I like fairies (thus why I am wearing fairy wings in the picture). Good grammar rocks, too. It doesn't have to be perfect but I get frustrated when people completely disregard it. I like every color except pink. I hate the wind. Sometimes, I carry around a little teddy bear I found at an antique store. His name is Robert. I dress very eccentrically. It's not unusual for me to wear a prairie dress one day and a Mod dress (think Austin powers) the next. I don't dye my hair, or wear much make-up. I think it's sad that no one puts any emphasis on natural beauty anymore. I think it's a good thing to be open and educated about sex and other issues that are considered taboo. I have a hard time seeing where homophobics are coming from.
Basically, I'm just some weird teenager in Arizona. If I haven't scared you off already, feel free to drop me a line. -Danielle
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If you have sex while on your period can you still get pregnant? and if so what is the likely hood? Or if you use a condom? (link)
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Wow. I don't agree with the information below at all. During your period, you are the least likely to get pregnant out of any other time during your cycle. This isn't to say you can't get pregnant. There is still a chance- but you are most fertile when you are ovulating. You can't ovulate and be on your period at the same time. Typically ovulation occurs sometime during the week after your period, but it really depends on your cycle and how long you have in between periods. You can tell when you're ovulating if you get this really weird, incredibly sticky discharge. In other words, you can get pregnant at any time, but during ovulation is the highest risk.
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okay well my friend is going through a rough time right now. her boyfriend just told her that he is gonna kill himself cause he wants to but he wont tell her why. he was starting to but then he just stoped typing ( it was on AIM ) the ages are 12. do you think he seriously could of meant it. cause he said he really wanted to cut himself also. & she is so worried about him because she loves him so much and she doenst want to loose him. any advice that i could tell her to do. that would be helpful thankks
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He's probably not serious, but you best tell his parents anyway. He obviously needs some type of help even if he's not really going to kill himself. And if they get pissed off at you, remind him that that's the consequence for saying you're going to end your life. If it's a life or death situation, it needs to be taken seriously.
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my mom is plannin on takin me to the doctor this week. she wants to take me to make sure i am not sexual active.. my questions are
1) i dont want my mom to be in the room wit me while the doctor is there. how can i tell the doctor with out lettin my mom hear. she wants to be in there but i dont want her to be and i know if i tell her that i dont she will get mad.
2) can a doctor really know if u are sexual active? otherwors noe that you had sex once..
i heard that isnt true because you can pop your cherry wearing a tampon
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A doctor can't truly know if you're sexually active unless you tell him or her. Many times girls are born without a hymen or it was broken from a tampon or some other physical activity like riding a horse. As for your mother, the best thing I can tell you is to reassure her that you are not sexually active, you just really don't want her in the room during the visit. Technically, she can't force you to let her be there. If you tell the doctor you don't want her there, the doctor will ask her to leave. That's no guarentee she won't be angry, though. Really, what your mother doing is potentially detrimental to your health. If you are, in fact, sexually active, threatening to be there would just make you want to lie about it, and then the doctor can't really help you. You're just going to have to make the decision yourself... are you willing to risk your mother being angry at you for a while so that you are absolutely sure about your health and comfortable at this visit? Or would you rather risk it just to avoid your mother's childish wrath?
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I just saw the movie "Edward Scissorhands" with Johnny Depp and it was wonderful. For those who have seen it, I didn't get the end...when Kim as an old woman says "I don't know whether he's alive or not" and then they show Edward making an ice statue of her dancing in the snow, was she having a flashback, or was the film showing Edward at that moment she was talking? (link)
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The others already said that it was at that moment... but the purpose of that clip showing him cutting ice during the present is to show why she wouldn't want to see him now. She's this old lady who looks very different while he has stayed the same, and still lives the same type of life. They wouldn't have as much in common anymore and it would upset him to see how she has changed and he hasn't.
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My mom never lets me leave the house. I can't convince her to, and since I have to stay around the house all day, what can I do besides watch TV and movies all day?
P.S.-I'm only allowed on the phone and computer for 30 minutes a day, and if I do one, I can't do the other. (link)
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Hmm...that's kind of odd when you think about it. I can't see how watching tv all day is better for you than... well...anything. Sounds like she has some control issues, because she's obviously not keeping your mental health in mind.
You could start working out. You know, push ups, sit ups, running around in your backyard...anything that doesn't need equipment you don't already have.
You could start following around your mom driving her nuts until she can't take it anymore! No...I'm just kidding about that one. But it would be kind of funny.
Writing, gardening, drawing, reading, cleaning, baking, or teaching yourself to play music are also possible alternatives.
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This may sound silly but, I just got a new hamster.. He is black and has a white line on his tummy. I was just wondering if anyone has any cute names for a black boy hamster that are unique.
Thankz! :) (link)
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I had a male black bear hamster... I named him Ichabod. (as in Ichabod Crane from Sleepy Hollow)
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Alright, Im going to preface this by saying, Im not your average asshole guy who thinks the world loves him, so temper your responses as if youre talking to someone who is reasonable and who approaches things with a relatively open mind.
So, Im in this relationship. One in a long line of similar ones, I have a tendancy to get into the serious kind, and my girlfriends tend to stick around for the better side of a year. My current and I are just about at the 18 month mark.
We have hit this point where I am comfy. I like talking to her, and having her around, and doing the cute little couple things,but I also like my space, and try to communicate that to her in a non hostile or not "get off my back" toned way. I try to just let her know gently when I need to just chill out and not be sitting on the couch with her in my lap.
But she, on the other hand, just cant seem to get enough. She wants me to hold her from the second I get home until the second I leave for work the next day, and generally suffocates me.
Now, Im pointing out what she does, but this behaviour has led to EVERY SINGLE BREAK UP Ive had in the last 8 years. 6 ltrs and a few month - 2 month beginnings. Girls hit this point where they want you around them 24/7, and excuse me if I like my partners to be _part_ of my life and not the entire focus of it.
So as I said, Im not an uncaring person. I cuddle after sex, I like laying together and watching a movie, I give her a massage nearly every night, but I dont want to be wrapped around ANYONE every second that Im not at work. I hate my job, and at times I enjoy going to get a respite from her. Its fucking ridiculous!
So, what the hell should I do? I mean, Im not going to say theres something wrong with me. Hell, I would say that Im more affectionate on a regular basis than the average guy I know, but I like a few hours a day to sit at the computer and play games, or to take a hot shower _alone_ or maybe, just maybe, fall asleep in a position thats comfortable to me, not that makes her feel like my teddy bear.
I cant figure it out. Are all girls like this? Or do I just have some wierd attraction to girls who do this and havent figured it out? I dont know. But its the reason I keep having to end relationships, and I like this girl, I dont want to break up with her because shes suffocating me.
Angry women responding saying Im a pig, or that I dont deserve her, or anything else of an un-thought out and abrasive nature will get a one and an angry riposte. (link)
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You said that you kind of tried to gently hint to her that this wasn't working for you, and she's not really getting the hint. So I guess... you just need to go about it slowly. Try talking her again and saying everything straight out.. but don't start every sentence with "I need" "I want"... that might put her off from listening too closely. Say something like..' Lately, I've been feeling like you think I'm going to hurt you. I'm not going to leave you. I'm not going to do anything like that. We've come this far and I think it would be in both of our best interests to keep going... and to have our space while doing so. This change won't happen over night, of course, but being together does not mean that our lives have become one, it means that we are sharing them. Let's start planning some alone time so that we don't spoil this good thing that we have by beating the life out of it. You can't love others if you can't love yourself, and you can't love yourself if you don't even slightly know yourself. I can't know myself if I am never alone.'
That's a lot but just to give you some ideas I wrote a bunch of different things. After you talk to her, see if anything changes. If shes starts to grow resentful, keep reminding her it's not anything personal, you just need time to yourself and it's in no way saying you're trying to push her away. If she shows no sign of change after a couple or few weeks, keep persistently talking to her about it but with more urgency. If she can't listen to your wishes though, it's like anything else... you'll just have to break up with her. A partner's job is to listen to what the other needs and to respect it and to make sacrifices for them... and if she can't do that, then, you tried, and she just couldn't deliver.
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Well, my friend "Sarah" likes this boy named "Jason" in our youth group. She made it clear that he is her territory, though he doesn't like her like that at all. My friend "Kia" is "Jason's" brother, who is my best friend. She told me that "Jason" likes me, and I like him. The sad thing is, our youth group strictly is against dating, so it wouldn't really go anywhere even if we tell each other.
So what it all boils down to is, "Sarah" doesn't know I like "Jason", and I'm going to keep it that way. I just don't want her getting mad at me when we flirt with eachother ((b/c we do ALOT)). I don't want to make her mad, but I don't think she should run my life just b/c she likes him.
What do I do?!! (link)
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Your friend is immature for claiming him for her "territory," but at the same time, why make it into a big deal if it's not going to go anywhere? Flirt if you want..just try not to in front of your friend so much to avoid confrontation. Telling him that you like him probably won't do much and it would probably get spread around and come back to your friend.
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I don't think there's enough questions on advicenators that mention abortions. I assume there's more females on this site then males, so why does it seem like there are mainly pro-life supporters? We're women. Women with so many choices and laws that allow us those choices. I agree in having your own opinion, but never force it onto someone else. If someone is considering an abortion, why talk them out of it, bringing it up as a sin and disgusting? I'm proud to be pro-choice & you'd think nowadays more women would be. Why aren't you? (link)
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While I am pro choice, I think bringing this up in this sort of way is just asking for trouble and you worded it sort of vindictively even if you didn't mean it to sound that way. You say you're for other people having an opinion, but you're clearly kind of attacking pro life people. Why are they pro life? Because it's what they believe and it just falls under their system of morals. One question on advicenators won't talk them out of it. I hate when they push their opinions on us, but we shouldn't push ours on them either. All you can really do is keep your head up and continue to hold onto your beliefs.
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Ok- I'm 5'3 and weigh 123. Am i really overweight? I gained 20 pounds over the summer..and ihave been trying to get it off ever since. I run 2 miles everyday, and it made a bit of difference, but not the results i thought would come. Please help. I'll rate high . Thanks. (link)
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You likely gained the weight since your body is changing. I'm really happy to see a girl that is not starving herself in order to lose weight! Keep on running... you'll see results eventually. You're not overweight, but it's still good to stay in shape. :)
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I'm going to Europe for a week and I need some cute outfits. I want to have some really adorable outfits for this trip. I need night outfits along with day outfits that aren't too pricey. I don't want you to just tell me "a pink shirt with white capris". I want actual outfits with the links. The first 8 outfits I recieve are automatic 5s with feedback. Thanks. (link)
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I really like this web site: http://www.pinupgirlclothing.com/ ... I'd tell you a specific outfit but I like all of them. It's just nice to have a cute little dress to go out to dinner in. Google Urban Outfitters, too. Sometimes they can have some good stuff.
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I am very upset by a particular rating that I received and this is more of a statement than a question. I guess this one is simply the straw that broke the camels back because in every answer I give I honestly hope I am helping someone in some way or at least opening a whole new avenue of thought process that may lead to the answer that will help them. I do not think myself impervious to mistakes. I know I make them and unfortunately will make them again. In the past I would stick to those "feel good" questions only to try to keep my ratings up. I don't feel good about that because it isn't really an honest effort at being there for people. I've started answering questions of a more controversial manner. Now my ratings are plummeting. unfortunately we cannot truly try to help mentally ill people because we can't always tell them what they want to hear and if we don't we are punished for our efforts through ratings. (I have included the article for you to view and my 2nd response she is going to give me an even lower rating for my second one.) I wasn't nice, though I didn't use inappropriate language and I was honestly trying to wake her up though I know it's no good. I want you all to know that from my heart I am here to help people no matter how misguided it may be at times. I post this because I am concerned that there are people who ask questions that they do not want to truly know the answer to. They want us to give them flowery feel good answers that won't help them at all. They simply want us to play into their illusions and allow them to repeat and perpetuate their problems rather than help them. I realize there needs to be some kind of governing system that keeps everyone in check. If they didn't have them this whole site would be in an uproar all the time and people would be truly mean to each other rather than helpful. I for one never say anything to be mean but to be helpful, even if it may come across mean. But, this system isn't fair to those of us who make an honest effort and yet I don't have the answer as to how to make it better, I wish I did. Now, below is my response only. I didn't think it appropriate to repost someone else's question. But to sum it up the question was written by a 15 yr/o girl who got in a fight w/another girl in school. The other girl posted her picture on the net by posting naked pictures w/her face imposed upon them. This 15 yr/o says this girl tried to ruin her rep, but she ruined her life instead and got her kicked off student council. She doesn't go into what her actions were, but whatever they were it lead the school to believe that she needed counseling. Her mental health professional diagnosed her as being a sociopath and she couldn't believe it. She felt that it was the other girl and not her that was the sociopath. She rated me a 2 and said that she didn't care if I had ADHD or had been diagnosed w/depression. This question was about her. Here is my response and my counter response:
A sociopath is someone who can fit in well w/society and mimic appropriate behavior because they are taught to. They can be extremely popular and likeable. They don't have empathy for others or remorse for what they do. They can't deal with the reality of their behavior and can't accept their flaws. They are talented in turning things around on people and making it appear to others that they are responsible for what is going on so that they don't have to take responsibility for their own behavior. It's less painful that way. They are really good with the technique of projection. This means that they project their flaws onto others and say things like "I'm not the sociopath, she is", or blaming others for why they have to do whatever it is that they are doing, such as your blaming this girl for your getting her into trouble. They do not consider other people's wishes, welfare or rights because they are incapable of understanding or caring about the damage they impart onto others. They usually make great serial killers.
Now having said all of that...I don't know where a mental health professional gets off telling a teenager that she's a sociopath. All teenagers are sociopaths. They are always laying blame elsewhere and doing truly mean things to each other w/o remorse. They do not want to take responsibility for their behavior and blame others. They lie and have no empathy for others and their situation. They are narcissistic and think the world revolves around them...AND THAT is normal. That's being a teenager. Oh, man, some of the things I use to do when I was young...I look back and can't believe it was me. I could never hurt anyone today physically or mentally. I was a cheerleader too. I had this one guy pay me $5 a week so I wouldn't beat him up. It was simply pathetic some of the things I did and said to people back then. At the same time I had some kids under my protection too (they didn't have to pay anything I just liked them). It's an unfortunate part of growing up. I was diagnosed w/ depression and as an adult w/ADHD (they didn't have this diagnoses when I was a child). It's up to the adults to help young people see where behavior is problematic and personally I don't think you are a sociopath. That's an awfully strong diagnosis. Most mental health care professionals won't diagnose this until a person is an adult. I think you suffer from a well known condition which is simple to diagnose, you're a TEENAGER. Yes, I know, that in itself is pretty scary, but that's all I think that is going on. If it were up to me I would insist on a second opinion. You would be w/in your rights and deservedly so. Just because someone is a therapist does not mean they know what they are talking about all of the time. Also, you might want to take a second look at your behavior in all of this too. Even though this girl did some pretty appalling things, you might need to look at what you did and how you did it. Were your actions the best course of action? Could you have achieved your goals w/o stooping to her level? I agree, she needed to be punished for what she did. That was not right, but there are always other ways to achieve the same goals. I can't go into them because I don't know what you did that lead your school to recommend counseling. It had to be pretty big considering what that girl did to you. Whatever you do, don't let someone else label you. We do that too much in this country and once someone is labeled they start becoming the label. You were hurt and reacting out of anger. Sometimes we let the anger cloud our better judgment. Sounds to me you need more anger management counseling then labeling. I feel for you in all of this. Don't loose sight of who you are and you know deep down who that is. Don't let anyone's mis-diagnosis take that away from you.
IF YOU HAD READ MY ANSWER COMPLETELY WITH HEART AND COMPASSION (WHICH YOU OBVIOUSLY DON'T HAVE)YOU WOULD HAVE SEEN THAT I WAS SHOWING YOU HOW, I THOUGHT, YOU WEREN'T A SOCIOPATH. YOUR LACK OF APPRECIATION AND UNDERSTANDING AS WELL AS YOUR INABILITY TO SEE THAT THIS WHOLE ANSWER WAS ABOUT YOU ONLY PROVES TO ME THAT YOUR DIAGNOSIS BY YOUR MENTAL HEALTH AUTHORITY WAS CORRECT. YOU ARE AN UNGRATFUL AND HEARTLESS PERSON AND NEEDS SERIOUS HELP. I WAS SHARING AND RELATING ONLYTO SHOW YOU THAT IT HAPPENS TO EVERYONE. YOUR NARCASISTIC ATTITUTE PROVES THAT YOU NEED SERIOUS HELP AND I DO HOPE THAT YOU GET IT. YOU'RE A SAD, SAD PERSON WHO I DO BELIEVE IS BEYOND HELP AS ARE ALL SOCIOPATHS AND YOUR RESPONCE TO AN HONEST EFFORT AT HELPING YOU ONLY PROVES IT TO BE SO. TO ALL MY READERS, I APOLOGIZE, BUT I AM TIRED OF UNGRATEFUL SPOILED PEOPLE WHO SET US UP SO THAT THEY CAN FEEL BETTER ABOUT THEMSELVES BY PUTTING US DOWN. I FELT SHE NEEDED A GOOD TALKING TO, EVEN THOUGH I REALIZE IT WILL DO NO GOOD.
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If you seem to like honest advice so much, then I will give you my honest opinion.
By dwelling on them so much, you're just letting them win anyway. Yeah, it's shitty to get a low rating for absolutely no reason. I've had people swearing at me and others when none of us said anything remotely controversial. But who cares? They're dumb f***ing people that you'll never meet. Why are you letting them take up your time? ... By writing a post that dwells so long on this I start to wonder if maybe you just have too much time on your hands. I already feel like I have too much spending any time on this site, let alone if I wrote an entry as long as what you just wrote. Seriously, it's not that big of a deal. Get over it.
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whats the difference between wild and crazy?
what does it means when someone said your wild? or crazy?
im from japan and still studying english. (link)
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Generally, if you call someone wild, you're just saying that one follows his or her own path. They don't conform to the rules as much... they might be a little rebellious.
Crazy can have negative undertones. If you call someone crazy, you might think they're unreasonable and in extreme cases mentally insane. "Wild" does not imply this.
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This weekend I'm going on a date with my best friend (haha, I know) and he's taking me to center city, philadelphia and we're seeing a show, eating at a nice (expensive)place, and going shopping around town. I need some tips on what to wear, how to present myself, but MAINLY the proper etiquette for eating a nice place, and the show... I don't need dating tips, I just need to learn how to act like a PROPER YOUNG LADY, because I was never taught manners, and my friend is totally brought up well and he's very very proper. Thank you! (link)
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This may not seem helpful to you, but think about it this way. Your best friend is already best friends with you- indicating that he already likes you just fine the way you are. If his proper ways really clashed with your informal ways so much, you wouldn't be best friends. You just need to be yourself, the same person he agreed to go on the date with. I mean, there are the obvious faux pas like not burping for everyone to hear or snorting when you laugh, but even sometimes in a nice setting it could be even funnier. hahaha. Just act the same since he's the same best friend you've always had, even if he might be turning into a boyfriend as well.
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Hi, I'm 15 and I really want to get a rhinoplasty(nose job) for my sweet 16, which is coming up in a few weeks. My parents are saying that i'm too young and that my nose is fine(typical), but i'm really not comfortable with it. I'm filipino and you know how our noses are;). My question is should i wait until i'm older, or should i get one now? and are there any side effects? and is it possible to be fully sedated when it happens? (link)
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Please don't get plastic surgery. It's always a better indicator anyway that if you want something that permanent done to see if your desire for it lasts for longer than brief flash of time. Wait until you're at least 18 or 19 to seriously think about doing this... especially because your face is still changing and it has a chance of improving.
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ok well.. i met this friend on the internet.. she love billie joe armstrong like i do... but she is saying she is going to california for the summer and is going to STALK him and search through his garbage!!!!!!I told her that is wrong and he had a right to his own privacy... but then.... he's hot!(laughing) well... i know that is freaky.. and she is getting herself into some serious trouble.. she said she wouldn't do it.. but my main question is.. what kind of trouble will she get into? (link)
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Technically there was a supreme court decision saying that garbage is public. (obviously if his garbage is behind locked gates on his property that's another story). However, your friend sounds a bit dumb and I wouldn't talk to her. Obsessions like that aren't healthy. Stalking could definitely get her into trouble... people get arrested for stalking celebrities all the time. Honestly, she'd probably just get a slap on the wrist if she's a teenage girl because she's practically harmless, even if terribly creepy, but it's still generally not a good habit to get into stalking celebrities. As someone who has grown up around them, they're not really that much more different from everyone else a lot of the time so the concept just seems plain ridiculous.
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I'm a university student, but not in America, so I'm a bit confused by some of the info mentioned in questions at Advicenators. Also, if I ever study overseas, knowing this in detail will come in handy.
1) Is there a difference between 'college' and 'university' in an American context? (I'm presuming also that 'college' differs from 'vocational college', but is that correct?)
2) What are 'liberal arts' as studied in America? Do they play an important part in a standard university degree?
3) How many years does a general university degree (such as B. Arts) usually last, and in that length of time, how many majors are usually completed?
I already have some preconceptions of American tertiary education, but I expect they're wrong for the most part, so all clarification is appreciated. =) (link)
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Sometimes a college refers to a specialty school, but other times it simply refers to a smaller school where the same type of degrees can be obtained. For example, the differences between Colorado College versus University of Colorado are mainly concerned with size and type of institution (public or private). This might seem a little vague, but if you would like to look the schools up to see other differences try a college database like princetonreview.com/
Liberal arts are anything other than professional programs (e.g. nursing, business, engineering, etc.), they are programs such as the natural sciences (although normally emphasis is placed on the humanities), literature, philosphy, art, mathematics, etc.; there tends to be a general trend towards incorporating a basic groundwork of the liberal arts in at least freshman year at most institutions, but there are those that exist that do not facilitate such a program. In reference to liberal arts schools, they emphasize critical thinking and writing.
A B.A. degree ideally takes 4 years to get, but it takes some people 5 or 6 years if they do not have enough credits per semester. 1 major is usually completed during this time, but some opt for a double major.
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okay, here I am, there are some guys, who are kinda my -best-friends... they like me, and I don't know which one to go out with, please, help me pick one:
a) Fred: he's very calm and quiet, not speak a word. He only speaks to me and tells me only about his problems. Very cold hearted, yet nice at the same time. He has been crushing on me since fourth grade.
b) Tao: he's very popular and sensitive, he tells me everything and so do I. He always breaks up with his girlfriends anytime I'm available. He has been crushing on me since sixth grade.
c) Yoh: my ex-boyfriend. we broke up because of misunderstanding and now he wants to get back with me. He is sensitive, understadable, and nice. He's been crushing on me since fifth grade.
d) Leo: one of the nicest person to me. He's romantic and friendly. He's been waiting for me ever since sixth grade. That when he's been crushing me from.
e) Tony: a friend from kindergarten. He's so nice, sensitive, and popular. He's been crushing on me since eigth grade.
f) Richie: my ex-boyfriend in seventh grade. He's smart, intelligent, and super rich. He's been crushing on me since sixth grade.
g) Reid: my ex-boyfriend in sixth grade. He's popular, girls love him and stuffs, and he's athletic. He's been crushing on me since second grade.
They all are confessing love to me!! (They all go to different school, so if I date all of them, there won't be any problems, but I can't do that!!) Help me!!! (link)
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d or e. a does not seem to fit with you well, and ex-boyfriends are just asking for it. Might as well start something new and fun. b breaks up with his girlfriends for you- that doesn't sound loyal to me. he may be loyal to you, but he's not loyal to other gf's and that doesn't paint a good picture.
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my boyfriend(19) and I(18) have been together over 2 months and he suggested sleeping together this weekend. We're both virgins but we discussed contraception etc and i do feel ready for it but my university entrance exams are in two weeks and are the most important exams i will ever do. I think ill be too stressed to be able to enjoy it and id like to wait til after the exams. (a month or so) he says he doesnt mind and ive said id like to do other stuff with him but i still feel as if an innocence is gone from our relationship and its made me very depressed.I feel like the issue is hanging in the air and that sex is all that matters.How can I clear the air?please help,i cant study properly for exams! (link)
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Well, to me, sex is as innocent is anything else... you just have to think of it as such. In this case I think it is anyway, because you and your boyfriend seem to love each other and like you're handling this in an intelligent manner. If you're worried about the idea of sex consuming your relationship, just pose that idea with him. Being completely open with him will get so much off your chest, and you should be able to do that anyway if you trust him enough to give your virginity to him. Tell him that while you're all for having sex once the stress lets up, you're afraid in the mean time that the relationship will just become based off of that one silly occasion that probably won't even be that great anyway. (First times never really are). Do romantic things like what you might have done at the beginning of your relationship and try to reinstate that feeling of love and security. If you're still feeling like this by the time you're thinking of having sex, I'd suggest putting it off a little longer.
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Ok, so there is this guy that I really like and he knows that I like him and about 5 or 6 months ago I asked him out and he said that he would think about it and he never gave me an answer. Recently he told his friends that i was ugly and he would never go out with me. So now I want to get over him. How can I do that? (link)
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Well, why would you want to date someone who had no respect for you? What he said was really mean and hurtful. Realize that you'd never want that in a guy and try to find a guy who will appreciate you. I mean, even if this jerk came up to you at this point and said nevermind I want to date you, do you really think it would go well with the insecurity that he might think you're ugly in the back of your mind? He's just the totally wrong guy. Feel lucky that you didn't get stuck with a superficial jerk like him.
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