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Spending the night?
My boyfriend just asked me if it was alright for him to spend the night at his best friend's house. His four best friends are girls. there's gonna be two other guys, but I still don't really like the outlook on it; he's gonna be all night with 5-6 other girls.
is this dumb of me?
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No i think it is totally normal and i would be feel the same way just make sure you keep in touch with him all night well hope i help
~*Alix*~
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If you're not comfortable with it, just tell him you don't really want him to. It's not dumb of you to be suspicious or upset that he's going to a sleepover like this, and I don't really blame you. I wouldn't want my boyfriend to do that either (even though I don't have one) so tell him how you really feel.
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tell him no...you may trust him but still... a night with 5-6 other girls!? thats crazy! dont let him go... ask him if he would let you go if you spent the night with 5-6 guys...Hope I Helped! =)
Samantha Lynn
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I think you should do what ever you feel comfartable doing don't do something that your not comfartable doing.
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no itz not dumb @ all u have a complete right to b suspicious but if he really does like u he wont b stupid and do anything!
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no your not dumb for worrying but you should have one of the girls watch him jus in case
it doesn't sound like he'll do any thing though because he asked you if he could go
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Well you need to talk to him about it before deciding. If you say its ok you really have to trust him!
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Well, I spend the night with male friends a lot and -nothing- happens. If any of their girlfriends tried to stop this, I'd be pissed at it. I mean, it is one thing to be wary, but you should trust him. If he is the womanizing-flirty type, then sure, it is a bad idea. But, then again, why would you want to be with a guy like that anyway?
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No, its not dumb of you at all, its normal for the gf/bf to get alittle parinoid in that kind of situation, but dont get alittle to madd, where you make him think you dont trust him. Trust that hell do the right thing. It might be hard knowing that hes with these other girls but if he really cares about you he would keep his hands to himself. So just trust that hell be good, and youll feel much better knowing that use a building a strong relationship.
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Alright, I just looked over the answers, and half of them are wrong here. Just about everyone is saying 'if you trust him, you'll let him go.' No way, this isn't an issue on trust, this is him sleeping over with girls, and it shouldn't be done at all unless he is stranded and has nowhere else to go! Your boyfriend can have girls for friends, but not as sleep over buddies. That would be unacceptable to just about every girl other than the ones who seem to think that it's based on trust. That is pure torture. You need to tell him that you aren't going to tolerate that kind of behavior with him, you could lose a nights worth of sleep over this! This isn't about your lack of trust, it is about how far you will let him go until you say stop, and now would be the right time to say it to him.
-TheTeenGirl
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Hmm let me think about this one... your boyfriend *cough, cough* spending the night WITH some girls. Girls. With. Guy. Hmmm?
Now you do the math...
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hmm ask him to let u come with u...rlly get befriend with all other of his friends that cud be a fun nite...but i shud watch an eye on him...
Good luck
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honestly yes but then again no reason are ye sbecause if you really love him you should trust hima nd no worry about it even though you do dont show it and yes because thats alot of girls to be with and only two other guys thats odd!! but you should trust him.....maybe you should show up out of nowear and surprise him...tell me how it goes good luck!!
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OMG NO!! you have every right to be weird about this because this is very weird that he wants to spend the night at a girls house!! UM HELL F*CKIN NO!! simple as that!!!!!!
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no it aint dumb of you to ask this type of question, i mean if you trust your man and he says he dont like none of them like that then you should trust him and ask him how the night was and then talk to all of them ask them if they had fun but mostly ask your man waht exactly what they did, play. you should know
hope this helps
kriddle06
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no thats not dumb...if i was you i would be mad the re is no way i would let my boyfriend stay with other girls...but then to if he loves you he wouldnt do anythign to hurt you so listen to your heart about this one
your friend,
Jess
but while hes with other people why dont you go out with some of your friends
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Always a tough one. I agree with Dhrutts- tyhe question you have to ask yourself is do you trust him? If yes and it's just that instictive jealousy everyone gets that makes you uncomfortable then bite the bullet, tell him to go, if you don't then you have to wonder why you're with him at all.
Keep yourself busy while he's there (it might make you feel better to go out with some guy mates of your own) and have a good time. Maybe drop him a text now and then (not constantly texting back and forward- that's just annoying) asking if he's having a good time etc- keep it light.
At the end of the day if these girls have ben his friends for a long time they're unlikely to just go away so you have t decide whether or not you can handle them being in his life. If not, save yourself the heartache and get out now.
best of luck
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Hi There,
If your relationship is strong enough and you can trust him then i'm sure he will realise his limits, i know it must be real hard for you, try and explain that to him and so what comes of it. If he's a decent guy and not a player then you have nothing to worry about, maybe the night he's going to spend you could do the same with your friends have a good night out to stop you thinking and worrying so much and maybe you could text him or call him to see what he's upto do not make it obvious that your checking up on him anyways hope this has helped and don't hesitate to come back to us if you have anymore concerns.
Takecare
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NO do not let him sleep over there... there will end up being a bad out come to the situation.
^^My friend Laura answered that...
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My question is: and why aren't you invited? If I were having a sleep over that was mixed company and I wanted to invite a friend of mine who was in a relationship, I'd invite both people. Since you were not included in this invite, I would be suspicious of the motives here. Something isn't right here. Be very cautious.
Good Luck!
LULABELLE
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I'm pretty sure that unless you boyfriend is completely retarded, he wouldn't say something to you that would let you know he's cheating.
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thats kinda wierd, that he asked permission... somethings going down. why don't you show up at some convenient hour and say hello to everyone.
-gunner
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Thats absolutly rediculouse. That is so wrong of him. You should be really upset with him because in a relationship that is morally wrong. Take my advice please and talk to him. Ask him how he would feel if you were in the same position and if he says he wouldnt care then im sorry hunny theres other fish in the sea so drop the jackass. Hope I helped. Take it from someone whos been cheated on with 25 girls. DONT TRUST THEM <3
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If it was my boyfriend, I wouldn't like the idea. It isn't dumb of you because you care about him and you don't want him with other girls! I know that you don't want to be a bad girl friend or act odd, but you also don't just want to say no. And honestly, if you did would it stop him from going? If you trust him then don't worry about him doing anything. Guys can have best friends, yes, but just ask him not to do anything stupid.
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A guy's best friend is never a girl, unless he wants sex. Now take that sentence and use it wisely.
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um no....NO! its not dumb of you. i personally would not approve. i'm friends with a lot of guys some of which have gfs and i wouldn't put them in that position if i wasn't getting something from it. there are other ways to hang out besides spending the night. please speak up for yourself. some girls don't and they end up with a question like "my bfs best friend made out with him and...." so tell him they can hang out...thats ok but the overnight is a little much. <3
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You are right. Theres no good outcome really. Even if nothing happens, people are bound to talk and make up things. Ask him if you can go. If he says no, then why wouldnt he want you there? Thats not good. And tell him if he wants to hang out with them that bad, tell him to take them to a movie or something, just not something that requires them to spend the night together.
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oh hell
I read it wrong.
mada fyah
sorry about that.
i deserved that rating.
If you trust him send him.
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