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gay/straight
16/f
i have no clue at all what i am fealing lately. i have always noticed another girl to be cute or attractive and i have thought about girls in sexual ways but i always thought it was a phase. i started becoming attracted to guys but there was always part of me saying this is how it has to be boy/girl. i have recently made a friend and she is gay and i have been he;lping her with many issues in her life including issues about being gay and i now am fealng attracted to her on a higher level as well as many other girls. i feel like i shoud tell ehr this but i am afraid that she will think i was usuing her in a way to just get close to her, because all along i have been her straight, understanding friend
i dont know what i should do i feel like i am gay but i am jsut not sure
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I have been down this road before, and it is sometimes very confusing. But you just have to know that eventually you will figure it out and you will be stronger for having done so.
For some people, they are always gay, or always bisexual, or always straight. For others, it changes at different points in your life. So remember that sometimes, you may be sure that you are gay and then you like a girl, or vise versa. It is normal for some people so if this happens to you, don't worry about it.
As for figuring out what you are now, remember that you are still a teenager and you are still developing. Your hormones are going crazy so this makes it an especially hard time for you to be figuring it out. I think that you should talk to your friend. I wouldn't tell her about your feelings for her yet, but just tell her that you are unsure about your sexual orientation and would like some guidance. She sounds like she has been where you are now, so maybe she could help you.
I don't know how your parents feel about homosexuals, and if you don't know then you should "feel them out" by asking what they think of homosexuals in general. Do they know that your friend is gay? What do they think about her? If they give a good reaction, maybe you could tell them you are confused and you need their support right now. But if you can't tell your parents, it isn't the best time to be getting a girlfriend. You wouldn't want them to find out that you have one if they don't even know that you are gay.
Also remember that you don't want to experiment with sex to find out which gender you like. It is unfair to both you and your partners. It is alright to have relationships with members of both sexes as long as you really like the people and aren't just using them as experiments.
What you are going through is perfectly normal, and I know many people, including myself, who are going through the same thing. If you ever want to talk, feel free to message me back and maybe we could exchange contact information.
Good luck with everything,
Hannah
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it has happend to many people before its probably just a phase
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That gay phase or whatever can last long or short it all depends on the person.
If you want to fool around with her? See if you like it, and if you don't then I guess your not a lesbian. It's very early to tell though. Maybe you can talk to her about it, and ask her what exactly it felt like in the beginning.
Good luck.
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I would give it time and jsut wait. You dont want to do soemthing youre going to regret. if these gay feelings continue to stay I guess your gay, but wait it out a little while. I think you might just be going thru something.
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