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my mom doesnt like my bestfriend(please help i need it
so heres the deal, my mom doesnt like my bestfriend which by the way is really lame. she only doesnt like her cause i kinda pick up her bad attitude. but the thing is my sisters nvr listen to me and tell me mom everything they are older btw and im f/16 and my parents nvr listen to me, my bestfriend is basically the closest thing i have to family rite now, and i would pick her over anything or anyone, but my mom wont let me hangout with her until i get my attitude up and im not gonna see my bestfriend for three weeks. so i have three weeks to get my attitude, up only thing is i dnt want to get my attitude straight when she is gone cause my mom will be like see she is the problem becasue when she isnt around your fine, but my mom wont let me see her so i cant work on it and show her, that she isnt the problem. pleasee help i mean my bestfriend is the only thing that keeps me sane and she is my world my mom is crazy and idk my bestfriend is always like that is so stupid that your mom doenst like me and blahblahblah witch is true, but i hate it when she talks about my mom like that idk help pleasepleaseplease
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seems like your mom wants change and she wants it now. i know you're going to miss your best friend becaus i know i would too. you may not like letting your mom have her way, but sometimes you have to. it's a win win situation because it'll make your mom happy and it'll make you happy because you can see your best friend again. just do nice random things for you mom like clean the bathroom or make dinner or something. once you can see your friend, just try and keep her away from your mom. i know you love your mom because it bother you when she talks bad about your mom and i know you love your best friend and sometimes we have to adjust to a new atmosphere and we may no like it, but we still sure as hell have to or it's going to make things harder on you and your friend. you can still talk through email. it may seem like your mom is being unfair, but i guess you could say that's completely normal. once your 18, you can move out and you can talk/hang out/party with who ever you want to. your mom is just looking out for you and she doesnt want you to make bad choices. just try to make a litle effort and if your mom sees that you are, then things should and will get better soon.
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i would just make my attitude better because it happend to me and when you hang out with her again make her be nice around your mom or when shes over and if she says no and idc then tell her she isent being a good friend if she doesn't do that for you so tell her to change her attitude around your mom and you change oyur attitude around everybody
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"she only doesnt like her cause i kinda pick up her bad attitude." Gee, I wonder why your mom thinks she's a bad influence. You just admitted why. First of all, remember that teenage years suck. You feel like no one listens to you, but your mom loves you. You are both just struggling as new boudaries are formed and you grow up.That is the only Mom you will ever have. Not to say your friend is not important, because she is important to you; HOWEVER, as you grow, friends tend to come and go. You have your mom the REST OF YOUR LIFE. What kind of relationship do you want with her? She's not saying "NEVER", she is saying "show me I can trust you by improving your attitude and showing respect". By the way, when your friend disrepects your mom, she is disrepecting you. It is one thing to gripe about your mom yourself to someone who is sympathetic, it's quite another to let someone constantly slam your own mom. Where's your loyalty?
Answer to your feedback: "She has never disrepected my mom " BUT in your question, you said "I hate it when she talks about my mom like that" (which means its happened more than once). Hmmmm. Let me think. Obviously on some level you realize she was disrepecting your mom or you wouldn't have felt uncomfortable. Gee, it sucks when someone tells you the truth and its not something you want to hear.
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Don't let this shake you.If you feel like rebeling,do so.Tell your mom that is it not because of your friend,it's because of her family. Tell her everything you put up on this website. Be firm,sometimes even parents need advice from kids. It might make her realize it has never been about your friend,but abouther trying to control you. At that will hopefully be the point were she lets the baby fly from thenest.If not,you might just have to secretly be friends with her until you turn 18. Then no matter what your mom says,you don't have to listen.
~Hitsugaya~
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