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Don't know what to do
Ok, me and this girl have been talkin' 4 a while now (for like 6 months). We were just friends at first but I've always liked her. She's been in really bad relationships and thinks men are dogs and will treat her like dirt. I really like her though and I wouldn't do anything like that. I like her too much. Plus I'm not even that kinda guy. I wanna love her and show her trust, honesty, and loyalty. She's been so hurt that she can't see that I wouldn't do that to her. I wanna be with her; she is the most incredible girl I've ever met. On top of that I think I like her so much it might be turning into Love. I need some GOOD advice. Help!
P.S. I'll rate high.
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do all the things that will make her smile...be really nice and stuff and always listen to her (girls like that). then tell her you rly lyk her and that you wanna be in a relationship. since u've been friends 4 such a while, she should trust you.but if she says she isnt ready or doesnt want to, i think you should still stay friends with her and she will realize what a great guy you are and that shes makin a mistake. but 6 months is a long time so she should trust you and i doubt she wont want to be in a relaitonship with you.
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You said it yourself. SHOW her trust, honesty, and loyalty. Show her that there are some amazing, good, honest guys out there, that will treat her like she should be treated. Show her loyalty as a friend and be there for her when she's going through a tough time. You sound like you really know what a relationship and love should be based on, so I'm not going to go into that. Just draw on that knowledge, and she'll eventually see what an incredible guy you are. Wait it out, though, as hard as it is, she's not going to be able to trust right away, it's something that's going to happen gradually with each time you show her that you're there for her and will always be there.
You're one of the only guys I've come across on this site that actually seem to have some integrity and maturity about them. Best of luck to you.
Love,
Nevaeh
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just be yourself. the worst thing a guy can do to a girl is to fake your way through a relationship. it pisses the girl off. trust me, i know.
show her that you are not like the other guys that she has been with. you said that you are different on here, but have you told her that you are different? she needs to know that she can trust you and count on you when she needs it. prove to her that you are what you say you are.
she will love it.
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well you sound like my friend i cant tell you wat to do for sure but my friend one this gurl over from her other dog bf by saying i love and you have to trust me and telling her the way he feels for real he thought she would just blow him off but she thanked him for it and now their dating so....
hope that helped love talktome224
ps if its meant to be itll happen i dont know when but it will
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OK. well talk to her. tell her the same thing you told us. be like im a nice guy and i wont hurt you unless you hurt me in anyway. and juss be like i love you and im not a dogg. and ur not dirt. im a guy that loves you and ur a girl that should be inlove with me. GOOD LUCK <3
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awh. thats so sweet. tell her how you feel. look her dead in the eyes and say that you'd never hurt her. do something special for her, find out what she likes, and show her that you care.
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Sound like you really like her:-]. All that stuff you put here, tell her that. She will probably see a reason. And since you were friends first, she may be more likely to trust you. good luck
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OKAY! someone who i can really help. well this girl..reminds me of myself. i've been hurt very badly in relationships before..and well there's been this one guy who was incredible..and sweet..and he reminds me of the way you are (or the way you say you are)..well i turned him down..because i don't want to get hurt..i think this is what your friend might be doing. i think she may be afraid of making a commitment to another guy..cause she's afraid that every person she starts to like is going to break her heart and let her down. do something for her to really prove how much you really like her. do something for her (actions speak louder than words)..just hang around her more often..don't try to rush into things cause that may make it worse..but just try to slowly ease your way into the relationship..make her fall for you as you fell for her..but the thing i really want to tell you is..if your going to say that you won't break her heart or let her down..if you really are this kind of guy..don't hurt her..and make her realize that there really is that one special guy out there for every girl. make her realize that guys aren't "dogs" and will treat her like dirt. make her start to trust guys more..but the key to a relationship..is to make her trust YOU. good luck. hope i helped. follow your heart
<33 with love nickie
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I say you should sit her down and have a talk with this girl. Tell her how you feel, and how you really like her. Tell her all the things you say you can be to her that the other guys arent. But just remember; a girl like that is going to have no trust in you and is going to get jealous real easy. It is likely that a past boyfriend will come up that she will start having feelings for, because this is what girls are like. She has trusted, loved, and cared before, but that person hurt her. So her defense mechanism is hatred of the male race. However, she can love again, she probably just needs time alone to figure out who she is and what she wants. Believe me, if you don't want either one of you to get hurt in the long-run. Just stay friends with her until shes totally positive and confident to start a new relationship.
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why dont you just tell her how u feel.....she can work out what she wants to do about it in her own time. girls like guys that can wait for them
hope this helps x megz x
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girls like guys who can open up to them. tell her all of that, tell her you wouldnt hurt her. she probably feels the same way & just doesnt wana get hurt again. hope i helped
`baby
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She should be able to see what kind of guy you are after being friends for 6 months. You need to tell her that you realize she would be taking a chance going out with you but that you would never hurt her intentionally. Point out the differences between yourself and the former guys ( if you know them). It may take awhile to get her to go out with you because its hard to get over being hurt. She will eventually if you take your time and show her how much you care. :)
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awwwwwwwwww... that is cute... what you should do is tell her how you feel about her and then tell her that you will treat her with respect and hoesty etc.... but dont only tell her that prove it to her by showin her how much you care about her and that you wont hurt her. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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i would just tell her! explain everything to her...say something along the lines of:
"okay, i've pretty much liked you ever since we became friends. and i know that you have had bad relationships before...and you probably wouldn't want another relationship, because you don't want to risk getting hurt again. but i just want you to know that i really like you, and i would never do anything to hurt you. i care about you...and i think you're a great/amazing/awesome person...please, just give me a chance?"
so yeah, just tell her how you feel...good luck/hope i helped!
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Enough already ,your making me feel ill .Take her out for a drink ,have some fun ,stop thinking so far ahead of yourself .If your the guy and you relax a bit ,you will get your shot .Just make sure its what you want though .She sounds like the sort of girl that is drawn to grief.She might just might be ready to take revenge on the not so fairer sex and you look a prime target to take one for the team .
. Sorry if this is a bit harsh but the truth always is .
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You know who you remind me of? Tamahome, who I think is the perfect man. And since everything in life can be solved with a comic book, I'll tell you what Tamahome said to Miaka after she had been raped and wanted to kill herself, thinking that he would never be able to love her again. He said, "You're perfectly clean. You're no different from the day of the purifying ritual. Exactly the same. At that time, too, I thought nothing could be as beautiful as you. No one can defile you. I swore that I'd be with you forever, right? And I'll swear it as many times as I have to because you are everything to me." That's kind of how you feel, huh? You need to tell her that, and if she still doesn't believe you, you need to show her that. The only way you can show that you'd never hurt her is by being with her and supporting her and just basically never hurting her. Good luck with that.
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OK first tell this girl how u feel and that u would never hurt,cheat, lie to her, because your not that kind of guy
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Patience is the keyword! Even if it might take a while, she's worth it right? Have you told her how you felt? If you tell her I'm sure she'll at least TRY to understand. You can show her you respect her and really like her by just being there for her. Support her. Call her, email her. Walk her to class. Help her with homework. If she isn't ready to trust a guy, bring along a friend of hers. At least then she won't feel uncomfortable, but you can still spend time with her and show her you are a nice guy. You can even talk to her parents and get them to like you. If they trust you, I'm sure it will be easier for her to trust you too. Good luck! Treat her well!
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Hey,
Ok well once a gurl is hurt a number of times she pretty much expects every guy to treat her like shit! I mean, when the same thing happens to you over and over again you start to expect it. So you have to prove to her that you really love her and your not going to hurt her. Not just by telling her, do things for her and show her you care. Tell her exactly how you feel about her. I know if a guy cared for me as much as you seem to care about her i would be flattered. Just tell her how you feel and see what happens.
**much love**
kayla xo
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awww thats so cute... keep letting her know that your not gunna hurt her or treat her like dirt like all the other guy. sooner or later she will realize that you wont. you seem like an awesome guy!
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tell her exactly what you just wrote
that is so sweet only if all guys were like that most of them just hurt girls without even caring one bit but anyways back to you
tell her if shes not ready to date that you will wait and always be for her no matter what happens
hope this helps if you need anything else drop one in my inbox ♥
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The best thing you can do is be patient with her and give her time to realize that you're not like those other guys. I myself went through some bad relationships and it took a while for my husband to convince me that love was worth trying again.
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Surprise her one night by saying you're gonna take her to the movies or sumtin but instead take her to a nice dinner and tell her "hey i brought you here to tell you that i really care about you, and i think it's more than just friends..now i kno you havnt had the best realationships with guys before but you know i would never hurt you..i could never do something like that to someone i care so much about. I don't know how you feel about this, so I;m not gonna ask you out..i just wanted you to know how i felt..ill let you think about it." Let her think bout it because she'll probly be a lil hesitant at first..but if hse wants a relationship she'll let you know! hope i helped..x0x *Caitie*
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what you just said to us is perfect. thats what you need to tell her. also let her know that if shes NOT ready for a relationship you totally understand and will wait for her. you waiting might show her that you really do care. so tell her wat you told us and the other stuff i told you to say! let her know youll wait for her. sorry i didnt really help but what i told you might help alot! good luck hun..
michelle<|3
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Woah...I believe you. Anyways...I have had a friend like you that was in the exact situation with a girl the exact same also...and what I told him to do was LET HER KNOW WHY SHE'S SO INCREDIBLE, SHOW HER YOUR LOYALTY, TRUST, HONESTY, and EVERYTHING you have to offer this girl, which is THE WORLD. You are more than she could possibly ever ask for. I know she will see who you are and what you are too. Let her know why she's different from all the other girls, and let her know why your different from all the other guys..it will work. Show her. What ever it may take. I hope I helped.
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Well I thik you should get to know her really well and slowy let her know how you feel. Like talk to one of her friends and ask her to mention you to her and be like "oh he`s such a ncie guy any girl would be lucky to have him he`s so sweet" and it sounds like she juts needs someone to be there for her that she knows she can trust. like set up and big groupd like 5 ppl to go somewhere and spend alot of your time with her to make it more ovious that your like her. hope i helped. -courtney =)
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