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how old do you have to be to give up on finding a girl?
How old do you have to be to give up on finding a girl friend. The reason I ask is that im 24 ill be 25 next may and ive never had a girlfriend or been in a serious relationship, I Know im not ugly and I can send you a pic to prove it, and most of the time i can talk to girls just fine, but it always ends up the same for me, they always say that im a real nice guy and that one day ill find the right girl for me and then the dreaded "LETS JUST BE FRIENDS".
I just dont understand what im doing wrong. and when i think about it it makes me real mad, that
there's girls out there with boyfriends that beat them, abuse them both phisicaly and mentaly,
they cheat on them and treat them like crap, but when asked why the girl stays whith him the anwser is always "cause I love Him". Life is just so f*cked up, how can guys that treat their girl like shes lower than crap get so much love, but a guy like me that alwas treats women with respect and is always nice and honest and caring
have to feel like hes going to be alone forever?
Ive had sex, but it was always one night satands and its not about sex. its about love, I want to love some one, life is just so empty and meaningless when you dont have anyone to sahre it with.
Now im getting to the point where the girls i meet are close to my age and want someone with experiance, witch i dont have.
So i figured if by the time i turn 25 i dont have a girlfriend i should just give up and not waste anybodys time.
what do you think?
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Your never too old to find love. My moms bf now is 39 and has never gotten married. Maybe you need to be friends with different people. To me you seem like a nice guy and a lot of times girls are stupid and want a bad guy. I really think with a new group of people you know you could find a girl whos more like you. Theres millions of people out there, you just have to find the right one, and they might not be exactly where you are.
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I really understand your situation.
You know what you need?
Change! You'll never be happy doing the same thing.
Try moving out of your area. Or try visiting other towns. Go on dating websites and fill out a profile. And maybe learn to play guitar/drums... girls dig musicians. Ask your "hooked up friends" how it happened, what turns them on, etc.
Try getting a piercing/tatoo, changing your hairstyle or clothes, etc. And maybe go out all over town... go to every club, bar, mall, movies... you're bound to meet someone. And go somewhere you're likely to find someone like you. If you love music... try to meet someone at a concert. And if you think you might be lacking in conversation, just invite a girl to something she's interested in... like the movies or the beach.
hope i helped any. good luck! oh and never give up on love...
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No matter what, you are never to old to find true love. I know it sounds so crony but trust me! I read somewhere that these people got married wehn they were like 90! Don't be in a rush, it may seem like everyone is taken but there's 6 BILLION people in the world. I think you'll find somebody. Just get out a lot more and introduce yourself to all kinds of people. Those people will introduce you to other people, so on and so on.
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my cousin is 29 she doesnt have a bf now but she has a 6 month old baby and she wants 2 find him a dad who she can marry so her baby wont be fatherless......ur still young dont worry...try online my uncle just got married 2 someone he met online...who knows u might get lucky.....hope i helped
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you know..some people date later on in life..that is a fact.
But you will have a g/f//but you have to stop going after girls who have issues wiht BAd guys. Of course they do NOT want to date you..they want to date BAD guys.
So you ahve to cahnge to whom you are attracted to.
trust me..this is the same for girls....we all should be attracted to the ones that will treat us really good.
I would join some kind of organization that brings me inot contact with great girls. Or a church activity
Something or someplace that you will meet girls you are not so emotionally impaired.
You will date..it takes time...Or ask that some of your friends and family set you up..or even try that dating site on the net.
Do NOT give up...trust me..some girl is waiting for a guy like you....have faith!
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your time will come...dont give up..God has the PERFECT girl for you..you just have to find her..maybe your trying to hard to find her ..and you dont realize she is right in front of you! good lucK!
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I think that no matter how long it takes to find a girl you should never give up. Just because things aren't what you want them to be gives you no right to give up. You may not have the experience, but you will. Trust me, it takes a while to find someone you are willing to spend time with and get to know. As for the friends issue, a lot of guys feel that way. The nicer guys finish last, and you can't help that. It may be hard at times, but there will come a day will you will regret giving up. You are still young, and you shouldn't take advantage of any of those moments! Cherish them, whether it take months or even years. Hope this helped from a girls perspective! ~*_Laney_*~
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Never give up. And never give up not giving up. Call me stupid and rate me a 1 if I'm wrong, but I belive there's at least one person out there for everyone. Don't stop looking, one day you'll find your special someone. Besides, the average age for people settling down/getting married/having children etc is getting later and later anyway, so you're probably not alone. Sorry if that didn't help and it was just random crap from some teenager.
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dude, dont give up. it sounds like these chicks you're talking to are to damaged at this point to have a normal relationship, so you should give up on that and find some real women. You should start hanging out at places where you might meet people with similar intrests as yourself. Stop heading to clubs or bars or whatever, and just do what you enjoy. The ladies will come to you, and they will be interesting, fun women who know how to have a healthy relationship. And don't give up after a week. I mean, I know 25 without a single long term relationship might seem like a long time, but some people spend years before finding someone they truly love, or just rush into a relationship with someone they don't. Just be patient and you will find someone. trust me. i read a lot of Dear Abby.
By the way, have you tried experimenting with the fairer sex? Maybe you havnt been exploring all your options.
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well...for one thing, if it wasnt illegal then i would probably go out with u. and you're right, its not about sex, so dont worry about not having kids or anything.lol. and im sure that your perfect girl will come. dont stop trying. maybe all of the girls that u have been dating are looking for a bad boy, which sux, but u will find the perfect one. u got a whole lot of life left and dont need to spend it alone just because some girl wants a crappy guy instead of u. all u have to do is just go out there and show everyone who u are and that ur available. dont give up.
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Don't ever give up... maybe ur problems is that your lookin too hard in the wrong places... stop lookin... have sum time to yourself... i know u probably feel like you've had enuff time to urself... but the rite girl will come along... girls that stay with guys after the guys treat them like shit are sluts... & u dont sound like the type of guy that deserves a slut... you always find stuff when ur not lookin for it... so dont worry... you really sound like a nice guy... & i hope u find ur soul mate soon...
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just one answer... never give up...
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hey! its true that life isnt fair when you think of the guys that beat up their gf and they love them, but you cant do anything about it. there is probably a girl out there waiting for you. you're not the only one without a gf, many people dont have gf/bf when they're your age. but dont give to try to find a girl, maybe you're too obssessed with finding one right now and that blows it all. but whatever you do, dont stop to look out for a girl, there has to be someone out there that will be worthy of you love, and you will be worthy of theirs. dont give up hope, you'll find someone! hope i helped, peace and love!
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I saw your feedback and you said you posted pictures on your profile, the thing is there's no way to tell what your user name is, unless I'm a complete idiot and just can't figure it out. Anyways, if you want to go back to my feedback area and tell me what your user id is then I can check. :)
Hey, sorry to hear about the situation you're in. Dating can certainly be painful and a drag. I'm 22 and my experiences haven't been too much greater than yours. My longest relationship was 9 months, then I realized it just wasn't working. I wouldn't say give up at all. Many times I've thought about giving up too and becoming a nun :). I usually date a guy for a couple weeks and then realize there really isn't anything there so I end it. I assume that's what happens with some of these girls you meet. They probably have been through a rough relationship or two and are very particular now about what they want. Its not that there's anything wrong with you, its just you're not for her. You just haven't met the right girl (yeah I know you've heard it a million times, but I swear its true). Rather than thinking all the time about how you HAVE to find a girl because that's what you're supposed to do...I get drawn into the feeling sometimes that i need a boyfriend...but that's just wrong. Enjoy your life. You're young. Have fun. When the time is right you'll meet the right girl. It ALWAYS happens when you're not looking. TRUST ME!!! And its a shame but most girls are looking for a guy who treats them badly...haha...I don't know why. But I've been in that situation, well currently am, where I've had the choice of two guys, both equally attractive and intelligent, however one was extremely trustworthy and treated me like aa queen and the other is sort of aloof. I have chosen the latter, but he's on probational terms right now...I would have chosen the nicer guy, but he was boring and I think I was a little too crazy for him anyways. Out of curiosity, because I'm nosey...I'm curious to see your picture now. Take care of yourself. CHeer up and have some fun. :) 25 is still young!!!!!
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You should have a girl that respects you and is worth your time. There are not a lot of girls who will actually be there for you when you need them the most. Dont rush anything maybe its just not your time to exsperience a special relationship. I can tell that you have a lot to offer girls get frightened by that. Maybe its guilt on their part. Anyways give it some more time have some fun your young but whatever you do dont look for it you will never find it. Special relationships just happen they are not saught after and found.
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I think you seem really nice and kind. Sorry to say this but it's probably right you just havnt found someone for you. It sounds really upseting you saying this and i simpathise with you but maybe you should be a bit more picky and not just try it on with anyone.
[EDIT] Have you tried going to different places, joining a gym or something. Or maybe a sports team. Do something whatever you are into and sometime soon you are bound to meet someone you like. When you do don't sound as if you are desperate and such like and make sure you are generally interested in her specifically. Just talk to her and if you like each other make a move and also don't expect sex straight away maybe you should wait a while until she wont feel like you only want ne thing.
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Send me a pic and i can tell you what to do. Things just may be difficult.
Christine
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when ur married. no honestly, you never have to give up. i know someone who got married at 77. u r never to old to have a gf.
**_Nicole_**
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Shit, it's like listening to myself think when reading this. A lot of my friends are in the same position. They'll complain about mind games their boyfriends will play, but they can't leave them because they "love" them. I'm sure it has something to do with a fear of change in them or something.
It's easy to say that there is someone for everyone, but where's the proof? Honestly? There's no guarantee. No definite way it's going to happen, so how do we know it will ever happen? We don't. Which is why I think you should make better use of your time. I'm not saying give up on the dating scene altogether, just don't try as hard. Try to find some other passion, besides romance. From what I've seen, romance happens when you least expect it, most of the time when your not looking for it.
Wait, I forgot, don't think for a second it's all about physical appearance (unless your a 13 year old girl obsessing over Brad Pitt). Around here, I've seen gorgeous girls with these guys that look like they live under a bridge. A lot of girls your age have probably grown out of the "He has to be hot" phase and have grown more realistic. Besides, you never want a relationship to be based on looks. At least not if you're wanting someone to spend your life with. After all, beauty is only temperary.
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