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Question Posted Sunday January 2 2005, 9:48 pm

do you think its better to fit in and go agianst yur own beliefs OR to be a little ""less popular"" and do what you want to do? i am stuck in between.

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xhillary answered Monday January 3 2005, 8:24 pm:
Do what you want and be a little "less popular". That way, you're being yourself. And it's not like you don't have, or won't make friends.

Don't be something you aren't to fit in.

Ever.

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xxBrOkEnxx answered Monday January 3 2005, 7:13 pm:
i would rather be my self and not be fake but thats up to you

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bAhAmAmA0250 answered Monday January 3 2005, 5:54 pm:
I would rather be inbetween like what you are at now. But what do you mean by own beliefs? Its better go by your own beliefs.. but sometimes people make that hard for you just be friendly to everybody and it will pay off-trix

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DestinedxTragedy answered Monday January 3 2005, 4:44 pm:
You should always be yourself and do what YOU want to do. Don't worry about what people think of you. Yes, there are some cruel people out there who will make fun of you probably. But, at least you are happy doing what makes YOU happy.

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BBALLGURL67 answered Monday January 3 2005, 4:33 pm:
Dont go against your own belifs

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MummuM answered Monday January 3 2005, 3:02 pm:
I think you should be yourself, even if it means being "less popular". Wouldn't you like people to like you for who you are, then for who you aren't?

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CoKeIzZle answered Monday January 3 2005, 2:38 pm:
Hey Hun,BE YOURSELF!Stick with YOUR beliefs!Because if they don't like you for who you are they wouldn't know the TRUE and REAL you. So stick with them! Hope I helped!XOXO Nicole~

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StrawberryHEARTsyou answered Monday January 3 2005, 1:56 pm:
Popularity is suppose to mean that you fit in with your surroundings.,. If you hang out with the "preps" in your school who happen to do crap that you dont beilve in .,. then it is just a waste of time. If you dont want to be in the geeky crowd and odnt want to change your beilefs make your own lil crowd who has the same problem. I can garentee that there is plenty of more ppl were you are @ who has the same problem!
Good Luck .,. dont let them get to you!

<3 ya

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evilenterprisesinc answered Monday January 3 2005, 10:32 am:
the less friends you have.. the better friends you have.. if you have lots of friends.. chances are they arent very good.. the ties you have between lots of friends become weaker.. if you have few friends then the ties are stronger because you have less people to tether yourself too..

so say you have 10 peices of string..
popular person may have 50 people to tie that string too.. put that string under pressure it breaks.. if you have about 5 - 15 people.. there is less tension.. and there is more pressure you can put on the string without it breaking.. think about this..

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rainbowcherrie answered Monday January 3 2005, 4:53 am:
It depends on whether you want to be popular or not. If you're okay with having maybe less friends than the popular people then fine, do what you want to do. If you think you are suited better to being part of a big crowd and you think that you do better with lots of friends, then maybe it's best to fit in.

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onlythebestadvice answered Monday January 3 2005, 1:13 am:
Be a freak..It's more fun that way. And please, for my sake and for the sake of everyone else reading this...Learn how to freaking spell.

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*BaBy_I*lOve_yeW answered Monday January 3 2005, 12:38 am:
do what u want to do.... DUH asshole!

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takingfive answered Monday January 3 2005, 12:13 am:
When I think back to high school, the coolest kids were the ones who didn't conform to everyone else's opinion, clothes, speech, and so on. I was really sensitive to other people's opinions of me and I always wished that I hadn't been.

It is much more satisfying to be what you believe in. You are a much more convincing you compared to you acting as someone else.

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AdviceMistress answered Monday January 3 2005, 12:12 am:
"being popular is not always right and being right isn't always popular!"

*BeSs*

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DrummeR4LifE answered Sunday January 2 2005, 11:53 pm:
Id go for be a little less popular and go for what you wanna do! Its way easyer and way more FUN! believe me i no!

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WheresMyKnight answered Sunday January 2 2005, 11:10 pm:
Definately just be you! There's no point in trying to be someone your not JUST to be popular when in a few years you will be off to college and no one will no how unpopular you were in high school. Plus, in some cases when people try to be someone they rn't, they end up feeling trapped and depressed because they feel that they cannot express their true self.

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hyperNerd05 answered Sunday January 2 2005, 10:31 pm:
deff do what you want to do really being popular gets old after awile and in high school as long as you have friends you might not even give a crap about being popular
-*Tori

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DrAnqel answered Sunday January 2 2005, 10:21 pm:
Do what you want to do. Popular kids are fake and have too much drama. The only people that like them are themselves. They're also not really good friends. Hope I helped. Good luck. -Angel

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DaysGoBy answered Sunday January 2 2005, 10:13 pm:
Do what you wanna do and be yourself. "People that care don't matter and people that matter don't care" Never change yourself for ANYONE! ;-)
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FrEe2bMe answered Sunday January 2 2005, 10:06 pm:
Every persons school years always seems like some of the most trying times they'll have to endure. While it would be a ot EASIER to just go with the crowd to fit in to what is percieved to be the norm, the WISER choice would be to go the other path. Dare to be different. You have to stand up for what you believe in; even if you are standign alone. Set an example. In the long run, more people will admire you, and most of all;RESPECT you. The United States has and will always serve as a melting pot of different people with different characteristics. Be a leader; not a follower. Do whatever makes you happiest. In the long run, it will pay off. :)

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xOoxA.SxoOx answered Sunday January 2 2005, 10:05 pm:
Well i have never really been a follower..cuz in my opinion if someone doesnt like you or the way you are then tahts there problem..cuz u shouldnt have to change urself to satisfy someone else..and trust me if u act like yourself eventualy other people will most likely think that your pretty cool..and start following you..and that way you'll getta b urself and still have friends..hope i helped Sarah

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Alin75 answered Sunday January 2 2005, 10:03 pm:
In my opinion its wrong to go against your own beliefs. If you let others dictate how you act then you arent really a person anymore, you are a puppet. Popularity is nice and all that, but remember that if you had to compromise yourself for it, its not really YOU that they like. They like the person that you are pretending to be.

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superGiRL21 answered Sunday January 2 2005, 10:03 pm:
It's easy to want to conform to other people's beliefs because that way you fit in and you are just like everyone else. But just think about that. Do you really want to be like everyone else? It's hard to stand up for what you believe in, but its important because it helps you discover who you are. I would rather be liked for something i am then for something im not. It's your choice ultimately but in the end you gotta be happy with yourself at the end of the day! hope i helped
xoxoxo

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funkyfresh answered Sunday January 2 2005, 10:01 pm:
be a little less popular!
((x o &hearts; Michelle))

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MCalways answered Sunday January 2 2005, 10:01 pm:
Be yourself. ALWAYS. Dont let other people twist you up into something your not
*always be an original..its always worth more then a copy* Keep that in mind :)

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