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omg, my friend. is being such a big huge slut. and doesn't even care. she sends naked pictures of herself to guys she doesnt know, her mom found out , she doesnt care and still does it. then she sent it to this one girls boyfriend, and his girlfriend freaked out. [not that i blame her at alll] and my friend kept making it worse. i cant stand what shes doing. and whenver i agree with the other person, just a little bit, she freaks out and gets mad at me. what should i do? i dont want her to end up being pregnant one day.
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You can't make her stop. Period.
It is her life to live, not yours, and to be quite frank, it is not your business if she is a huge slut or not. If she wants to be a slut, nothing you can say or do will change that because it is HER life choice.
What you can do as her friend is to make certain she is aware of the risks of pregnancy and STDs.
She will have to realize that YOU don't have to agree with what she does. She needs to respect you enough to not fly off the handle when you disagree with her.
You need to have a good sit-down talk-about with her about the difference between what she thinks is ok for her and what you think is ok for you.
Let her know that you don't like her behavior, and understand there is nothing you can do to change that, but SHE needs to understand the fact that you don't agree with it, nor will you pretend to.
I wouldn't ditch the friendship over her behavior, but I would if she didn't respect me enough to 'agree to disagree' and not make issues about it.
ygs-29/f
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Well first i think you should worn her that what shes doing is wrong. The probability of that would be that she wouldnt listen to you but thats ok. Someday she will thank you that you worned her. You should also stay away from her after you worn her hang out with other freinds you have or make new ones just be thankfull that you did the right thing and that you wont turn into her. If she wont listen t you shes not your real freind just remember that.cya
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I think you should sit your friend down, and tell her what your thoughts are about the situation. Tell her how worried you are, and that you're upset about it. If she's a true friend, she'll understand...and hopefully stop. If she doesn't stop, or doesn't care, then maybe having her as a friend isn't worth it.
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"i dont want her to end up being pregnant one day"
She probably will... That's out of your control.
I suggest sitting down with the whore and working it out. If she doesn't exactly comply or tells you to blow it out your ass, drop her.
Show her you don't want friends like that.
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Sit down and have a talk with her. Something along these lines:
"I'm sorry I agreed with the other person but what you are doing isn't right. You aren't respecting your body. I don't know if you do this to boost up your self esteem when guys comment about your body or what. You shouldn't do this to yourself. The guys like it now, but how will they ever respect you if you do this? They'll just think you're easy and want to get down your pants. You're my friend and I just don't want anything bad to happen to you alright? Please don't be mad I'm just trying to help you."
If that doesn't work you really can't do much else. It isn't your fault if she won't listen. =)
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hey there,
people don't always like what their friends or peers do, but you still have to support them in what they're doing. it almost seems like she craves attention so she'll send out naked picture to get it because she can't think of a better way to get it and i'm sure those horny little guys she sends it to shower her in comments like she is expecting them to. i'm sure you've done it already, but setting her down and talking to her face-to-face about it might help. if that doesnt work, then you might even have to scare her into stopping. maybe set up a fake e_mail account and start talking to her, but don't give her what she wants and keep creating new accounts one after another if you have to. thats only a last resort and it seems like it'd be one of the few things that might work. in life friends come and go and sometimes you have no choice but to not be friends with them. maybe stop talking to her for a little bit and see if she needs your friendship or not, but if shes doing something like that to you and getting mad when you tell her to stop, then maybe the only thing left to do is move on and find a new friend. sorry i couldnt help more on this. if i think of anything else then i'll be sure to come back and help
-Paige.
i'm back for round 2, lol
i like what that other girl said about respect. something you can add to it or say to her is that she should find the right guy for her to have a healthy relationship with. maye she's trying to get a boy friend all the wrong way. tell her to save her body for someone she truely loves and care for, not some random junky who is probably 42 or a killer rapist who tracks girls down and makes them sex slaves then later kills them off. *i've watch TONS of court t.v. and there are peopel like that. i'm sorry if that concerned you even more. i don't want you to wet your pants or scream from hearing that. i'm sure she'll have friends that will leve her because of that, but if you stay by her side and just let her know that you dont support what shes doing, then she might realize that you're a true friend and that you care. she might feel rejected and might feel as though she doesnt have real friends so she'll find any other way to get some. i hope that part helped too :]
-Paige
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