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How do you do anus?
So me 17and my boyfriend 18 have been dating for 1 year.He decited he wanted to try anal.which I agreed to but the only problem was he couldn't get it in and ended up raming it on my butt but he didn't get it in.we are both virgins and have no Idea what to do so if someone could help me and tell me how it works that would be great.Also what's your opinion on anus because I have no idea on how it feels.
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Take it from a female standpoint when I tell you that anal sex really isn't all that bad. I first tried it with my ex-boyfriend, and I didn't like it at all with him. I didn't know if it was the size of his penis, the position we were in, or just the lack of lubrication from anything other than the condom, but it wasn't enjoyable for me. However, with my current boyfriend, I tried it, and even though it hurt at first, it was something I got used to. We actually do anal quite a bit. Anyways....
When deciding to try anal, make sure that you're completely trusting of the person you're doing it with, and make sure that it's something YOU want to do. It can't just be a one sided thing where you do it to appease him and make him happy. You also need to be on board because you are the one the act is being performed on.
The best way to do it is to work your way up to it. Start with fingers during sex or oral and see how it feels. If you're relaxed and find it's something you enjoy, go for it. When you first try it, tell him to go slow, and to be gentle as you're putting something in a place it's not really meant to go into. Make sure that you're relaxed as well because if your body is tense, it's going to hurt, and you'll feel uncomfortable which will lead you to probably not liking it. Just take the necessary steps, and don't jump into it straight away. You should be fine.
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Don't do it if you aren't comfortable with the thought of doing it. If you feel you are absolutely ready and comfortable with it, don't start with his penis first. Work your way up to it by starting with his finger. And if you find that too uncomfortable, don't do it. Follow the advice of Dragonflymagic.
Really, I advise not doing it at all on the premise that he's a virgin and lacks the experience to know what he's doing. There could be serious problems if he doesn't know exactly what he's doing.
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So you are deciding on anal sex because? Is it so you don't become pregnant? You're old enough to be put on birth control and have sex the usual way, in the vagina, just go see Planned Parenthood. They do alot towards sex education too so they may be the best to ask how to.
The spincter muscles around your anus is a very tight muscle. A guy doing anal sex will find it an extremely tight fit. The girl has to be very relaxed or she will hold tension in her muscles which make it harder. You need a ton of lubrication, never any ramming it to get it in, I am glad it didn't work or he could have torn you up.
Every female is a little different in how she achieves orgasms. Some have more of the sensitive tissue on the wall of the vagina nearest her anal passage so anal sex will give her great orgasms. I am not built that way so it does nothing for me. I have more of that receptive spongy tissue on the upper side around the urethra so my g spot is very sensitive.
The only reasons people have anal sex that I know of is
1. Out of curiousity as to what it feels like.
2. Young folks doing so to not take chances of becoming pregnant.
3. Because the female achieves orgasms that way or if feels good to her
4. The females vagina is too close for the man to get any friction sensation so he chooses anal sex.
If non of the above reasons apply, there is no need to do so.
since you havent been sexually active, your vagina will still be tight, its a different case for some women who are older, maybe having children did it or a man with a larger penis.
But most woman can regain tightness by learning how to tighten her muscles, you've heard of kegel exercises. I have practiced to the point where I can voluntarily squeeze the vagina which the man can feel and its very pleasurable for him.
Myself personally, any time I allowed a sex partner to have anal with me out of curiousity sake once, I have found that it disrupted my ability to have bowel movements for the next day or two. That and the fact that is does nothing for me thats pleasurable like an orgasm is why I dont do it.
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