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am i ready..
ok me and my boyfriend hve been together a while. and we hve done most everything but, sex. alot of my friends hve already had sex. i know some people might say im too young but me and my boyfriend love each other and i know we are both physically and emotionally ready. well he comes over often but everytime im on my period [ kinda wierd? ] but we both hve tlked about this.. and sometimes i want to and others im jus like idk.. but i think i am ready but im so scared i might get pregnant but most people i know of hve had sex and used a condom and hve not got pregnant. seriously what are the chances. do you think im ready? and how would i let him know while we are together that i want to..? PLEASE DONT SAY IM NASTY OR NETHING IM REALLY NOT! please answer asap
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nooo...not until youre married!..im not trying to be mean about it but please dont it could ruin your life
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go for it, if ure ready nothing should stop u.
if ure so scared bout gettin pregnant use two condems at once
nd tell him that you r ready nd itz all up to him
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If you are scared you shouldn't do anything. It is your mind telling you are not ready, even if you think you are. Please don't do anything!!! My friend she had sex AND USED A CONDOM and she got pregnant. They aren't reliable. Plus they broke up and now she is alone, pregnant, and considering aportion. But before everything happened they thought they were ready. So my point is don't do anything you could even think about regreting. If he loves you he will respect your opinion and thoughts. If he doesn't then he doesn't really love you. It is your decision in the end, no one can force you into something you don't want to do.
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Honestly honey nobody should be ready at your age for this kind of commitment. If you aren't ready to drop outta school to take care of your baby because you can't feed him while in school you practicaly ruined your whole life...along with your baby's life too. I've seen many girls like you think that they are truly in love with somebody and give up their virginity to someone which in a week after sex will have broken up with you and left you nothing but a broken heart and a ruined life along with a baby to take care of.You should save yourself until marriage. I think that is one of the best gifts you could give your soul mate for eternity, and it wouldn't mean much to you and him when the time comes and you are truly ready and are setteled with your life.
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ok this is how i feel about this don't always follow your friends but if your ready do it about like 2 weeks after your off your period and use condoms and if you brave enought ask you mom if you can get birth control just tell her its to regulate you period or something...........
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ok this is how i feel about this don't always follow your friends but if your ready do it about like 2 weeks after your off your period and use condoms and if you brave enought ask you mom if you can get birth control just tell her its to regulate you period or something...........
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First of all,you're definitely not nasty so don't think that!BUT,the fact that you would worry or think others would see you as nasty is kind of a sign that you might not be ready yet.Also,since you say yourself that you're kinda iffy about it sometimes.When the time is right,you will just know it.Physically,mentally,and emotionally,you will know it.As far as protection,you're right you definitely want to use condoms.But I would also check into getting on some form of birth control.Whether it's the pill,the shot,or the patch.If you don't want to tell your mom and go to a gyno,go to a clinic like Planned Parenthood(www.plannedparenthood.com for locations and more info).It's best to take advantage of all the options of protection available to you.It sounds your boyfriend is patient and understanding about it,which is a very good thing.Just don't rush things,when it's meant to happen it will.It's hard to explain,but as I said,when the time is right and you're both ready,you will know.I hope this helps some. :)
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well it's a big decision hun and if you're unsure about it all like you said [like sometimes off and sometimes on] then don't do it until you fully know that you're ready.
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Well, first off, (im REALLY not trying to be rude or anything!!!!) BUt, sweeti, WE CANT TELL you whether or not you are ready...only you can decide...but anyways...no, you are not nasty..i had sex whenever i was 12..soo...I used a condom..and i didnt get pregnant...and we also pulled out...and MAKE sure that you ARE ready...and not doing it JUST FOR HIM!!! WHy dont you just start off simple like making out and proceed on..until he gets the hint...ya know? if he doesnt take it them be like...do u wanna...and about the period thing...call him over whenever you ARENT on it!!! good luck and have fun!
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oh your not too young i mean ive already had sex.. but like .. you can just talk to him and see if he is ready and i think you are ready i mean if you two love each other your ready but make shure you guys are really like .. "ready" cuz you dont want to be like.. all broken and stuff afterwards ( dont mean to sound bitchy if i do hun lol) and i doubt like.. you would get pregnant if you use a condom you wont get pregnant.. hope i helped .. tell me how it goes hun ..
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Only you can say if you're ready or not!What bad luck to always be having your period.
Condoms are not a guarentee that you won't get pregnant. They are necessary to help prevent std's.There is no sure fire way to prevent pregnancy except not doing it at all.They are better than using nothing, so if you do it have him use a condom.
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You shouldn't have sex if you can't even spell 'have' right. Next time you ask a question, or type remember the damn 'a' key. Also reread your question, because you use horrible sentence grammar.
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only you can make that decision. its not what our opinions say. its what you want and your boyfriend. if you think your ready..go for it.
sounds like you have it all worked out. just make sure that he woud leave you if you get pregnate. :)
Hope you two stay together a LONG time!
Hope I helped
-*KeLs*-
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Don't do it. The chances of getting pregnant may be low, but it is still possible. Plus, you may THINK you are ready, but many feel like they gave it up too early after having sex. My advice is to wait until you're married. Works everytime;-)
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Hey it's really great that you and your boyfriend are talking about this sort of stuff. Maybe also tell him that you're worried about getting pregnant? problem shared is a problem halved and all that! Its not very likely that you'll get pregnant if you use a condom just make sure you use them properly- and if you do notice that it has split get down to the chemist and get the morning after pill. This is unlikely to happen but just in case atleast you know you have a back up plan. Have you thought that maybe because you're so worried you're not quite ready for this? Just a thought. good luck
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Well an adult would say: If you're scared of getting pregnant then you shouldn't have sex because you shouldn't do anything to get you in that situation unless you're ready to deal with the consequences that may or may not come.
But, as someone of a younger stature, you know how you feel about him and how you feel about yourself. Don't do anything you'll regret later, but don't not do something that you'll regret not doing later on too. You need to weight how you'll feel about him after the fact and how you'll feel about yourself as well. And only you know you're ready.
And think of it this way...maybe you being on your period when he comes over is kind of a sign?
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I recently had a 'chastity talk' at my school. It was an awesome talk. They didn't say "NO DON'T HAVE SEX OR YOU'LL DIE" or anything, they basically just told everything as it is. This was also a Catholic guy, someone who believes you should wait until marriage. I, personally, believe it's up to the person. But he was saying if you really loved each other you could wait until marriage. And I believe it's true. I don't know how old you are or anything. But think about it, do you want to lose your virginity to someone now, or wait until you're sure you have the right one, and know he'll be there forever?
He has a website, www.pureloveclub.com if you want to go to it. It has a bunch of stuff, about birth control, STDs, waiting until marriage.. and more.
Hope I helped.
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The first thing about sex, dont take the risk if you dont feel ready or are scared. Its not worth if if you're not sure with every single fiber of your being. You could stick with oral, which has no risk at all of getting pregnant (but you might get an STD if you dont use a condom! >: ) You can never rely on condoms though for intercourse, 100%. Its only latex, not heat treated steel.
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If you feel ready you probably are..it sounds like you are.. um jus doin regular things with him like making out and start feeling on him and feeling down there so he gets hard and kiss his neck and stuff then slowly take his hand up your shirt and make him help you take it off.. thats how i would get him to know that your ready... but you deffenitly need to use a condom no matter what so make sure you have that..much luv dez x0x0
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First of all, you aren't nasty, everyone gets weird feelings about sex, and second, I truly don't think you are quite ready, I can see it. I think you are having weird ups and downs about sex, which is common, if you keep saying you are ready, and you feel sure, then later you feel scared, then you're probably aren't ready. But, now that you have my opinion, I have a link to a test you can take, there are about 45 questions, and it will tell you if you are ready or you aren't. Also, about him always coming over on your period, I think you need to tell him before you go about doing it, or if he doesn't even know, tell him, its important for him to know that.
[Link: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)] Just copy the code, and paste it into your search box and scroll right down and the quiz is there for you.
-TheTeenGirl
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aw honey i understand completly. I was in this position, and when your ready- you will know it. If your unsure, then i suggest waiting. Its a fact that its more special if you wait, and your boy will respect you more. If you use a condom then your safe. Maybe if you want- go on birth control,but thats totally up to you. Definitly use a condom. But make sure that you two definitly talk it over and make sure your making the right disition. .Things to think about- do he respect you, love you, care about you, and do you trust eachother. Hope i helped, goodluck, and be safe :)
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Only you can decide if you're ready. Are you only ready to go when you're turned on? If that's the case, then I don't think you're emotionally and mentally ready. If you're really ready to do the deed, then you'll know without having to ask anyone else.
Pregnancy can always happen when you have sex, but a condom GREATLY reduces the risk. Don't double bag--that doesn't work. It's an urban myth, and I'm not sure how anyone would believe it would work. If you have sex (with a condom, of course), but you're still afraid of pregnancy, try the morning after pill. It's available by prescription only, so you'll need to talk to your doctor.
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hun, your worried i havent had sex yet but imma in the same situation as you i love this guy and i believe that imma ready to have sex with him.id do it and i believe you should have sex with your boyfriend since you say you love eachother *honestly* you dont want to do it and then break it up they'll suck cause you prob lose a bf and a friend. but hey be careful use protection a condom not sure the percentage but imma sure its most like not to break just dont be nervous.. good luck!~
kim~
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well how old are you?... it depends on age.. younger.. like between 13 and 16 your probably not not ready to take the risks... condoms can break and if it does you have to be ready to face the consequences.. if your older your more responsible.. just use a condom
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anonymous -
It's good that you two talked about it, but if you're ready what's holding you back?
Remember not to be pressured into sex because everyone has done it. Also make sure you're choosing to do it for the right reasons. As for the fear of pregnancy, use birth control pills along with a condom. This way there's two forms of added security! Also if you choose to do the pill, use it for a good month before you get into sex. This way your body gets used to the hormones that are released from the pills.
Me and my boyfriend (after discussing it for a good month and a half) decided to have sex because we felt that we loved each other enough to be with one another for 9 months and we've been through a hell of a lot. We felt it was right to share our most personal parts of each other to one another, take our love to the next level.
If you feel you are ready, you are ready.
Good luck and be safe!
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How old are you ... i think if you are 14-16 thats too young but 17-whatever is better. If you and this guy are ready then why not ? Just make sure that you ARE ready and every time that anyone has sex there are chances you can get pregnant, so be ready for the worst but most of all just have FUN.
-have fun *
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