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Last Update: January 3, 2005
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do you think its better to fit in and go agianst yur own beliefs OR to be a little ""less popular"" and do what you want to do? i am stuck in between. (link)
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When I think back to high school, the coolest kids were the ones who didn't conform to everyone else's opinion, clothes, speech, and so on. I was really sensitive to other people's opinions of me and I always wished that I hadn't been.
It is much more satisfying to be what you believe in. You are a much more convincing you compared to you acting as someone else.
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14f. I really really want to get my nose pierced I think they're so cute!! My mom said I'm not allowed any piercings until im 16, what can I do to try and convince her that I really want it done!!! & I can't do it myself, it'd be way to difficult/. (link)
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You are in that brilliantly volatile stage in life called "adolescence". When I was an adolescent, I had all sorts of insane ideas, like wanting to get a tattoo in the shape of a potato on my ankle, or that tongue rings seemed to make people appear more mature, or that I thought jumping out of an airplane seemed like a good idea. What I'm trying to say is, things that you like now will probably be things that you hate in about 5 seconds. Even if it is "just a piercing", nose piercings will permanently scar your nose when you take them out, and risk getting infected if they aren't done properly. Your parents are smart in saying that you should not get anything pierced until you're older. In fact, I think they are being quite lenient in saying that you should only wait until you're 16.
What's the hurry anyway? I think your parents' logic is that right now, this is probably some crazy idea that you have floating around in your head, and if you still really want it in two years time, it's probably not just a fleeting thought that is in your head like most of the other ones that are happening to you right now. Nose rings, tattoos, and piercings of any kind are just like boys at your age... You may looooooooooooove them one day, but the next, you could hate them. Your parents are just looking out for your best interest, they aren't trying to be ogres. Respect their decisions and remember that they are indeed smarter than you.
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today i woke up with a sore throat, runny nose, watery eyes, and just A BADDDD COLD! its the begining of winter break and im tryin soo hard to get better by atleast monday....is there anything i can do/take to get better? im taking halls cough drops and dimetap so far....is there anything better? (link)
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If there is something you need to be ready for for Monday, get a lot of rest this weekend and take 2 dayquil on any days that you need to be semi-coherent. Make sure you take them around 2 hours before you need to be at your "peak", ie. before an exam or something, because I find that after the effect of the dayquil wears off, I feel worse than I did before I even took it. You feel really good while it's working, though.
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WHAT DOES idk STAND 4 (link)
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I don't know.
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Me and my girlfriend have been going out for almost 8 months now and I love her so much and I know she loves me she says it all the time and stuff but I dont know if she is always happy with my I cant really tell her how I want her to feel or anything or talk to her about this there has to be something I can do to show her I want her to be happy basically happier then she has ever been before like can you tell me how I can do this because that would be a big help anyone help me one this subject I just want my girlfriend to be super happy around me and not like faking the whole happiness thing so please help me with what to do thanks a bunch.
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If you want my honest opinion, I think maybe you should stop worrying about this. She wouldn't be dating you if she didn't have feelings for you, and she wouldn't tell you she loves you all the time if she didn't. You need to stop worrying about it because if you're always anxious as to how she's feeling, she'll notice you acting weird and think something's wrong, or else you will stop being happy in the relationship. Either way, it's not healthy to always be worried about every little thing that happens in the relationship. Be happy with what you have. You say you know she loves you, isn't that enough?
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Please help! im a 15 year old female.. and i sweat alot not smelly sweat and thats why the deodrents that are out really dont help beacuse there based on smell. and its really aggravating b/c all the cute shirts i wear i cant beacuse i sweat and it looks really bad ive tried switching deodrents but nothing seems to work HLEP if any1 has any advice please let me know!! (link)
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You should go to the doctor and tell them your problem. Doctors can prescribe special anti-perspirants for people who sweat excessively. It's not an uncommon problem, so don't feel like an alien.
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What's the best mascara to use and why? (link)
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Right now I really like 2000 Calorie by Max Factor. I have really short eyelashes, and it brings them out a lot... Therefore, it is the best.
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My husband claims that he was physically and mentally abused by his alcoholic father while growing up. His mother and siblings claim that he is exaggerating, not one of them agree with his version. They say, in fact, that he was the one who got the most attention from the father because he was the star athlete of the family. My husband has turned out to be a very irresponsible adult, making compulsive decisions, always leading to disaster, we are financially ruined because of his get rich quick schemes, his gambling, bad business ventures, running up credit cards and bills he never intended to pay. He acts like a selfish, spoiled child, and often throws "adult" tantrums when he doesnt get his own way. He is selfish with his time, money, and belongings. Thinks of himself before his own kids. Has ignored his kids most of their life, because he would rather sit inside staring at sports games on television. Everything in his life is "all about him" He does not socialize, he has no male friends. He doesnt communicate with his family hardly ever. He has the worst habit of lieing I have ever seen on a grown up, everytime he is caught doing something he shouldnt, he lies and then covers up those lies with more lies, over and over. No matter how many times he is caught lieing, he continues to do it anyway. He lies over money, gambling, his job, situations that happen, its horrible. Does this sound like a man who was abused as a child, or does this fit the description of a man who was spoiled as a child and given privledges he didnt earn or deserve ? Im trying to see who is lieing , him or his family. He has hit rock bottom, as far as financially ruining us, his kids dont speak to him anymore, he doesnt live in our home any longer, he is just now claiming abuse, after 20 years of marriage to this man, he has never once mentioned abuse as a child. He even went as far as to go to the doctor for anti-depressants, they put him on Lexapro which is for severe depression, and he is seeing a phycotherapists. Is this just one big lie he is trying to pull off, or does he shows symptoms of abuse? The medication is making him even more distant and zombie like than he was in the first place. Normally he doesnt talk , he is silent no matter who is in the room or who comes over for parties or families gatherings, he seems incapable of striking up a conversation with anyone, unless it is a joke he heard, or sports related. Other than that, he is silent all the time. Now he's even worse. Im wondering if the medication is back firing, because he never needed it in the first place. Let me know what you think of all this. Thank you. (link)
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When an individual becomes depressed, it is like a spinning abyss of torture. Every negative thing that ever happens in your lifetime instantly becomes magnified, and it becomes easy to exaggerate situations like your husband has described. Perhaps he is lying or exaggerating about the abuse he endured as a child, but I don't think it is to cover up for his gambling debts... It sounds like there is something more seriously wrong with him.
A torn father/son relationship can possibly explain why he is so antisocial towards his family and in public situations, but again, I think that there might be something more seriously wrong with him. Compulsive lying is an actual disorder that is associated with Borderline Personality Disorder... Does this sound like him?
Symptoms
Relationships with others are intense but stormy and unstable with marked shifts of feelings and difficulties in maintaining intimate, close connections. The person may manipulate others and often has difficulty with trusting others. There is also emotional instability with marked and frequent shifts to an empty lonely depression or to irritability and anxiety. There may be unpredictable and impulsive behavior which might include excessive spending, promiscuity, gambling, drug or alcohol abuse, shoplifting, overeating or physically self-damaging actions such as suicide gestures. The person may show inappropriate and intense anger or rage with temper tantrums, constant brooding and resentment, feelings of deprivation, and a loss of control or fear of loss of control over angry feelings. There are also identity disturbances with confusion and uncertainty about self-identity, sexuality, life goals and values, career choices, friendships. There is a deep-seated feeling that one is flawed, defective, damaged or bad in some way, with a tendency to go to extremes in thinking, feeling or behavior. Under extreme stress or in severe cases there can be brief psychotic episodes with loss of contact with reality or bizarre behavior or symptoms. Even in less severe instances, there is often significant disruption of relationships and work performance. The depression which accompanies this disorder can cause much suffering and can lead to serious suicide attempts.
You say that he is seeing a "psychotherapist". I suggest if this is actually in their title, that your husband goes to an actual psychologist or psychiatrist. The term "psychotherapist" can be used by anyone who wants to; they don't even have to possess a doctoral degree. Usually psychotherapists are people who are highly underqualified to be diagnosing patients with mental disorders. If his doctor is only a psychotherapist, I suggest that it might be a good idea to switch to a psychiatrist.
I know that I'm in no position to be diagnosing your husband's condition either. I just thought that this might shed some light on the situation. Best of luck.
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i dont know what i should name my rabbit i just got her yesterday and i need a name shes black with a dark brown spot by her neck i have a name for her sister but not her any suggestions? oh and i kind of want it to start with c since my other rabbits (her sister) name is callie (link)
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I think pet names are the best when you name them after common nouns. For example, doorknob, refrigerator, and table are all equally hilarious, but cute at the same time.
How about...
Carrot
Cup
Cauliflower
Celery
Cucumber
Cushion
Coda
Cheese
Chesterfield
Chef
Coconut
Captain
Copernicus
Cummerbund
Curry
Cymbal
Cayenne
Carburettor
Cappuccino
Hehe, hope that helps... If anything, it should get the ball rolling to help you think of a name on your own. Good luck!
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I play the double bass (it's like the cello, but bigger and better.) We have a strings concert coming up on the 24th, but I'm having trouble on some of the really fast songs. It's not that difficult, but I have to move around alot between 1st and 3rd positions, and sometimes my fingers tense up if I play for too long. What can I do to make myself concentrate while playing my music, but also not make my fingers tense up? (link)
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I play the saxophone. I think the double bass is super cool.
Anyway, I know that a stringed instrument is a lot different than a wind instrument, but I can offer you a few tips as to how I cope with my fingers doing what I want them to.
See, there are certain fingerings on the saxophone that I used to have a lot of trouble with. My ring finger and pinky on both hands are substantially weaker than the rest of my fingers; I would even call them lazy. Before I started practicing more seriously (4+ hours a day), these fingers were always the root of my problems, but I just brushed it off because I didn't really need them. After I started practicing more intensely, though, I noticed that those fingers were getting noticeably stronger. This came from a lot of technical work, mostly scales and repetitive work in trying to strengthen those fingers. Now it's barely a problem. This is just a suggestion, to up the ante in your practice time until the concert, just to develop more muscle in your hands so they won't fail you in the clutch.
But, because there is not that much time left before the concert, make sure you don't practice TOO much. This will leave your hands and tendons strained and will probably end up causing more problems for you during the performance. On the day of the performance, practice as little as possible, and take good care of your hands. Stay away from any stressful activity on your fingers/hands, such as typing or heavy lifting. This will ensure that your hands stay in tip top shape.
As for concentrating on the music, just make sure you're in a focussed mindset for the concert. Well-rested, good emotionally, and all those good things. I think that concentration is something that comes when you are completely immersed and enjoying the activity you're doing. Just enjoy yourself, and everything will be fine. Good luck at the concert!
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does anyone know a really good recipe for a dinner [preferably vegatarian, but if it's not that's OK] that could feed a family of 5 or 6? (link)
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http://web.foodnetwork.com/food/web/searchResults?searchString=Vegetarian&site=FOOD&searchType=Recipe
This site is the best place to find recipes. I'm not sure what kind of vegetarian meals you're looking for, but this one has all kinds of things - vegetarian sushi, chili, pasta, mexican, everything. Enjoy!
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I wanna go get my tongue pierced but im scared that its going to hurt real bad..is it going to hurt??? what does it feel like??? Im 19 but another thing is if my mom finds out she'll be really really really upset and mad at me and i think i might be kicked out of the house...is there anyway i could hide it from her????? PLEASE HELP FAST!!!! (link)
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If you really want to get your tongue pierced, I think the best way to go about hiding things from your mother is to get a large tattoo on your forehead. That way, she will be so shocked and appalled at the tattoo that she'll never even think that you got your tongue pierced, too.
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I recently got rejected by a guy that I liked, and I'm pretty much over him. He seems to think that I'm still in love with him, even though I never loved him at all. He always tries to rub in the fact that he rejected me, by talking about the girl he likes, in front of me. He'll also talk to my friends a lot when I'm around, even though he never normally talks to them. It annoys me so much! I hate the fact that he's trying to hurt me, because it's really starting to hurt! Help! (link)
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It's a sad reality that some people are just plain jerks that deserved to be smacked. This guy is definitely one of them. Even worse, though, you're playing right into his hands. He's playing a game with you, but you're doing exactly what he wants to you do. Big jerks like him feed off of nice girls like you by attempting to rub their superiority in your face. If you let him do it, he'll just do it more. And, if he knows it bugs you, he'll do it even more. Some people have no regard for other people's feelings, and this can be especially true for teenagers who are still finding out who they are and testing out other people's limits.
So, don't let this guy get to you. Move on with your life, and if he tries to talk to you about his "crush", tell him you think that's great and wish them the best of luck together. If you can be bigger than him, it will show him just how big of a loser he's being.
And smile! At least you're not dating him! Who wants to date a jerk who hurts people's feelings on purpose?
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This isn't exactly a question, but how many people agree that if someone goes to the trouble of answering a question, then the person who asked the question could take the trouble to rate it? I don't do this to be rated, of course, but I would like some feedback for how well I've answered the question, so I can improve any answers I give or see my mistakes. So please, if someone answers your question, could you rate them? (link)
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Yes. There, I answered your question. Now you can rate me!
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ok, my dad hurt his leg a while ago, he twisted his foot all the way around once-falling off our deck, and he lost the nerve in his right foot to pick up the foot (not the leg but the foot). i see him doing this tuff work out side all the time, and its almost like i can see him getting hurt again, he trips over himself all the time, i just dont know what to do. please help. (link)
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Your dad is probably continuing to do all of this work because he wants to prove to himself and everyone else that he is just as capable as he was before his accident. I think that if you let him know that you're worried about him, maybe the two of you can have a chat about him doing so much hard work, and find out ways that you can help him. It'll mean wonders to him to know that you care about him so much, and hey, what dad wouldn't like a little help around the house?
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I'm sorry but love is not a fabrication of the mind. It's what makes us human beings. I can't believe anyone can be that insensitive. How do you know that person will never get over it. People can fall in and out of love many times in their lifetimes before they find, the best kind of love, which is "true love". Love has many levels, and many different kinds. What about a parent and a child? Are you saying that that is fabricated too? Is there not anyone in your life that you care about? If, as you imply, we are programmed to feel this way, who do you think did it? God, that's who. If you really think this way, and you don't believe in God or love, then I feel really sorry for you. If you think it's amusing to give contraversal answers and you don't really think that way, do it somewhere else. God forbid someone should take you seriously. I'm not sure I do, but I just wanted to tell you that was so wrong. (link)
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The love in which you expressed in your first question, which was horribly worded and lacked any sort of grammatical maturity by the way, as I viewed it, was a fabrication of your mind. What you were feeling was not love. It was pre-teen crush, either mentally, physically, or both. Based entirely on your first question, I gathered that you had the mentality of a 12 year old girl who "loves" Johnny Depp. I'm glad that you took the time to actually use capital letters and periods in your second post. Not only was it easier on those who read it, but it also showed a fragment of maturity. Had you asked a question like this in the first place, I would have given you a real answer.
I only answer questions seriously to those who ask serious questions. Had you asked something with a little more sophistication, perhaps I would have given a more compassionate answer. I personally find it a shame that you didn't see the humour in my answer. I was merely attempting to outline the lack of any sense of what love is that is misconceived by many individuals in the world.
And, if you want my honest and heartfelt opinion, I DO believe in a thing called love. Just listen to the rhythm of my heart.
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can you choose not to luv sum1 like i fell in luv with a guy n he doesnt luv me can i choose not to luv him anymore (link)
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Well, normally, I would say yes. Love is something that can be turned on and off at the blink of an eye. Feelings are merely a fabrication of the mind, so therefore, love is actually something that only exists in our subconsious. If you decide to not love someone, not only will you stop loving them, you will completely erase all memories of that person, and never have any emotional trauma whatsoever.
I say this under normal circumstances. Your circumstances, on the other hand, are far deeper and emotional. It sounds as though you and your honey bunch had a strong emotional, almost soulful bond. This is why I must tell you that you will probably never get over this man. Your heart will never heal and you will never be able to love again. I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news... But you are completely submissive in a lose-lose situation. All you can do it wait.
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Hi, does anybody know what this instrument is?
Its a tiny guitar the size of a ukelele, but with a convex back and five strings. My whole family's puzzled, we don't know what it is! (link)
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It's a mandolin, I believe.
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I wana a 6-pack! How do I get it? Waht do I have to do to get a 6-pack? (link)
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Personally, I find that there is more value in buying either 2 litre plastic bottles or "cubes" of pop, which contain 24 drinks instead of just six. I contend that the environmental levies, GST, PST, and those annoying little plastic holders that attach those measly pops together in a tight little rectangle, not to mention, pollute our lakes and rivers by trapping fish and killing them, just aren't worth the extreme pain and suffering when the two litre or 24 packs of pop are obviously superior.
I mean, what are you going to do if you invite seven friends over? Are you going to leave two of them popless while the rest of you hedonistic leeches enjoy that smooth, sugary blend right in front of their eyes?
Really. I don't understand how you could put so much emphasis on this "want" of yours... I think you should have put the time and thought into realizing that the six pack isn't the way you should be headed. Come on now. I expected more from you.
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i have a girlfriend and dont always know what to say to her. i need some help on things to say. shes really nice and i want to be social with her. please help me... (link)
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Don't talk about things that she has no idea about. It's probably not a good idea to talk about cars if she doesn't know that horsepower doesn't mean what she thinks it means.
If you two have common ground, start with those things. Do you two like sports? Talk about gym class. Do you like movies? Talk about your favourite actresses/actors/films. Get the picture? It's only a good conversation if both of you are interested. Otherwise, silence will ensue.
If all else fails, ask her questions. Generally speaking, girls like talking about stuff. All kinds of stuff. Everything, basically. Ask her about her day/shoes/hair/house/dog/favourite colour/etc. and you will be golden for a while. Really. By the way, I just bought a new pair of shoes. Do you want to hear about them?
A conversation can only exist when it takes place between two interested people. A good chat can be characterized by equal speaking by both counterparts, and interest from both as well. If you feel that you are doing all of the work and she doesn't seem all that interested in talking to you, maybe you should find a girl who is.
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