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Boyfriend concerns..
So I have a boyfriend that I have been with for over 3 months.4 months on the 9th.And since about the first week or 2 of our relationship of dating, he's fingered me.Seems like everytime we get together, he wants to do that.No matter where we are.It's not that it's all that bad, But I don't want it all the time you know.Sometimes I just wanna hold him or kiss him or whatever.Or he even likes to you know, feel me up and whatever.It's not that I don't like it, it's just kind of over whelming you know?And yes I still am a virgin, But he's not.It's not that I don't want to, it's just I think it's too early in the relationship to consider losing it.And I don't think I'm ready quite yet.I know he wants it, But he's not forcing it or anything.Anyways, everytime I try something new with him, it seems like he expects it more if that makes sense.Recently he's been really wanting a BJ,But I've been hesistant and so far I've done it twice to him, But only because I'm returning the favor and satisfying him.I don't want to bore him you know?He's older so he's more experienced and what not , but I don't know.Sometimes I feel like I'm not up to his level anymore.Maybe I'm way over my head.I mean we don't fight.I tend to whine sometimes , But it's nothing serious.I'm just curious , should I worry or change something.I don't know if I doing anything wrong or whatever.Is it too soon to think I might be in love.I can't stop thinking about him, I always want to be with him or talk to him and always concerned to what he's doing and if he's okay.I just want him to be happy as well as myself.I always put people before myself.I really don't want to lose him though...any inputs?
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sweety if it makes you uncomfortable tell
him .. a relationship without trust is not a relationship at all ..and you were friends before so it should be easy to talk to him even more.. if he doesnt respect that then he isnt worth it ..every girl deserves a guy who will treat her right..and its natural to want to be with him and talk to him becuse hes your bf. just remember in order to love someone you must love yourself first & in order to receive respect you must demand it good luck ♥christina
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Maybe all you need to do is stop focusing on the physical aspects of your relationship. Instead of giving him an opportunity to do those things, do something fun instead. Go outside and play badmitton. Go to the park and play frisbee. Go swimming. Go for a bike ride. It would be a great idea to talk to him about all this. Assure him that things between you physically are pretty good, but you'd like to focus on doing other things together as well.
He obviously has a high sex drive and if you don't feel comfortable satisfying his urges, that's okay. You haven't been together that long. You should be taking this time to really get to know each other and worry about physical things later. I really feel that once you two actually start having fun together and learning more about each other, the physical stuff will just come naturally.
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Whether you think so or not, he is pressuring you to go further than what you are comfortable with. You have the choice. It's your body. And considering the risks that come along with sex - such as pregnancy and disease, you have a right to be concerned (AND FYI - Oral sex can transmit STD's as well). Considering that he's had experience, he is definately a risk in the STD department (has he been tested?). Tell him you are not ready (and you're not or you wouldn't be questioning). Tell him he has to slow down. If he doesn't respect that, then he doesn't really care about you and he's not worth it. You shouldn't be doing anything "only to return the favor". Sex is a big deal and should be treated as such. I know that people think that its okay to have casual sex, but if you give it away to everyone, than what's left to be special about. When you fall in love one day (and I mean really head-over-heels, no question about it love)don't you want to experience all that amazing stuff with that person - not just someone you may or may not love who may or may not love you back? Bottom line, your gut tells you you are "way over your head." You are. Slow down fast. You're not prepared for the consequences yet.
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