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Am i a slut @ age 14 aka "my seven deadly sins"
Okay I'm 14 years old and this summer has been like the crazziest summer. Okay these are the things I did just in 2 weeks
1.Gave a blow job in a public restroom
2.Had sex in a public restroom
3.Flashed a lot a guys at a public pool
4.Sent nude Photo's to atleast 7 different guys
5.Had a 3some (2 other guys)
6.madeout with a way older guy
7.Did a lot of ohter "things" in public places
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She needs to except that fact then that yes, she is a slut, and she needs to stop thinking what she is doing is "cool" and realize what name she is giving herself.
She wants attention, simple as that. But that is not the way to go about getting it.
Your friend is a slut, and her self esteem should not go down by hearing that, because she should know already. She should take it as a reality check that being a slut does not make you popular in the best sense.
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Sadly yes hard to believe you're only 14 and its a stupid question you should already know the answer.
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Well, yes.
You might wanna slow down a bit.
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According to the dictionary...yes.
slut
(slŭt) pronunciation
n.
1. A person, especially a woman,
considered sexually promiscuous.
If all this is true you need to
stop before you really make a name
for yourself around town.
Soon you won't be able to get a date.
If you do it will be for only one thing.
Guys will use and abuse you, then
move on to a girl they aren't
ashamed to be seen with.
Girls won't want to be your friend
because most normal girls won't
want your reputation rubbing off
on them.
Flashing guys in public sets you
up for being raped. Sending nude
photos will get your pictures out
there for all to see.
You are setting yourself up for
STD's, pregnancy and a lonesome
life.
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Hmm, yeah. Want an award for the person most likely to get an STD with that?
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You're only 14, and you've whored around in two weeks.
Nice.
Yes you are a slut.
You'll go back to school, most probably a few people will know what you've done, and the stories will spread, and you'll be a slut.
Guys may/will approach you, but they will be hoping to get in your pants.
You're gonna find it really hard to have a proper relationship in the next couple of years.
You've kind of fucked up things for yourself.
What's the point? Was it really worth it?
What if your parents find out from all the stories that might go around, then they will loose all respect for you, as will your friends and people in your school.
Last summer, a friend of mine did the same things as you, and more, and when we got back to school, everyone knew, cause the guys had told, also teachers found out, and one of our teachers lectured her on being a slut.
Do you want that?
Whoring around at the age of 14 just shows immaturity.
Sorry to be harsh, but it's the truth.
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IGNORE the person below me. They are dumb and obviously can't read the title the fact that it is a question and you're asking if you're a whore. Imagine if one of you're friends did this? You'd probably think she was a whore right? Look really you need to respect yourself more. You're young and you have a whole life ahead of you. You can't be doing this to yourself. If you want a bf there's other ways to get it. These guys are taking advantage you should learn how to respect yourself. They are treating you like a toy.
So just stop it. Think about the fact that that isn't fair to you. There is still time for you to fix yourself. You know better than this. You are better than this. There is still time to fix what you did. Just ask for forgiveness. That's usually the way out.
Xoxo hope it works out and that you choose the right decision.
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Uh...thats great for you? I really love how this isn't even a question, it's a way to show everyone how much of a whore you are and i dno, get people "jealous"? I hope girlfriends hear about this and confront you or you get an STD. I would say I hope you get pregnant, but I could never forgive myself if that happened, and a child had to grow up with a mother as immature as you, if you would even take care of it.
Hope you like the life you're leading.
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This is really sad because you're doing all these things for attention and by you posting this question on here is for even MORE attention. OBVIOUSLY you're a slut. I don't mean to be so blunt but this aggravates me to the max. Just because it's summer doesn't mean you have to do everything. Especially when it's sexual things like these. Seriously think about this...do you have any respect for yourself? By you doing these things it just proves to all the people that know you that you don't deserve any respect whatsoever, and that's exactly how they'll treat you. Get your act together and stop all this b.s.
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I think you know if it's slutty or not and you really need to reach inside of yourself to discover this.
Obviously, it feels very wrong to be doing this or you wouldn't have been concerned about being perceived as a slut. From here, you should take the time to decide if you want to do the right thing and discontinue these activities or if you want to disregard your gut feelings and pretend it is acceptable behavior.
It is a fact that when people feel slutty/dirty/whorish they reach out to people they feel will accept their actions and tell them that they are not doing anything wrong. The fact that you are questioning this tells a lot and I hope you do understand that. I also want to note that just because someone here claims it is not slutty behavior does not make it alright--YOU know what is really going on. To put it simply, your conscience is screaming at you.
You obviously have been jumping into some things you are not well-prepared for and your conscience knows it. I suggest you take time to look at yourself and where you are now headed in life. It is not healthy or intelligent to rush into sex knowing that your sex-partner is attached to another person. It is not right to help someone betray their partner, of course.
What I'm saying is, the next time some guys says he really likes you or loves you it doesn't mean that sex needs to follow. It doesn't matter if he gives you attention or not because this is the WRONG type of attention you need to be able to blossom into a wonderful human.
Prostitutes have sex every single day with various men/women and never feel any emotion for them so that alone tells you that sex doesn't mean anything.
When you interact sexually with a person without getting to know them at all then it does put a stigma on you. The person will perceive you as sexual and empty. They see that you will make them feel good physically but have nothing else to really offer them. Most, if not all, of these sort of relationships burn out quickly.
So, yes, it is slutty behavior. Yes, you should discontinue sleeping around because it is totally wrong. Yes, you should start listening to your conscience and following what you KNOW is right and not what the media and your peers try to feed you. Yes, if you are questioning your actions then they are, most likely, very wrong and you should discontinue them.
In addition, people do care if you're a slut. I care. I don't want you to become a statistic. I don't want to see you here feeling worse about yourself, falling deeper in the hole. I want to see you grow as a person and KNOW that you are better than these activities.
You'll feel better about yourself when you know you have changed. Work on yourself and don't fall into this dark hole of having sex whenever a guy seems interested and pays attention to you. You are worth something right now, don't make yourself worthless to others. Resolve this with yourself, make sure it never happens again, and learn your lesson from these experiences. With all of those met, you will be able to overcome this and will only carry it as a burden to tell others about your experiences--to help enlighten them on what you had to learn through heartache.
What you have been doing has serious, even dead, consequences. Here are some examples:
Oral sex consequences (wow):
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Herpes information (yes, you can be born with herpes and it can spread even if there are no sores present):
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Mutual masturbation consequences (hpv, herpes):
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Proof that condoms are not 100% effective on preventing STD transmission:
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You CAN get pregnant while on the pill:
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STDs are extremely common; 80% of Americans have herpes:
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(Graphic) Photos of what STDs can do to your body:
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The financial costs of a pregnancy:
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Who cares about virginity anyway? You should!:
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...seriously!:
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ANYONE can have an STD, even if they are a virgin:
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I hope you do what is clearly appropriate for you and take steps to work on yourself. If you have other questions like this, please feel free to ask me! :)
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Yep.
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I'm going to tell you the truth, I'm not even gonna go soft on you. yeah your being a slut. Your a ho, a slut, a whore, all of that. And I can't wait for you to catch an std, do you think your invincible or something? Wait until their girlfriends come after you, ha your gonna get ya ass whooped. I have no respect for girls like you and neither do a lot of others.
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Honestly i think your doing these things with all these different guys for a certain reason. But there are a lot of different reasons truoble at home, insecurity about yourself, needing attention, liking the feeling you get with that guy at the certain moment or anger with your family. i dont know what your reason is but for someone with your experience im sure your a very smart girl, which means you know that doing all these sexual things with random guys isnt good or healthy and the last thing you want is a bad reputation. My advice is to figure out exactely why you are doing these things and stop. just remember these guys may seem like they are into you at the time but they have no respect for you. Get a guy that you actually like and that actually likes you back.
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Um, I don't know if I think your a slut. No guys are going to go out with you. I'm sorry, but if this was your boyfriend that you did all this to, then it would be okay, but this is a little insane. Slow it down. Guys aren't going to go out with you for real, they're just oging to use you to get some. This is a little gross that you did all this. hope i answered your question and sorrry for the blunt honest truth.
-E
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you need to slow down.
if people aren't already calling you a slut, they will be soon. and i'm not trying to be disrespectful at all, but you need to look out for yourself. not just your reputation, but you could really end up hurting yourself; aka STDs, and then you'll be literally screwed. for the rest of your life. i'm not saying don't have a good time, but find one guy, and stick with him. if you keeps things like this up, guys will fool you into thinking they really like you, only they just want in your pants.
be careful and have more respect for yourself.
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To be bluntly honest, if you're being forreal about this crap then yeah sorry you are a bit whorish. You're 14 years old. You shouldn't be doing stupid things like that. Let people at school find out, and you'll live you're next 4 years of school in complete misery. No guy is going to want you, every girl will make fun of you and call you a SLUT or EASY. Parents will hate you. Etc. Trust me that is ridiculous to do for someone your age. It sounds to me like your a bit immature and you have a lot of growing up to do. Sorry but life isn't all about sex and giving head to every guy that walks by you. Reflect on that. ♥
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Do you want my serious answer or my "I want a 5 answer"?
I'm going to give you my serious answer. I think you need to stop, because pretty soon, people will start to call you a slut, and I'm sure you don't want that. What you're doing is dangerous and it can lead to pregnancy, STDs and a number of other things.
I would consider you a slut, yes, because you seem a little TOO proud of what you're doing.
Do what you will, but I'm going to recommend you stop. If you do decide to continue, please practice safe sex.
--Jack
(16/m)
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Is this serious? Because if so I really think you need to calm down and think about what you're doing.
Do you want to be a slut? Because if not then you might have a hard time getting your rep back...
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