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confused, bicurious??
hi, so im straight but when im horny i like to watch gay porn and jerk off with guys on webcam, i would only date a marry a girl, but in the locker room showers sometimes i get turned on looking at guys d*** and a**, dont tell me im gay or bisexual because i havnt done anything yet. what is this feeling i get when i am shpwer at the gym locker room? im 16 years old. is it just hormones and puberty? thanks!!!
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Relax your normal.
Time for a little grandfatherly advice and since I am of that age I will try and give you some.
As I said you are experiencing normal reactions, activities and curiosities for your age. We hear so much about gay sex today and yes when I was your age, even though it was more hidden at that time. It is not unusual or even to be considered by curious to to want to wonder about what same sex, sex is all about. Some boys will even go further having some type of sex with someone of the same sex. Not all of this activity results in any type of intercourse.
In my day we did not have web-cams so what your doing over the web we did in what was then called circle jerks. A few guys got together and jerked off together. If we were really lucky we might have a girl there to give us all hand jobs. Rarely were we that lucky.
Looking at other guys is also normal. Guys like to check out other guys to see how they compare, equipment wise. If you get turned on, this too is normal and for the most part hormonal due to puberty working overtime.
Your teenage years are meant to be a time of life exploration. This will sound somewhat corny, but it is your time to spread your wings and experience life with the safety net of your parents to teach and protect you.
This is the time when you learn about life in general. What you like and don't like. When you learn about your sexuality and sexual identity. One thing I do know you do not learn to be gay, you are born that way. You can learn to be bi or bi curious. Again there is nothing wrong with this. There is nothing wrong with being gay. First and foremost though this is a time to explore, properly, to find out just who you are.
Right now you are still to young to be having sex with someone of the opposite sex as you, no matter how mature you are, have not matures to the point to fully understand or appreciate the nature of sex between the sexes. This is another reason why boys and girls explore sex within the same sex, it is safer for both it does not mean you are gay. It is totally normal for your ages.
Why am I telling you this rather than your parents? I can say why your parents may not be telling you this. It may be because you haven't asked? Maybe you should?
I'm telling you this because I believe teenagers need to know the facts. Most of us as young parents pledged to ourselves that we would be very open with our children when the time came to talk to them about sex. Then when the time came if we spoke to them at all it was the basic birds and bees talk.
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You are clearly sexually attracted to men. Call that what you will, but you are not 100% straight.
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Relax chap. This is exactly why societies make ages of consent for same-sex relationships higher. Puberty and hormonal activity can be a bit random about it's 'targets' at times. Also, a kind of 'curiosity' about other guys is common. Plus, we're guys, when we're kids our role-models are usually male. Sports stars, TV action-guys, macho movie stars, right? Your attention shifts when you 'discover girls' as it were, but the old heroes don't always die easy in our minds. Loads of guys go through this phase. Don't get hung-up mate. You sound hetero to me, so don't start planning how to tell your parents you're gay and looking for a boyfriend yet! Of course, it's not impossible. And if I'm wrong...well being gay is nothing to feel guilty about or be ashamed of in our present age. OK?
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