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what can i do?
ok....im 13 and pregnant i dont want to tell my family because i think they will be ashamed.I dont want to get an abortion because i think its wrong.I also dont want to give "it" up for adoption, because my friend was adopted and he doesent like it.I just really need some help.What should i do?
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WELL, YOUR PARENTS WILL BE UPSET WITH YOU, BUT YOUR PARENTS WOULD BE JERKS FOR THAT, YOU GOT PREGNANT AND YOU DON'T NEED PRESSURE. THEY WILL NEVER BE ASHAMED UNLESS THEY'RE JERKS...
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I will make my advice short but helpful. Tell your parents now. Now!
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wow thats huge, well you have to tell someone you are really close to but it has to be an adult. maybe they can help you tell your parents. good luck
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Hi,
Your parents are going to go mad!!! Double-check your pregnant before you go saying anything. See a doctor.. It is entirely your choice theirs no point asking people to tell you what to do... they can only support you and give thier opinions. Do what is best for yourself and your baby. Your parents will stand by you or they should do because you're only 13.
Look into options before you go dismissing everything.
I hope you choose what is right.
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Hello honey I know excatly what you are going through. I got pregnant at 15 and I was super scared. I didn't tell my family until November and the baby was due in April. I knew that I wasn't having an abortion or going the adoption route. I felt ashamed and I knew that they would be embrassed as well. I know that it may be scary right now but the best thing to do right now is to tell your family. If you can't tell them ask someone you trust to talk to them with you. You will be able to think clearer after it is out in the open. Whether you keep your child or give him or her up is all up to you. Being 13 makes it harder because you're not old enough to work or have you're own place so talk to your parents and let them know how you feel about the situation because you will need help. Also don't let anyone make you feel low or like a charity case because you are not. People will always have something to say so keep that head held up high. It takes heart to face this situation instead of sneaking off having an abortion. Keep in touch with me.
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I think, that you should follow your heart.
It's not always your head that is right. Also,
Sometimes little JERKS that call people that are 13 sluts, need to go play in traffic by the way.
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Well, KIDDO, what do you expect when you act like a little tramp? duh, they are going to be very ashamed. who could blame them. your 13. my god. you have all your life to be an adult. you only have so many years to be a kid. AND GUESS WHAT. you just blew it. your gonna be a mommy in 9 months. have you ever had a puppy? babies are like 5x more work. you're never gonna get to be a kid again. i hope your aware of that. your no longer going to have to worry about just you and only you, your gonna have to babysit, 24/7 wherever you go, the baby goes.
congrulations. your a slut.
hurry up and get it over with, just tell them. before they start seeing your stomach get like huge.
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Well, first of all, you can not hide this from your parents. They will know when you start showing, and you've already eliminated two of your only three options: no abortion and no giving it up for adoption. The third choice is keep the baby and raise it. You'll never be a teenager again though, regardless of your choices.
What on earth makes you think you can hide this from your parents throughout an entire pregnancy without them knowing?
Hormones must be raging because that is illogical.
First, you are 13. What 8th grade? Do you intend to continue school pregnant? Do you think the kids won't notice, the teachers and staff won't notice? Your parents won't notice?
Where do you plan to give birth? In a school bathroom or a hospital? At the hospital, they have to get your parents permission. And what about prenatal care? Who will pay for that? A baby cost around $3000-$5000 to have including prenatal. You cannot risk an unhealthy child if you keep it or put it up for adoption.
Don't fool yourself-- you can not hide a pregnancy especially at your age. It's impossible unless, and excuse me, you're fat anyway. But the issues above are still unresolved. Prenatal and a doctor.
You MUST tell you parents and trust in them. They will know what is best for you. They will know better than any 13 year old girl could possbile think she knows. You do not know what is best.
Do you plan to go to college? Kiss it goodbye too.
Carrying a baby to fullterm and giving it up for adoption is wonderful for people that want children but can't have them naturally. But you will carry the baby, give birth, and bond with it too. Everyone will know that you are pregnant, not just your parents. Can you live with that?
That's not just hiding the shame you are feeling or your parents might feel-- but they will only feel ashamed momentarily-- then their parental love will take over and they will want what's best for you. Everything passes in time. Including this.
You will not be able to raise this baby-- you are in school, so who will? Your parents will. Do they both work? Will one have to quit working to stay at home with an infant? Will they expect you to come straight home after school, do your homework, then be a mommy every night and weekend? Giving up all your friends and hanging out? They could make you responsible as a mommy you know. Are you ready to give up your teen years, your prom, anything and everything? Boyrfriends? College? Freedom?
I don't believe in abortion per se, but I believe in abortion under the right circumstances. You didn't mention how far along you are, if abortion is still a viable decision at this point. But dear, it sounds like the best for you and your life you have ahead of you and for your parents too. Let them help you make the right decision before you harm this baby and ruin your life.
Talk to them. Let them help you through these tough choices. There are only three: abortion, adoption, raise the child.
Trust in the love they have for you to be there when you need them the most. They will be.
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Hey. This is definitely a hard situation. I'm not going to lie, these decisions are BIG and are going to affect both you and your family. But the important thing is not to go through it alone. Honey you need to find an adult you can confide in or ask someone to come with you but you have to tell your parents. Eventually there going to find out anyway when you start showing. Although your parents may be disappointed, they will be able to help you. Look at all your options and I agree with you 110% abortions are just wrong. Sweetie if your this far.. you are strong and you can do it. Just have faith and do what you need to do. Good luck and let me know if you need anything else. ♥ fabulous
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Well first off I have to get this off my chest why were you having sex at the age of 13!!!! Ok anyways you need to tell someone because you have to go for check ups and all. Second are you 100% sure you are pregnant? I know it is hard to tell them but you have to because it is really important they will find out anywyas it is better to tell them then them finding out! Also make sure it is at a calm time at the house so it goes over well! They will be dissapointed I am pretty sure of that but they will still love you anyways and they might have some ideas for you! Good Luck!
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...which is why you (or any other person) should not have sex @ 13 (or any young age) when you cannot deal with the consequences. The truth is - you're gonna have to make a decision. & whatever decision you choose, you're gonna have to tell your parents. So you might as well tell your parents as soon as possible because you can't hide it forever. From there, they'll be able to help you decide what option is best for YOU. You made the decision to have sex & not take the extra precautions. (& if you did, you didn't take enough of them. For example: take birth control AND use a condom.) Now, you have to deal with the outcome of your decisions. Yes, this is why everyone "preaches" to you kids. If kids listened & quit trying to act like adults these days, you would not be in this position. So talk to your parents & decide from there on what to do. Good luck.
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You can't hide being pregnant.
Your family probably will be very disappointed but I can guarantee they will help you through it and get over it given time.
I strongly suggest you tell them and this way you can think about your options.
You don't want an abortion and you wouldn't give it up for adoption? There's another thing you could do;
be a mother at 13 years of age.
Scary just thinking about it isn't it?
You can't deal with this on your own. At least tell an adult or drop by at a centre near you which deals with problems like this. Thee will be one if you do a bit of research and find out where.
Many young teens have been in this position and are currently in the same position as you, so you are not alone. but you do need to tell someone. and if you decide against abortion, you'll need regular check ups on the baby, so keep that in mind - you can't keep it a secret and hope it'll just go away.
Do the right thing...
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omg 13 and pregnant what were you thinking.Well whatever you chose dont ever give your kid into adoption because it will grow up depressed not knowing who its parents are and it will be your fault.If you tell your parents i think they will get maad but theyre the only ones that can help you out.If you get an abortion i think that would be better then giving it up for adoption.I clarified all the choices and the choice is yours to make but next time please think about the consenquences of what you do.
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A mother needs to put her child first over everything. Whether you meant for it to happen or not, you are going to be a mother at least for the duration of your pregnancy. Don't you want a healthy baby? Doesn't your baby deserve that? It's going to be really hard for you to take all of the classes and get all of the advice from doctors and such that you would need for this to happen. Your baby needs this so you need to tell your family. Even if they are upset about it at first, they will support you and make you feel so much better about things. Don't be so quick to leave out adoption just because your friend doesn't like it. Sure it's hard to know that you're adopted, but wouldn't you rather grow up in more of an ideal family situation? There are cons to it, but they are far outweighed by the pros if you are not ready to raise your baby. My fiance was adopted and he's fine with it. He's very happy that he grew up with his adopted parents. Not only did they want him, but they're wonderful people. Adoption is a very positive thing. Don't base your decision on one person's opinion at one time in their lives. Your family can help you decide what to do. Tell them today.
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well your family is gong to notice that your getting "big".so it might just help to tell them now so they can help you with it will your going through it. Ask what you can do with the child and i bet you'll find a way.
Hope this advice helped at all!
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well i think u should tell your family they
might understand if not you can move to the guy who got you pregnets house if you know who that is so mabe you might get through this everything will be just fine i promise
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Ok... Look You do need to tell an adult.. cause they will be more ashamed if you don't tell them.. But you need to be taken to the doctors accasianally and i think you and the baby will be more healthy if you tell somone!!
~~Raynee~~
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You need to tell your family =[ Sorry, but there's nothing else you can do about it. Giving your baby up for adoption is the best thing, because then he/she can have a really nice family who wants a child too. I'm not saying that you probably don't have a nice family but you're only 13, and who wants to take care of a baby at 13? Your parents probably will most of the time. I think you should just do what you think is best for your baby. Good luck♥
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That is such a young age! you need to tell your parents. Even if they might be ashamed, they will get over it. you won't be able to hide it for long. And You might end up having to put it up for adoption if you can't take care of it or if your parents make you. The longer you wait...the worst.
hope i've helped.
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If you were not ready to have the responsibility of a child, then you should have thought before you did that. I agree, that abortion is wrong as well. Adoption may be the best thing for the baby, but look at it this way: your parents are going to find out eventually when all of a sudden you blow up like a balloon, and start throwing up. You should tell them now, and not have them find out later on because face it - you will just be in even MORE trouble. Talk it over with your family, but adoption may be a good thing. Maybe your friend just had a bad upbringing by uncaring parents.
hope i helped, and god bless
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Well you can only hide it for so long. Tell your family, they are the only people who can help you through this. You might as well tell them now rather than 9 months from now -because by that time they definitaly know somethings up.
Good Luck.
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