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my mom is plannin on takin me to the doctor this week. she wants to take me to make sure i am not sexual active.. my questions are
1) i dont want my mom to be in the room wit me while the doctor is there. how can i tell the doctor with out lettin my mom hear. she wants to be in there but i dont want her to be and i know if i tell her that i dont she will get mad.
2) can a doctor really know if u are sexual active? otherwors noe that you had sex once..
i heard that isnt true because you can pop your cherry wearing a tampon
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sticky situation because i know what you mean..if youu ask your mom to leave she will think you aree hiding something. my advice to you is maybe call the office a couple days before you go and tell the receptionist your extreme request to have the doctor ask her to leave on his/her own..so it doesnt put you in a bad spot.
or just say no you are not sexually active. its pretty simple. are you going to the gyno? because if you are, thenn they can tell if you are a virgin. If it turns out your mom wont leave the room and she asks the gyno (im pretty sure the gyno will keep it confidential) but if for some crazy reason the gyno tells her (trust me i dont think she will..there are confidentiality laws out there) then simply blame it on tampons.
if you arent goin to the gyno you have no worries because the doctor is not going to check you down there.
it will be fine..and remember the confidentiality laws are out there to protect you
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A doctor can't truly know if you're sexually active unless you tell him or her. Many times girls are born without a hymen or it was broken from a tampon or some other physical activity like riding a horse. As for your mother, the best thing I can tell you is to reassure her that you are not sexually active, you just really don't want her in the room during the visit. Technically, she can't force you to let her be there. If you tell the doctor you don't want her there, the doctor will ask her to leave. That's no guarentee she won't be angry, though. Really, what your mother doing is potentially detrimental to your health. If you are, in fact, sexually active, threatening to be there would just make you want to lie about it, and then the doctor can't really help you. You're just going to have to make the decision yourself... are you willing to risk your mother being angry at you for a while so that you are absolutely sure about your health and comfortable at this visit? Or would you rather risk it just to avoid your mother's childish wrath?
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Tell your doctor you don't feel comfortable answering these questions in front of your mom when your back there. She will have to make your mom leave. A doctor can't tell if you have had sex or not. But you're right, they can tell if your cherry has been popped. But you can pop your cherry by doing many other things other than having sex, or in any way being sexually active.
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Ok, to my knowledge yes a doctor can check to see if your still a virgin.
You can only pop your cherry yourself if you stick something in you far enough, if your cherry is very low to the opening of your vagina or if you play a lot of sports or are very active that way..
to get rid of your mom while your getting checked i dont know if thats gonna be possible if you dont want her to know that you said that
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okay, i think it's completely normal for you not to want your mom in there. why?? it's embarrasing & you already have the doctor in there. some girls prefer someone else being in the room with them, some don't. i think when you go in, have your mom go with you & before they start doing anything, tell her that you'll be more comfortable & relaxed if she waited outside. that way, the doctor hears you saying that & might suggest her to leave. she probably won't get mad at this. juss explain to her you don't want a "crowd". you juss don't want a lot of people & it would be awkward. since she's a girl & has been through it, she'll understand. doctors can't truly know if you're sexually active er not, unless you have a STD er your pregnant er something. there's no clear sign saying "she had sex". yes, girls cherries can pop by using a tampon, wearing tight clothing in that area, riding a horse, running, etc. this isn't the case for some people, but for some it is. your doctor can't say anything without your permission so don't worry about it.
-hope that helped!♥
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