sims Package installer which when done downloading should have an "Ok" button which you can press! Geeze that was the longest sentence in the history of ever.. :) Well once your done with the first page you can click to go to the next page and this process starts all over again!! :)

EDIT: Yeah, I make cool sims like that on my game, if you install the add on's properly then they should automatically get store dinto your game. When you make a new person click the custom button when you are at the hair section. The button should look something like this * But bigger. Its next to the hair tones colors.

Hoping I helped,
FiaBean

Q: Okay so i had really liked this one guy and i told my BFF (we'll call her j). And we were setting up for this promotion thing and afterwards some extra people came to clean up...and he was one of them, in my mind i was screaming yes! So i talked to him for like a second... and when he asked me where some things went i told him...so about 10 minutes later i went home...but i guess when i was gone j told him i liked him! And she didn't even tell me she told him...so the next day i made a total fool of myself flirting and such...He even told other people...and i found out later from my other BFF,b, that j likes him! Please help me .
Thank You and God Bless,
Breezy:)

Are you the same person from yesterday, i remember reading something about a girl talking about her best friends B and J.. lol anyway! That's besides the point. If I were in your shoes I would tell J that you didn't want her to tell him, because in reality she may not even know that you didn't want it to be told to him. So I would tell J this and then I would tell her that you like this guy also and that it wasn't a nice thing to do if she did it purposely because it made you feel embarrassed. Anyway hope I helped :)

PS: If she likes him too then I suggest live with it because this always happens with best friends. Boys Boys Boys...

Hoping I helped,
FiaBean

Q: I'm soo confused!!!

People say that when you're in the water, your period stops. But then why do you need a tampon if you're going swimming? What's the point in wearing a tampon in the water, even if you're period stops?

Ack! I heard this too but the true is, your period doesn't stop when you are in the water it just looks like it stops because the blood blends in with the water. You definitely need to put on a tampon if you are planning to go swimming on your period.

This Myth is Officially FALSE.

Hoping I helped,
FiaBean

Q: my boyfriend and i have been going out for a year now, but i know he talks to other girls online. recently, i went on his myspace, he said i could, and read some of his messages. one from his ex that bothered me said

"hey. i wanted to continue our conversation. what where you saying when you said you still like me but like her more?"

another one was from a girl that i have no clue in heaven she is and it was this long love letter saying how she could never get over him and "that night back in october was amazing." we were going out i october.

what should i think? the thing is, his ex lives across the country from us, but i'm still worried. and the other girl lives in our city. what should i think or do about this?

Oh my gosh girlfriend I would COMPLETELY let him know! The fact that he even let you look at his myspace baffles me honestly!! Now he has no excuse to why he has that on there. If you guys were going on in October than that is TOTALLY unnexceptable. I am like getting chills writing this, thinking if I was in your situation and my boyfriend had that on his myspace.

But on a serious note: You really need to bring this up to him. The first message you said he sent to someone is a little sketchy but the second one is something that you really need to talk to him about. Anyway, my heart goes out to you and I hope everything turns out okay.

Hoping I helped,
FiaBean

Q: I have this "friend" and she is totally annoying. She calls me, talks to me all the time, and is really obsessed with this fugly guy Tyler. Well I think she knows we (me and my bff) don't like her, but i also feel bad because NOBODY DOES!!! What can i do without hurting her feelings? %(

Okay there is no real way to break this to her without hurting her feelings. But honestly, by the look of it this may not be the only time that this has happened. I think you should sit her down and explain to her how you feel. If you want nothing to do with her then i suggest telling her that you can't continue the friendship because you think that she may be a little cllingy. Or maybe if you still want to have her as a slight accuaintance you can tell her calmly that you just need space. That always gives off a hint to back off. This "frienship" is definitely not fair for you and you need to let her know that. Back off yo! :) Anyway...

Hoping I helped,
FiaBean

Q: my dog had to be put down a couple days ago. I can't get over it. what shall I do?

I know it' kind of hard to hear but when my dog passes away my dad bought a new puppy. It was the same breed and the same size. Our dog helped us cope through our hard time and in some way I feel like the spirit of my old dog is in my new dog. It comforts me and I have definite closure :)

Hoping I helped,
FiaBean

Q: Dear Mrs. Web,

Three months ago, my wife abruptly separated from me and moved across the country. Recently, my wife revealed that she and one of my best friends had sex several times within weeks of her leaving. This friend was a groomsman at our wedding, and has been close to me for 5 years or so. My conundrum involves what I should do with this knowledge. We are all part of a tight knit group of friends from college has stayed close even years after we graduated.

I worry that revealing this knowledge will tear our group apart and hurt so many people. On the other hand, it feels like a difficult burden to carry this experience around without having those people who are closest to me aware of what I am going through. Should I tell my friend that I know about his infidelity with my wife? Should I tell some of our closest friends about this infidelity so they can comfort me, or should I keep it to myself so that our group of friends can stay strong? I'm extremely torn about what to do, and would love to hear any advice you have.

Thanks,
Torn and confused

Okay, first of all I'm am so sorry you have to go through all of this. No one should have to go through a painful breakup that is caused by cheating :| Okay now my advice:

Firstly I do not think you should get your friends into this at this moment. It may stir problems within your group and get everyone talking. Although in the future I do think you should confide in them, since it happened just a couple months ago you should let yourself have sometime to cool down before telling them.

Personally, I would go to the one man who did this and talk to him. Just tell him that you know and how you feel. Let him get a chance to talk and see how it goes.

In the end, this whole situation is completely your decision and I hope that I have helped you through this difficult time.

Hoping I helped,
FiaBean