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Hey Advicenators team,
I am a fresher in IT industry who recently got a job through campus. I was a bright kid, got multiple offers from MNCs and chose one which seemed best. I completed my 3 month training with great scores. I landed up in a project which was messed up from the word go. I had a boss who was abusive, would not help, and i had to be with him constantly for the meetings,I was trained on say "A" and was working "B" which are like completely opposite. I wasn't learning much either, because i was made to sit around for long hours, with my role not at all defined. I had 3 issues, i had to travel 2+ hours, was working more than 12+ hours, and again travel back home, i was working weekends too with no pay.I ended up having a complete burnout and a breakdown, i was puking for weeks daily since i was stressed with lack of food.I explained this to the HR who just said i was making excuses. My breakdown however happened in front of my managers who were very kind in giving me medical assistance, ensuring i reached home and allowed me to be at home & recover. I understand we have to struggle in the earlier phases of life, but i do not have any idea, if this is my aim in life. I don't want to lead a meaningless life by working like a maniac for the rest of my life and eventually die.There seemed no positive in what i was doing.I told my parents i wanted to complete my Master's degree abroad and get a job with better work culture. My mom is supportive. My dad however he may sound supportive, doesn't really make sense, i said i wish to quit and do some courses, he said stay in the job, hunt for a new one, do something there, since u are a fresher and nobody will employ you. I told him but i wish to get a Master's degree, and i will get a job, don't worry. (My dad has been unemployed for 10 years now and my mom is the only earner in a fmly of 3). I feel really depressed since whatever i discuss eith my father is just pointless as it leads to my criticism and past failures. I wish to to do something great in life, wish to make a contribution where i could make the world a better llace but i am stuck here. I do not know what to do,feel aimless in life and whatever i decide is just throw out the window.My dad isn't backing me up,My mom is just too busy with work to provide us food/cloth/shelter, so i don't disturb her. She is very supportive of me though and trusts me. I never have betrayed her trust too. i feel even worse, with a good-for-nothin job, no support and no one to talk to. Please help ! (PS: i have fought depression earlier and come out of it)
No job is worth ruining your health over. Find a job you love and you will never work a day in your life. These are two sayings that have real meaning. If you are ruining your health over a job you will never perform to peak potential and always be on the edge of being terminated. Find a job you truly enjoy doing and you will never work a day in your life for if you love your job it is not really that much of a labor.
Your dad is right in one respect. Finding another job is easier if you are employed. If you are out of school and have been employed and now unemployed you have to have a reason that is meaningful and verifiable to your future employer.
Get more education is never wrong. My question is why do you need to go abroad to do so. Is it not possible to get your Master's closer to home. It would be less expensive. With a Masters Degree better jobs with better pay and benefits will be open to you.
While my suggestion to you is to follow your desire for a higher degree I think it would be better to do so closer to home. Stay in your present job and start sending resumes to those companies you turned down first starting with those closest to your home.
If you are planning to enter into a masters program within the next semester and leave a employment situation then do not look for new job. Stick it out with this employer and give them 2 weeks notice when you plan on leaving.
My boyfriend and I care for each other deeply and can't stand to see each other's feelings get hurt. I am 26 he is 37, we are serious and he has talked about marriage together not too long ago. It was a first for both of us to ever celebrate Valentines Day with someone.
I told him I think Valentines Day is a bit overrated and actually never really liked seeing the lovey dovey heart decorations everywhere. He agreed and said he is the same way; although his actions always speak differently as he is always very very loving and mushy about everything, not to mention emotional, which I think is cute. With a romantic dinner, he handed me a lovely bouquet of roses with a huge Godiva heart chocolate, he always aims to get the best of everything which I've told him numerous times that it is not necessary, that even if he didn't get me anything that would be perfectly fine. Which caused him to buy even more expensive gifts, claiming I deserve the best. Truth is I would prefer it if he got me cute cheap things, I do not believe that the more you spend on something the better it will be. I do not enjoy trying to be flattered by the price of something. Thus I feel that in return I always have to buy something equal to his gifts.
While bidding farewell for the night we exchanged our main gifts for each other. We both opened our gifts when we returned home. I bought him a Burberry men's wallet, which he claims he really liked, although he says that for everything which I give him or go to with him. For the wallet, he said that I know him well. He in return gave me a bottle of perfume. I was happy that it was not an expensive piece of jewelry like last time (which is another story of its own- I went back and forth with him telling him I could not accept the Tiffany's necklace, he reluctantly told me he would return it however he secretly kept it waiting for the return date to expire which he later gave me again saying "now you know I can't return it, did you really think I'd give it back, its yours". Which of course I had to take, I do like it, but again unnecessary spending).
Now this perfume which I thought was normal priced because I have never heard of it turned out to be $370 (Portrait of a Lady), which is expensive for a perfume, and he went and got the biggest size. The worst part is that it has an EXTRAORDINARILY strong scent, I researched reviews on the perfume which is when I learned the price, I googled it thinking maybe I just found it strong however everyone claimed that it was really hard to get off even with showering and washing clothes and stays on about 3 days with 1 spray. I am one who prefers Eau de Toilet sprays in comparison to Perfumes as they last shorter with less of a scent, so this is 10x too strong for me. I appreciate the thought but it kills me that he would spend $370+tax on a perfume which will most likely sit on the shelf, a similar scent to it could have been plain old rosewater for $20. I thought of trading it for something I could use but I doubt someone would pay that much for it. I also really don't want to bring up that I didn't like this gift of his either as I mentioned he is easily broken hearted, and probably still touchy that I rejected his first necklace gift in the beginning. All I did so far was thank him for the perfume saying it smells like roses but did not spray it yet. Please help what should I do, what would you do?
You and your boyfriend sound a lot like me and my wife, we have been married going on 47 years. I married the original Coal Miners Daughter my wife having grown in Northeastern Pennsylvania the daughter of a coal miner. We met when she moved to NYC to work for the same company I was working for.
Like you she was use to the simpler things in life and took great joy in receiving them. I on the other hand while not the product of an idle rich family grew up in a typical middle class family. I was taught by my parents and grandparents that you always try to buy the best as the best last longer.
Now I receive great joy in giving and when I look fro a present to mark an occasion I have always looked for the best I can find and afford. Like you this never impressed my girlfriend now wife and still doesn't. She has learned over the years that it is the joy I receive in giving this type of gift. I have also learned to buy her some simpler things. So for example she may get one big or small expensive gift that satisfies my gift giving needs and I will by her things like pajamas, and other clothing items from catalogs she leaves in places for me to see with items she likes marked.
What we have done is reached a compromise. My wife has learned to accept my need to shower her with the pest I can find because she is the love of my life and she has stood by me through all these years of thick and thin. I have learned to give her things she most desires as well.
What I'm saying is you are not going to change you boyfriend for I believe he is very much like me. What you need to do is reach a compromise with him. Explain to him he does not need to shower you with expensive gifts to show you his love for you. If this is some need with in him then see if you can set a limit on what he pays or the number of expensive gifts and when they are acceptable.
We were married for a few years before we reached this compromise. I believe if you truly love each other you can have the type of conversation where you tell him how you feel about receiving very expensive gifts. You need to do this especially if marriage is in the future for the last thing you want is him going into debt for these gifts. A mistake I made.
He has been rapping me and letting his friends have sex with me and now he wants me to have sex with a Great Dane dog
if you have the ability and time to write to us then you have the ability to leave him unless he also has you imprisoned in some manner.
If you cannot leave because he is holding you against your will and you have no other way to communicate other then on the web then do so in the manner. Most local and state Police have websites or Facebook pages you can message them on. Message them with as much information as to where you are and they will come and get you.
If you do not know where you are or can't find your local police on Facebook the contact the FBI. There web address is FBI,gov.
I've been working for a company since late November. I like the job and my manager, but when it comes to my coworkers I'm having a lot of problems.
When I first started I was trained with somebody else who was really scummy. In short he was breaking every rule you can think of and pretty soon he got fired for it. Well it turned out that he was referred for the job by one of the workers who was already there and he got so mad that they kept me and got rid of his friend that he spread rumors about me and turned everybody against me. I talked to my manager about it (he's a manager from out of state) and he told me to just ignore them and keep my head up so I did.
Then they hired another guy who was relentlessly sexually harassing me and I wound up having to report him because he started stalking me and messaging me online too and then he got fired and people started calling me a snitch.
Now I'm in a volatile work environment where nobody likes me and one of the guys in particular keeps calling me a "dumb white b*tch" among other names and telling everybody horrible things about me. One time he even threatened to pick me up and slam me into the wall and kick my a**.
He also deters as many of my sales as possible which is a big part of my job and I get fired if I can't make any sales.
I don't know what to do. I can't report him too when I already reported the first guy and now everybody says I'm a snitch. Even if I did the other coworkers don't like me either. He's already told me he's going to force me to quit...I don't know what to do. I can't be without a job. :(
From what you have written you are most definitely in a hostile work environment. You have done everything the law requires of you in reporting these things to your employer.
You are suffering racial harassment, a volatile work place and you have been threatened with bodily harm and all your employer has done is to tell you to ignore them. Time to go for the big guns and file an EEOC complaint. THE EEOC is the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission. You will find a listing for them under Federal Government.
The complaint can be filed and acted upon faster if you can afford your own attorney if not file directly with the commission. As for the threat of bodily harm that you can file directly with local law enforcement as it is unlawful to threaten someone with bodily harm. To what degree degree be it a Felony or Misdemeanor Depends on the Laws in your state and just what you can prove.
For the immediate time start printing out an threatening emails or forward them to your private emails account. By a packet notebook and mark down the date time and place, who and what was said any one says something to you that would fall under the hostile work environment statue.
If anyone asks what your doing tell them your writing a book and this is research for the book. IF they try to take your notebook from you call the police and charge them with robbery and assault.
Of course the other thing to do is to leave and to file your complaint. Just because you leave this job doesn't mean you can't still file your complaint.
My suggestion is; in the short term do as I have written. You should also start looking for another job. It is a lot easier to find a job while you still have one. When asked why you want to leave tell them it is do a hostile work environment which started after you reported another employee for stalking and harassing . The company fired that employee and the other employees have turned on you. Its a truthful but embarrassing story that a future employer can believe.
I am 17 and in high school. My boyfriends mom is in the hospital and valentine's day and his birthday are coming up. With high hospital bills and little money I don't want to put him in an awkward position if he doesn't get me anything even though I want to get him something. What do I do.
There is an old saying it is always better to give then to get.
Go ahead and get him something for both events and get his mom some flowers as well on Valentines day as that would be a nice gesture on your part.
When you give him his Valentines present and if he doesn't have one for you and says "I don't have one for you." Just say you know things are tight for him and you weren't expecting anything but you wanted to get him something to mark the occasion.
we broke up after five months and he ended the relationship as he's got a gf and kids with her. but we loved each other and relationship really flowed but we're going to stay mates. when he called it off he said he didn't want any stress as it is and I told him, I'm not in your life anymore and I'm the one who's causing you stress and he replied you're in my life, one way the other you're in my life. so what's did he mean by this one way the other?? we're both 24. I hope you guys don't judge me. love is blind.
In short it means that in some way you will always be in his life. Just how he means that I can't say as that part is really open-ended as to how and what he means and only he knows that.
To make extra money I'm going to clean houses through an online company. I know I can bring my own cleaning supplies and/or use the customers. I would like to know if I should bring my own vacuum?
IF I were you I would use the company vacuum if offered. My reasons are;
1. Why wear-out my own vacuum
2. If there vacuum breaks they repair or replace it.
3. Even if the charge you rent for the vacuum, and it is a reasonable rent. It is cheaper than replacing your own vacuum plus just like your mileage from job to job the rent on the vacuum is deductible on your taxes.
On the 2018 Taxes you will have to itemize to see if you reach the threshold for these deductions. You will also be entitled to deduct a portion of you home for office space since you will be working and reporting from home.
There are apps you can get for your phone to help you keep track of the different deductions your entitled too during the year.
I'm a seventeen year old girl. I went to a Valentines dance on Friday with a girl that asked me. I have never been with a girl romantically before. During the dance, we were touchy, and did make out in the hallway. The thing is, I think she feels something, and I don't. I didn't feel love or disgust. Just nothing. I'm so scared to say anything to her about it. I think I might be straight. I'm just so confused! I have no idea what to do.
Honesty is the best policy. Tell her exactly what you wrote here. That you went with her because she asked you and that you had never been with a girl before.That afterwards you felt she might have feelings for you that you can't return as you did not feel anything for her in any manor.
As for being straight you are not might be. Doctors and scientists agree that someone who is Gay or Lesbian is this way at birth and knows this about themselves long before puberty. Being gay is not something you wake up one morning and decide to be.
As for being bisexual the the professionals are split on this. Some feel that to be bisexual you are born that way. While others feel that bisexuals are straight sexually and have learned to enjoy six with their same sex.
So the question you need to ask yourself is; Why did you accept her invitation?Do you prefer boys? When you masturbate do you fantasize about doing so with girls? I believe when you answer these questions your answer will be you are straight but wanted to see if you had any feeling for the same sex. If so don't worry about it. At some time in our lives we all wonder about it and many if not most experiment with the same sex just to satisfy ourselves of an answer.
I'm a 14 year old female. When something gets me angry, I really get angry and it lasts for days even if the issue is solved. I have enough control over myself to not lash out violently but it just makes me feel so shitty, sitting there with anger rushing through me. I've tried every tip and trick online that's supposed to relieve anger, and nothing works.
The reason why I'm angry right now is because the other day I was speaking to a group of friends, and one of them asked which shows we've seen on Broadway. Note that I live in the most bourgie town ever that I don't belong in because my parents can hardly afford food and rent. So, everybody listed tons of shows except this one girl because she doesn't really like musicals but still has been to a few. I've never gone to Broadway because my parents can't afford rent half the time let alone visits to the City and going to fancy theatres. They all acted like thats the most shocking thing ever and as though it were my decision to not see shows (we live in NY so location isn't an issue), and when I told them it's because I don't have money they all laughed along knowing they're some Middle Class and Upper Middle Class fuckers who live comfortably. I ranted about it in my diary, and that didn't work. I feel like yelling at them about it but that won't do anything except make people mad at me.
How do I relieve my anger?
I have read what Dragonflymagic wrote to you and it is not that I disagree with her, I don't. I do believe part of the problem may be hormonal. It is I also believe that part of the problem is that this has been going on long before puberty.
Part of what makes you angry is something you cannot do anything about. That is what your parents have chosen to as a Living up to the Jones life style of Champagne tastes and not quite having beer pockets. Meaning your family is not exactly poor but they are living above their means.
This problem overflows into your social life as you have described it. Your anger at your friends is not wholly aimed at them for not believing you but once again aimed at your parents for something you cannot control.
I truly cannot tell you why your parents have chosen to live this way when it might be better to move to the suburbs and live within their means. The most common reason fro living this way is for appearance sake for ones job. People who must keep up appearances for their job have fancy houses in fancy addresses, fancy cars and the wife's are eye candy to complete the effect to help dad move up his job.
As parent we sometimes forget how are actions reflect to our children and their social life. You need help in dealing with these issues so as not to let them anger you as they do. Unfortunately you of course cannot talk with your parents. You need to talk to a professional.
My suggestion is this. Either Mom or dad should have medical insurance which would also has something called Employee Assistance Program(EAP). This will pay for the first few visit with a child psychologist more on this in a minute first we have to get you there.
Your anger issues also have you suffering from a form of clinical depression. Once again it will take a professional to get mom and dad on board to get you help. You start by telling mom your just not feeling well and you would like to see the doctor for a physical. No because a physical would include a female exam and you are 14 years of age a law called HIPPA says you have the right to medical confidentiality when it comes to any examination of your reproduction system. You ask the doctor to ask mom to wait in the waiting room.
From this point forward nothing you say to the doctor can be related back to your mother. You tell the doctor your having anger issues just like you told us and it has been recommended you speak with a child psychologist. The doctor will still want to do a complete exam and a screening for depression. Now with your permission the doctor can tell mom you need to see a psychologist for talk therapy for depression.
Once you are with the the therapist anything you say is completely confidential and cannot be repeated back to your parents. The therapist becomes your new best friend you can tell your deepest, darkest secrets to and your parents will never hear them as you complete confidentiality.
This is a totally random question but after watching some tv shows I got curious.
When a man proposes to his girlfriend and his girlfriend gets down too, does that symbolize anything?
Mostly I see the man get down on one knee and the woman is standing or sitting in a chair.
But after I watched friends when Chandler and Monica got engaged and she was down on her knees and then watching the office when Michael proposed to holly and she got down on her knees while he was proposing, does it have a meaning?
I thought it was cute but never really thought about it until now.
It's generally deemed a sign of respect and surrender, which makes sense - the man bends on one knee in an act of humility before the woman he wishes to marry and acknowledges he's surrendering his single life behind.
Historically a marriage was more of a business proposition though the action itself has been around for centuries. Back in the middle ages a man paid a dowry for his wife to her father. Today some marriages are still arranged by families mostly to combine both families. Today there are business moguls who children marry to promote the family business's .
As for the getting down on one knee thing, in truth the origin of the tradition is not known for sure.
Do they get good promotions and pay raises for this job? Or is this just a crappy job with no benefits?
At one time I worked as a Station agent for an Domestic and International Carrier. Depending on my assignment for that shift I could be a ticketing agent, gate agent, or supervising the catering and cleaning of the planes between flights.
Ground times differ from airline to airline and types of planes. Smaller planes such as a 737-700 have the shortest turn around times with the 37-900 having a longer turn around time of that series. Then you get into the wide bodies and there turn around times differ as well.
What doesn't change is how long the cleaners get to clean the plane between flights which is less then an hour or about 10 seconds a seat for a 350 seat plane that is 58 minutes of the 1 hour 45 minute to w hour ground turn around time.. Yes there is more than one cleaner on board but they also have to pick up the trash clean 4 to 8 bathrooms and sweep or vacuum the carpets in that time.
As for your question itself it depends on who you work for. At most Airports the airlines contract with airport service contractors for cleaners and toilet services. IT is less expensive for the airline as they may not have enough flights through that airport to justify having there own cleaning staff. The exceptions would be at their hub stations and main maintenance basis.
All in all it is a lot of hard work, for low pay and few benefits. As for promotions there are few if any fore few people stay long enough to get a promotion.
I'm a 13 year old girl and was wondering if it would be wrong to have sex with another guy my age.I really want to have sex and feel like I'm pretty ready. Wanted to know what anyone thought.
DO NOT HAVE SEX, YOUR BODY IS NOT READY. You may think your ready but your not. Yes the hormones of puberty are changing you from a girl into a young lady but your still not ready to have sex. For one thing it will be terribly painful as the hormones that unlock the muscles of the vagina which allows your vagina to expand and accept a penis have not been released yet. Your boyfriend may be able to force his way in and it will be a terrible experience for something, for the girl, that should be a wonderful loving experience.
For a boy loosing his virginity is nothing more then putting his penis in a vagina. For the girl it is much more then that. If you thinking of having sex with him because he has said something to the effect, "If you love me you will have sex with me." Donn't, that's a line that's as old as sex itself. He doesn't love you he lusts for you. Love and lust are not the same except in a horny young male's mind.
I'm just as sure with the hormones now floating through you that you have pent up sexual anxiety. Having or attempting to have sexual intercourse at your young age is is wrong, could even hurt you. Instead try masturbating.
There is nothing wrong with masturbating. Nearly 80& of the population do so including your parents except when they do it it is called mutual masturbation and it is part of there sex play before intercourse. You won't go to hell, go blind or grow hair in the palm of you hand for masturbating. It is a safe and healthy way to relieve sexual tension and explore your own body in the process. If your not sure how to masturbate there are plenty of tutorials on the web.
Hi 19/F.. I really need as much advice as possible please. I want to move out of my moms house. She still thinks I'm a baby. I am 19 and working and my curvue is still 10 pm although I only go to my bf. I never go anywhere else. We fight a lot because she always tells me what to do. I want to be my own person now. I want to move out in three monthes. Me, my bf, his friend and grandma want to get a place togheter. But my mom will never talk to me again. We are close but she is smothering me. I talked to my grandma about ir but she keeps telling me you are going to hurt your mom. Should I move out? Please help me.
It would be wrong for any of us to tell you to do something or not to do something for we do not have the entire picture only the small snapshot that you have given us. What we can do for you is to try to put things in a prospective that you can use to make the decision that is right for you.
To start with your grandmother is right when she says you mother will be hurt. The hurt though will heal when your mom sees that you truly are an adult capable of living on your own. I know this from personal experience with my son. I won't bore you with the details but an opportunity arose for me to see him as his own man doing his job.
He and I were at the time both firefighters and I had the opportunity of being on the same call with him. I'm retired now but how is still on the job. The pride I felt that night your mom will also feel when she realizes you are no longer her baby but an adult women. she will realize what a wonderful job she did in raising you.
At age 19 you are legally an adult not subject to parental discipline or over site. That is the legal side of things. This means mom has no right to give you a curfew, make you do chores or anything else around the house. She also no longer can make doctors appointments for you or have access to your medical records without your permission.
In the same vain now that you are an adult mom is no longer responsible for your well being. She no longer is legally responsible to provide you with housing, food, clothing or any type of medical care. This also means she doesn't have allow you the free use of her car as well. As you can see there are two sides to this issue some of which maybe you haven't thought about.
There is also an old expression parents us that goes like this; "As long as you live in my house you live by my rules." Legally the expression has no ground on which to stand, you are an adult with all the legal privileges of being an adult. Should you wish to move out then that is your prerogative to do so. Yes you will probably have words with your mother which would be unavoidable.
Now if mom wants you to stay and your willing to stay then you and mom need to have an understanding. Mom has to agree that you are an adult now no longer subject to her discipline. That you will take her advice into consideration but you are not bound by her advice.
There will be no more curfews. IF you are going to be out late you will tell your mother what time you expect to be home. IF you are going to be later than you expected you will call with a new expected arrival time. You will also contribute to the house hold expenses which is only fair if you are not going to college for mom will lose the tax deduction she gets for a child in college. I would suggest settling on $210 as that equals the yearly tax deduction and is probably way less then your share of rent and utilities if you move in with your boyfriend and grandmother.
Hi so me and my boyfriend are both juniors in highschool and we’ve been together for about 7 months. So like when we’re tobether we do the regular like making out and stuff but we were sitting at his table doing homework and he normally rubs he inside of my thigh but like today he started inching his way up my thigh and like I was okay with it because I wanted it to happen. (We’ve known eachother for a long ass time and if it was anyone else I wouldn’t be ready but for him I was ) so I go over to his house a lot and everytime I do his hand slowly makes his way up and at some point it eventually got there so like now he will kinda rub me outside my pants. But like whenever I put my hand near him like the inside of my thighs close to him he will freeze and then try to do something to make me move my hand without saying move your hand and I’m just confused because he does stuff to me like he’s ready but whenever it comes to him he like completley shuts down. And like recently we’ll be in his room and we’re kissing and I’m on top of him u know getting our thing on and we don’t have sex because we already talked about not wanting to do that yet but like I’m on top kissing and grinding or whatever but like anytime it comes to my hand coming close to him he just like freezes and I’m just confused if he’s insecure or he’s ready but he’s not like idk
I think the reason he freezes or tries to move you away is one of the differences between boys and girls. You say you have talked about not having sex. It sounds like you are ready to go to the next step and let him finger you and this is fine if this is what you want and have the will power to stop at this point.
You will get sexual relief and orgasm and maybe wet his hand in doing so. For a boy to orgasm or climax it is much messier and with you rubbing him out side his pants or grinding against him it could cause him to ejaculate and the evidence would be very noticeable.
If it is your intention to give him the same type of relief he is giving you with fingering then you and he need to have a talk first. I think he knows that you like him fingering you outside your pantie. You need to tell him if this is where you draw the line or if he can actually touch and finger your vagina. If you want to give him the same type of relief with a hand job (rubbing his penis) or oral sex then it is necessary for him to take his pants and underpants off so as not to ejaculate into them.
You have to be ready to see him half naked and no matter the size of his penis don't say anything that would lead him to think it's to small or to large. Just like women and their breast men are the same way with their penis's.
I do not advocate you two having sexual intercourse. But once the barriers come down, meaning the removal of any clothing, your and or his you start down the slippery slope of desire overruling good sens. So talk to him and decide together just how far each of you want to go and make sure not to cross that line.
my dog ate girl scout thin mint choc cookies while we were at church she had about 5 she is a chihauaua will she be okay:-(
Chocolate is very bad for a dog. I suggest you call your vet and ask their advice.
Hi 9 days ago I was on my 5th Trigestrel red pill and on my period me and my bf had unprotected sex for 3 days and then I found my new pack is missing I have not had a chance to get a new pack. What are my chances of being pregnant?
The chances of you being or getting pregnant are slim but you should get a replacement pack of pills ASAP as it is important not to miss any pills. I would suggest if you miss more than one pill you have your boyfriend use a condom until you finish the next pack of pills.
Most women, about 80% ovulate somewhere between 7th and 21st day of of their cycle. The other 20% can ovulate at any time including during their period. If you know when you ovulate then you will know whether you were in your safe area for not getting pregnant.
If you are unsure and it is within 7 day of your last intercourse you could still take the plan B pill. It has been know to be effective up to 7 days past the last intercourse.
Of course I am not a doctor and it would be best to check with your GYN as well. Depending on how long you have been on the medication you might still have been protected and the doctor can advise you on the best way to restart your medication.
My 63 year old dad was recently diagnosed with early on-set Alzheimer’s. My family dynamic is not exactly easy to mobilize to help with the long haul we’re in for. I don’t live in the same state & my sister (who does) hasn’t been much help (outside of directions ive tried to put in place from time-time).
Making matters worse is my dads 20 year girlfriend. They own a house together and are technically in a legal “domestic partnership”). She has never been very supportive in any matter, let alone something like this. She still works and travels almost half the month for business leaving him at home for 2-3 days at a clip. All the while interacting with every man on social media when out of town. If you saw her FB, you wouldn’t even know he she is with anyone. No pictures of them. No check-ins, likes. They’re barely friends.
They have never really been too in love...more like convenient partners after each of their first divorces. We’ve begged him to leave her several times (prior to the his health concerns) to no avail. Even when we see the frustration & depression sinking in through the years. He does not want to be alone (which i fully understand).
My sister has always said they’d take care of him, have him live with them if ever needed but he has always been a stubborn one & would never agree.
Neither my sister or my dad’s gf have helped with the doctors, appointments, paperwork...
My father is getting worse. Is on medication (when he remembers to take it) and conversations are slowly becoming harder and harder with everyone.
I don’t know what to do.
I feel like I’m the only one that can diffuse the situation & lead things on the right path. It’s pretty impossible for me to move back home & every time i start the ball rolling with everyone, it always gets dropped and nothing progresses. It pretty much digresses every time and i have to start all over. My dad has alienated his friends and family over the years. Mostly because of the girlfriend. She always finds a way to piss them off one-by-one until they eventually stopped coming around completely.
He is on disability (gets something each month to live), has an ok (not exceptional) amount of money in savings, retirement plans that he can use (but hasn’t drawn from).
The main problem is the girlfriend. If we forced her out, it would lead a path for destruction. First, my father would be devastated if she ever left. They own a house together. Believes that he is and has always been in love with her. I’ve tried talking to the girlfriend, leveling with her, but she plays doe-eyed deer every time. Promising to help & take the lead, but never does. I’ve asked if nothing else if she could make sure medication is being taken & i still have no confirmation ever. She wouldn’t even take a morning off of work to drive him to a doctors appt & is completely manipulative. To her and pretty much everyone.
By not helping at all, she’s endangering my father every day. I’m trying to stay positive as much as possible, but the appearance is that she’s content with things this way. Uses it to her advantage some times, manipulating him by claiming she said or done things that i know 100% are inaccurate. She’s always been like this. And now it’s frightening to think she could be using it to her advantage every waking minute of the day because he won’t be remember most of it anyhow.
Should i be taking any preliminary legal actions at the moment (he refuses to sign a will by the way) in order to prepare for a fall-out with the girlfriend?
Should i hire a private detective to watch the girlfriend in case there is a domestic partnership battle over anything?
Has anyone had an experience like this with a difficult loved one & a manipulative spouse/partner?
Any advice at all would be sincerely appreciated! Thank you.
I'm sorry to hear that your father has been diagnosed with early on-set Alzheimer’s. It is a horrible disease one which his family must prepare to put him in a proper facility to care for him as unfortunately as spouses and children we are not able to care for Alzheimer’s patients once the disease takes full hold.
Your thought bout seeking legal help is the right one. You need to seek medical and financial power of attorney over him before his girlfriend has him sign papers giving her those rights. Since she is not his wife she, at the moment, has no legal standing for him. The sooner you ask the court to appoint you as his legal guardian in these matter the better it will be for both you and your family.
My suggestion is you quickly seek out a family law attorney familiar with the laws i the state your father lives in as well as where you live. Make sure you sibling(s) understand what your doing and why and that you are not trying to cheat then out of any inheritance that you will share equally. In fact ask the lawyer about if there is some legal way to put that in writing as without a will as his guardian I believe the state would award you his property so ask the attorney.
I know and I understand the thought of putting a loved one especially a parent in a nursing home is abhorrent to just about all of us. In this instance as abhorrent as it may be to you it is in the best interest of you dad to place him in a home that specializes in the care of Alzheimer’s patients. It would not be to early to start looking for one know and asking there advice on how the best way to make the transition.
Good luck and try not to get frustrated. You might consider a seeking out a psychologist for yourself to help you deal with the frustrations ahead of you.
I'm feeling pressure on my studies and it affects me badly. I can't find person who can understands me. What am I gonna do?
I have been where you are so I know how you are feeling. The unfortunate thing about depression is unless you have suffered with it you don't understand it. Most parents think it is a phase associated with puberty. In some cases they are correct and it corrects itself as you grow older mostly it doesn't. Finding some one that understands is hard.
Since you did not give your age I will have to give you two separate suggestions as to how to help yourself and get the help you need.
If you are in high school and your parents are not understanding how you feel there are several different ways you can get the help you need.
1. If you are in high school you are old enough to make an appointment to see your family doctor. Do so if you can get to the doctor on your own. When with the doctor explain you are feeling depressed and the doctor will test you for depression as well as give you a complete physical. Some depression is actually caused by a physical illness which is why the doctor will perform a complete physical.
2. If you can not get to your doctor then when in school talk to a trust teacher, your school Principal or some one in the guidance office. It is not uncommon for teenagers to suffer from teenage depression in high school; especially Juniors and seniors with all the pressure to prepare for college. School administrative are trained to be on the lookout for teenage depression and they will see to it you get the proper help.
3. If you feel suicidal pick up a phone and call 911 no matter where you are be it in school or at home. You do not need adult permission to call 911. Help will be sent to you.
If you are in college go to the health center. Tell them you are feeling depressed. They will arrange for you to see the proper medical professionals to help you.
1)If you feel suicidal pick up a phone and call 911 no matter where you are be it in school or at home. You do not need adult permission to call 911. Help will be sent to you.
There is also one very important thing you need to remember and understand about depression. When depressed our perception of things is not always as how the seem. Depression changes how we see things. It is important to remember this and to stop and think especially when things seem wrong to you.
Depression is not something you can cure yourself. You need the help of medical professionals. If you do I promise you there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I know this for I have been in the darkness of depression.
I am bisexual. I am female and dating a girl. I love her very much but I am afraid of commitment and I have never held a bf for more than 3 weeks. This is my first attempt as a gay couple. I don't know what to do.
Before I answer this question I really need to know your age. Based on what you have written you may be bi-sexual or you may be more in the experimental stages of learning about your sexuality.
If you are a young teenager it would be very wrong to label yourself with any sexual identification.Puberty has thrown a junkyard of hormones into your body that can and usually does cause confusion as to what your body is going through, telling you and needing.
Under the category of needing many think they need to have sex when masturbation is really all they need to do to satisfy the urges their having. Nothing wrong with masturbation it is actually quite healthy and it allows on to safely learn about their body and sexual needs.
If your a young person going through puberty it is not uncommon to experiment sexually with some one of the same sex. IT is actually quite common for both girls and boys. It is both safe and allows you to learn how to approach an be approached by and to the opposite sex.
Until you have actually had sex with both sexes do not label yourself. Now is not the time to run off and have sex with a boy just to find out if your are heterosexual or not. Now is the time of your say 17 or younger to experiment and learn about your sexuality.
As for not staying in a relationship very lone I would again not worry about it if you are closer to 13 then 17 this would be perfectly normal It would also be the boys fault more than yours for reasons ow what puberty is doing to him. In another rear maybe two his self confidence will have gotten better and he will trust himself more around a girl.
I played softball all four years of high school. My best friend did as well, but for a different team as we went to different schools. This resulted in a bit of a friendly rivalry.
Senior year rolled around. Our team was scheduled to play hers shortly after she pitched a no-hitter. I had the most home runs of anyone on my team and we were both feeling cocky. We'd also both been toying with the idea of going to a tattoo parlor once we were 18. This led to us making a bet. If I struck out against her, I'd have to get a tattoo of her choice. If she failed to strike me out the entire game, she'd have to get the tattoo of my choice.
I came so close to winning, but she struck me out in the 7th and final inning. Two months later, when I turned 18, I figured a bet is a bet. We went down to a local tattoo parlor and I got inked. To commemorate the fact that she owned my ass at the plate, the tattoo was of a softball with her name and jersey number on it, and I got it on my left butt cheek.
Fast forward five years. A lot has happened since then. For one, I'm now engaged. My friend has also died. She was killed in a car accident three years ago. Since then, this tattoo has taken on a new significance. It's more than just a funny story I've related to the handful of people who've seen it. It's a part of her that'll always be with me.
Since our engagement, my fiance has been pressuring me to get it removed. He never had any problem with it before and I'm not sure why it's suddenly such a big deal for him as he never really gives me a straight answer. I don't have any intention of getting it removed and I don't want it to be a source of friction between us, so now I'm lost. What should I do?
I do not understand why this tattoo bothers your fiance; especially the significance it now has for you as a remembrance of a close friend lost.
The only thing I can think of that might bother him about the Tat and this would depend on where it is located on your butt. If it can be seen when wearing a bathing suit suit it could put him in the position of having people, especially people who know him but not you of who that guy is the tat is for.That is what most people will thin when they see it and not know it is know a remembrance for a female friend.
Today more then any time in history do any of us not have a sexual history. Very few people come to the marital bed virgins. IF that Tattoo can be seen while wearing a bathing suit that could be the problem he is having that it could be looked at as an advertisement of past sexual adventures.
Call this a Wild Ass Guess on my part for I can think of no other reason for the tattoo to bother him. My advise is to sit down an talk to him. Ask him to be honest with you. Should the reason be one that it might be seen by people he would rather not see it ask him would he be okay if you not just had it removed bet re-inked in a place that only you and he could see and tell him why it is important to you.