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18/ male. After my girlfriend I dated for three years broke up with me, I've had troubles having sex with other girls. Like I want too but I can't get a boner. Basically it takes me a long time to get ready. Girls will get upset and think I dont find them attractive and that's not it, I just can't help it. It wasn't like that with my girlfriend I dated for three years but it is with everyone after her. I don't know know if it's a psychological thing or what but it's really frustrating! Please help (link)
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Do you get morning wood? If it pops up in instances such as that or you have no problem getting one while you masturbate (if you masturbate), then it's probably psychological.
You say it takes you a long time to get ready? Try pleasing her in the process, I'm sure she'd appreciate it. Do things for whatever girl your seeing and try not to over think it. While you're doing things for her, if you get excited, great! If not, it's not the end of the world.
If it's not psychological and you can't for any reason seem to get an erection, see a doctor. There could be a physical cause.
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I'm 20 years old and had a lot of sex in the past 5 years with over 25 partners, but for some reason I prefer masturbation over sex in the past few months which obviously makes my girlfriend of 6 months furious. Is it normal to prefer masturbation over sex or is there something wrong with me?? (link)
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Is it common? Yes, you certainly aren't abnormal.
Is it a problem for your relationship? That's a different matter entirely. Since your girlfriend is furious about it, I'd say it is.
I assume you watch porn while you masturbate, which is fine, but it can desensitize you. I think cutting back could seriously help your relationship.
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21/f
Before I start, please do not tell me about the safety of having sex (using condoms to prevent pregnancy, to prevent getting STDs, even if you're on birth control pills, etc.) I am aware of all of these things.
Let me say that my boyfriend and I do not use condoms. We did at first, but I have been on birth control for the past three years. We are also both STD free.
So, my situation is I went through my boyfriend's wallet trying to get a hint of what I should get him for his birthday. His wallet didn't have many things in it and I found a condom. I got to thinking, if we don't usually use condoms, why would he carry one around with him? I thought maybe he forgot about it before he met me or he wanted to be safe just in case? But just in case what? Just in case another girl comes along that he wants to sleep with doesn't give me much of a reassurance.
I just want to understand why or the possibility of him having it would do. I know that if I got him a new wallet, he'll put another condom in it, too. I'm curious on what the purpose may be. Am I thinking too much into it? Should I even be worried about this? (link)
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It could be old, it could be for someone else. There's no way to know just on this fact. Are there any other signs that something is wrong?
It's best not to worry about it, if you can. There's no point in stressing over it prematurely. There will be plenty of time for that if and when you confront him about it.
If you can't let it go, ask him about it at some point. He might have it with someone else in mind, he might not.
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So me 17and my boyfriend 18 have been dating for 1 year.He decited he wanted to try anal.which I agreed to but the only problem was he couldn't get it in and ended up raming it on my butt but he didn't get it in.we are both virgins and have no Idea what to do so if someone could help me and tell me how it works that would be great.Also what's your opinion on anus because I have no idea on how it feels. (link)
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Don't do it if you aren't comfortable with the thought of doing it. If you feel you are absolutely ready and comfortable with it, don't start with his penis first. Work your way up to it by starting with his finger. And if you find that too uncomfortable, don't do it. Follow the advice of Dragonflymagic.
Really, I advise not doing it at all on the premise that he's a virgin and lacks the experience to know what he's doing. There could be serious problems if he doesn't know exactly what he's doing.
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Hai frnds am 23 years and penis is about 4 inch.( still virgin )
1. is it satisfactory or i may think about increase my penis?
2. i was used to masturbated 4 times a week it makes any prob in future
3. And 40+sec time taking to ejaculation.... In dis stage i can make my partner satisfy
4. Feeling tat my penis s small is good to increase in size... How to increase?? Pls suggest me a good idea frnds (link)
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1. I'll let you in on a secret: Penis size doesn't really matter. The issue isn't necessarily your size. The issue is your partner's pleasure. By that, I mean everyone is different. It's more of a matter of learning about your partner and understanding their body than trying to fix your own.
2. No.
3. 40 seconds isn't really enough. Practice will help you last longer and keep foreplay in mind. Foreplay is exceptionally important and will increase the amount of time your partner will be pleasured. I'm assuming your partner is a woman. If that's the case, it helps a lot if she has an orgasm beforehand.
4. You can't increase your penis size without a small fortune. There are no cheap secrets.
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im really wondering if im supposed to shave my pussy or vagina area. im really hairy and i wear a 34B and i get really irrated cause i feel like im the only one with hair their (link)
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I would trim if your hair bothers you, though as others have pointed out, it's not entirely necessary.
The reason I would trim is because shaving can cause uncomfortable skin irritations as well as leave you more vulnerable to viral infections.
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Hello! I'm 16/female, just in case you needed that piece of information in order to answer.
Ok, so I've been realizing more and more that the people around me are getting depressed and thinking about killing themselves lately, and its making me really curious. Of course there are the common reasons, stress, depression, and schizophrenia, but what are all of the reasons why people commit suicide? Or self harm? I just want to know if I'm missing something here...
Don't worry, I'm not one of those dumbasses. I'm an extremely happy and grateful person. I'm just completely confused...
I appreciate all answers that come my way in advance, and have a wonderful day everyone :) (link)
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They aren't dumbasses. People go through different problems and, occasionally, those problems effect them too heavily and they feel they've nothing to live for. You and I will never understand how that feels because we don't experience what they experience. Sometimes life is just too tragic for some people.
If you put much thought beyond our comfortable surroundings, the world is a tragedy. There's so much rape, disease, and poverty all over the world that we don't consider daily. And why should we, right? Thinking about how a good chunk of the world is living in a nightmare doesn't solve anything. Some people don't have a choice but to think about it. Some people naturally feel hurt by other people's pain to such a degree that the state of the world depresses them so much that they don't want to be apart of it.
And sometimes people are just depressed without reason. It has nothing to do with their circumstances or the condition anyone else lives in. They just wake up not wanting to be awake. It's a chemical imbalance and these people often require medication to stop the pain that they feel.
These are the three circumstances that I see often. Add to that, your young age and how emotional younger people tend to be and that could explain why this seems more prevalent to you.
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Turning into an anal size queen. I go slow and use plenty lube. Is there long term risk of incontinence or other damage? (link)
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There are the obvious issues, like being more susceptible to certain STD's, but I'm sure you're aware. You also run the risk of things like hemorrhoids and anal fissures, but these are largely the result of poor lubrication. UTI's can occur for you and your partner, but aren't all that common. Incontinence is indeed possible in the long run, like any of these other issues are possible, but not likely. Since you go slow and use plenty of lube, you should be fine.
Many people have anal sex almost exclusively for years or even decades without problems. Continue using plenty of lube and make sure it isn't painful and you should be fine.
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i've been a binge eater and bulimic for years, but i never recognized it. My best friend did and she tricked me and made me go to a shrink... it was confirmed there. After a long time, the shrink finally told me, that subconsciously i had started when i started realizing i was a lesbian. Around the time the shrink told me, i started falling in love with another best friend... a guy. Is this just a reaction where i don't accept the truth, and why am i so afraid to follow this when the guy had asked me out before? is it because i dated his sister?
i've been his best friend since i was two... i really do feel like i love him, because throughout the process finding the issues i was hiding, the best friend who found them for me left, but he stayed. i have confirmed over and over that i am a lesbian, but i feel like i only need his love to survive now.
I'm not that good girl, i have an attempted suicide on my list of things done, and am trying to play my problems down for everyone... but my friend is just confusing the process of finding myself.
Why and what is happening, and what do i do? (link)
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From my perspective, I think an issue you might have is a need for an identity, like being a lesbian. In contrast to this, to my knowledge, sexuality can be very fluid. People can't necessarily control it, but that doesn't mean it doesn't change on occasion. You could be entirely attracted to women one day and find yourself attracted to a man the next. I've known people who have gone through this.
Another thing to consider is the variety of types of attraction. Are you certain you're physically attracted to this person? Or do you just emotionally identify with him? Emotional attachment can happen amongst people that are just friends as well.
If you're confident that you want to be with your best friend, I would follow through with these feelings.
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I know none of you are doctors but you might have some insight on this:
We are both 22, my boyfriend is healthy weight and healthy inside as far as I know, he doesn't have diabetes or high blood pressure or anything like that. But when we are in bed, he cannot stay hard. He has told me that he really wants to have sex with me but we have tried so many times and we still can't do it. I'm not mad because of the sex, it is just frustrating because I can tell he gets very upset that he can't do it. I don't know if there is anything I can do to help, I try so hard!
Do you think the problem could be erectile dysfunction? And do you have any tips for me/him?
Thanks (link)
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This is a form of Erectile Dysfunction. It's often psychological and I agree with others that he may want to see a doctor to narrow it down and determine if an underlying disease is causing it. But only if it's necessary as there's no test to really see what causes ED, to my knowledge.
As for suggestions, if it is psychological, he shouldn't think so much. Even anticipation of losing the erection may cause him to lose it. It's a vicious cycle. It might be impossible not to fear it happening again, but it might be good to at least try.
If he smokes, he should stop.
Eating blackberries and dark chocolate may help.
Exercise is said help as well. I would suggest a combination of aerobic exercises (walking, jogging, etc) and resistance exercises (weightlifting or something similar). And Kegels (a penis exercise involving holding the muscle used to stop a stream of urine for several seconds at a time. Not necessarily while he's peeing, of course) wouldn't hurt either.
Hope some of these tips are useful. If not, he might want to consider medications that stimulate blood flow, like Viagra.
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i have great feeling when i finger myself and it looks like i have a orgasim but in have nothing coming out like what comes out of a male when he has an orgasim (link)
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Females don't experience the same kind of orgasm as males. There's nothing wrong with you.
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hi, so im straight but when im horny i like to watch gay porn and jerk off with guys on webcam, i would only date a marry a girl, but in the locker room showers sometimes i get turned on looking at guys d*** and a**, dont tell me im gay or bisexual because i havnt done anything yet. what is this feeling i get when i am shpwer at the gym locker room? im 16 years old. is it just hormones and puberty? thanks!!! (link)
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You are clearly sexually attracted to men. Call that what you will, but you are not 100% straight.
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18/m .M and my girlfriend,we had sex last night for the 1st time.I pulled it out on time.I was not using a condom.And in few minutes we did it again.Now i am scared whether she should take birth controlling tablets. (link)
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I know people that have gotten pregnant from the pull out method alone. It is probably the least effective method. If you don't want to deal with a pregnancy, yes, I advise that you two use at least one form of birth control, whether it be the pill or condoms or whatever else. Go to your local clinic, planned parenthood or it's equivalent, and ask for options. There's a morning after pill she can take and it might be free to get it there.
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As my marriage is breaking up around me,I've pleaded and begged,but no-ones listening,I've got 6 small children ,I feel like ending it and leaving them all to enjoy there life with their mother,I'm 47, I had everything,bus,house,holiday home,financially stable,don't owe nothing,yet the most valuable thing I have,I'm losing like water running through my hands,
It just seems the only way out.........
I'm based uk. (link)
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I won't say that I know what you're going through, because there's no way I could. I will say that there will always be amazing things to come in life and there will always be disastrous things to come. Your life sucks, but it won't always suck. One of my parents was suicidal when their marriage broke up, so I can relate in a weird way to the situation. Your children need someone to love them, even if you can't see them when you want, not a check. Your death at your own hands would traumatize them for life, doing far more damage than a check would ever make up for.
Of course, I'm making assumptions, feel free to correct me.
I guess my reason for replying is that I think you aren't thinking clearly right now. You shouldn't leave life-altering decisions to an unstable mind in the middle of an enormous crisis. Just wait. Things will get better.
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do guys really care what a girl vagina looks like?
because i know everyone is different, with the size of their libias and all of that..so which do you like better...big ones, or small ones?
thanks! (link)
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The look isn't that important. I don't typically look at it all the time anyway. I bet as long as it's clean, the guy won't care.
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when you finger a girl do you usually use one finger or two? (link)
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Larry1's answer isn't 100% accurate. Some girls enjoy stimulation of the G-Spot over the clitoris. As for how many fingers, you'll want to go as far as she wants, not necessarily starting right away with fingering her. You might want to work her up first if this is as far as you intend to go.
All girls are different, so it depends on the girl.
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So, last night, I had a little to drink and I had a random hookup with one of my friend's friends. We didn't have a condom, and I have been on birth control for a month last night. The sex didn't last long at all, he got off and pulled out. I'm wondering since I've not been on birth control other than a month if there's going to be a possibility of pregnancy? (link)
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There's always a chance.
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hey there, the other day me and my gf were fooling around, and we've gone too far. both were naked and i was rubbing my penis over her vagina.. but only 1 or 2 times, a very very slight interaction happend. maybe 1 inch in not more and maybe for 5 sec only.. am scared if there was precum there and if that could get her pregnant. am not sure if i ejaculated before we did this. is there a possibilty that she get pregnant ? if i ejaculated before or not ? eventhough she is still virgin and this happend after 15 days from the end of her period. HeLp!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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It's possible, but so incredibly unlikely that I wouldn't have a heart attack while waiting to find out for sure.
Keep in mind that it's possible to get her pregnant while wearing a condom as well. There aren't really any guarantees when it comes to sex.
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Ok, my question is does it feel better for girls to be on the top or botton when u r having sex? any comments will be appreciated!!! (link)
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My guess would be more girls like being on top. It's probably where they tend to have the most control, so they could probably get off faster.
Though if we're going by pleasure or stimulation of key parts, I would guess doggy style.
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Hey storage and disposal, i read what you told the other girl about foreplay i really want my boyfriend to get in the foreplay bussiness and i want him to do certian stuff with me. what is is there besides to get fingered? what can i do to make him happy but with having sex ?
im really curios and needs your help.
please i really want him to get excited and i want him to be arosued. is there any thing that you can share with me to make it all great. (link)
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What I say might seem a little graphic to you, so just bare with me...
I think there are two secrets to making it great: Experimenting and communication.
Experimenting
Since you don't want to have sex, you still have your mouth and your fingers to work with. Experiment with licking, sucking, biting, rubbing, etc. Also keep in mind different degrees of each. For instance, someone might not like being licked on a certain spot, but they might enjoy it if you suck on it. Try different things because everyone is different. Some people really like it when you suck on their neck, some people like it when you lick their ear. Just try areas like the neck, chest, thighs, whatever you think might work. Of course, if you're comfortable with it, it helps if all of this leads somewhere. Oral sex, a hand job or getting fingered.
Communication
If you don't tell him what you like and don't like, he'll never know. The same goes for him telling you what he likes. Body language is also very helpful. Don't fight any urges to react to something he does.
So when you two are alone, just try different things. If either one of you enjoys it, make sure the other person knows in some way.
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