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Senior in highschool- never had a boyfriend.
So... yeah.
I'm 16/F.. i'll be a senior next year (yes, i'm young for my grade.... 17 in september) and i've never had a boyfriend. I sort of had one freshman year, but it wa more of a... nothing, really. it was like we said we were going out, but we couldn't drive and we were like 14 and whatever. it was dumb.
Anyways, so i've only kissed two guys in my life. One was that not-boyfriend in 9th grade... and it was pretty much him jumping down my throat and i hated it. And the other was spin the bottle. Which was a good kiss, but it obviously didn't mean anything. The bottom line is, i really want a boyfriend.
And that sounds shallow, i know it does. I've always been the girl who's always saying, "i don't want to have a boyfriend just for the sake of having a boyfriend. I want it to mean something." And i still want it to mean something... but i just want it to happen sooner rather than later.
My friends always talk about who hooked up with who, most of them have already had sex, (with at least one person... in several cases more than that) and i really feel like i missed the boat. I'm not gorgeous. But i'm not ugly...i see weirder girls with boyfriends. And i mean, i'm not the most confident girl around, but i'm not completely introverted. I'm just not sure how to go about meeting someone and having a relationship that will last... at least until i go to college. Another problem, more like inconvenience, is that i don't drink. so i don't go to a lot of the parties everyone else goes to.
I know what i like in a boy. Funny, clever, smart, goodlooking... perfect? is that too much to ask? I had a dream last night. I was rooming someplace... a hotel or a dorm room or something. And there was this slim boy with dark hair next door. He brought me to his room and we just hung out. Played video games.. whatever. I dont' remember a lot, but there was a lot of laughing and smiling... a some cuddling. And i was so happy... probably the happiest i've been in a long time.
Is it so bad to want that feeling to be real? Am i too picky? am i asking too much?
How can a meet the boy of my dreams? litterally.
Any advice?
Thanks.
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hey there. yeah, i'm younger than you, but i allllways feel like "i missed the boat". my friends and even other girls get boyfriends left and right, and i'm stuck here... just wanting one. it's probably a little strange how i'm practically giving myself advice, but just wait. "Good things come to those who wait." I'm sure you, like any other girl, would want a solid, good boyfriend rather than one you snagged who's an asshole.
Good Luck, Hope I Helped!
and have fun in VA.
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I think that your are not asking too much. There is a guy out there for you. It is definitely not wrong to have that feeling of wanting something special and not wanting to wait your whole life for it to happen. Many people have those same dreams, heck i have dreams like that. I think you should ask your friends or people to hang out and tell them to bring other friends. That could be one way to meet that special someone. Its not bad to wait till you get into college that is only a year which is not a long time considering you will be living for a extremely long time.
Good Luck in Virginia!
Hope you have a fun time also.
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Hi. This might seem weird if i told you my age so i won't. But I've felt this way before and i know, it really really stinks. you feel like....why THEM when i'm better? and then you think, well, i can't be harsh....but o come on! and you just dig yourself into a hole. and i can't tell you where to find your dream boy. no one can because no one knows. but there's some guy out there who wants a girl. Who is funny, clever, smart, goodlooking....just like he is. and one day you will probably find him. dating is when you find someone that you think is close. close enough to try. so when you go to the beach, put on a bikini or something (guys kinda get more confident when someone looks sexy...or flirty...but just don't get trashy, lol. i don't think you would, but just saying). and be a little more confident than you normally are. if you're good at small talk, strike up a conversation. you might find a guy good enough to try. always keep your eyes open. in today's world, "always brush your hair" figurativly. again, i can't give you roadmap directions to your guy. i would if i could. just have fun and be flirty and confident and do what you think is right. your guy will come. don't worry. currently i am also looking for a guy. actually, i know who i want, but....well, that's a different story. Best of luck to you!!
-SlushPuppy
P.S. Heh, I'm 14.
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i thought when you said you knew what you were looking in for a guy adn you said perfect am i asking for too much was funny. ohkay so back on track i understand exatly what you mean, alot of times people in my school go out with people that mean nothing to them and it kills me cause i want a guy who i like.
so anyways you need to gain confidence. theres no reason why anyone shouldnt have any, i mean you have one life to live so take every chance you get. When you go to parties you dont HAVE to drink now that yor a senior your old enough to not have to deal with that pressure (people might try to pressure you) but you can deal with it. you can talk to guys at the parties.
YOu should talk to anyone who catches your eye, crush or not just cause you never know. if you get to know someone they could end up being perfect. it might be a little nerve racking but the worst that can happen is he wasn't who you where looking for. ive read in many magazines guys like girls who come up to them talk to them. (just saying)
to meet the boy of your dreams i think you just need to be more open, talk to people (ik ive repeated myself sorrry) maybe that was a premenition(SP?) it could be. maybe you wont even have to do anythign maybe someone will come to you (people admire from afar) ik cheesy but what ever. all you have to do is show poeple your personality and be yourself. hope i helped a little =)
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