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15/f
I just made out for the first time a couple days ago. I was nervous at first but then i just went with the flow. The only thing that happened that was bad was that there was alobber on mine and his chin. It was horrible. i was so embarrased. I dont know who did it like that but i am afraid it was me and i dont know if i did it right. I dont want him to think i am a bad kisser. what do i do? (link)
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Hey, it was your first time. Just try kissing slowly and when you use your tongue, don't jam it into his mouth, just go slow. Also, if it's his first time, then all you need to think (or say, if you guys are close already) is "we're both nervous, so neither of us needs to be." Because after all, nervousness is because you don't want to look foolish in front of the other person, but if both of you are trying to be the best you can be for the other person, it just cancels out :) good luck
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alright so ive been dating this guy adam* for about a year.. and i reallly like him still alot. we are both freshman but he goes to a different school. everything was going good until i met this kid named josh*. hes a junior and he goes to my school. he likes me and is really growing on me. he makes me extremely happy and has no flaws. we have soo much chemistry and we just click on everything. i would be miserable without adam* but i really want to try josh* out. i just dont know what to do. i mean josh* is leaving in 2 years for college and adam* goes to a different school so i never see him either. theres so many things i can go bck and forth with. but i like them both alot. and im stuck. i dont want to write an essay so ill just get to the point. in my situation, what would you choose? my boyfriend adam* or my "soul mate" where everything just seems right..? thanks so much. (link)
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I think that you need to think about who makes you the happiest. Even though you don't see Adam a whole lot, are you happy being with him or is Josh on your mind? When you're spending time with Josh, is Adam on your mind? Adam might notice you're distracted, so watch out if you start thinking of Josh more. Break it off if you seem to be desiring Josh. What's good is that at least Adam won't have to see you two holding hands in the hallway if you do go with Josh. Try asking some of your friends... do they think that Josh is a good guy too? What about Adam... is he a good boyfriend, first off, and if he is, then you really just gotta go with who makes you the happiest, and who you think about the most. Hope this helps :)
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Well, I'm just about to confront my crush Kyle next wensday my and my bff Sara are gonna help each other ,and well...How do I bring up to my crush that I like him again? I've told him I like him a year ago, he just wanted to be friends. I know he likes, his flirting is ovious, so how do I bring it up with-out destroying a good friend-ship?? (link)
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Be texting casually and then say something flirty that drops a hint that you kind of like him more than just friends. Compliment him a little more than usual. Or go to a dance or somewhere together and just hold glances a little longer than normal. Just go with it and try not to stress about it too much, so you won't creep him out.
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What does the expression "I'm wearing my heart on my sleeve" even mean? (link)
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He or she is expressing his or her emotions publicly.
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so my puppy has gotten like over 10 ticks in the last week, and we do our best to get them off of her but im still concered. our vet told us that its ok to break them off at the head so the head stays in because the immune system of a dog will dry the head out and push it out, and she even did it to my brothers dog last year and he is fine, but im just wondering if certain types of ticks carry diseases because we've taken off 2 different types from her. and will she be ok if the tick falls off itself because weve also found scabs from what we believe has been a tick that she either knocked off or fell off. please any info will help! im so worried...shes my baby! thanks in advance! (link)
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If they want to bite, they will, but can help avoid infection by giving your dog once a month Flea & Tick medicine (such as Frontline Plus), which you can get at your vet or on http://www.1800petmeds.com/. It also serves as a kind of bug spray, and might help keep the ticks away from your puppy. Good luck :)
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So, like i said before in my other question, i still love a guy who my best friend, sorry, EX best friend has stolen form me and now, one of his best friends (who is also my best friend) tells me he still likes me but i started to forget him already and i started to like one of his friends who is my other best friend and i really really like him SOOOOO badly...he's a skater, he's cute funny and...i just adore him. i dont know if he feels the same cause he's still getting over a girl but well...who knows, and now i dont know what to do cause i dont want to be with this other boy who still likes me i want to move on from him and try to be into his best friend but i dont want to break his heart cause i really love him though :/ so...the question is: WHAT TO DO?, pleasssssse answer :)Thanks! (link)
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Yes, I agree. Figure out how the new guy feels, and then make a decision. I think you're like me: don't want to be single. You'd rather be with SOMEBODY than nobody. Hate to say it, but we're selfish, huh? Look, if you really like the new guy, you can't be leading on "this other boy you still likes me" because it isn't fair. You can't have two guys at once. You can do a little researching before you break the guy's heart (in the nicest way, preferably) by spending a little time with the skater and seeing if you guys can be at LEAST friends, but if your heart is leaning towards the skater, you need to stop wasting the other guy's time. Tell him. It'll suck, but it's necessary. I can totally relate to this. Actually, I'm SO selfish that I couldn't STAND thinking about my ex with his new crush (though she's one of my friends *cough, cough* so it's a little harder) even though my ex has helped me get to know the guy that I left him for better. Anywho, good luck. Go with what feels right, and don't turn back.
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what does it really mean to "open up" to someone? is it just telling them your secret? why does some people someone open up to someone even though they havent known eachother for long?
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"Opening up" means to express your feelings about an event, issue, person, or even philosophy...whatever the context is, and to not be afraid of being embarrassed or ashamed. It's trusting someone with how you feel, and letting he or she get to know the true you without feeling like they will make fun or tell anybody what you've said. :)
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Well ive been dating this guy for about two months now and on 04/12/09 he told me he loved me and i said it back because i really do love this guy so the next day he said remember when i told you i love you and i said he said why you say it back and i said because i love you real talk and then he said i didnt mean to say it then bt it jus slipped put i jus wanna knw does this mean he loves me 4real or not (link)
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I think he's just nervous, and wants to pretend like he doesn't mean it because suddenly he thinks things might change if you know he loves you. He might be nervous, and unsure if he means it. He's probably having after thoughts, but he probably still feels intensely for you. Likely, he does think he loves you. I don't know how old you are, but just keep in mind that "i love you" when you're a teen and "i love you" when you are an adult are both powerful statements, but mean different things. Also, it could have just been an affectionate "I love you," like what you might say to your best friend when you jokingly insult them, and they go "huuh!!! WELL!" and you say "haha I'm just kiiiding, Jamie, I love you." Just think about how he said it, but most likely, he's just having after thoughts.
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I like my guy friend from school, (he doesn't know, and he might like me but i'm not sure) and we talk everyday and stuff. We already have each other's phone numbers but we haven't really texted a lot, we talk mostly in school. But I do want to get his screenname and I want him to have mine, but I don't just want to randomly be like "Oh what's your screenname?" cause I'm shy about that type of thing. We both have blackberries and can go on AIM with them so I guess I could sortof initiate getting his screenname through that. Any suggestions on how I can sortof get his without being totally obvious about it? (link)
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Are you guys in any classes together? If you are then maybe if you're doing a project together than you could get his number like that... or maybe you could pretend your bill is running kind of high on internet on your phone so texting is cheaper...hopefully one of these suggestions will spark your creativity :o)
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cheated on boyfriend. want him back. any help. espcially from guys point of view. (link)
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It would probably help if you gave us a little more specific information to try to help your exact situation, as cheating happens often. But to try to help you, first off you need to pick one guy. Make a promise to yourself and to him that you will never ever cheat again and ask him for forgiveness. Don't act defensive or anything and keep calm and expect him to be angry/upset. Do the best you can and conclude with something nice about him and why you reallly, really, REALLY want him back. If he still says no, then take it and move on. I mean you really shouldn't have cheated, and if he won't give you another chance then you've done the best you possibly can and need to learn from your mistake and move on. Best of luck-
SlushPuppy
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16/f. ok so me and the guy I like are hanging out but neither of us know what to do. he says he wants to do whatever I want to do.? but idk. I just want to do what he wants to haha, so basically we have no idea what to do?? any great ideas? I live in slc UT. btw. (link)
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you could always just hang out at one of your houses and watch tv, play cards, or make prank calls (which can be really fun, because you get to say funny things and change your voices around!). just do whatever you feel like.
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i used to like this guy ( lets call him bmiller) for 4 months. he was a flirt sweet sensitive knew how to treat a girl really well charming and had really nice blue eyes but then he started being a jerk to me and i regret liking him sort of
so my question is why are these kinds of guys irresistable to us girls and what is it about blue eyes that we love so much (link)
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I don't know why blue eyes are usually the killer, but there are a lot of people that I know that have what I call "hot guy eyes". It almost looks like they're wearing eyeliner, but they're definitely not. Do you know what I'm talking about? I don't know why some guys have those eyes and some don't, but it's very hot and it's a lot like "why does this guy have brown hair and this guy have blonde hair?" The answer is because that's just how it goes. DNA. Luck of the draw. I hope this helped.
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My name is Liz, I am 16 and I have a boyfriend named Dalton. I am in love with him so much and I'm positive he loves me too. I'm really serios I am full fledge in love with this guy. Last night we were at his house and he brought up the idea of sex. I didn't know what to say so I told him I wasn't ready. But now I think I am so should I go for it? I know I love him so please don't say that I am too young or its not worth it. (link)
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just make sure you're not changing for him...like if he hadn't brought it up, would you have felt this way? And are you afraid to lose him if you don't have sex with him? Just think about these things and make a final decision whether you are ready or not. And make sure you know all about sex and (hopefully you've had sex ed.) the consequences, like getting grounded (depending on how strict your parents are) if you guys were caught, and more importantly STD's and pregnancy. Just be careful. I don't think you are too young, and even if I did, I wouldn't want to influence your decision like that. I actually applaud you for saying you weren't ready at first so that you could have time to think about it. Great job, and choose wisely. Your virginity is like a gift, that you only get to give once, so if you're sure that Dalton is the one you want to give it to, then go for it.
Sincerely,
SlushPuppy
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14/f
Ok well I’m sorry if this is long, but I don’t know what’s going on so bear with me. And I’m not really sure what advice I need. Well, I am transferring to a new school, and I know some girls from skating who go there already. So they introduced me to their friends, and I talk to their friends daily online or on facebook. One of their guy friends and I became so close. We would talk daily online and he would flirt with me. Then he and one of his friends who I knew started going out. And I was fine with it. I was still friends with both of them and I still talked to both of them. Then the boy, we can call him Tim, continued flirting with me. He would always say I love you and I would feel really awkward because I would have just said it back and know it would not mean anything, but he could use it against me or something so I would just be like haha yeah. So then we sort of got into this fight about how I just wanted him to stop saying I love you, and he sort of did. He still flirted with me though. Then he started talking to one of my other friends from my old school (by talking I’m always referring to online). And I started to get mad, but I don’t know why. Was I jealous? Cause I don’t really know if I like him or not because the girl who he went out with, lets call her Gina, started saying really mean things about him and saying he was psycho and stuff like that. Of course, I laughed and was like yea omg I hate him so much hes real annoying, but inside I didn’t think that at all. And I don’t want to like him, but I think I do. I don’t know what to do or what to say to him. And every time we are online he will IM me and be like hi whats up. Like I said, I don’t want to like him but I think I do cause I got jealous of him talking to this other girl. And im really boy shy, so I don’t really flirt with him, and telling him I think I like him would be really awkward and uncomfortable for me. What should I do? Should I go with my feelings or should I find a way to get over him? AHHH HELP!
Sorry its long, and if you respond to this thank you for reading it and stuff.
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The fact that he said "I love you" to the other girl probably means that it wasn't anything very personal when he said it to you. I hate to brake it to you, but I think you have a crush on him. You do not need to finalize this statement, because whether you have a crush on Tim or not doesn't really matter right now, because eventually you will feel either one way or another. At the moment, you are caught in the process of your mind trying to decide. But, I mean, you were jealous that he was talking to that other girl, so it's one point for the fact you might have a crush on him. You went along with the fact that he was annoying to your friend, but inside you did not believe that at all. Another supporting point to the "you have a crush on Tim" theory, because you tried to hide your impression of him. If he was just a friend, why would it matter if you dissagreed with your friend about how annoying a guy was? And you said you were boy shy, so that covers the completely surprised yet subtle reaction to him saying "I love you". (Must have been weird. I probably would have reacted the same way, lol!) My advice to you would be to NOT say anything like "I think I like you" because you're right, it would be awkward when you see him in person, and if you're boy shy, it would be hard enough saying "I like you" to a guy. Definitely don't let him in on ANYTHING when you aren't even sure. Don' t give him any ideas. Sort things out for yourself first. I don't see any reason for you to try to get over him, though, because who cares if your friend thinks he's annoying? If she bugs you (if you ever go out with him or tell her you like him) then just say that he's not really that bad [any more?]. Just act cool about it and deal with him in a normal way, don't make him think anything's up. If you decide you have a crush on him, then you should be prepared to answer questions to your friends and should think out what you want to say to him. But make sure you don't tell him you like him if he already has a girlfriend at the time. Because that makes it awkward because he can't go out with you (PLEASE don't cheat, it will screw things up) and your secret is out in the open without any results. :P Which would stink. Hopefully I have helped you a bit, because it really stinks when you're like, "ugh...do I like him...or not???" over and over and you can't get to sleep at night. I hope things work out for you!
Sincerely,
SlushPuppy
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So... yeah.
I'm 16/F.. i'll be a senior next year (yes, i'm young for my grade.... 17 in september) and i've never had a boyfriend. I sort of had one freshman year, but it wa more of a... nothing, really. it was like we said we were going out, but we couldn't drive and we were like 14 and whatever. it was dumb.
Anyways, so i've only kissed two guys in my life. One was that not-boyfriend in 9th grade... and it was pretty much him jumping down my throat and i hated it. And the other was spin the bottle. Which was a good kiss, but it obviously didn't mean anything. The bottom line is, i really want a boyfriend.
And that sounds shallow, i know it does. I've always been the girl who's always saying, "i don't want to have a boyfriend just for the sake of having a boyfriend. I want it to mean something." And i still want it to mean something... but i just want it to happen sooner rather than later.
My friends always talk about who hooked up with who, most of them have already had sex, (with at least one person... in several cases more than that) and i really feel like i missed the boat. I'm not gorgeous. But i'm not ugly...i see weirder girls with boyfriends. And i mean, i'm not the most confident girl around, but i'm not completely introverted. I'm just not sure how to go about meeting someone and having a relationship that will last... at least until i go to college. Another problem, more like inconvenience, is that i don't drink. so i don't go to a lot of the parties everyone else goes to.
I know what i like in a boy. Funny, clever, smart, goodlooking... perfect? is that too much to ask? I had a dream last night. I was rooming someplace... a hotel or a dorm room or something. And there was this slim boy with dark hair next door. He brought me to his room and we just hung out. Played video games.. whatever. I dont' remember a lot, but there was a lot of laughing and smiling... a some cuddling. And i was so happy... probably the happiest i've been in a long time.
Is it so bad to want that feeling to be real? Am i too picky? am i asking too much?
How can a meet the boy of my dreams? litterally.
Any advice?
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Hi. This might seem weird if i told you my age so i won't. But I've felt this way before and i know, it really really stinks. you feel like....why THEM when i'm better? and then you think, well, i can't be harsh....but o come on! and you just dig yourself into a hole. and i can't tell you where to find your dream boy. no one can because no one knows. but there's some guy out there who wants a girl. Who is funny, clever, smart, goodlooking....just like he is. and one day you will probably find him. dating is when you find someone that you think is close. close enough to try. so when you go to the beach, put on a bikini or something (guys kinda get more confident when someone looks sexy...or flirty...but just don't get trashy, lol. i don't think you would, but just saying). and be a little more confident than you normally are. if you're good at small talk, strike up a conversation. you might find a guy good enough to try. always keep your eyes open. in today's world, "always brush your hair" figurativly. again, i can't give you roadmap directions to your guy. i would if i could. just have fun and be flirty and confident and do what you think is right. your guy will come. don't worry. currently i am also looking for a guy. actually, i know who i want, but....well, that's a different story. Best of luck to you!!
-SlushPuppy
P.S. Heh, I'm 14.
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my friend saw some girl on his profile on myspace
like the whole ilysfm jazz.
and i asked him why hed cheat on me.
and he said he isnt.
i dont know what to believe.
i even went on hers an she had his picture too saying how much SHE loves him.
i love him alot.
im really hurt.
i pretend to him that it was okay
[we didnt breakup]
i just pretended i was reassured.
why cant he be honest with me?
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i know it seems really tough, but are u sure he likes her like THAT? He may not be cheating...he could just love her like a sis. But if you're sure it's not sisterly love, then go up to him (or invite him over your house so he cannot just walk away) and tell him your exact feelings. Say, "Are you cheating on me?" and if he says "no" again, then say, "why does it look like you like this girl on your myspace?" and show him his page. See what he says. And then ask why this girl seems to like HIM. If you have enough evidence against him,(and keep asking questions without ACCUSING him) he should either have some pretty darn good excuses or should tell you he's cheating. If he is, then do what feels best. Don't break up with him right then and there, though...I think you should wait until you have a chance to think about what you really want and if you are willing to forgive him. If you decide to give him another chance, make him promise to you that he won't cheat and figure out with him what will happen with the other girl. Hate to say it, but before you give him another chance, say who do you want, me or her? It would be heartbreaking if he said her, but at least you'll know that you won't be lied to anymore, because you deserve an honest boyfriend who doesn't cheat. Good luck!
-SlushPuppy
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hey.
for graduation, which is on tuesday, i am wearing a printed maroon skirt with a white shirt & white shoes. i don't know how to do my hair. i have a little longer than shoulder-length hair, side bangs swept left & my hair is black & straight. i am indian. i would prefer not to curl my hair cause i know i will be very distracted. what should i do with my hair? i would like to keep my bangs down, but what should i do with my hair? also, my teachers said it will be very very hot, so nothing too fancy.
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maybe you could try a French braid or cornrows, but keep your bangs down. It would look nice and somewhat fancy but isn't too hard to do and will keep your hair off your neck so you'll feel cool. You could also put a nice clip in the back or something on top of a messy bun to jazz up your hairstyle. Good luck!
-SlushPuppy
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On the ProActiv package, I always see pictures of girls with horrible acne and groggy scars....and the picture of them AFTER using ProActiv shows them with totally perfect skin, no scars.
Does ProActiv help fade scars? (link)
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it helps fade it a little but won't get rid of it completely. i wouldn't count on it completely erasing a big scar, but for little ones it might help.
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i would like to give my boyfriend head.
i want to give it to him.
but ive always thought it was grose.
but i love him so much and i just want to.
but im also scared that im not going to do it right.
so i guess im asking everyone (boys and girls) if anyone has any tips i would love to hear them.
Thank you.
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i don't have any tips....but please keep reading... if you don't feel comfortable with it because you think it's gross, you should just tell him that, because if he truely loves you back, he wont want you to pretend to like something when you don't. It would be better to say so now than to wait until he loves it and asks you to do it to him everyday and you finally have to say you've had it and he's like "what? you lied to me about liking it?" Trust me, you should say that you don't like it NOW. Or you could say that you are unsure about it, and that you just want to try it out incase you DO like it, but be warned...if it makes your boyfriend feel absolutely wonderful, he's gonna want you to keep doing it, so you should just make your decision carefully. As far as doing it right though (if you decide to)...just go with it. i'm sure he isnt going to mind however you do it. and he can probably offer commentary to help you along. i hope you choose wisely.
-SlushPuppy
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is being tounged the same as making out?
if not whats the difference? (link)
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i agree with what the previous person said, but also making out includes like running your fingers through the other person's hair, moving your hands all over them, and being really physical while you use tongue.
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