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I don't feel anything for this girl
I'm a seventeen year old girl. I went to a Valentines dance on Friday with a girl that asked me. I have never been with a girl romantically before. During the dance, we were touchy, and did make out in the hallway. The thing is, I think she feels something, and I don't. I didn't feel love or disgust. Just nothing. I'm so scared to say anything to her about it. I think I might be straight. I'm just so confused! I have no idea what to do.
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for my advice for you is that you need to talk to her let her down easy . tell her how you feel bout this situation you are confused you have to decide to be straight or bi . but my advice for you is to follow your heart whichever you may decide .
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You do not owe anyone a relationship or sex for that matter just because they asked you out or asked you to be their girlfriend.
So the best thing is as Adviceman said and tell her what you told us.
In many hetero or same sex people, there is something that happens pretty often, where one person is interested and would swear they feel a connection to the other while the other person does not feel any romantic connection, feels no chemistry or spark at all with the other. In my life, I have met many folks who are gay and there is no way to know that they are. They don't act a different way or dress or look any different. This makes it hard for a gay or bi person to find someone. Its a guessing game for them half the time. So she may have felt something for you and thought to ask and decided if you say no you are straight and if you say yes, that you are gay or bi. You do not want her to believe you still are or you may have other gay females hitting up on you until that is made clear.
So as already told, you need to ask yourself some questions. With sex, it matters which sex you are attracted to, enjoy ogling (looking at) and fantasize about. If women, you're gay, if men you
re straight, if both, you might be bisexual.
How can you know without having been in a dating relationship or having sex yet with any?
Because the mind is part of the sexual experience and has been called another sex organ. For example,If our thoughts are on a female and we are female and we find those thoughts get us horny and wet, then most likely you are gay.
Bot please do not mix this up with thoughts that center around what feels to you like forbidden or dirty or a no-no because focusing on those scenerios in your mental fantasies can arouse you for masturbation but many of these, we wouldn't want to do or experience in real life. A good example is woman find it erotic to fantasize about a man forcing her but being raped in real life is not an erotic experience, quite the opposite. So it would have to be thoughts that are consistant for you, not a onetime imagined thing.
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Honesty is the best policy. Tell her exactly what you wrote here. That you went with her because she asked you and that you had never been with a girl before.That afterwards you felt she might have feelings for you that you can't return as you did not feel anything for her in any manor.
As for being straight you are not might be. Doctors and scientists agree that someone who is Gay or Lesbian is this way at birth and knows this about themselves long before puberty. Being gay is not something you wake up one morning and decide to be.
As for being bisexual the the professionals are split on this. Some feel that to be bisexual you are born that way. While others feel that bisexuals are straight sexually and have learned to enjoy six with their same sex.
So the question you need to ask yourself is; Why did you accept her invitation?Do you prefer boys? When you masturbate do you fantasize about doing so with girls? I believe when you answer these questions your answer will be you are straight but wanted to see if you had any feeling for the same sex. If so don't worry about it. At some time in our lives we all wonder about it and many if not most experiment with the same sex just to satisfy ourselves of an answer.
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