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Sometimes I Cry
I have this friend and she hangs out with me all the time and stuff but shes kinda mean to me and sometimes it gets to the point where im so sad that i cry . what should i do?
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Be careful about reading into things. I don't know all the details, but sometimes people come across a certain way but they don't mean to (no pun intended). Since it is bothering you, I would just ask her about it. She may not even realize she's hurting you. Ask yourself, "How do I treat her? Can what I say and do, in any way, come across wrong and hurt her? Do I laugh it off when she does those things? If I do, then does that send her a message that it's okay to do those things because I think they're funny?" There is a dynamic that you must think about. All you can do is control your responses to what she does. If you're accidentally sending her the wrong message by laughing or ignoring what she does, you need to change your response. I don't mean bite her head off or anything, but let her know that, whether she meant to or not, she hurt you. She can't correct what she doesn't know if wrong. She may not correct it when you tell her, and if she doesn't, I don't know why you want her around.
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That's crazy that your friend would make your cry! You should talk to her about it. Tell her you don't want to be treated like that. If she's a true friend she'll understand and try to be nicer. But if she just laughs or continues to make fun of you then she was never your true friend in the first place.
- Hope I helped.
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talk to her and tell her how you feel.let her know that even if shes just kidding around that some of the things she does really hurts you. but make sure she knows you still really want to be friends.
hope i helped XoXo
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You could barley call her a friend if she makes you get to the point where you wanna cry.I feel that with a friend like that she shouldnt be your friend at all.Go find another friend that will make you feel good and happy and as you hang with your new friend the old mean one will fade but if she keeps hanging with you then i say ignore her because a friend like that is no friend at all.
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♥ Aw. Im really sorry. She doesnt sound like the greatest friend. But you shouldnt just give up. First, You should talk to her about it & tell her how it makes you feel. After that If she doesnt listen & continous to act like that..then maybe you should take a break from her or just totally dump her as a friend. You dont deserve to have a friend like that. Friends are supposed to help you && make you happy, Not bring you down! I hope i helped! Good luck! L0TS 0F ♥ <3Always-Lauren <333
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She sounds like a really cruddy friend. Just tell her "i hate when you are being mean to me. It really bugs me and you hurt my feelings."do not tell her you cry though, because if she is as mean as you say she is, and is mad that you said that, she might tell everyone your a baby or something. Tell me how it works out.Hope i helped.
Thanks,
Jenna
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If you dont want to totally ditch her as a friend, I really think t hat you should tell her how you feel. tell her that what she does really hurts you, and you'd appreciate it if she'd be nicer to you. If she doesnt stop than it seems like it would be best for you to drop her as a friend, it seems pretty harsh but you dont need someone thats going to make you cry and feel bad about yourself, in your life. =(
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I know how you feel but now i dont have a best friend cause she was just sooooo grr she always came up with a way to make us fight and now we aren't friends but i sosososo dont want that to happen to u at all. You should try talking to he/her and if that doesnt work then when you are fighting just stop and think then say "look we shouldnt be fighting like this. were bestfriend and little things shouldnt get in the way of that."
Love,
Cassy H.
P.S. if you have any more questions just ask me anything and i'll answere.
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Tell her you dont like the way she treats you and it makes you feel bad...if she doesnt listen, then that means shes not a real friend...and you shouldnt hang out with her anymore
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talk to her about it. you shouldn't have a friend that is mean to you, because then they aren't really your friend. she'll probably understand where you're coming from and try to be nicer to you.
good luck!
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um...if i were you, i would most deff. stop hanging out with that so called "friend" of yours. no true friend would bring their other friend down. we have friends to build us up and encourage us. get some new friends.
<3 falloutgirl
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You dont have to get rid of her or anything but when she is being mean to you, you need to stand up to her and not let her. She probablly knows that you wont do anything about it so you have to. I hate when people do that and please dont let her boss you around or make you cry. But stand up to her in a nice way and she will stop. Good luch hon!
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you tell her whats on your mind and how she is hurting you and tell her if it continues you will not hang with her or talk to her ever again and if she wants to be friends with you she will change if she dosend she will be the same soo just talk to her ok i kno evrything is going to be ok:]
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Just talk to her about it. If she hangs out with you all the time, then that must mean you two are really good friends, and she should be able to understand and stop. Just the next time you guys hang out and she does/says something mean to you. Just go to her and be like," Look, I'm sorry, but I gotta tell you something. Why are you always so mean to me? I know you may not think you are, but you are. I mean it really hurts my feelings, and you are a really really good friend and that makes me feel even worse that my really good friends is saying/do stuff like that to me. Can you please stop being so mean?" ( or something like that ) and just..be honest about it. Just talk to her about it. She might get offended and stuff at first, but hopefully she'll understand what is at stake ( your friendship ) and she'll cool off and be nicer. But if she doesn't and remains to be mad at you, that doesn't seem like a very good friend to me, cause obviously she doesn't care enough if she's being mean =/ I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
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well i would sit her down and tell her some of the things you say to me hurt my feelings and makes me cry so i would apperciate if you wouldn't say mean things to me and could be a little nicer so you don't hurt my feelings i think that is what you should say to her and also tell her if it contunies to happen then we can't play with eachother anymore.
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If she makes you feel that low, I'd think she isn't really a friend. But maybe she's not doing it on purpose and thats just her personality. Just tell her what she says and does hurts you and your self esteem and that if she doesn't stop, your friendship is over. If she's a good friend, and an ACTUAL friend, she'll lighten up and listen.
♥ Brooke
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Is she mean to you on purpose, or just kidding around? If she says something that bothers you, right away ask: do you really mean that? If she says yes, then right there tell her that you don't like what she said. Doesn't mean you aren't going to talk to her or that you hate her. If she is just joking around, then don't let it get to you.
If you tell one of your friends that you both know about it, maybe your friend will point it out in front of both of you, that she is being mean to you and should stop.
Really, don't let anything anybody could say get to you like that. Why? Because they win. I wouldn't pay too much attention to what she is saying to you, joking or not. Let it slide by and do/say nothing about it, because then it will be easier to just tune out anything she might say meant to hurt you. Good luck.
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make new friends..
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The question you ought to ask yourself is: can you continue to call someone your friend if they make you cry and feel bad about yourself? I would reappraise this relationship. There are plenty of other people to hang out with, of course; break it to her gently that she's hurting you, see what she says. Maybe she has no idea about her destructive behavior. But whatever you do, don't stand for it.
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when you get to a point where shes being mean to you look her in the eye and tell her off. the reason shes being mean is possibly because she can take advantage of you easily and she knows that you arent going to stand up for yourself. so look her in the eye and tell her something along the lines of "your being mean to me stop it!!!" even if you have to walk away after you say it(to give her time to take it in). you have to stand up for yourself if your ever going to get her to stop being mean to you
~hope i helped
PS-if this and anything else you try doesnt work you may have to get rid of her~its just a thought...
***~FUNKYMUNKY~***
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i think the best thing to do in this situation is to just tell her that she's being a little too harsh, or maybe you can tell another friend to tell her for you! if she's really your friend, she'll stop, and if she doesn't, then she doesn't even deserve to hang out with you. try to stay friends, cause you never know what can happen if you you become enemies.
hope i helped, and good luck with that!!!
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all i can say is that if she is making you really feel that upset then perhaps she isnt really much of a friend? you nedd to talk to her and ask her/find out why she is mean to you. if she was really that much of a friend she would make you feel this way anyway! i hope i helped and i hope you get it sorted ~*~Lucee~*~ plz cld u rate me? xxx
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