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Feeling aimless and depressed
Hey Advicenators team,
I am a fresher in IT industry who recently got a job through campus. I was a bright kid, got multiple offers from MNCs and chose one which seemed best. I completed my 3 month training with great scores. I landed up in a project which was messed up from the word go. I had a boss who was abusive, would not help, and i had to be with him constantly for the meetings,I was trained on say "A" and was working "B" which are like completely opposite. I wasn't learning much either, because i was made to sit around for long hours, with my role not at all defined. I had 3 issues, i had to travel 2+ hours, was working more than 12+ hours, and again travel back home, i was working weekends too with no pay.I ended up having a complete burnout and a breakdown, i was puking for weeks daily since i was stressed with lack of food.I explained this to the HR who just said i was making excuses. My breakdown however happened in front of my managers who were very kind in giving me medical assistance, ensuring i reached home and allowed me to be at home & recover. I understand we have to struggle in the earlier phases of life, but i do not have any idea, if this is my aim in life. I don't want to lead a meaningless life by working like a maniac for the rest of my life and eventually die.There seemed no positive in what i was doing.I told my parents i wanted to complete my Master's degree abroad and get a job with better work culture. My mom is supportive. My dad however he may sound supportive, doesn't really make sense, i said i wish to quit and do some courses, he said stay in the job, hunt for a new one, do something there, since u are a fresher and nobody will employ you. I told him but i wish to get a Master's degree, and i will get a job, don't worry. (My dad has been unemployed for 10 years now and my mom is the only earner in a fmly of 3). I feel really depressed since whatever i discuss eith my father is just pointless as it leads to my criticism and past failures. I wish to to do something great in life, wish to make a contribution where i could make the world a better llace but i am stuck here. I do not know what to do,feel aimless in life and whatever i decide is just throw out the window.My dad isn't backing me up,My mom is just too busy with work to provide us food/cloth/shelter, so i don't disturb her. She is very supportive of me though and trusts me. I never have betrayed her trust too. i feel even worse, with a good-for-nothin job, no support and no one to talk to. Please help ! (PS: i have fought depression earlier and come out of it)
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No job is worth ruining your health over. Find a job you love and you will never work a day in your life. These are two sayings that have real meaning. If you are ruining your health over a job you will never perform to peak potential and always be on the edge of being terminated. Find a job you truly enjoy doing and you will never work a day in your life for if you love your job it is not really that much of a labor.
Your dad is right in one respect. Finding another job is easier if you are employed. If you are out of school and have been employed and now unemployed you have to have a reason that is meaningful and verifiable to your future employer.
Get more education is never wrong. My question is why do you need to go abroad to do so. Is it not possible to get your Master's closer to home. It would be less expensive. With a Masters Degree better jobs with better pay and benefits will be open to you.
While my suggestion to you is to follow your desire for a higher degree I think it would be better to do so closer to home. Stay in your present job and start sending resumes to those companies you turned down first starting with those closest to your home.
If you are planning to enter into a masters program within the next semester and leave a employment situation then do not look for new job. Stick it out with this employer and give them 2 weeks notice when you plan on leaving.
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