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Okay.. My aunt who is in her 50's lost her son last summer.. he hase a little girl about five years old.. and live next door to my aunt. anyway she still have thoes days where she hase doubts and want her son back. he die age 36 and luckima i can't spell it. and thing is that she so sad sometimes i wish that there something i tell her help her and she can have good days and enjoy it to.. plus abou little girl she very smart. she only 3 year old she lost her daddy. she remebers him and everything.. she stay with my aunt 3 days week becouse her mom goes night classses. she seem doing okay. she already know him for 5 years since they had little girl. anyway I love and enjoy talking to my aunt. we very close. thing is my qustion is there a site or a saying that help little.. plus i was wondering maybe little girl maybe harder for her to bcouse she look just like her daddy sometimes my aunt get her up in the moring and sining to her and calling her my little the son name and stuff. but i don't know what or to say. i mean sometimes she says thing to me and stuff i feel bad and drag down. i mean she like me being happy and stuff but i don't understand why she keep doing that to me. around me she knows that drag me down i know that i care so much tha i will listen but thing is i want my aunt back, and want her treat me like she always treat me and sometimes i feel like she treat little girl better she dose to me and her other grandchild who her other son little girl. i know it going to be hard.. (link)
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You Aunt is in a lot of pain and will never get over losing her son. You are obviously close to her. Try to find a support group for parents who lost their loved ones to cancer (there are tons and they know exactly how they feel). Tell her you love her enough to be concerned about her. Offer to go with her the first time. You might be surprised how your offer can reach her. Then, consider doing Relay for Life next time and raising money in honor of your late uncle. Your aunt would be honored and touched and it would be something positive you could share that would bring you together. FYI - I lost an uncle, a grandfather, and, recently, a grandma to cancer. I've been there.
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is there any way to heal a small cavity without going to a dentist? i'm going to one, i just DREAD having to go through the process of getting it filled, because i've never had one before. (link)
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No, you need to go to the dentist. The longer you wait, the worse it gets. You're whole tooth can rot out and cause an infection - and not kidding, you can die from this. A 12 year old boy just died this year in Maryland from an abscessed (infected) tooth because he couldn't afford to go to the dentist (check out Fox News archives if you don't believe me). Dentists have come a long way and the procedure is painless.
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Hi. I am 21 years old and had my period once when I was 17 years old. can I get pegant? how do I know if I am ovulating?? and can I carry a baby (link)
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Even someone with an irregular period can get pregnant. But if you've only had 1 period at 17 you really need to see the doctor. Also, any girl who is sexually active (which apparently you are) or who is over the age of 18, should be getting your yearly exam. Even young, you are still at risk for cancer.
FYI - you can't really tell when you are ovulating - you might have slight, basically unnoticable symptoms and those ovulating kits are not always reliable. Don't rely on any to prevent pregnancy!!
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So I have a boyfriend that I have been with for over 3 months.4 months on the 9th.And since about the first week or 2 of our relationship of dating, he's fingered me.Seems like everytime we get together, he wants to do that.No matter where we are.It's not that it's all that bad, But I don't want it all the time you know.Sometimes I just wanna hold him or kiss him or whatever.Or he even likes to you know, feel me up and whatever.It's not that I don't like it, it's just kind of over whelming you know?And yes I still am a virgin, But he's not.It's not that I don't want to, it's just I think it's too early in the relationship to consider losing it.And I don't think I'm ready quite yet.I know he wants it, But he's not forcing it or anything.Anyways, everytime I try something new with him, it seems like he expects it more if that makes sense.Recently he's been really wanting a BJ,But I've been hesistant and so far I've done it twice to him, But only because I'm returning the favor and satisfying him.I don't want to bore him you know?He's older so he's more experienced and what not , but I don't know.Sometimes I feel like I'm not up to his level anymore.Maybe I'm way over my head.I mean we don't fight.I tend to whine sometimes , But it's nothing serious.I'm just curious , should I worry or change something.I don't know if I doing anything wrong or whatever.Is it too soon to think I might be in love.I can't stop thinking about him, I always want to be with him or talk to him and always concerned to what he's doing and if he's okay.I just want him to be happy as well as myself.I always put people before myself.I really don't want to lose him though...any inputs? (link)
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Whether you think so or not, he is pressuring you to go further than what you are comfortable with. You have the choice. It's your body. And considering the risks that come along with sex - such as pregnancy and disease, you have a right to be concerned (AND FYI - Oral sex can transmit STD's as well). Considering that he's had experience, he is definately a risk in the STD department (has he been tested?). Tell him you are not ready (and you're not or you wouldn't be questioning). Tell him he has to slow down. If he doesn't respect that, then he doesn't really care about you and he's not worth it. You shouldn't be doing anything "only to return the favor". Sex is a big deal and should be treated as such. I know that people think that its okay to have casual sex, but if you give it away to everyone, than what's left to be special about. When you fall in love one day (and I mean really head-over-heels, no question about it love)don't you want to experience all that amazing stuff with that person - not just someone you may or may not love who may or may not love you back? Bottom line, your gut tells you you are "way over your head." You are. Slow down fast. You're not prepared for the consequences yet.
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my friend ryan committed suicide about two weeks ago and i just can't get over it. just seeing him in that casket made me sick to my stomach and burst into tears. it's so wrong to see a 15 year old in a casket.. it's just wrong. everything reminds me of him cuz he was the coolest person in the world. plz tell me how to overcome this or help me to be at peace with his death. i miss him so much (link)
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Sweetie, nothing I can say can take away the pain you are feeling. You lost someone important to you in a very tragic way. You cannot keep your feelings bottled inside you and you are not expected to "just get over it." Please go see the school counselor so they can help you. Talk to your parents. They probably are waiting from a signal from you on how to help you. Remember you have friends and family that love you and people do care, even if the world sometimes doesn't seem like it.
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Well, my husband & I are 30 years old with 3 kids. We royally screwed ourselves into debt like you would not believe! Our house is going into foreclosure & our truck has just been repossessed. Not to mention, Dr. bills, credit card bills & other loans & bills. Can someone, anyone give us any options on what we can do to get out of this? Like does anyone know anything about bankruptcy? Thank You. (link)
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Have you looked into Credit Counseling? They work with your creditors to lower your payments and stop the hasseling calls. You pay them one payment and they pay all your bills from that.
Also, if you have a 401K (I don't recommend touching retirement, but...) you can show the foreclosure papers and request a hardship withdrawal to get your house out of foreclosure.
As for bankruptcy, it stays on your records for 7-10 years, ruins your credit, can cost you the ability to rent or own anything, and can cost you jobs that run credit checks. Really think hard before going this route. Check with a lawyer - you can usually get a free consulation.
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OKk...
During the school year, me and this guy went out for two months. (because it was middle school, that was a long relationship). We ended up breaking up after i had my first kiss with him, and after we broke up, i found out that he held hands with 2 other girls (not at the same time). And that he was squeezing another gurls boobs and slapping her butt while we went out. Then, two days after we break up, he tells my best friend that he is like in love with her. I was really hurt by him but after a while we kind of made up and we're friends now. Well i went to the pool today and we talk ALL the time, and he flirts constantly with me,, and i with him. Well, i like him again, and i'm pretty sure that he likes me too. So, Do you think it's a good idea for me to take him back after what he did? Or should i just forget about hiM/ (link)
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Since any good relationship is based on trust, the only question you really need to ask yourself is "Can I TRUST him?" If the answer is no, then you need to move on.
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so heres the deal, my mom doesnt like my bestfriend which by the way is really lame. she only doesnt like her cause i kinda pick up her bad attitude. but the thing is my sisters nvr listen to me and tell me mom everything they are older btw and im f/16 and my parents nvr listen to me, my bestfriend is basically the closest thing i have to family rite now, and i would pick her over anything or anyone, but my mom wont let me hangout with her until i get my attitude up and im not gonna see my bestfriend for three weeks. so i have three weeks to get my attitude, up only thing is i dnt want to get my attitude straight when she is gone cause my mom will be like see she is the problem becasue when she isnt around your fine, but my mom wont let me see her so i cant work on it and show her, that she isnt the problem. pleasee help i mean my bestfriend is the only thing that keeps me sane and she is my world my mom is crazy and idk my bestfriend is always like that is so stupid that your mom doenst like me and blahblahblah witch is true, but i hate it when she talks about my mom like that idk help pleasepleaseplease (link)
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"she only doesnt like her cause i kinda pick up her bad attitude." Gee, I wonder why your mom thinks she's a bad influence. You just admitted why. First of all, remember that teenage years suck. You feel like no one listens to you, but your mom loves you. You are both just struggling as new boudaries are formed and you grow up.That is the only Mom you will ever have. Not to say your friend is not important, because she is important to you; HOWEVER, as you grow, friends tend to come and go. You have your mom the REST OF YOUR LIFE. What kind of relationship do you want with her? She's not saying "NEVER", she is saying "show me I can trust you by improving your attitude and showing respect". By the way, when your friend disrepects your mom, she is disrepecting you. It is one thing to gripe about your mom yourself to someone who is sympathetic, it's quite another to let someone constantly slam your own mom. Where's your loyalty?
Answer to your feedback: "She has never disrepected my mom " BUT in your question, you said "I hate it when she talks about my mom like that" (which means its happened more than once). Hmmmm. Let me think. Obviously on some level you realize she was disrepecting your mom or you wouldn't have felt uncomfortable. Gee, it sucks when someone tells you the truth and its not something you want to hear.
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sorry if this is long but it's making me so upset.
so i went out with 'tom' for almost a year and a half. it was good in the beginning but after awhile i began to like him less and less. it came to the point that the last few months i couldn't even stand him and he was annoying and i ended up always being mean to him because of this. well, while we were going out, there was this girl at work and they always flirted with eachother. in his yearbook she signed a full page saying how much of a best friend he was, and i love you about 10 times atleast. i was there when he was reading it and he just had the biggest smile on his face. he always had stories about her and i asked him, why do you always talk about her. and all he said was because he worked with her. he used to call me right when we got home from school, at 2:30, but for the last few months the only time we would talk (if he worked) was 3 minutes while he was on his way to work. then, one day i saw him walking and he had a big smile on his face, talking on the phone with someone. this was the same day i read the yearbook. i told my friend, if he's talking to 'kayla', i'm going to be so pissed off. and i call him, and im like so who were you talking to, "oh, kayla." oh, why? "i just wanted to know who we were working with today" .. oh okay.
seriously, he couldn't wait two hours to SEE who he was working with? did it really matter that much. okay so moving on. i started to get really annoyed by him, so i knew it had to be done because i was wasting both our time, and i dumped him. well he was all like we should stay friends and not stop talking and blah blah blah. well we were okay with calling every couple days, not really serious, and talking. then we stopped talking for a week or more. (i dumped him around 3 weeks ago). so i saw this girl that works with him, and i was told that he went on a DATE with kayla. i was so pissed off. seriously, i knew that they liked eachother WHEN we were going out. oh yeah, and while we were going out, she had a boyfriend that she's been going out for almost TWO YEARS. and a few days ago, they broke up. imagine the coincidence? now we barely talk anymore, and i was kind of talking to him online and he's all like "you were so mean to me for the last 3 months and i know you were serious even though you say you were just kidding. that's why i'm almost over you" this is coming from the kid that was head over heals for me (not to sound conceited), and was so upset when i wanted to on a break. it's been two weeks after our year and a half relationship, and he's already dating some girl. i'm so upset about this. i even told my friends, even if he went out with the prettiest girl in the world, or even one of my FRIENDS, i wouldn't care as much. it's just the fact that it was her. it's not like i like him anymore, maybe i do .. but i thought i didn't for MONTHS at a time. i want to not care anymore, but it's killing me just knowing that they like eachother and it's over. i don't know what to do. we barely talk anymore, it's all her now. how can i stop caring so much, and move on? (link)
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You admitted you couldn't even hardly stand him the last few months of your relationship and was purposely mean to him - obviously you wanted it to be over. What you have is a simple case of the "I want what I can't have." If Kayla wasn't in the picture, it would still be over. You just wanted him to sit back and miss you while you moved on and since he didn't, you're pissed. The best advice I can give you is quit being such a b****, let him be happy. You didn't want him, so let him be with someone who does. You need to move on.
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I am starting college this fall and I need to know what kind of supplies I should buy. I know I'll need my textbooks, pens/pencils & paper, but what are the other necessities for an English writing class and a Math class? Answers from people who are already in college would help. Thanks in advance. (link)
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Here is a great money saving tip: Don't buy any books for class until after at least your first day - half of my professors didn't even use the "required" textbooks. Or you can find a friend taking the class at a different time slot and split the cost of the book. Other supplies include a great calculator, a five subject notebook for each set of classes (ex - MWF classes in one notebook, split up by subject - less to carry when running across campus), highlighters are helpful for studying, index cards are great as flash cards for (*Great Study Tip - remember to review the flash cards every night for about 15 minutes and you'll never have to spend a TON of time studying for tests), and, finally, lots of easy to grab semi-healthy snacks to give you energy! Good luck!
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my boyfriend and i have been going out for a year now, but i know he talks to other girls online. recently, i went on his myspace, he said i could, and read some of his messages. one from his ex that bothered me said
"hey. i wanted to continue our conversation. what where you saying when you said you still like me but like her more?"
another one was from a girl that i have no clue in heaven she is and it was this long love letter saying how she could never get over him and "that night back in october was amazing." we were going out i october.
what should i think? the thing is, his ex lives across the country from us, but i'm still worried. and the other girl lives in our city. what should i think or do about this? (link)
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What more information do you need? Its' staring you in the face! What do you want- pictures? The boy has been playing you for a fool. Don't walk, RUN!!
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Im not sure if this category is best fit but it works.
I am 15/f and my friend is 15/m.
Although we are young we would like to help out children who have been abused and havent had the lifestyle we have been lucky to experience.
So my question is.. On Thanksgiving and such. How old do you have to be go volunteer at a shelter such as serving food ; cleaning up ; working with the children.
And... Are there any other things we can do other than donate clothes and such to help out?
We are in the Pehlam MA area. (link)
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I am not from your area, but I can give you some generic suggestions that would work no matter where you live. First of all, local women's shelters and police stations accept donations of stuffed animals. They give these to children when they have to be taken from there homes to ease their fear. Hold a teddy bear drive and make a difference! Also, you could try the local schools - see if you can tutor elementary kids that maybe struggling. Sometimes a little extra encouragement is all they need. Call the local shelters - many have different age restrictions - ask what you can do. Check with your local hospitals! They still have volunteer opportunities and their are many kids who would appreciate a visit. Don't forget the seniors of your communities. Sometimes all they need is someone to talk to for an hour. It would make a world of difference to them. There is tons of opportunities to take advantage of! Good Luck!
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Okay so I did some things with this guy and everything was fine after we got done. I mean I knew that he didnt love me and he was just getting him some but still I felt like he liked me a lil' bit. Anyways when we were making out he started to cum and me being only 14 well I didnt know that it was THAT bad. But I told one of his best friends that he cums really fast and yeah his friend made fun of him and he called him a "premature ejaculator". ha ha . I dont really know how to spell it. Well of course that pissed him off and so then he called me last night and made fun of me and told me that I was only 14 and hes only 17 but still. He also said that Im only mad at him because he wouldnt have sex with me. He yelled at me the whole time and then he claims that I was trying to mess with all his friends and screw all of them over! I didnt say anything but "ok" while he was talking to me but he seems like he hates me all because he thinks im spreading rumors about his penis. Which is not true I told his friend because I was just wondering why he cums so fast and didnt keep going. Anyways I dont know what I should do about him I mean he hates me for a false reason and I was wondering what I should say to him or if I should just let him be. Because I really like him and I know he doesnt like me but I just wanted to know If I should tell him how I feel about all this? He has Myspace and of course a phone. (link)
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I think the bigger question here is why are you letting yourself be used like that? Your 14. You think he liked you a lil' bit? That's really sad. Chances are the guy is not going to get back with you unless he is going to use you again. The only thing you are getting out of this is a reputation for being easy. Is this what YOU really want? Not to mention the risks...Stop and wait for someone that you KNOW loves you, otherwise what's the point? Some guy gets his and you get what?
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I am having some bleeding and its way too early for my period but i am having heavy bleeding and no clotting. I had sex like a week ago and the guy did use protection but it could have broke or something. I heard that if you are pregnant you cant use a tampon but I am using one and its kind of comfortable. But I just need some advice on what may be happening and I dont have the money right now to buy a pregnancy test. I am only 17 I really need some advice..please help me thank you (link)
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If your heavily bleeding, then it sounds like you are having an early period. Sometimes stressful events can cause your period be early or late. If you are having severe cramps or continue to bleed heavily, you need to see a doctor. Also, since you are now sexually active, you need to be examined by a gynocologist. Not only can they give you birth control pills (which are NOT a replacement for condoms because they do NOT protect from STD's), they will run a yearly for STD's, physical health, and signs of cancer. If your mature enough to have sex, then your mature enough to go to the doctor. If you can't afford a pregnancy test, how can you afford a baby? Go to the health department if you have to - they can get you what you need and they won't tell your parents. Remember that nothing is 100% and pregnancy and STD's are a real possibility now that you are sexually active.
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hi,
silly question about birth control
(i'm not on it so i wouldn't know)
just curious..
i know that its supposed to help with periods, and preventing pregnancies.
but how does it do it.
does it like stop the sperm from entering or something like that? (link)
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Birth control pills are a low dosage of hormones that prevent ovulation (releasing of an egg) by maintaining hormone levels in your body. They also thicken cervical mucus so the sperm cannot reach the egg, and make the lining of the uterus unreceptive to the implantation of a fertilized egg. Usually, birth control pills are given in packs with 3 weeks being the hormones and 1 week a month being the placebo(sugar pills). The placebos allow hormone levels to drop, signaling your body to begin your period. There are side effects and risks for any birth control pills.
Resource:www.healthywomen.org/healthtopics/birthcontrolpills
*FYI- BIRTH CONTROL PILLS ARE NOT 100% EFFECTIVE IN PREVENTING PREGNANCY AND YOU ARE STILL AT RISK FOR STD'S EVEN WHEN USING BIRTH CONTROL (SO THE GUY STILL NEEDS TO USE PROTECTION). ALSO, SOME MEDICATIONS (SUCH AS ANTIBIOTICS)CAN MAKE YOUR BIRTH CONTROL PILLS INEFFECTIVE.
Please talk to your doctor for further information.
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Stories always seem to have happy ending, so why isn't real life the same?
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Because scripts are not written for people to follow in real life. People make choices, good and bad, that effect their life and the lives of others. When times get really bad, take a deep breath and tell yourself that if you can get through this, you can get through anything. Just remember that what you go through now and HOW YOU HANDLE IT shapes what kind of person you will be and what kind of life you will live.
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Would you rather be told the truth that could potentially destroy your life and change everything you know, or a lie that would save you from the truths?
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The truth should always be told. Why would you want to base any part of your life or someone else's on a lie? It may be hurtful to find out the truth, but at least you can then deal with it. If you found out you had been lied to on top of everything else, you would have to deal with being played a fool and that is sometimes even more painful then the truth.
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i know its human papilloma virus or something like that, but what exactly is it? and how do you know if your bf was born with it or not? (link)
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Human papillomavirus (HPV) is the name of a group of viruses that includes more than 100 different strains or types. More than 30 of these viruses are sexually transmitted, and they can infect the genital area of men and women including the skin of the penis, vulva (area outside the vagina), or anus, and the linings of the vagina, cervix, or rectum.
Some of these viruses are called "high-risk" types, and may cause abnormal Pap tests. They may also lead to cancer of the cervix, vulva, vagina, anus, or penis. Others are called "low-risk" types, and they may cause mild Pap test abnormalities or genital warts. Genital warts are single or multiple growths or bumps that appear in the genital area, and sometimes are cauliflower shaped.
Please visit http://www.cdc.gov/std/HPV/STDFact-HPV.htm for this and more information.
**As most infected people do NOT show symptoms (but are still contagious), there is no way to "tell" if your boy has it or not other than being tested.
AS ALWAYS, MAKE SURE YOU USE PROTECTION (INCLUDING DURING ORAL SEX) I AM ASSUMING YOU ARE OF LEGAL CONSENSUAL AGE AND UNDERSTAND THE SIGNIFICANCE OF YOUR ACTIONS THAT CAN EFFECT THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.
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I'm 13 and my sister is 9. She's the queen. My parents love her and never yell at her. If we get in a fight and my sister scratches me, I get in trouble for it. Every single day is dedicated to my sister. Today my mom and sister left me to go to the zoo. They left without saying bye and said they would be home at 6. Tomorrow my sister, my mom, and my friend are going to some baby arcade place and they'll be gone all day. My dad works so obviously that leaves no one to take me where I want to go. My friends think I'm ditching them because I always have to cancel plans since my mom drives my sister around everywhere since I don't have a ride, so my friends are mad and I'm losing them. So far every day since summer started my sister has had a friend over or she's gone somewhere, and I haven't done anything or seen a friend. My mom hates me and I thought that the older one gets to do more since they are older, but in this case my little sister is having a freakin blast this summer while I sit home crying with no ride. I live a little far away from my friends so they can't always pick me up. Me and my friends planned to go to the beach Wednesday but the rule is we all have to get a ride there so people don't feel left out. And of course the calendar says that my sister, her friend, and my mom are spending the day at the park. That means I have no ride and my friends can't give me one. I told my mom that what's she's doing is hurting me emotionally and I feel like I'm not special and I'm losing friends because of her ways, and she says my little 9 year old sister is more mature than me so that's why she gets all the fun. Summers wasting away and my friends aren't bothering with me anymore since every single plan I've made with them has been canceled or postponed because my mom can't give me a ride because she's too busy making my sister feel like a queen. I can't go through the whole summer like this. I've never thought of killing myself, but today after I wanted to go to the mall with my friend and found out my mom and sister had already left for the zoo and my friend's parents were at work so I was supposed to give her a ride, pretty much gave me a thought about killing myself. I let down my friend and myself AGAIN because I get their hopes up when we make plans and then I find out we can't even go. Help? I hate my sister!!! (link)
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If this is the way you approached your mom, then no wonder she is calling your sister more mature. You need to take a step back and re-approach using a calmer (not-so-self-centered) tactic. When you use words like "you hate me" "she gets everything and I don't", parents will tune you out. Instead, apologize to your mom for being unreasonable. Tell her that you understand she has to take care of both of you and you know its hard to schedule times to carry each person to what they want to do. Ask if maybe you can sit down with a calendar and see if you can schedule some activities with your friends so they do not conflict with other plans she may have already made. Work out a compromise showing how mature you are. Remember, a compromise does NOT mean you get everything!!
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Im 16 and my dad died when i was 8 and my mom recently got married to a guy who used to be in the army. I have two sister and now i have 3 step brothers. He is like way strict and his kids are like perfect angels but me and my sisters have never really been raised that strict and for lack of better words are pretty wild. my mom never really punished us for things( ive never been grounded and ive never had a curfew and my mom knows and stilll doesnt care that my sisters and i are big partiers) and now this guy is trying to control us and take over our lives. What should i do? (link)
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First of all, its never easy to adjust to new situation and I don't think anyone expects you to be an insta-family. But in saying that, let me give you another insight. This super-strict guy is dealing with three (self-confessed)very wild teenage girls. He is old enough and probably experienced enough to know that you could be exhibiting some behavior that is dangerous -especially since he is a guy with three sons and they know how guys think!! Your mom has allowed you to run wild for whatever reason after your dad passed and probably is relieved to have someone help you guys out right now. It sounds as though he is being strict to protect you, not to torture you, although you may not see that way.My best advice is for you to realize that you are close to being an adult and it is time to start acting like it. Show him that you are responsible instead of a "big partier" and you will see him lighten up and treat you like the young adult you are. If you continue to show immature wild behavior, he will only become stricter and, unfortunately, your mom will be pulled in the middle.
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