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step dad
Im 16 and my dad died when i was 8 and my mom recently got married to a guy who used to be in the army. I have two sister and now i have 3 step brothers. He is like way strict and his kids are like perfect angels but me and my sisters have never really been raised that strict and for lack of better words are pretty wild. my mom never really punished us for things( ive never been grounded and ive never had a curfew and my mom knows and stilll doesnt care that my sisters and i are big partiers) and now this guy is trying to control us and take over our lives. What should i do?
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WOW! you sound alot like my sisters an I! We have a step dad too! But listen, you should try to get along with him and see his good side! maybe he's not such a bad guy after all! :)
Hope this helped!
~Araceli~
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try to have a conforsation with him, and always be poliet towards him. Make sure to confront your mother about how his way of raising children is veryy different from hers. This may lead to her talking to your step dad about it
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You should stick up to him and compromise. Tell him that you're not used to having so many rules and you don't think it's fair that you have to face all of them. Ask him if you can compromise so that you're both happy. Almost all kids get punished when they do something wrong, so just go along with that. Don't even bother fighting about it. But for things such as a curfew, set one that satisfies both you AND your stepdad.
Good luck with that.
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Well, this is a tough situation. Personally, no one would discipline my children but myself and their biological father, I do not feel that step parents have the authority to discipline their step children. Normally I would suggest sitting down with your new stepdad and talking this over however I know how difficult army men are to talk to (I have family that use to be in the army). In this situation I suggest telling your mom what a control freak the stepdad is and if she is half the mother she should be she will do something. Just because your stepdad lives in your house now does not mean you have too treat him like he is your father, still treat him with the same respect you would give to any adult but there does not have to be a "daddy's lil girl" type situation. Just remeber, you have about 2 more years until you are out of their house and on your own, don't loose your mind yet.
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Please ask to the pool. You've asked over 15 people privately. You are going to be banned. Sorry.
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Since you're new, and didn't know.. I will be nice and answer your question!
I'm sure that he wants the best for you. He may be strict and it may not seem like he loves you, but I'm certain he does. You will probably appreciate his strict rules later in life.
--Jack
(15/m)
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First of all, its never easy to adjust to new situation and I don't think anyone expects you to be an insta-family. But in saying that, let me give you another insight. This super-strict guy is dealing with three (self-confessed)very wild teenage girls. He is old enough and probably experienced enough to know that you could be exhibiting some behavior that is dangerous -especially since he is a guy with three sons and they know how guys think!! Your mom has allowed you to run wild for whatever reason after your dad passed and probably is relieved to have someone help you guys out right now. It sounds as though he is being strict to protect you, not to torture you, although you may not see that way.My best advice is for you to realize that you are close to being an adult and it is time to start acting like it. Show him that you are responsible instead of a "big partier" and you will see him lighten up and treat you like the young adult you are. If you continue to show immature wild behavior, he will only become stricter and, unfortunately, your mom will be pulled in the middle.
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i know this sounds insane, but listen to him! if you "obey" his gay rules and such, maybe he will have more respect for you, and then give you more "privleges", such as to act a little wild someime! but don't change the way you are for him! tell him that this is not what my mother taught me, but i will respect you and do it! [although you really don't want to put up with his crap, is the truth!] hope you understand, if not question back! ily, morgan! :D
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