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my sister is the queen.
I'm 13 and my sister is 9. She's the queen. My parents love her and never yell at her. If we get in a fight and my sister scratches me, I get in trouble for it. Every single day is dedicated to my sister. Today my mom and sister left me to go to the zoo. They left without saying bye and said they would be home at 6. Tomorrow my sister, my mom, and my friend are going to some baby arcade place and they'll be gone all day. My dad works so obviously that leaves no one to take me where I want to go. My friends think I'm ditching them because I always have to cancel plans since my mom drives my sister around everywhere since I don't have a ride, so my friends are mad and I'm losing them. So far every day since summer started my sister has had a friend over or she's gone somewhere, and I haven't done anything or seen a friend. My mom hates me and I thought that the older one gets to do more since they are older, but in this case my little sister is having a freakin blast this summer while I sit home crying with no ride. I live a little far away from my friends so they can't always pick me up. Me and my friends planned to go to the beach Wednesday but the rule is we all have to get a ride there so people don't feel left out. And of course the calendar says that my sister, her friend, and my mom are spending the day at the park. That means I have no ride and my friends can't give me one. I told my mom that what's she's doing is hurting me emotionally and I feel like I'm not special and I'm losing friends because of her ways, and she says my little 9 year old sister is more mature than me so that's why she gets all the fun. Summers wasting away and my friends aren't bothering with me anymore since every single plan I've made with them has been canceled or postponed because my mom can't give me a ride because she's too busy making my sister feel like a queen. I can't go through the whole summer like this. I've never thought of killing myself, but today after I wanted to go to the mall with my friend and found out my mom and sister had already left for the zoo and my friend's parents were at work so I was supposed to give her a ride, pretty much gave me a thought about killing myself. I let down my friend and myself AGAIN because I get their hopes up when we make plans and then I find out we can't even go. Help? I hate my sister!!!
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wow its like Cinderalla with only 1 evil stepsister, tell your mom how you feel calmly but relaxed and stick your sisters head in the toilet for me no kid should ever do that to their sister were supposed to stick together.
start like taking the taxi or a bus or something and explain to your friends whats going on they could also help with transportation whatever you do, do not allow this to keep happening
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I know how you feel. Your mom really is treating you poorly, does your dad even know what is going on? Or does he not care? No way a 9yr old is more mature than a 13yr old, that just isnt possible. Try to work out something with your dad but also try talking to your ma again. It is better than nothing. Also, if that fails, try tagging along with your ma and sis just to see what is going on.
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If this is the way you approached your mom, then no wonder she is calling your sister more mature. You need to take a step back and re-approach using a calmer (not-so-self-centered) tactic. When you use words like "you hate me" "she gets everything and I don't", parents will tune you out. Instead, apologize to your mom for being unreasonable. Tell her that you understand she has to take care of both of you and you know its hard to schedule times to carry each person to what they want to do. Ask if maybe you can sit down with a calendar and see if you can schedule some activities with your friends so they do not conflict with other plans she may have already made. Work out a compromise showing how mature you are. Remember, a compromise does NOT mean you get everything!!
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I know you've already addressed your mother about this, but it seems like all you can do is confront her once more. Tell her that it makes you upset that she thinks your little sister, who is 9, is more mature than you. First of all, 9 year olds aren't mature. And second of all, you deserve to be treated better than that. If she again thinks that you aren't as mature, you'll have to prove to her that you are way more mature than a 9 year old, which I'm sure you already are. Do extra chores around the house. Chores that aren't yours. Do your little sister's chores. Show your mom that you deserve a little time with friends. And as for your "friends", if they were true friends, they would understand your situation and not hold it against you.
--Jack
(15/m)
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explain this to your sister! [maybe] she will feel for you, and then decide to talk to your mom about it! or tell your dad about it, let him get in on the problem, and maybe he can help! i'm so sry about this situation! i hopee it gets better! just whatever you do, don't kill yourself, in 4 more years you can drive your friends around and not worry about your mom! i hope this helped at least a lil! ily, morgan!♥
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