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can you choose not to luv sum1 like i fell in luv with a guy n he doesnt luv me can i choose not to luv him anymore
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This is the dilemma of everyone, sweetie. I feel for ya. You don't wanna like him, but then he looks at you that way...
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FOR GET ABOUT HIM CAUSE IF HE DONT WANT YOU THEN DONT PUSH YOUR SELF ON HIM
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No. Falling in love isn't a choice you can make. It just happens and there really isn't anything you can do about it. You can accept the fact that he doesn't love you and try to move on, but if you TRULY love him, he will always have a piece of your heart no matter what.
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I'm sorry that you are in this situation, as I know it can be quite painful, whether it's love, inatuation, or obsession is not so much the issue. The question you must ask yourself is "Is he worth it?" Is he worth all the pain and the frustration of trying to win him over, and is there any real possiblility of this happening? If the only way to win him over is by being someone you're not, then it's not worth it, because you'll never be happy. On the other hand, you'll never be happy if he doesn't return your feelings and you are being yourself. My suggestion is to give yourself time to get over this guy and find out what qualities you want in a guy. One of them should be that he accepts and respects you for who you are. And don't listen to that person who said love is a fabrication. That answer is a fabrication(in other words, b.s.) But I'm sure you already know that. You cannot chose who you love, but you can choose who is good for you, and who isn't. Love is not the only factor in a relationship. Compatibility is important too. Love yourself and respect yourself enough to want whats best for you.
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Think of the bad things about him or keep it a crush. Or find some other guy.
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What people don't understand is that love is not just one type of love. There are level to love, each one gets deeper and deeper. And sometimes you may think love is love when in fact it isn't, its just an obsession, a mere infactuation. So if its love you cannot choice not to love him but it eventually fades away.
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Well, normally, I would say yes. Love is something that can be turned on and off at the blink of an eye. Feelings are merely a fabrication of the mind, so therefore, love is actually something that only exists in our subconsious. If you decide to not love someone, not only will you stop loving them, you will completely erase all memories of that person, and never have any emotional trauma whatsoever.
I say this under normal circumstances. Your circumstances, on the other hand, are far deeper and emotional. It sounds as though you and your honey bunch had a strong emotional, almost soulful bond. This is why I must tell you that you will probably never get over this man. Your heart will never heal and you will never be able to love again. I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news... But you are completely submissive in a lose-lose situation. All you can do it wait.
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