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Q: my girlfriend loves me but i feel like she's ignoring me so what should i do it would be great..

~~$brandon$~~

dont worry so uch... that says it all.

Q: my girlfriend loves me but i feel like she's ignoring me & she's beautiful but i can't tell her that in person its imberising what should i do

~~$brandon$~~

Well brandon. Have you guys talked? If you havn't then thats probably why.

Q: Im 16 and my dad died when i was 8 and my mom recently got married to a guy who used to be in the army. I have two sister and now i have 3 step brothers. He is like way strict and his kids are like perfect angels but me and my sisters have never really been raised that strict and for lack of better words are pretty wild. my mom never really punished us for things( ive never been grounded and ive never had a curfew and my mom knows and stilll doesnt care that my sisters and i are big partiers) and now this guy is trying to control us and take over our lives. What should i do?

WOW! you sound alot like my sisters an I! We have a step dad too! But listen, you should try to get along with him and see his good side! maybe he's not such a bad guy after all! :)

Hope this helped!
~Araceli~

Q: hey thanks for the previous help but like i dno maybe you could help me even mroe with some more info?

basically the girl has a bf and she hates me. she thinks that i am trying to steel her away from her even though i really am not, at least i dont think i am. our trust has been built on me helping her with stuff with her gf and stuff and i just feel like if i were to tell her anything then she would feel like i just "pretended" to be strait even tho i am not (or maybe i am? i jsut dont know) but i just cant figure out how to handle this.

thanks for listening to me ramble :)

Hmm... wow. Well you shouldn't really think of the negative... you should think of the positive! :) and did you tell your parents about this?

Q: 16/f

i have no clue at all what i am fealing lately. i have always noticed another girl to be cute or attractive and i have thought about girls in sexual ways but i always thought it was a phase. i started becoming attracted to guys but there was always part of me saying this is how it has to be boy/girl. i have recently made a friend and she is gay and i have been he;lping her with many issues in her life including issues about being gay and i now am fealng attracted to her on a higher level as well as many other girls. i feel like i shoud tell ehr this but i am afraid that she will think i was usuing her in a way to just get close to her, because all along i have been her straight, understanding friend

i dont know what i should do i feel like i am gay but i am jsut not sure

it has happend to many people before its probably just a phase

Q: SORRY ITS LONG!

Well first off I think I should start off with telling you that most guys around here are complete sleez balls. You know most of them want sex and all of that stuff so it takes a strong girl (like me) to not let them get in my pants. Now to the question.

Well the other day I was at this guys house who i`ve been trying to hang out with for a long time and he had been trying to hang out with me to. We were laying down watching t.v and we were looking at eachother talking when HE leaned in to kiss ME. so ofcoarse i kissed him. Then for the rest of the movie he had his arm around me and i had my head on his chest.

my question is.

How do i know if he likes me
or just wants to get some?

And if he does like me
I dont want to ask him out
so how do i get him to ask ME out?

I`ll RATE HIGH!

ok... you seem like you're really in need so i'll help you out! :) see...there are three signs of a guy liking you... he already did the first two so you prolly already no that hes definetly gonna ask you out. So you prolly need to give him some time and you should prolly say to yourself: "wht if he is thinking the same thing?" so let him no that you like him and the sooner the better!:)

LOTS OF LOVE!

Q: I hate my family!
Everyone always takes my little sisters side because she is handicap and 8 and im 15.
"oh kelsey your so immature for fighting with her"
" can you just learn how to learn to shutup"
"leave her alone"

they always catch me doing something.
they never catch her and she is soo annoying.
she pisses me off so much.

and when i hit her its just a tap and she crys and crys and crys!
like i punched her in the face (i wish)

you know everyone feels to sorry for her because she cant walk.
other then not walking she is perfectly normal, like she can talk fine, just like a normal person.

!!
no one sees that, and its pissing me off.
because i cant tell her dad off without my mom yelling at me and my mom knows im right.

the only person in this family that i CAN trust is my older sister because she's already been through problems with my mom's bf. she she actually had the balls to punch him and got charged with simple battery.

please tell me what to do because im about to go crazy.

This is what you should do: Tell your family how you feel, if they just start an argument, then PUT UR FOOT DOWN!just dont yell or anything tell them what she does when she should get in trouble... better yet: video tape it to SHOW them. If this doesnt work then give my advice a low rating.

Q: What are some things that all guys look for in girls? Like, that ALL guys look for. Um, i am looking for a couple things, not just one thing.

Thank youuu :]

Well, well, well, i say that guys look for sweetness, Hottness, and some want a girl to be very smart.

Q: I'm trying to make amends with my best guy friend. We could talk about ANYTHING and we used to hang out. I miss that so now I'm talking to him a lot more to get closer to him again. I've noticed this though.. Right before he goes to bed, I say "I wuv/love you" He really does mean a lot to me.

I have a boyfriend who tells me he loves me. But honestly, i don't love him. I take LOVE seriously. It's only been 3 months.. I've talked to him about this and I'll tell him when the feelings right ..when I'm ready. But this is my question: is telling some other guy that I "love" him.. bad?

My best guy friend.. we had a past together and we dated for over 13 months. My boyfriend knows about that.

Is this cheating of some sort? I'm so confused as to what it is..

No. its not bad cuz ahbviousley you dont mean that you love him and it like your mom saying that she loves uh... tim dunkan. she doesnt mean it.if you did like him then it is bad.

Q: ok there is something that is reeaaalllyy getting on my nervs...
i have really long thick healthy black hair until my ass...yeah great huh?
soo every girl is telling me i should cut my hair short. it is REALLY buggíng me...this may sound kinda weird , but my hair looks great long!!! and it'z not like itz dry and ugly! all the guys love my hair and tell me i should neva cut it short , but all the girls keep getting on my nervs with it!! i even postet a question here about what kinda shampoo i should use for my hair and i said itz long and the first thing i get is: CUT YOUR HAIR SHORT!!
wtf is peoples problems and why does every1 hate long hair except for the guys??

heyy! I like long hair even though mine is short.my mom made me cut it. if all the girls say that you should cut it short then i say that you should put your foot down! tell them that its your hair and they cant tell you wht to do with it! :)

Q: Hi. On Tuesday, I will be trying out for cheerleading. I have absoutly no expierce what-so-ever with it. Could someone please teach me a cheer? I mean, give me a link with some cheers, how to say it, and some moves? THANKS!

heyy! if you need to know how to cheer then dont worry advice is her! tehe! okay now i leared how to cheer by first going to a dance class, you may want to go on google and look for cheer tips, its kinda hard to esplain, and maybe on youtube.com you can find some cheerleading videos. :) but why are you trying out 4 cheerleading if you had no experiance?

Q: ok. so ive been going out with this guy for like a week know. i liked him for about a month before we went out and yeah. but anyway hes kinda the prep type and i liked him better like that but last night we went to the movies and hung out and all that and he like looked emo in a way. like he was wearing this black shirt with a skull on it and these like black shoes and it was really weird. idk it was kind of a turn off. should i tell him that? or just go along with it? i mean i dont want to sound like someone who judges someone just how they dress but its really unexpected from him and hes not really that type. it doesnt really fit the way he is. what should i do?

heyy! i dont think your bf is emo. maybe he's just going through a phase. is there a way that you have acted to make him think that you like emo guys?if there is and you KNOW there is then tell him that you liked him the way he WAS and you have to say it very gently, you don't want to hurt his feelings.

Q: hey i was the person who asked about the losing weight for summer and btw ur advice was great. but how long did it take to lose weight from 106-148 lbs? and from 146-105 lbs? just wondering how long it took, and what foods did you mainly eat? what exercises did you do?

well i usually took tibo lessons,it took about 5, 6 weeks tops, and i ate some granola bars and brocolli with lowfat cheese on it. but i also still have some sweet snacks. :)

Q: ok so there is this guy i've liked for 2 years but he doesn't like me back (he DID but i blew him of) , and there is no way he'll ever like me again. how do i get over him??? cause i'm really in love with him and it hurts so badly.

heyy! usually you get over a guy by finding a new one, but if you really like this guy then MAKE him like you again. Find out wht made him like you and be wht he liked! if that doesnt work, then find a new guy, one thats cuter and nicer i garuntee that will work.

Q: so i am extremly in love with this guy who likes me back , but the problem is that his best friend also loves me. (he's like obsessed with me..seriously) so the guy i like ,letz just call him J never told his best friend , letz call him B that he likes me back because he knows B likes me. but J always chats with me and i'm like rly good friends with him , but i never rly talk 2 B. so B is kinda jealous at J and asked him 2 keep more distance. because J is like a real goodie goodie he doesn't talk 2 me anymore just because B asked him 2 EVEN THOUGH HE LIKES ME!!! so i am rly pissed at B coz he doesn't make a move anyway and because of him J doesn't talk to me anymore!!
what am i gonna doooo?????

ok so tell B how u feel and tell J too if it gets them both mad at u then you no that they rnt the right guys 4 u. :)

Q: Summer is coming and i really need to lose fat and tone muscle, especially in my butt, thighs and stomach. I'm about 148 pounds, so how long would it take for me to get around 130 or 125 pounds? Anyways what foods should I eat? I know to avoid things like soda and junk food and eat fruits, but what kind of foods should i have for breakfast, lunch and dinner? What are exercises that really help you loose weight fast? thanks in advance!!!

Heyy! I no what it feels like to think tha you r fat. I48 pounds isn't so bad, i used to way 160 pounds! but when iwent on a diet, i weighed exactlly 146 pounds. I was happy, but i dtill wanted to be skinier, so i go rid of all the junk food in the house, and I put in organic foods, now, im only 105 pounds! Sometimes i have sweet now and then, but if you try splenda, then you wont have to worry about your weight! :)

Q: I had a really bad reputation at school, until 8th grade, when I got "pretty".
During this year, I liked this popular guy, and he liked me back.
But, he was too ashamed to admit it. I'm letting him slide for this one, because in all truth, if the weirdest kid in school liked me as well, then I probably wouldn't put that out in the forefront.
He also made a lot of excuses. He went out with this blond, model type girl, that he absolutely HATED, because she was obsessed with him. And, when I asked him straight up if he liked me, he'd go "I don't want a girlfriend, because you have to buy them things".

Stupid crap like that.

Now, this year, things are different. I'm well-liked by most people (except his friends, who despise me.)

Earlier this year, he would try and talk to me, and become friends with me again.

Now, he doesn't really try. He just stares at me, and when I look back, he has this really hard look on his face.

I'm pretty sure he regrets his decision, but why won't he just say so?

I don't know why I still like him, after all he's done to me, but I do.

I just want him to talk to me. To say sorry. To tell me what's going on. This "issue" has been going on for two years now, and it's about to go into three if I don't do something soon.

Last two weeks of school.

Guys, what's his problem? What should I do, or say?

listen, almost all guys are like that. I would usually do the sme thing that he did to you bac, but indtead i would probably just take an easier route like making him jealous with another guy, but not just any guy, someone that almost all girls like, but if that only makes it worse, then brake up with the guy and tell the other what is really going on and tell him that u broke up with him because you really only wanted the one that you like.(do this only if the jealousey thing doesn't work out.) :)

Q: Lately me and my best guyfriend have been getting in lots of fights, and I feel like he wants to end the friendship. I've asked and he said he doesn't, but everytime we're trying to solve our problems I feel like I'm pushing him away, like making him not want to be my friend. In all honesty, he's doing the same to be, but I would never end our friendship. Is there anything I can do to make him want to be my friend? Stop the fights/stop solving problems? Anything, I need help!

Heyy! Listen, i've had the same thing goin on with my guyfriend... do you have any crushes? maybe he likes you you never know!:) if thats not it, then maybehe has a problem at home and is taking it out on you.leave him alone and he will tell you all about it later. :) So start giving him compliments and say funny things to make him laugh, thats exactly what I did.