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all she cares about is herself
ok my best friend since a year ago and i get along really well for girls like we dont talk bad about each other or anything right? but now ive started to realize all she cares about is herself like today at lunch her and a friend werent gonna go to lunch bc they went to the library and i was in the line w/ my friend and when we got back she had moved my lunch across the table and sat down in my spot i kno its the stupidest thing to get mad about but i am and the bigger reason is we made plans over the summer to go to fright fest with each other and it turned into a group thing but now she wants to ditch us and go to a friends party instead and she promised me shed go and shes only known this guy for like 2 months i thought friends were more important she wants me to go sunday instead of saturday but i dont want to bc my other friend are counting on me to go and i dont want to just ditch them like that what should i do??? shes starting to get on my nerves and starting to blame me for stuff that happens that is totally out of my control likes shes so innocent and doesnt deserve whatever happens to her anyways sorry this is so sorry but please, help!!!
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i think ur other friends are way much kinder stop caring for her,she don't sound very good to me.maybe thats stupid but a place is a place,and if its yours she doenst have to sit there.
trust the other friends not her if she is ssooooooo selfish,i hope i helped you mate
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ok i've been through the same thing soo many times...but i think you should confront your friend about how shes been acting...and i think that since you've already made plans to go to this fright fest on saturday then you should still go dont let her rule your life...and if she was a true friend she wouldnt blame you for stuff that you didnt do to make her look all innocent and all...but talk to her about how you feel and see what happens
your friend,
Jess
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I think you should confront her about her behaviour coz may be you might find that you r mis- readind her actions I'm not saying you r, confronting her u might find answers through the way she react when you ask her. step No 1
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Hi There,
Sometimes it's easier to seethe in silence when someone makes you cringe, but that doesn't solve the issue. If anything, bottling up your feelings like this just makes the problem seem worse. It means you risk a situation where your mate steps just slightly out of line once more and you explode right in front of them - which doesn't solve anything.
Whatever your mate has done to make you feel so awkward, it's always wise to pick a good time to talk - preferably when you're feeling calm and there's nobody else around to chip in or stir things up for you.
Your aim here is to encourage this person to think about things from your point of view, without leaving them feeling shame-faced. If your mate can see the upset they've caused for themselves, they'll be more likely to change their behaviour.
Nobody likes to feel as if they're being attacked, or that somehow they have to defend their actions, so don't lay into them - it'll only risk a fistfight (or that slappy-scrap thing girls do sometimes).
You can't expect them to shape up straight away, especially if you're both feeling a bit self-conscious after getting things out in the open. Instead, give them some time and space to process the problem and act upon it. If they value your friendship, you should see a new improved mate in no time.
Goodluck
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You didn't touch on it much, but, it sounds to me like there is a boy involved. Yes, I agree with you, a person should never put someone new before a good and long standing friend. But, when thee is a boy involved, all bets are off. girls do crazy things to each other when they want a boyfriend. Be patient with her. She'll coome out of it if you stand by her. Also, you might want to look at the feelings that are coming up for you because of this. Are you feeling a little neglected and hurt. If so, it is perfictly understandable. Don't let these feelings turn into something else that could ruin what you have with her. Don't worry about it, let her off the hook. Tell her never mind about going to fright fest with you. I know your disappointed about it but you can have fun with the other girls you are going with. Then after this weekend and when you have some time to talk together alone you can share your feelings with her. Don't do it angrily. If you do it with anger you could possibly do irreperable damabe to your relationship. It's tough, I know, but simply continue being her best friend. The next time you get together with her afther Fright Fest ask her how her party went. Be interested (or at least look like it). I wish you the best of luck with this.
GOOD LUCK!
LULABELLE
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