Well, I have truly come to hate this word. I am trying to become a good christian, heck - I would settle for just christian. As it is, I'm having enormous problems with BELIEVING. So I've been googling, and asking lots of questions on how to become a good christian, and everywhere theý say - use the people God have put in your life, turn to other christians, be with those closer to God, get to know your Church-family, GET YOURSELF AN ACCOUNTABILITY PARTNER! But I have none! I know NO Christiand, I have none in my life, and my church is...well, different. So what do I do? I keep trying and trying and everytime I think I'm getting closer to Jesus, something happens. I just stop-- and in a few months have to start it all over. I've never been close to Jesus or had trong faith for over a month, it's always just a week or so that I really believe and pray and act like a real christian. Help me, please!
Well what you need to do is step out on your own and start doing some things to strengthen your faith. There are plenty of websites out there that have online bible studies that you can participate in. I know it's harder for you because you don't have any christian friends. I'm willing to stay in contact with you if you would like. I have a website where I post devotionals that I write. I have taken alot of them off because they were old but I can send you any of them you want. My web address is www.noneleftbehind.faithweb.com and my email address is nicann4360@yahoo.com and like I said before I will stay in contact with you if you need someone to encourage you in your everyday walk being a christian. So email and let me know what you think. Read my Bio on my advice column it tells a little about me. hope to hear from you soon.
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PLEASE KEEP in mind she only said the nasty thing about online advice websites when we were fighting. Three days ago my mom was cranky and
kept snapping at me to the point we had a a tiff. During the course of the fight she said; I
know you ask questions about weight and other things on the computer, these people are
not experts, I see what you do; (But she really does not see because I log out when she
comes near my computer) And of course she and I went back and forth saying nasty things
to one another. (But I like asking and getting advice on Advicenators and other websites
like Advicenators and the advice makes me feel better.) SO MY QUESTION: If you were
me (or even it happened to you) and someone criticizes the people that you get advice
from online how would you handle it? I mean would you ignore, defend it or other (and
tell me what the other is) and why
Well I would either tell them that I like hearing other people's opinion and that's there no harm in listening to what someone else has to say and that it really doesn't matter what you think about it because it has nothing to do with you. BUT!!! Because we are talking about your MOTHER you cannot say that!!! Just either tell her that you think there's no harm in getting advice from other people because most of the people we get advice from over the course of our life are not experts. Or you can just ignore it so you won't cause another argument. But whatever you do make sure you stay respectful.
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ok so me and my boyfriend had a deep talk today. he told me that he always notices that i give up on myself. what do you think he meant by this? and please dont tell me to ask him because i dont want to do that. thanks! help thanks in advance.:]
When someone says that they usually mean that you give up on the things that you try to do because of your disappointment with yourself. Maybe he thinks you don't give yourself a chance to accomplish the things you want to do. Maybe or maybe not? The only way to truly find out is to ask him because you could get the wrong meaning to his statement and cause a big misunderstanding.
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15 (almost 16 =]]) and female..
recently i've been like wanting to do bad stuff. its really weird. but first lemme tell you aboutmyself. i've never kissed a boy or done anything with besides hug. i've never smoked pot, cigarrets, or draken beer. but then recently i've had like this weird wanting feeling? like i want to just like walk up to a guy and make out with him and do crap. but i really want my first kiss to be special but the older i get i worry its not gunna happen so i should just forget about it and just mess around with boys and have fun. and i've never had a bf so i've always been single and noothing good had come out of it. and then like my father smokes and i hate it. but i wanna smoke and i don't understand why. and then like i really wanna know what its like to get high and shit. but i KNOW i don't wanna do that but for some reason feel like i want to. same thing with drinkin i really wanna go out and just get wasted. and ugh idk why. can anyone help me. idk what to do i want this "wanting" feel to go away case i wanna be a good person.
thanks for reading
I believe you are just going through that "experimenting" stage. I went through it also. It's like all the stuff that you know is wrong you want to try. I always wanted to try wine coolers and stuff like that when I was in middle school. I never really wanted to try drugs though. But my advice to you is try to control yourself, it might look like it's pretty fun to do all those things but in reality it's not. Try a new activity that you haven't tried before or start up a new hobby. If you concentrate on trying those "bad" things, you'll end up making a big mistake. Remember you may not be able to stop something once you start. Let say this though - kissing a boy isn't a bad thing, I was talking about the other things. Just wait on that first kiss so it will be special, don't just jump on the first guy you see (joking). But really everyone goes through that wanna be a bad girl stage, but remember reputations are hard to fix. Enjoy your youth safely.
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me and my bf have been going out for like two and a half months but we're not going to see each other alot over the summer because our plans clash. we talked about breaking up and we're not going to but what are some cute ways to show that he means alot to me now and over the summer if i cant see him?
Why don't you guys purchase an item for each other that will remind you of each other and what you mean to one another. Put a letter or card with it also. If you have cell phones text each other. I text my husband all the time like I'm not going to see him later on. Well I hope these suggestions help.
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i have many of friends but lately i have felt really lonely maybe it's cuz i'm stupid but i want to try and do somehting about it any suggestions?
Well sometimes people who have it all still feel very lonely. Usually it's because something is missing in their life. And you are not stupid. Are you involved in Church? That can fill a void. It helped me. Get involved in something positive that brings YOU joy and you will find that you'll feel better.
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thank you so so so so much! i'm really glad that you didn't judge me about being pregnant at 13 you're advice really helped me my parents know and theyre excited and dissapointed to.but i will keep my head held up high and be proud.
You're very welcome and if you need to talk again feel free to contact me.
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ok....im 13 and pregnant i dont want to tell my family because i think they will be ashamed.I dont want to get an abortion because i think its wrong.I also dont want to give "it" up for adoption, because my friend was adopted and he doesent like it.I just really need some help.What should i do?
Hello honey I know excatly what you are going through. I got pregnant at 15 and I was super scared. I didn't tell my family until November and the baby was due in April. I knew that I wasn't having an abortion or going the adoption route. I felt ashamed and I knew that they would be embrassed as well. I know that it may be scary right now but the best thing to do right now is to tell your family. If you can't tell them ask someone you trust to talk to them with you. You will be able to think clearer after it is out in the open. Whether you keep your child or give him or her up is all up to you. Being 13 makes it harder because you're not old enough to work or have you're own place so talk to your parents and let them know how you feel about the situation because you will need help. Also don't let anyone make you feel low or like a charity case because you are not. People will always have something to say so keep that head held up high. It takes heart to face this situation instead of sneaking off having an abortion. Keep in touch with me.
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okay so im annoyed. my parents dont let me hang out with guys. and it sucks because im friends with A LOT of guys in my school. and so sometimes (like today) my friend asked to come over my house friday and swim (a girl) and i said id ask my mom cause i wanted her to come and swim at my house, and then later on my friend asks if her AND this guy can come over and i told her i was busy but im really not, but i dunno what to do cause im just so mad my parents wont let me hang with guys. please dont say 'talk to ur parents' cause ive tried. but i can only hang with guys if its at someone elses house and my parents dont even know. i dont wanna say "i cant hang with guys' because ppl have seen me hang with guyys. (im SO sorry if this is confusing) i just dont know how to tell my friends, and a lot of them are guys and i just hate when people wanna hang out, i feel so excluded.
Okay I remember those days also. My parents were like that too. Maybe you need to talk to your friends and let them know that you can only invite girls right now. I'm pretty sure that you are not the only one. And as far as saying that you can't hang out with guys, it's more like you can't hang out with guys at your house. Believe me it doesn't help with the parent situation at all if you have been hanging with guys and they don't know and catch you. You really need to talk to your parents about how you feel.
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