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Q: Ok well my..I think it's called a curve.. you know in between from your armpit to your butt there's a curve in your body?

Well one side it's like an hour glass, >

The other side is mroe better looking like on the manikins though but the other one is higher then the better side...

Is this normal? Is there something i can do about this?
hey there :)

ooooh...i might freak you out here a little when i reply to this. grab a cup of water or maybe something to chew on or squeeze or something, lol. if it's what i think it is, then it might be scoliosis. it's a curvage in the spine that is more than normal. it could be something else, but i'm not sure. if it is scoliosis, then there can be simple way to fix it like a back brace. although, if it's on the serious side, then surgery may be needed. it's a simple procedure if thats the case. i'm not saying you'll need the surgery OR the back brace or anything, but you might want to ask your mom. dad, grandma, grandpa or guardian about it just to make sure. if you're curious about scoliosis or anything else about it, then look it up on google. it gives you an explanation more in depth

I hope this helped and didn't freak you out much.

Q: can people know youve seen their myspace or facebook profile?
no, people arent able to know if you've viewed their profile. the only thing they'll know is how many people visited their myspace. the bullitons people post about tom coming up with the idea of who viewed your profile isnt true.

Q: 15/f. I have a stupid crush on someone older and it's gotten really crazy. I can't stop thinking about him and for some reason, I can't do anything anymore, even when i'm alone. I can' t even eat, or listen to music. i'm always thinking about something I might of said, or something embarrassing I did in front of him, even if it's not really that bad. I realized that my whole mood always depends on how things are with him.
I feel so stupid and out of control. I know this isn't healthy and it's killing my self-esteem.

How can I get over him ?
hey what's up?
well, if you have your mind set on a guy that you really like and care about, then it's hard to forget about them. I could give you a cliche answer telling you to "eat, be yourself, and find a new guy", but i don't think that's a good enough answer to ease you.

it seems like you really like this guy though, so i can see you getting over him being a long process. i'm sure you still want to be friends with him still and seeing him wont be a good thing for you to be doing. I think you should stay off the internet for a little bit and don't stay in contact with him for a little bit. walks always help clear my head so try taking a few of those, but remember to have a weapon with you for defense, there are some sick people out there you know :)

feelings for someone will sooner or later dim down. sometimes finding the flaws in someone can help a little with getting over a person. excepting the fact that you don't or maybe even can't be with him. it's all a matter of how you want to handle things. when it all comes down to it, it's your decision on what you want to do. with time comes changes and in those changes you have to cope and make best of what you've got.

so basically what i'm saying is take a break away from him and to regroup with yourself and take a walk and think about things.

about being embarrassed though..what i find helpful is just thinking, 'it's just words'. it may not work for everyone, but it helps with me. thats a cool trait about someone is them being at ease and willing to make a fool of themself and laugh at themself for it. so try thinking of things like that.

a question you can always ask yourself to get you through life is this: "what would i do if i wasn't afraid" but the "i" person is you, not me ;)

I hope this helped. I felt a little blunt in some parts in it, but i wish you luck :)

oh also, a good way to keep your mind off things is staying active and doing things. watching a movie isn't a good thing to do because sometime a movie can remind you of what ever you're trying to forget and watching movies gives you enough time to think and thinking is deff. out of the question when it comes down to what you're trying to do.

Q: well it was the last day of my period. n me n my boyfriend had sex. the condom broke, im on birth control - the patch - but i've only been on it for two weeks. shoud i worry about being pregnant?
well, the only way to get pregnant is to be ovulating. if you're on your period, then that means that there isn't an egg to be fertilized and your uterus is still shedding the lining prepared for the egg so you should be okay. if anything, you'll see in about a couple weeks, but i'm pretty sure like 95% that you wont become pregnant.

Q: how do you get a background that you like on your myspace profile but with leving the white default in the middle do you know what I mean?? like when the default myspace page is left but around the edges of it you have a customized background just message me if you're confused
you'll just have to change the backround image unless you want to keep it.


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enjoy!

-Paige

Q: 15/f

omg, my friend. is being such a big huge slut. and doesn't even care. she sends naked pictures of herself to guys she doesnt know, her mom found out , she doesnt care and still does it. then she sent it to this one girls boyfriend, and his girlfriend freaked out. [not that i blame her at alll] and my friend kept making it worse. i cant stand what shes doing. and whenver i agree with the other person, just a little bit, she freaks out and gets mad at me. what should i do? i dont want her to end up being pregnant one day.
hey there,

people don't always like what their friends or peers do, but you still have to support them in what they're doing. it almost seems like she craves attention so she'll send out naked picture to get it because she can't think of a better way to get it and i'm sure those horny little guys she sends it to shower her in comments like she is expecting them to. i'm sure you've done it already, but setting her down and talking to her face-to-face about it might help. if that doesnt work, then you might even have to scare her into stopping. maybe set up a fake e_mail account and start talking to her, but don't give her what she wants and keep creating new accounts one after another if you have to. thats only a last resort and it seems like it'd be one of the few things that might work. in life friends come and go and sometimes you have no choice but to not be friends with them. maybe stop talking to her for a little bit and see if she needs your friendship or not, but if shes doing something like that to you and getting mad when you tell her to stop, then maybe the only thing left to do is move on and find a new friend. sorry i couldnt help more on this. if i think of anything else then i'll be sure to come back and help

-Paige.


i'm back for round 2, lol

i like what that other girl said about respect. something you can add to it or say to her is that she should find the right guy for her to have a healthy relationship with. maye she's trying to get a boy friend all the wrong way. tell her to save her body for someone she truely loves and care for, not some random junky who is probably 42 or a killer rapist who tracks girls down and makes them sex slaves then later kills them off. *i've watch TONS of court t.v. and there are peopel like that. i'm sorry if that concerned you even more. i don't want you to wet your pants or scream from hearing that. i'm sure she'll have friends that will leve her because of that, but if you stay by her side and just let her know that you dont support what shes doing, then she might realize that you're a true friend and that you care. she might feel rejected and might feel as though she doesnt have real friends so she'll find any other way to get some. i hope that part helped too :]

-Paige

Q: hey do u know any websites for games ? plz help me out im always bored!
well, i know this quiz and it's pretty ammusing to play here:

http://www.gamershood.com/flashgames/2902

there are a couple little flash games like pac man and junk like that here:

http://www.poqbum.com/games/index.php

there is this online game where you build your skills up that my brother plays and you can talk to other people as you're doing it right here:

http://www.poqbum.com/games/index.php

and there are like 100+ games on here that can be pretty amusing and i can play for hours if i don't keep track of time right here:

www.puffgames.com

enjoy :]

-Paige

Q: okay so me and one of my good friends were having a sleepover and i fell asleep first.. well i woke up to her fingering me.. but i liked it. well one thing lead to another and stuff.. and she ate me out. now.. im not a lesbian i just thought that it felt good...

what does that mean?
hmm, well, if you woke up to her doing it, then your body probably was adjusting to it and your hormones were working up like it would do if you were having sex whether it was a boy or girl, so it felt good. by then you were arroused to the point where you wanted it and it almost just seemed natural. it doesn't mean your a lesbian because some girls do that and they're straight. im not sure if you're having an loving disires for her or not, but it was probably just a bodys natural action for that to happen.

Q: does anyone know a song about a guy whos gay but afraid to come out? or a song about a guy and a girl who are best friends but the girl loves the guy? or a song about a girl who likes this guy but the guy is gay?
umm..maybe "Goodbye My Lover" - James Blunt
i had to ask my friend for that answer, lol.
try looking on google for songs like that.

Q: are there any breeds of rabbits that look just like wild rabbits, but ARENT wild? i love the look of whil rabbits, but i cant find any breeds that look like them. kind of like this one-http://ljplus.ru/img/s/h/shipovnick/rabbit.jpg,http://www.rabbitresource.org/images/wild_rabbit.jpg, http://www.hedweb.com/rabbits.jpg

thanks!=]
well, i'm not sure where you can get a rabbit like that, but you can always look in the news paper or a newspaper that has adds in it for animals.

sorry i couldnt be more specific

-Paige

Q: at the starting of making the band 4, (the most recent episode) tight after the tune song thing theres this song and i cant find it anywhere. it went something like:
"wanna be herd.."
"this is the..."

^i know thats not much, but i really wanna find it.

(also you might be able to see that part of the episdoe on mtv.com)
i was looking up the lyrics on google and i found this place

http://www.metrolyrics.com/lyrics/2144149175/Delta_Goodrem/Little_Too_Late

copy and paste it in your browser bar and read the lyrics. i'm not sure if its it but it doesn't hurt to try :]

i hope its the song you're looking for

-Paige


Q: After I login to myspace, on my Home page, the amount of friends it shows in "Myfriendspace" reset to zero yesterday but no friends were deleted. I added someone today and now it says 1 on both the home page and if I view my page BUT if I just "view all friends" it shows my real amount (235). Is there a hacking/code
issue?

Also, when I tried to edit my top friends, there is no link to go to next page, I can only see the first page when I normally had at least 6 pages (235 friends).

How do I fix or look to fix a problem?
it seems to me like it's a typical myspae glitch and it usually is one of those one dayer kind of things. wait a couple hours or a day and it usually will be okay. tom and his staff members are probably editing myspace and it is interfearing with your friend spaces. so basicly nothing much to worry about.
i hope it helped

-Paige

Q: does any one know what this font is called or where i can get it?

http://i13.tinypic.com/5ymlk55.jpg
well, it seems to me that it's a photoshop font and i think a good way of getting it would be myspace if you have one. i don't know if you've heard of these sites, but they make layouts, codes, and other things. copy and paste the link into your browser bar and it should help a little.

http://i15.tinypic.com/6c7ykph.jpg

i can look around on sites for that font and let you know if i find it. until then, happy hunting :)

Q: This girl I'm friends with on Facebook, well her last name is Seiber, but on it she made it Seibs. Also, my other friend made it Fergie, from Ferguson.
Could I do anything like that with Lopez?
hey, what's up?

hmm..i had to read that 2 times, but i think i know what you're talking about. you could switch the letters around and make it pezlo or something or maybe even zeplo. something catchy and creative would work our nice. try mixing the letters up a bit since it isn't much of a name you can shorten into something else.

-Paige

Q: Parents are always arguing and my mums leaveing my dad and i love my dad but he is really strict so dont tell me i have to decide who be with cause i have ! well my dad has diabetes and it's really bad it awlays goes above 20 and 30 and im to scared to leave him alone sick but i know if i be around him im just gonna end up in tears i don't my fmaily torn apart any advice ?
well, i'm not sure if this is something your parents said out of rage or is a true statement made. it seems liek you really love your dad and i think that if you want the both of you to be happy, then you should live with your mom. if he needs a reason on why you want to live with your mom, just tell him you want a female guidence as you grow up and you still love your dad. sence he's not too hip on taking his shots or pills (im not sure exactly how he does it), then just call him and make sure he does and let him know that you love him and care and i'm sure he'd get the message. you'll still get to see him and maybe you can go over for dinner at his house at random and incourage him to do so. don't let it worry you so much. i don't think your dad would let something really bad happen to himself becasue i'm sure he's a loving father even if he's the type who doesn't like showing it as much as other fathers. liek i said, i'm not sure exactly what type of father he is, but it seems like he's a good one becasue you love him and care for him. i hope this helped you :)

-Paige

Q: ok so like people always say you cant get STDs if you havent been sexually active unless you were born with them, but like is that really common to be born with STDs or is it rare? if your parents had any are you gaurenteed to have them also?
well, it usually isn't common to be born with STDs, although some children sometimes can be born with them if their mother or father had them and had sex. There are some sexually transmitted infections that can be passed from the mother to the fetus during pregnancy or to the infant during birth. These infections include chlamydia, cytomegalovirus, gonorrhea, hepatitis, herpes, HIV, and syphilis. The risk of passing an infection may depend on when a pregnant woman becomes infected. For example, herpes usually is not passed if a woman was infected before pregnancy, but can cause serious problems if a woman gets infected during pregnancy.

i hope this helped :)

Q: my boyfriend and i are both virgins and never went past making out with anyone else until we met each other. for sure. are we still at risk for STDs?
blood tests are always accurate because they cant give contaminated blood away to a person in need and who is sick because it could kill them. in any case, if your parents have any STDs when they had you, then you might have them, but i doubt they did, but i'm not one to say. if you really feel the need to have sex with your boyfriend, then use a condom. anyone can say they don't have anything wrong with them, it's just the matter of could it be true. i hope that helped :)

Q: so heres the deal, my mom doesnt like my bestfriend which by the way is really lame. she only doesnt like her cause i kinda pick up her bad attitude. but the thing is my sisters nvr listen to me and tell me mom everything they are older btw and im f/16 and my parents nvr listen to me, my bestfriend is basically the closest thing i have to family rite now, and i would pick her over anything or anyone, but my mom wont let me hangout with her until i get my attitude up and im not gonna see my bestfriend for three weeks. so i have three weeks to get my attitude, up only thing is i dnt want to get my attitude straight when she is gone cause my mom will be like see she is the problem becasue when she isnt around your fine, but my mom wont let me see her so i cant work on it and show her, that she isnt the problem. pleasee help i mean my bestfriend is the only thing that keeps me sane and she is my world my mom is crazy and idk my bestfriend is always like that is so stupid that your mom doenst like me and blahblahblah witch is true, but i hate it when she talks about my mom like that idk help pleasepleaseplease
hey what's up?
seems like your mom wants change and she wants it now. i know you're going to miss your best friend becaus i know i would too. you may not like letting your mom have her way, but sometimes you have to. it's a win win situation because it'll make your mom happy and it'll make you happy because you can see your best friend again. just do nice random things for you mom like clean the bathroom or make dinner or something. once you can see your friend, just try and keep her away from your mom. i know you love your mom because it bother you when she talks bad about your mom and i know you love your best friend and sometimes we have to adjust to a new atmosphere and we may no like it, but we still sure as hell have to or it's going to make things harder on you and your friend. you can still talk through email. it may seem like your mom is being unfair, but i guess you could say that's completely normal. once your 18, you can move out and you can talk/hang out/party with who ever you want to. your mom is just looking out for you and she doesnt want you to make bad choices. just try to make a litle effort and if your mom sees that you are, then things should and will get better soon.

Q: ok...when i watch girls like booty dance or do stuff like that i sort of get an orgasm. does this mean i am a lesbian? i couldnt ever imagine making out with a girl or anything but why does this happen? i dont think i like girls! help :(
hey what's crackin'?
an orgasm you say? i think it's probably just the thrill of watching it. dance is considered an art of love and it's kind of fun to watch people do that. just because you like it doesn't mean you're a lesbian. it's the fact that they're out there having fun and good at it that just gets you attracted to watching it. i wish i could word this better, but in small terms, it's just the fact that when someone does something so good and it's an erotic dance, it's going to attract anyone to watch it. I hope that helped :)

Q: OK this is the situation i broke up with my bf we hadn't been going out long. This girl in my class had liked him all the time we had been going out and about 2 days after we broke up she asked him out (which is really lame!)He said yes and they are going out now should i be angry that it had been only 2 days since we had broken up or should i get over it?

Please help!!!

thanx
hey whats up,
if it wasn't a long relationship, then i'm not sure if you two were able to have a strong bond between one another. You shouldn't let something like that toy with your emotions. i'm not sure how old you are but usually teenagers tend to have either really short relationships or really long ones. if you two were going out for a really long time and he had done that, then there wouldn be a time where you'd be upset. He's probably over it and is probably the type of guy who can get up and dust himself off and start over new. So you should move on too and find another guy if you're still wanting a relationship and is worth your time because the truth is, sooner or later you're gonig to be hurt, you just have to find out whos worth it.

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